November 2012 - Diet plans and love bubbles

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1958191-November-2012-Any-words-yet

chasing ((((( )))))) he'll get used to the to-ing and fro-ing. He's secure with you. Can't be easy to deal with but I am absolutely certain it's nothing to be overly concerned with, and it's good he has a bond with XP. My DC are heartbroken, and I mean heartbroken, each and every time my DM leaves us after a visit. For you though. How was your weekend? Good from the relationship change which can be deduced...?

isles for you too. I'm always amazed each time I recall you are young. Yes time to be an adult is good, but you will hopefully have good health and earning power when M is a young adult. That's actually priceless in many ways - I will be able to help my DCs as long as I am earning. But after retirement, that will change. Plus, it's happened the way it has.

FWIW I think women feel judged no matter what. I'm judged for being fat. I have to fight against a negative first impression each and every time. It takes presence of mind to thrown off the care factor. I think everyone is dealing with some form of insecurity or another.

BP have a fab time

GT looking forward to pics. Am sure A is ok but keep an eye on him. They are very strong really but you'll know if he's not ok.

Am marginally better this eve. Contemplating a non-soup meal for the first time in ages.

Chasing that's perfectly normal and happens at least once a week here and it tends to mean nothing more than 'I was in the middle of something with Daddy!!!' I bet it's not him expressing a preference xx

Big hugs to you chasing is hard. The best thing you can hope for O really is that he has two parents who love him, whether they are together or not, and that he loves both of his parents and has a respect and loyalty for both. This way he grows up stable coming out of an unstable situation iykwim. This is obviously regardless of any of the extra parent figures that come into his life.

I know, I know, I know it is hard, and sometimes you will feel hurt, I do lots of times, but when he is an adult and he looks back upon his upbringing and he has good relationships with both his parents he will be so blessed and proud.

One day he may decide to stay with his dad for a bit but equally he may not. And if he does you have to make sure your bond is tight and you keep talking via phone, email etc and you never loose your hold. But don't think about it now. Everything for you is looking so positve.

Chasing i bet he's been good as gold for xp all weekend and there's a reason for that - he's not sure of him. He loves you and can be his own pure self with you, but outside of your arms is a big scary world that he doesn't understand. So you get all the tears and emotions that he doesn't trust xp to handle bit of a backhanded compliment but it's backed up by lots of psychological research.

ILs visited today, R was wary at first but soon turned into his usual giggly, happy self insisting on having books read, tummies tickled and towers to knock over :o

Sophia

Glad today was good pp.

Hope work is good evil. We still need to arrange our catch up!

Thank you all Your words particularly hit home, Sophia. All I want is for O to be happy. I want him to have a good relationship with his dad and the full extended family - which he does. I feel a bit selfish that I feel so sad about it but it does hurt.

My weekend was lovely - things are going very well with the boyfriend He is meeting O in a few weeks which I am both excited and nervous about. I also told XP about him today. We both see a future together so I am very happy.

Oooooooooo you are making me feel all warm and fuzzy inside chasing

chasing I told you what I think on whatsapp so won't repeat it. But you are the best mummy for O.

sophia you are an awesome mummy! what you are doing for your girls and boys are truly inspiring. Even though it's heartbreaking.

And O thought I was the best mummy today as she got a couple of bites of chocolate cake .

top of pops mummy lily

chasing hugs for the xp thing, I can completely understand how that would hurt you, but you have to know you are O's world - he was just having fun with daddy at that moment and was annoyed that he was leaving. and ooooo sounds fab how things are going with your new boy!

Quick feel sorry for myself fly-past.

I feel dreadful . . . Again! And my period is 4 days early. It is never, ever early. Fucksticks.

Anyway, we had a nice day. Went to ikea to buy a new rug. P rampaged around and blehblehbleh'd to anyone who looked at her. She also had a piece of chocolate donut. Instantaneous giggles.

Enjoy tonight bp!

Evening all, hope everyone has had a good weekend!

flouncy what a cool physio lady :)

pass I have the ek cookbook but have as yet to use it! you've just reminded me I should have a peek in it, though I'm sure e will refuse everything. He still refuses Sunday roast!! Argh! Anyway. I can give it a go :)

pikz hope you had a good night last night

vq poor j! hope he gets better soon

Glad the surprise went down well lily :) indoor swing sounds fab!

I agree with everyone else isles I would never judge you for being a young single mum. It's the good mum bit that is important not the single/married/blah blah bit. Fwiw I think you sound fab and as vq said very mature :)

pp it must be odd with r wanting less bf but you've fed him and nurtured him amazingly :) try not to be sad, sorry I'm rubbish with words

sophia I'll be trying to take that on board also :)

yw I like that phrase also

Gosh gt hope you have a good rest now! Bless you. I'm sure a is fine, sorry no advice tho, how does he seem now? :)

Ooh bplp hope you've had a fab time!!

evil waves

Aw chasing don't worry, I echo what everyone else says and totally understand where you're coming from. Loads of hugs, hope you're feeling ok about it now :) glad you had a good weekend I am so happy for you

Hope you feel better soon pass

I feel as though I've missed something :/

Haven't caught up properly but just noticed your post kyz the recipe for the risotto I done is in the ak book, just used frylight instead of butter.

I have eaten a lot .

