November 2012 - What is going on with these babies?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1968333-November-2012-Diet-plans-and-love-bubbles

I had a lovely morning with my brother, and we were talking about my lack of progress in my career. We are both nurses, and he earns twice what I do. I felt a tad resentful and he said he would swap it in an instant for what I have (partner, kids, home) Made me think.

This afternoon I was at a play date for DD2 with a couple of mummy pals. The house we went to is WOW and I felt a tad resentful. But she cannot have any more children, and her husband has left her. She would swap in an instant. Made me think some more.

I am very thankful for my entry-level job, my bomb-site house, my fat lazy hubby, and my three scruffy kids Very Thankful Indeed

Lovely vq. Most of my contemporaries are either steaming ahead of me in the career ladder, or working in exotic sunny locations, or buying houses. But none of them has a menagerie and none of them gets snuggles with the best toddler ever

Sooooo fed up of rain.

GT that is a mere 28 days lol. When I was bf F, I would sometimes vent to dh about eg frequent feeds, and his only response was "well just stop then" which only made me more determined to succeed. Such an unhelpful comment!

Photos of haggis meet fab as ever, not sure you'll ever convince them all to sit on the sofa together again!

Wonder how chasing got on. Wonder if xp has his legs intact??

I get envious pangs occasionally but they don't stick around for long. Everyone has something wrong, something to worry about. I could be richer, or healthier, or doing better in my career but I wouldn't be me. It took years to find a 'me' I'm happy with. I wouldn't want much else if that changed who I am and who I have in my life.

It's completely normal to have pangs of envy every now and then, we wouldn't be human if we didn't. As long as we don't lose sight of the good things we do have and turn into bitter old women

Yep 4month hell.

He has been whiney all day. Hour after ff gave calpol as he wouldn't stop crying. I think I should left the calpol as he was just over tiered. But he is still asleep. Why do long stretches come during my awake time?

YW I have considered going until the 6month mark. Just don't know. 2more months of not knowing. As pp said FH saying quit makes me more determined. To prove him wrong. But then am I bf for wrong reasons. But does it matter what the reason is as long as I'm doing it.
Read some sibling research. But I do like bf mostly. So who cares about research. Also money saved aspect I guess.

Pass I meant to say about work sit. Very difficult job and very difficult environment. I've seen ppl managed out. Horrid. A friend of mine included. That didn't end great. Big hugs and hope things get better.

VQ grass is always greener.
I know someone who earns like 4times what I do. They have an awful marriage. Another couple who earn mega bucks but no time for their kids.

My mum always compared herself to her siblings. Us in our mid terrace and them in their comparatively mansions. But I'd always remind her we were the only happy family. No family feuds no issues.

Swings and roundabouts

I am having a freak out.

There is something dancing in my pelvis . I'm fairly sure it's wind, but it's been dancing the fuck around for 30 fucking minutes. And earlier today.

And the 4 days previous.

I've palpated - no obvious uterus.

I know wind feels like kicking, I've had it enough times before... but seriously? This is odd. It usually goes after a minute or two... 30 minutes non stop so far...

I haven't had sex for a while might be 4 months or so . I'm on my period right now. It's not quite normal, it was just an old brown loss yesterday. I just get red blood at the start. Not old. It's gone red now.

Periods have been either early or fairly on time. All have been heavier than normal bar one which was a couple of months ago. They've all lasted the usual duration.

I can't be pregnant, but my body is doing a fucking good job of freaking me out about it on a fucking saturday night when I can't just get a fucking test and be done with it.

I think I'll go and try and have a poo TMI but please work??!.

Arrrrggghhhhh L just can not sleep. Hour upon hour. Fucking snot.

I thought my inability to sleep between baby wakes was due to me napping when A does. However Ive had to days of no naps and I'm still wide awake.
Tomorrow I think I need to cut down my sugar levels.
Day time naps and sugar have been the culprits of my sleepless nights before.

TWO

Hungry.

I have no career and no partner. Yes, I live mortgage free and in a lovely home and I have no financial worries and have a beautiful baby girl. But I would swap straight away for worst (not my girl though) to have him back. I get jeAlous seeing families:(.

I am a very bad mum. O had a nightmare at 9pm and I brought her in my mum bed. Put her quite away from the edge and cuddled her. Not sure how but she ended up on the floor and I feel awful about it. Not on.y she had a bad dream but she hurt herself physically. I cuddled her until she fall asleep and put her in the cot but I am terrified this can happen again. Would a bed guard work on a double bed? Just in case she wants to co sleep? I can't push the bed to the wall.

gt my insomnia gets worst when I am stressed. I get a full night sleep once a week appr. The rest is not worth mentioning. Not sure if it's connected to what I eat.

