December 2011 - me do it mine self

[TheOnlySeven]

Offers round and

Uhoh. Minimopsy is roasting and curled up on my chest snoozing. She never does that unless ill. I've two hrs of lectures to write for wed morning and an article I really need to start writing. arrrggh. Poor wee bean though. Hope is nothing bad.

hey hop, glad it wasn't broken! Nerve pain is horrid though, make sure you take some good anti-inflammatories if it's something you can do.

And can I just say: Lidl chocolate. yum.

Sorry for everyone suffering from the thread plague. And thanks for the kind words about the arm. I'm on ibuprofen and paracetamol and currently in bed resting it on a hot water bottle. Can't wear the sling around DS as he thinks it's a place to hide toys and snacks. Looks like we'll be moving him into a bed ASAP as he's been sleeping like crap and i'm now unable to put him into his cot at night, physically. Changing nappies is a nightmare too. FML.

May I have a little ? We got home last night from Up North to find that not only did DP have a speeding tickets (he's had a clean license for a mere 15 years) but that our oldest chinchilla had died whilst we'd been away. Had him for nearly ten years.

We've buried him in the back garden under a lilac tree...

How's the arm hop? It's awful isn't it when you suddenly find yourself unable to do three million things you never previously gave any thought to. Keep knocking back the pills, try some codeine based over the counter ones for extra relief perhaps?

And how's Minimopsy, has she come down with anything?

Glad to see you PTP, and to hear things are OK. I'm glad someone mentioned about the poop (no.73 in '101 things you thought you'd never say') as DS's is like sludge most of the time too, glad it's not just him!

Aw northern sorry to hear about your critter it's pants isn't it

Off to Epsom in a bit monthly head office meeting 6hrs of driving ahead today.

Sorry about your sad loss, Northern.
Hope MiniMopsy is ok. And Figgy, I hope you have better commuting luck, for a change.
Now then, this poop thing... The Boi started with wet/diarrhoea, now it's sludge. Whatever it is, it's not normal for him. (And that's the key thing, I guess.) He eats, his tummy swells, there follows an evacuation. It's lasted 16 days now. I'll give the dr's a call later to see if the test results are back from the sample yet.

Sorry about your pet Northern.

Minimopsy has a temp and is clingy and coughing so have kept her hone yest and today but will mean working all weekend. Worked from time Mr. Mopsy came hone until late but not enough. Minimopsy is watching me type this on my phone and insisting I put in the red face and the green frog

Hope the poo situation turns out to be something simple oi, poor bOi.

Sorry about the chilla northern, it's so sad when they've been such a big part of your life for so long, they're part of the family.

mopsy poor minim, hope she's better soon.

Arm is bolloxed. Got it in the sling whenever I can manage it, but can't really wear it and type, or look after DS.

I'm having a broody week. I know we wont have another, and I know why and I try so hard and be OK with it, because it's not fair on DH... BUT I've got a feeling my SIL might have a special announcement to make next week, and we've just sold our travel system and carry cot and this weekend we're moving DS into a bed from his cot. He isn't a baby any more and I'm just sad that my baby days are all done now. It seems too fast!

Not great timing on the re starting of OBEM then, Hop?
Not convinced by the "Not fair on DH" reasoning. Who cares about what they want?!? Do what you want.
Ok, I'm selfish. But you only get one go .
Baby issues... I'm not feeling very pg at the moment. ...Looks like another month gone by without a BFP.
AF due around the 3rd march, so I guess there's time for the hormone changes to kick in yet...

His reasons for not wanting another are totally valid, unfortunately. In my heart of hearts I know I don't want another one right now, I would prefer to wait until DS starts school. But I also know DH isn't going to change his mind. There's nothing that can be done really. I don't want another baby enough to split up with DH, and I wont try and force/cajole him into doing something he doesn't want. But every now and again I get these pangs of 'babybabybabybabywantwantwant'.

4 hrs 20 this morning!!! Crawled along the M4, all through Bracknell and then all along the M3 to the M25, after around 3 hours time had lost all meaning, left at 6.35 due to arrive 8.56 got there 10.50 for a 10am meeting. The thought of driving back this afternoon makes me want to cry (not really but........).

