The 8th Broadly Gemini Bus- The one where the babies refuse to sleep!

[bringonthetrumpets]

Numero 8!

Hoping for some actual sleep tonight!

Ahh so I should be saying why where you at home?!

Ahhhhhh yes

Lucky lady! House to yourself. What did you do all day? Relaxing, I hope!

The boys have been riding bike. all. day. long. It's been GLOOOOOOORIOUS!

I am loving all the cute vids of the littles on FB! I have to get a video up of M. DH took one today while she was on my back and I was kneading bread. Poor thing was getting all jiggled around. It was actually really funny!

Lol I cannot imagine kneading bread with bpear. How on earth are you still standing!! How much does M weigh? Bpear weighs 22 and a bit pounds.

Yeah Frus I was going to ask if you'd been relaxing but then remembered you had others to look after

Ooh, yes, that's not relaxing at all Sorry

I desperately have to go grocery shopping tomorrow. We are so out of food and I can just feel a birth looming on the horizon that of course I'd leave without food in the house. DH would be left to his own devices and the kids would be eating beans and fish fingers for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

Let's just say that I got a great workout. M is 18 lbs. . You should check out the guns.

Well, sounds like she's a handful and could quite easily equal more than one sickly child. Hugs for you Frusso Hope the illness leaves your house quickly!

Transplanted some sugar snap pea plants today, got in a little belly bump rub to check on a wee one, made two quiches (although one needed to stay in the oven for like, an extra hour! ) and M charmed everyone with her teeny, tiny pigtails . Tis 8pm and I'm ready for bed. Oh! And the house that I was obsessing about a couple of months ago is for sale again! Looks like they just took it off the market and now it's back on. I'm like a little kid pulling on DH's arm, "please, please, please can we go see the house!??"

We'll that sounds like fate bring!!!
And m was rocking her pig tails

I've posted the listing in our group on FB! DH says he thinks it's haunted and that's why no one has bought it. I don't mind a little ghost, I just love the house!

Yep! Or a little ghoul who has been keeping me up night after night. Little miss is cutting a top toofer and is a miserable little madam. DH decided that we will not be going to see the house as he knows that he'll probably have to pry my fingers from the door jam as he tries to pull me back out of the house

How's things over yonder your side?

Boo!

Hola

I'm watching a documentary about how easy kids can access online porn. Not good

How is everyone?

I'm still here... Just not been feeling overly chatty. Following on from Autism Awareness Week last week I've been doing lots of research & am more than a little perturbed to discover that all the lists of 'how Asperger's affects women' are basically a summary of me. It's something I've wondered about for a while now & it's like a switch has flipped & I just can't bury my head far enough into the sand! I've been trying to convince myself that it's my dad's fault or the girls who picked on me at school & that if I can just get over that & cure my depression/anxiety then I'll be 'normal' & happy. If I'm right then there's no cure/quick fix & I'm going to have to come to terms with that. It's scary!

Frus that is good to know. How come so many kids gain access then?!

Agnu ~ have you told DH about this? I hope you can share your feelings/discoveries with someone close by. I don't have any advice but I know it helps to talk x

Yes, DH knows & completely agrees. I don't feel able to tell anyone else though unless I have an official diagnosis. My parents would just tell me to stop being silly or that I'm 'fine'. Just as they did to my sister right until the SENCO at my niece's school raised concerns. She's got Asperger's & they're looking at ADHD too now. I feel utterly foolish that I can see it in her, BIL, FIL & Calf & yet missed it in myself! I've been reading so many things & thinking it doesn't sound like me but then gradually realising that it's exactly like me - one trait I've seen is that it's common to enjoy reading. I can't remember the last time I read a book, ergo not me, right?! Except, the reason I can't remember when I last read a book is because I can't just read a bit, I have to read the whole book all at once, to the detriment of eating/sleeping/reality. I stopped reading books because they were interfering with my ability to function.

I can't decide whether to go to the GP or not. On the one hand, I don't feel it's right for me to be explaining my behaviours/reactions as if I've been diagnosed if I haven't but then I do want to be able to explain myself & have people understand hopefully without looking at me like I'm mad &... well, tbh, I'm scared!

If it was me I would go and have a chat with the GP. You don't have to walk in saying "I've got bla bla". Maybe start off talking about your family and how you're concerned that maybe there are signs of you following in the same steps like you've done here. Let the GP ask the questions and see where it takes you. You'll be the one to decide what to do next. Brilliant that you've shared with DH already. Hopefully the more you talk it through confidential or not...the better you'll feel about your thoughts.

Bonjour! Lame day on the computer sitting in on a conference call while my kids demolished my house and fought their hardest to get my attention. M had pigtails again today. I think I'm addicted to pigtails on a baby

Do you feel like it would change things if you received an official diagnosis, Agnu? Would it help you feel better and feel more equipped to explain the way that you're feeling to someone who may not otherwise understand the way you feel or do certain things? How do you feel about the potential for having this "define" who you are to some people who may not otherwise understand? I think because Asperger's and Autism unfortunately have such a strong stigma attached to them, it could be a scary thing to realize that you can relate to some of the characteristics and therefore could potentially be judged for having this. My very closest friend's son has Asperger's and the way she looks at it is that he just thinks in a different and more sophisticated way than most people, but that this doesn't mean there is something wrong with him. One of the most brilliant midwives ever that I've had the pleasure of meeting has this as well and the wealth of knowledge she has on midwifery is outstanding. What I'm trying to say is that you have so many fantastic qualities about you and that even if you exhibit some of the qualities that would make you "fall on the spectrum" that you don't have to let this define who you are. It may help to shed light on why you feel the way you do in certain situations and it can definitely help you to gain access to more resources to help you cope and make more connections to others who are experiencing the same thing. It's nothing to be scared about! So many opportunities can come from this.