December 08 ers still going strong.

[Vagolajahooli]

Hello ladies, can you believe we will be entering into a 6th year of this thread this year?

Not really blue. Just feeling a bit lonely without DH and he might have to stay in Delhi for another week. Please no!!

Indith, sedate away if needed. You need the sleep! How was last night?

PS big floods round here. Would be exciting if it wasn't affecting friends of mine. I am smuggo up a hill.

Oh dear beans, hope your friends are ok. The weather this winter has been very odd indeed. Fingers crossed your dh doesn't need to stay another week. Very long time to be on your own with the dcs.

Small one is bouncing this morning with no sign of ever having claimed his ear hurt . has amazing gunge coming from eyes though so off to the dr anyway. putting ebm in it but I have a bunch of long shifts coming up when I won't be available with my magic properties and of course we need him to be able to go to the cm.

This weather is just hideous. Our local farmer friends are worried about a couple of their fields as now the river has burst its banks.

I too am a bit smug about being at the top of the hill. Hope it stops soon we need a burst of frozen weather to knock all these bugs on the head.

I feel a bit mean posting this after Indiths sleep probs. But DS3 slept from 10.30 - 5 last night. It seems i finally have the holy grail of babies. After DS2 horrendous 4 yrs of sleeping I do feel I was due one.

Right its Wanted down Under time and feed a baby. At what point do I have to start doing things again instead of feeding and watching telly?

dunno jammy I'm still using the feeding the baby excuse . milk mummy. a big milk mummy. More. The other one mummy.

I did the sleeping children the other way round. ds1 was amazing really (until he started getting night terrors around 2) and from around 8 weeks he went to bed at 7, self settled happily and only woke for feeds. By 4-5 months he only woke once and by 6 months was doing 13 hours a night or more. Sometimes he slept until 8.30. Was lovely. Then came dd who screamed and screamed and screamed. But at least stayed in bed. Now we have ds2 who won't go to bed, stay in bed, sleep or anything really. Ah well. I sure he will sleep by the time he is 18.

School closed. The joys of a 3 day weekend with no husband. School been designated a place of safety for those evacuated from their homes. All terribly dramatic and rather exciting!

I've been into local town to stock up on new Barbies for the girls at Toys R Us. Took ages at had to try 2 different routs as roads closed. In for a long weekend I think.

I had DD1 amazing sleeper, DD2 an unholy nightmare until nearly 3 and DD3 seems to be quite good, although cant make it past 5.30, but I can live with that.

Urgh. Welcome to one my world beans. Sorry about the floods. We are smug on a hill too. At the moment.
Dh went to work yest 6am. Overnight. Home tonight then 8am sat -6pm mon. I have the joy of ballet and a soft play party to break it up. [sigh] it's paying off financially at least (starting to) every other week is 6 days but it looks like ending very very soon with another workplace change thankfully.
Right I can see some sun peeling out. May risk going out. If this weather doesn't improve shortly I'm moving home.

One my world??? Dunno. I do only have one.

We had a lovely tea after school with one of ds school mates. Made me realise how little dh gets home in time for eating together so will start eating with the kids more at the table. Although with the job changing he will be so twill be good.

Ordered 200 nespresso pods with a gift card I got with the machine. And it's still got credit!! Can't wait. (saddo)!

It's nice and sunny here, but I can't honestly face the boggy fields with 3 DDs and a dog. Someone would fall over and I wouldn't be able to help because of Baby Bjorn. Poor dog.

Feeling a bit of a plonker. I've asked an NCT friend to be godmother to DD3 and we were so close in London and I love her dearly and all our children are within a month of eachother (have mentioned her on here before, I think) and it was a bit of an underwhelming response. Worried I've asked totally the wrong person, but also know I can be a bit silly and paranoid, but now I see on FB that they've all been out in South London together without a mention to me. Am being a silly nit, I know, but I do feel a bit sad. Never mind. I guess I couldn't have made it to south London for a night anyway, but sent a group email the other day and no one replied. I do wonder if I'm a complete twat sometimes. Whinge whine self-pity fest. But I worry I've read the friendship completely wrong and she doesn't like me at all, but I can't think I'd be THAT wrong! I deliberated long and hard about the godparent thing!

Bum.

Oh lovely Beans. I'm a bit menstrual at the mo and hormonal. Always at this time of the month I feel like I have no friends and feel a little melancholy and far from good friends. So your post made me feel a bit sad for you as I know that feeling well. Not much to say except I wish I had the luxury of living close to you so we could be good friends and drink large amounts of vino.

Also hope DH isn't away another week.

Rubes your DH is a machine as are you.

Shoot gotta go time for gymnastics

Oh tits and arse. He's away until at least mid next week. Feel like weeping. His email sounds like he does too. I think he's really missing us and the job is incredibly frustrating.

Vag, I wish you lived near me too. Any flights to Stansted in the foreseeable?

Beans :( How rubbish. Your poor dh. And you.

