The 8th Broadly Gemini Bus- The one where the babies refuse to sleep!

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Numero 8!

Hoping for some actual sleep tonight!

My problem is it makes him terribly windy which is why I never normally let him do it anymore. It's a vicious cycle

Ok he's off now and back on my bed phew! Think I'll skip lunch and try and get a few winks myself

Aww pear poor boob boy! Has he been sick since this morning? Hope he's on the mend!

DH wasn't really telling me off about the cleaning, as such... It's just that he has a compulsion to have the dishes done, surfaces wiped & dishwasher on before he can go to bed. I have ridiculously low energy levels thanks to my depression & struggle to find the motivation to cook after looking after the boys by myself all day so often DH has to cook when he gets home. I try to plan quick meals but DH takes forever to cook anything because he's trying to do other things at the same time I'll never know when I'm going to be too tired & when I'm fine. DH can't get his head around the idea of cooking something else to be quicker when we've bought specific food for a specific day.
I do feel bad that he has to work all day & then come home to cook dinner & sort everything out. We're disagreeing on Calf's sleep at the moment which isn't helping. He thinks we I should be stopping him sleeping in the afternoon so he'll sleep better at night. If I do let him sleep because I'm shattered due to not getting enough sleep myself then DH thinks it's a good idea to keep him up later so he's not just running around his room madly. As it was, Calf didn't settle until about 2 last night not a typo! I was feeling bad for it & thinking that it was my fault for letting him sleep yesterday... until he was asking for a drink & DH admitted he didn't give him his milk after they'd been out. I assumed he had because he always does milk at the end of dinner. Calf never settles if we don't give him a drink of milk!
I tried to explain to DH that I feel like I'm just the nanny because all I do is the childcare throughout the day & then he comes home & takes charge of everything because he has to. I hate that we live like this but I can't magic away my depression or spontaneously increase my energy levels. That was when he started suggesting ways I could manage his behaviour... Tbh, I feel like if he wants to get certain things done then he should do them & not have the time to sit down. If he wants time to sit down then maybe he should leave the kitchen for one night. If I'm feeling up to it I can do that stuff in the afternoons but I can barely drag myself off the sofa by the time the boys are in bed, let alone care about whether the surfaces have been thoroughly disinfected! We were brought up in very different families. His mum is a super cook who is really efficient & tidy he's not & gets all the cleaning up done really quickly & still has time to sit down for a chat before going to bed at 10.30. He seems to have adopted some of her philosophies towards cleanliness but not her ability to actually get it done quickly! I have tried to maintain his standards in the past but after a couple of days I'm so exhausted that I end up bursting into tears for no reason or picking a fight over stupid things. I'd rather be relatively emotionally stable & a bit tired than a gibbering wreck who's no good for anyone!

bring how are things with DH? Settled down a bit again?

frus how's the rash now? And 5 teeth. DS may have had the first teeth in the bus but he's stopped at 2 for now. After all the biting problems I had!

pear is baby pear any better? Hopefully keeping food down now?

AGnu sorry to hear you had a fight with DH too. I can imagine it's really tough to keep on top of the household with more than on dc running around, even without depression. How are you feeling now?

kitty well done to proper crawling! DS has commando crawled since Christmas but isn't up on knees. He does that pre-crawler rocking thing which is dead cute.

So DS ha joined the sick babas club. He's got a rotten headcold mostly. No temp or anything but he was miserable most of the day and totally off his food again. Poor thing. I just wish I could blow his nose! I did suction it at one point and he went mental!

DH and I had a bit of a row last night too. Nothing major but a few tears on my part. He's brilliantly supportive and does a lot in the house and with DS but can sometimes be a bit snippy with me, or nit-pick a bit. He's made a big effort in the last two weeks not to, since I mentioned it to him, but he did it last night and I wasn't in the mood to deal with it. Cue tears.

I guess I've just found adjusting to my new life as a mothers and not working. Being a new parent leaves you so insecure as you never feel like you know what you're doing so if you feel someone's having a go, it just hits harder.

I understand Agnu, I must admit I'm abit like your dh but I can get things done quickly and I'm like you, after the day with two at night I'm just ready to sit down and take it easy and have often though I will leave that till the morning, I just find I have more motivation and I'm totally with you on the some days you did what you had planned for tea and say do you know what let's just have this instead!
I do think calf would probably benifit from no nap/ less 1hr maybe? As that's no time for a littley to be up and no wonder your shattered!! I know it seems a wrench when it's a nice bit of peace but if it puts your night out by such an extent it isn't worth it, it really doesn't seem that bad when you stop as tiger is still 50/50 and if we've done a lot will have an hour in the car , if not abit of quiet time, I sometimes let her have her milk then just to lie down abit and cuddle or watch abit of her fav movie
Maybe a chat with dh and a compromise on housework for him, it must feel like the last thing you need when your battling depression < hugs>

Kitten is no longer constipated, she has been swimming in shit today lol

Oh my goodness! So much going on today!