Right. Chasing. If I asked dsd what she would rather - see daddy or have a chocolate bar, up until v recently she would have said the chocolate bar. Young children will inevitably pick what provides the immediate reward as they cannot distinguish between the importance of a parent compared with an inanimate object. But they do know that they love their parents/carer and recognise he security that that person or people provides. O loves you, you are his world.

VQ I'm sorry to hear J is poorly again, and he seemed to be doing so well. Hopefully it will be short lived and not passed on to anybody else in the valium household.

Kyz, I wouldn't worry about E, I know it's easier said than done, but he seems to do so well most of the time. They all have their wobbles, and what they like one day can be the worst thing ever the next.

Zamboni can't believe you're still unwell, how rotten.

Isles I sometimes think he same as you. I have such a baby face that am sure people judge. But I try to remind myself of all the positive things I have done and achieved. VQ I fair chuckled at the zimmer/buggy comment.

Bottles. F has 4-6 oz immediately after lunch and being phased out. And 6-8 oz at bedtime. From bottles not cups. Thankfully in the past few weeks she has started guzzling water from her sippy cup - was it Flouncys J who won't use a cup? F only just really started, and now she loves it, am sure J will get there all of a sudden one day.

F having a field day with my parents, although spent a while hunting for dh and I at bedtime apparently this fact didn't make me cry at all, oh nooo.

Now am off to have a cuddle with dh and sleep. For a very long time in one of the comfiest beds I've ever slept in. Zzzzz

Chasing I know it is not the same but L screams every time he has to leave my mum (so every Wed-Fri when DH picks him up after work, plus every time she tries to pass him to me even when I'm not taking him away). I think it's because he sees her less often so when he says goodbye he isn't sure how long till he will see her again. Whereas he trusts that DH or I will always be there. Maybe that is the case with O?

Isles I wish I had started having children in my 20s, it's only recently I've started reconciling myself with how things have turned out. You always seem incredibly together and mature to me. I feel like I spent a lot of time chasing dreams and have not a lot to show for it. However I tell myself I made the best decisions I could with the information I had at the time. One of the great things about the quiche is the variety of backgrounds and ages; everyone learns from each other no matter whether they are old or young, first timers or mother hubbards.

Quick check in. Went to threads I'm on and you weren't there. Has it really been that long since I've posted

Anyhoo this weekend cumulated with DD1s birthday party. It was great fun. I'm exhausted now though. It was 3 hours long and I had an entertainer and all food ready made from m&s so an easy to organise party. How you did 3 days gt I'll never know.

I would probably be classed as a middle aged middle classed mum. Not something I like to think of myself as being but there we go. I'm not sure if I'm just completely oblivious to it but I don't think I've ever been to any groups where I've judged or been judged by other mums. Perhaps I've just been lucky. Ah I probably was judged the time that DD1 whacked a boy over the head with a toy car I like to think I dealt with it appropriately but I'm pretty sure there were lots of hoiking of pants from mums there with perfect children.

Off to bed now as knackered but hope to catch up on thread properly tomorrow. DH has got me a new laptop which will help. Night.

Eliza it's weird when the thread disappears off that list! I found my list totally empty last week. Very strange indeed.

Chasing hugs x today when my sis left H he screamed and cried looking at her walk away as if to say "how could you leave me with her" he doesn't do this with me.
This evening he came over to me, indicating he wanted to be picked up. Put him on my lap and he snuggled into my shoulder. He never does this.

H discovered Cheerios today. I chucked a bunch on his tray (someone mentioned it other day so thanks for putting the idea in my head) and he ate them himself! As you know it's been frustrating me he doesn't eat independently. But he seems to be getting better at it. Also nommed on a cucumber earlier. Guess I need to let him try more.

A is ok. We had a cuddly nap after temple. And then had a party to go to, he was well behaved and and smily for everyone.

I now can't sleep. Sucks as I'm alone with the boys so up bright n early. Praying Harjun wakes up late. Party ended at 10 and he wet to bed at 10.30 so he should be tiered.

Up with a poorly S. She's had a tummy bug since Friday morning. I though she'd gotten over the worst, she managed to keep down water and a dry cracker and later on a piece of dry toast, so I gave her half of her bottle before bed. She went to bed fine but then brought it all up an hour ago.

Morning all. for fruit and anyone else who has seen small wee hours.

bp where are you staying! would you recommend?

Captain Stinker is currently trying to climb up my legs I deduce I have a nappy to change........there goes the post.

Grabs off Sophia and gives in return.

DD1 off sick today, DD2 and J sent to nursery with PCM. Interview tomorrow. Great

Well this morning this thread wasn't in the thread's I'm on bit so something on the app is playing up. Stupid thing.

gt E noms cheerios all by herself too. Loves them. I've been quite bad at giving E things to eat by herself because of her inability to handle lumps but I'm chilling out about it now. Although she often sicks up lumps I figure if she never has them she's never going to learn. I also give her some mush to feed herself with and whilst it is very very messy ahe enjoys it and is actually getting quite good at feeding herself with a spoon.
Going to meet my friends 2 week old baby today. Another friend had a little girl on saturday, the same day as she had her little boy on 4 years a go. She was 10 days early. Bet all these newborns will make me broody.

Morning campers. Another week at work!

Morning all - a teary drop off as J's key worker is on holiday (how very dare she?! ) hopefully he settles with his second favourite nursery assistant. Boo to teary starts.

Good luck for the interview VQ!

Pass hope you feel better soon.

BP enjoy your hotel breakfast