Friendships are always tricky things. If we all feel as though we don't really have close friends, then are those people we look at with jealousy feeling the same way?

Have had a nice day really today. Ds1 couldn't go to the CM with his gunky eye so we've pottered around, made a massive train track and walked to school to pick the big ones up because it is sunny and had a nice walk back with them as ds1 raced ahead and dd talked non stop about dinosaurs.

Wednesday! DH not back til Wednesday! That's 9 days without him. Feeling pathetically sad about it. I miss him. Especially at bath and bedtime!! Just had a little weep when I got off the phone from him.

I think that I'm feeling low anyway, so this NCT thing is getting to me more than it normally would. I sent her a message on FB earlier and had no reply. Rude.

Kayz, I don't know how you do it!!

Beans Is she religious? Maybe she feels uncomfortable with the whole God/renouncing the devil business? If not then she is plain rude and undeserving of you. Don't let it knock your confidence. You had 12 people round for a takeaway this week, I couldn't rustle up 12 local friends!

Hons, you're v kind. She's not religious at all. Maybe I should offer her an 'out' clause if she's not comfortable with it. Do you think I should?

Beans, it gets easy after a while. DH has been gone 4 weeks now and it's just 'normal'. The first week is crap though.

What do you all think about moving schools? We have been thinking of moving to the coast. The houses are strangely bigger and cheaper. A lovely 4 bedroom house for £120,000 which we could probably get by porting our mortgage.

But I am really really worried about the boys, more DS1 really. He has been at the school 4 years now and is moving up to the junior school with all his friends in September. I'm not sure I want to take him away from what he knows. DS2 isn't so bad as he hasn't been there as long.

I need a lottery win.

On lovely beans you sound a bit blue! I wish I lived nearer I'd come round with cake for a natter! No idea why your friend is being a bit odd over the godparent thing, maybe she she doesn't view it with the same importance you do. But it's still a bit rude of her.

Kayz my nephews moved schools a few times (BIL in navy). They always coped fine. I do think it depends on the individual child though. Some children will be fine. Others (like DD) would probably think it's the end if the world. I guess the older they get the more settled they get with their friendship groups. So making the move as near to the switch from infants to juniors would be good.

Speaking of schools can I just say DS is going great guns. I'm so proud of him given all the shit that nursery went in about. No doubt he had a temper but is maturing nicely and it rarely flares up. As we left school yesterday one if his new pals said to his mum "mummy I love H do much I think I'm going to cry". Awwww

Beans, deploy the family - I definitely would if I had the opportunity.
I can totally understand on the friend thing - we've moved that much that I have struggled to have any local friends (all of them fly and live all over the country) The local mums have become friends, slowly, but I could never rustle up 12 over for a night of take away so you should give yourself more credit!
I'd feel JUST the same as you re the friend in London - probably because I 'tend' to get paranoid etc myself (just ask Lady) I've already done it with several new local friends - But I am getting better!!
I'd be tempted to address the God Parent thing in the way you said can't hurt.

Deids that is brilliant about DS - what a crap nursery that sounded. So nice when they have lovely friends and are doing well - similar with DS here, but I am not surprised with him - it's more dd I worry about as she can be a little biznitch at times.

I don't know about moving schools kayz - as deids said - depends on the child. It'd be hard for me to move ds as he's got so many friends and LOVES school. I know we will have to at some point as we won't be here until he's 11, but hopefully when they're older it's a bit easier? Although, most say the other way around.

I have a fairly settled group of friends. But even I get paranoid about them not including me etc. the other week when we went out a couple of them were talking about when they met for lunch. I wasn't invited but felt quite hurt. Silly really.

Posted to soon! Silly as they live nearer and it was probably when I was working.

kayz I reckon most kids cope well, people move am the time. What matters more, especially with your dh working away is you. How far from your current support network will you be? Will it affect the boys contact with their dad? What about your friends? Even moving a short distance can change the centre of your day to day life. so where you are looking what is the school run like? Will you be able to get the boys into the school? local shops? public transport? groups and things for you and dd? Will access to college etc be better for you in the future of you decide you want to work or retrain? write some lists, what is great about where you are now and what isn't so good then do the same for the coast. House prices def not to be sniffed at, if it means you can pay off the mortgage sooner or lower your monthly payments and free up some income or mean you have something going into savings each month rather than mortgage then that's a pretty big plus point from where I'm sitting.

I had a close friend but she moved abroad. I have the mn lot and we go for curry sometimes and chat on here. It isn't the same though. locally there are people I like a lot that I am friends with but we are all so busy, I never see them and it always feels like they have better, closer friends. I must try to catch up with them after my exams before year 2 starts.

Indith I have no friends. Not a single one, I have people I say hello to but no one I would ever go for coffee with or anything. So apart from seeing my Mum, step dad and brother life will be no different to what it is now.

Just we'll be in a house we fit in, near DH's good friend and in a nicer town and within 5 minutes walk of the beach..