Hope Mini Mopsy feels better soon.

Hop what are you DH reasons for not wanting a second? My desire for DC2 is well documented it is not something i had previously wanted, it was reinforced by having DS and then the MC last year when got pg accidentally, DH is convinced I want another to make up for the MC and not because i really want one, have told him it doesnt matter why i want another just that i do. He wasnt bothered about having kids, he had one, like me, to not miss out on one of the most rewarding experience in your life, now we have ds he doesnt feel the need for more. He feels money, age and health are all against him and they are good reasons which my hormonal shrieks of i need a baby cant really argue with. I like you dont think i would leave him if we dont have another but i do have concerns about the impact it will have on our relationship if we dont, as time is ticking on and i am getting more and more opportunities at work, career progression, salary progression i do think can i actually have it all? and i am not sure i can......At the moment I see a balance between pursuing the career which means more expectation on me but the rewards mean i can better invest in DS future or I have another DC and it is years of struggle financially and relationship pressure ahead.

I have been lucky in that i have lived a privileged life thus far, nice things, holidays etc yes the belt has been tightened the last few years due to DS cost and DH work situation but we have managed, i not sure i want to make the sacrifices another would mean. I feel a lot of guilt about the idea of choosing career and a certain standard of living over a 2nd child and think i might just want another because i see everyone else having more than 1 and I have always wanted to have it all....It is a valid choice to just have 1 child though and so none of us are wrong to stick there. You can tell i have had a lot of thinking time in the car today cant you!!

Argh, DS was sent home from nursery for producing enormous quantities of poo. He seems completely ok in himself otherwise though. oi, is it you we waggle fingers at for the introduction of the thread poo explosion?

And totally hear you regarding the how-many-to-have discussions with other halves. We nearly stopped at two, DH cited tiredness and financial and eco factors, but when DD2 went to nursery and suddenly started sleeping much more reliably, DH changed his mind and we decided that it was now or never. I don't know how I would have handled it if DH hadn't changed his mind, well, I do, we'd have had a tidier (and more financially priveleged) life!
But when DS charges up and down wearing his Minion hat squealing "Ninion! Ninion! Banaaaaanaaaa!" I can't imagine life without him :)

Well as you all know, I am no stranger to this dilemma. I definitely want a second but I can't find a time when it won't have a majorly negative impact on my career.

If we have another we will need a bigger house, we will not be poor but we will no longer be able to have nice holidays and lovely extras (lets get a take away/buy this for the house etc just cause we fancy it) and at the minute we aren't under any financial pressure and have substantial savings and a very affordable house, and that is lovely. DH also did not cope with the baby times very well, he doesn't function on little sleep, he found it boring and exhausting. He finds DS incredibly frustrating at the minute I think, because he's such a rational, analytically minded person and he can't seem to keep it in his head that DS is TWO and has zero impulse control and there is no reason and logic behind what he does. He also loses his temper (shouting) out of frustration more than he ever has before and this is a side of him I had seen until we had DS. And I get so annoyed at him for getting so worked up over stupid things. DS has started squeaking and shrieking when he's having a strop, and OK, the noise is annoying, but shouting at him and getting stroppy yourself doesn't help in fact as I have pointed out several times it makes it worse you idiot It's like he understands the theory - toddlers are tiny drunk people, pick your battles and don't make mountains out of molehills, but can't apply it in person. He can't be consistent either, so DS is constantly pushing his boundaries to see if this is one of the time's daddy will calmly telling him it's dangerous and move him away, or if it's one of the times daddy loses his shit and shouts at him. He genuinely doesn't think he could cope with another baby, especially one he doesn't particularly want. He's probably right. When he tries, and isn't tired and stressed, he's such a good dad, he spends loads of time with DS (does bedtime at least 50% of the time, spends 1:1 time with him whenever he can), but it's like as soon as DS plays up, he can't cope and gets stroppy himself.

Not sure what happened with my ' there with all the numbers made it but difficult to read!

Hop are we married to the same man.......seriously

I know, and from things you've said here and on FB, I think we've got the same child too!

And the real kicker is that my husband is one of the kindest, most mild mannered, non-confrontational people you could ever meet. He would probably go along with having another baby if I pushed it enough, because all he really wants to do is make me happy. He's just not good with babies and small children.