Poor baby pear. I completely understand what you're going through. Unfortunately it's these days that can be the most tiring when they need you to pour yourself into them. They need you for nourishment and comfort and it's a lotta work. I hope it's only a 24 hour deal and that he'll be back to his usual self tomorrow. Breastmilk is the absolute best thing for him right now, even if it's just comfort-suckling. It's hell, it's restricting, it can be annoying, but it's temporary.

Wow frusso So many teeth! M hasn't popped any through yet. Drooling like a leaky tap though! Her poor little chin is completely chapped and peely despite my neurotic salve-applying habits! Sorry to hear you're thinking it's herpes type 1 (coldsores). The initial outbreak tends to be the worst and then the prodromal symptoms tend to much more mild with any other outbreaks. Breastmilk to the rescue! Should help to clear up the skin infection portion

angu It sounds like you had a completely exhausting evening if your little one wouldn't settle until TWO! Holy buckets! It's kind of funny to hear about your DH's opinion on what goes on in the kitchen, b/c I'm kinda like he is in some ways (dishes before bedtime, we have to cook what was on the menu, etc.) but thankfully I've chilled out a little over the years and won't give my DH such a big deal about those things anymore. It just sounds like there isn't any compromise or consideration for what you're going through. That sounds so frustrating! If he's got standards then he should be the one following them, not expecting you to go above and beyond the extremely exhausting task of raising his children!

Sounds like the prune juice did the trick kitty! Maybe sneak it in once or twice a week to keep her moving along?

Awww, another poorly little guy on the bus! Hope the headcold goes quickly in your home Lor Nursing a stuffy-nosed baby is such a pain! Gasping for breath and milk dripping everywhere. I couldn't agree with you more. Parenting is one of the hardest things that we could ever have to do and it's extra, extra hard when someone criticizes what you do! Interesting how men seems to be able to get picky with our mothering abilities but freak the heck out when you hand them the baby and say that you're going somewhere. Not such a know-it-all tough guy now, huh?

Oh you ladies do make me chuckle. I'm picturing Lor's baby go mental and kitty pooing for Britain

So baby pear slept on and off. He will sit up, try and be sick and then fall back to sleep in my arms. Then he got hotter so I took him to the bedroom to see DH and discuss the idea of giving him a second dose of Calpol. We tried to get his temp but he too went mental with the thermometer in his ear. So we gave second dose of Calpol. Then came the scene from the exorcist twice. I was covered So rang Dr. Dr wanted us to take him to surgery. His temp is only 36.9 so although it's going up it's OK. She's not so keen that I continue to bf but I am so I am. He won't take the beaker so my bm is surely better then nothing! Anyway, we have to go back tomorrow for a review in the morning. See how night 2 goes!

That's just so odd that they don't want you giving him bm! It's the easiest thing to digest, has the right balance of electrolytes for babies (especially sick ones!), and makes sure that he's got the fluids. The fever is actually a good thing, it means he's fighting the infection off so just keeping him in his baby vest should help the fever break. It might be a long night so I'm hoping it's better for you both tomorrow so you can catch a nap!

I would guess cold sore more than impetigo just because the later causes more random shapes and seems to turn into giant patches all over while this is circular and he was also exhibiting prodromal symptoms along with the spots. but then again, I'm not a dermatologist! Breastmilk definitely wouldn't hurt...

Yeah. Sorry. Terminology. Prodromal would be symptoms that are happening a few days before the actual disease presents itself. Loss of appetite, possible sore throat, and high temp where what you described above. Some people experience body aches, headaches, runny nose, tingling in the area, generalized pain in joints near the outbreak, etc. before the actual skin eruptions happen. Maybe a chemist would take the extra time to see him and help out rather than a doc trying to get through the day?

Umm. Does anyone understand these instructions for giving DIORaLYTe dehydration sachets. Dissolve one sachet in 200ml of water and take as often as directed. (1-to-1.5 times normal feed volume). Dissolve or mix with water before taking.

It's the bit in brackets that I don't understand can't I just dissolve in 200ml (a beaker size) and give him sips?

I read that as yes mix one sachet with 200ml and that they can have the same amount as a normal feed and up to half again more so if you normally give a 200ml bottle they can have up to 300ml of it
Is that how anyone else would read it? Can't see them wanting more mind!

That's how I understood it.

Ahhhh! Tricky to know how much they're drinking when breast feeding though?!

Thanks x

I can't see bpear taking more than 2 sips anyway :-/ What 8 month old can drink 200ml of water from a beaker anyway?!