Hugs to you lily . You are not a bad mum you're the best and I'm pretty sure that kind of thing has happened to most people. If that is want you want to do I think a Bec guard would work as they just slot under the mattress.

Lily a bed guard is a great idea - I bet one would fit as Soph says. J has fallen out of bed too. It happens. Be kind to yourself.

Envy is a normal human emotion and is healthy so long as you don't let it define you. When I graduated from Oxford - pals were entering banks like Goldman Sachs on starting salaries of £100k+ (at 20!!!) whereas I was working for an environmental charity and doing my MSc trying to live on £11k in London. I was . Now as a Mum who's (temporarily!! I assure myself) had to hang up my backpack I get incredibly and wanderlust at pals still travelling the world - even though I've done a lot of travelling. I'm also envious of those whose jobs involve more than just sitting at a computer. There is something about working with climate change models that is very depressing especially when no one listens to the science, or tries to cut their emissions and then everyone gets surprised when events like the broken jet stream dumping storm after storm on us happens. It's very hard not to facepalm and shout "well we did try to f*cking warn you".

Lily a bed guard would work fine on a double. Just check how it fixes. I have a pillow behind J and so far he has not rolled off.

We were woken before 1am by J screaming and DD2 vomiting. I managed to snatch a couple more hours with J, but poor DH was up until 8 with DD2 and has now gone back to bed. J is struggling with snot and reflux. Not sure if still dairy related or just a cold. Could be teeth.. Wish he could tell me.

I have a friend who can earn what I do in 37.5 hours in just 20 minutes!

And as a teen I was vair of pals with both parents who's biggest upsets were the price of car insurance or having poor relationship choices at 17 (hello don't we all?!) when me and my sis were organising a funeral, attending an inquest, doing A levels, living alone and trying to run a household at 17 after Mum died and our parents divorced. One friend inconsolable at failing her theory test really did make me want to slap her and yell "is that the biggest pain in your life?" I'd have list a limb to have such petty problems, so yeah, envy, totalllllllly normal .

lost a limb. I might have listed one on EBay too if it existed back then

lily you're not a bad mum. LO fell headfirst off the sofa last week (under DH's supervision, for once). These things happen.

yw not being a climate change scientist, but being a believer in man made or accelerated climate change without quite being able to articulate why, other than I just don't see how it can be denied, iyswim, I would love some advice on short simple facts to argue back at people who say:

"But the climate has always been changing"

And

"Alternative energy is a scam"

And

"Windfarms are dangerous and ineffective"

And other opinions learned from Daily Mail headlines. I'm noy scientifically minded and tbh don't have the time or motivation to read into it in enough detail to build up sound arguments of my own without being told "oh you believe everything you read in the Guardian" (I don't!)

Do you have any interesting links or pithy comments I can reel off back at them? I can deal with arguments about benefits scroungers, the EU, immigrants and diversity, just not the climate change one.

Well we love our wind turbine and in weather like this it powers all my household appliances, guilt free tumble drying and 24 hour pork, and we even make a little bit of money for it.

As a country a growing proportion of energy use comes from renewable sources and there is a lot of work going on behind the scenes to develop new initiatives like frequency responsive fridges and enormous batteries. There is a lot of data out there to prove how energy use is broken down and how it contributes to the mix.

And actually pr in order for us to have an effective portfolio we need lots of different kinds of energy sources that can provide different services at different times. Remember GB is an island system unlike the enormous synchronised European system that doesn't have the same kind of frequency fluctuations that GB has. (In fact they find the fact that our frequency responds so much to things like television programmes laughable)

Good start, thanks soph

It annoys me believing in sth and not being able to articulate why. We have a lot of windfarms here too. More on the German and Lux sides of the border admittedly. I quite like them.

The other argument I get thrown at me is that I believe everything I read on Twitter which is very unfair as I hardly use it.

Lily that is the thing I worry about the most, especially given how often F sleeps in our bed. I would get a bed guard, for peace od mind. At the moment I do the same as vq.

Talking of vq, how is J getting on with his big boy bed?

Poof F got caught in a spat between the cat and dog this morning. Dog barking from one side of her, cat growling from the other. She wasn't too concerned until dh shouted at the creatures.

Have reintroduced he bumboat snack time, she loves it.