Know where you guys are coming from with the having another baby dilemma. I would love another baby, but I think it would break us. DP was truly crap at the tiny baby stage and is mildly better at the toddler stage. He loves his boys but I honestly don't think he gets the same joy out of being a parent I do. Feel like a bitch saying it but its true, he misses the before DC life too much and another child would push us further away from that.

It might change in the future but for now no more babies

On a different note DS is like a bottomless pit at the moment. He is absolutely tiny but can put away adult sized meals given the opportunity, he's gonna cost me a fortune in good when he's a teenager!

Two hours 25 minutes to get home tonight bit better than the four hours 20 to get there this morning apparently some knobhead was cycling his bike down the M25 this morning and caused utter carnage.

DS was very naughty at soft play today apparently the CM came back with him tonight saying that he had pushed over the little babies and was being really bossy to his friends fighting with them. It's funny as usually little kids take toys off of him And he starts crying or they push him over so it seems he was the bully today.

I wish DS poos were a little less firm in their consistency he is rocksolid and maybe only goes every few days hence why is on the meds. Hope they work out what's going on oi!!

We are away this weekend to staying in the premier inn £29 per night Fri and Sat night in Paignton, nice place (for a purple inn) stayed there when DS was around 10 months old he had a cot then we braving a family room with proper bed this time. We are going to take an energency inflatable thomas tank ready bed just in case or he will just have to sleep in between us in our 6ft double Bit worried about how he will cope without his fave smoothies for breakfast and the need to be a little quieter than normal .......any hotel tips?

Thread ate post!!!! Arghhh!!!!!

Christ knows figster, we've had two friends announce their engagement today, would you believe it, and one of the weddings is in Dubai... so not sure how we'd handle that with DS! I'm thinking of a similar hotel experience for us in the not-too-distant, in a seaside town, and I'd say just take lots of home bedroom stuff, favourite snacks and knacker him out...

Have you heard back from the doc's Oi?

We're having to spread out having no.2, as we can't afford it until DS is in school; however, I can start trying to get pregnant in a year or so, as I'd still have conception time/pregnancy time/first chunk of mat leave at full pay. We're just accepting that our 30s are going to be a time of tightened belts- but I expect that we'll still have to fork out big time for care in the holidays when they're older.

We're in the other boat, DP would have another dozen and just be a SAHP looking after them all- he can't wait to share the mat leave again!

I'm definitely feeling the broodiness! DH & I have agreed to stop using contraception and 'see what happens' so fingers crossed!

DS is being very sweet lately, he's enjoying his scooter a lot, he's been able to walk all the way from our house to the park (15 minutes), learnt to jump on the trampoline, lots if words and beginning to string sentences together.

DH and I are planning to get DS a toddler bed in a couple of months and also get him a potty sooner rather than later to get used to it's presence.

My Mum has saved up and bought herself a laptop so we can now skype, DS thinks it's great :)

Ooh good luck chip

So sorry to hear about the chinchilla northern.

aethel can I ask for some chicken pox odd advice please? Arranged to meet my friend for dinner tomorrow night, she now thinks her DS has chicken pox. I'm guessing I'll be ok even though pregnant because I've had it but what are the chances of me bringing it home and the girls catching it, am I just being paranoid?

You can't "carry in " chickenpox to other people seven, if you are immune then you won't get it again, and you can't transmit it indirectly. However, There is a small % of people who can get it twice though (if you don't develop immunity after you have had it once). So in the unlikely event you get it twice.. I do know people who've had it twice (the record is five times for an old friend of mine who worked in childcare!!)
. It is possible to get a blood test to check if you are immune but that's not instant, so it depends on how risk averse you are feeling cos you really don't want it in pregnancy.
Safest thing would be not to hug/kiss/get coughed on by her DS or spend time (>5minutes)in the same room, explain you have had it but are being careful cos you are pg. or postpone dinner a week til he's not infectious to sidestep it.
Thing is, its a rotten thing to get in pg, and a risk to baby, sp you're better off erring on the side of caution if you're not sure you are immune.

Oh and hiya PNP! good to see you, lady!