Bwahahahah! Agnu that seriously made me belly-laugh. He is a lovely, wonderful, articulate, caring man when he is sober and a compete belligerent arse when he's got the drink in him. After a lot of years of living with him, I just ignore the arse side. I'd prefer if he didn't drink at all because then we wouldn't have this problem! But unfortunately he's a Brit who loves his wine, and the amount that he does drink has been cut down significantly from when we first got together, so it's always a work in progress. Again, he slept on the couch fell asleep drunk and came to bed early in the morning at 5 this morning. Discussed the whole ordeal and was apologised to for making ridiculous claims. He does just make up whatever he can to start a fight because he won't talk about feelings in a normal setting and then it all just comes spewing out. We just need to see someone for actual tools on how to avoid all of this in the first place. That's exactly it frus For him it's kind of the only way he says he feels connected as a couple and since we're not ahem-ing like we used to he says that he feels very distant. I would love to be closer to him physically (cuddling, etc) but I'm afraid to because then he's just going to think it's because it's going to lead to, ahem! We had talked about this and I just asked him to please still cuddle, kiss, hug, hold hands etc, but not to assume that it's going to lead to, ahem, because it's just not something that I can give him right now. We'll see how this goes. he took a long shower this morning, hopefully that means he took care of it?
M only woke up once last night and now my poor boobies have been rocks all day. Ouch. 
So envious that you're getting to work in the garden already, agnu!! There are still 3 feet of snow on the ground here. I'm supposed to be able to "work the soil" by April, and even that I'm doubtful on. I can't wait to get dirt under my fingernails. So looking forward to our summertime garden this year!