November 2012 - Diet plans and love bubbles

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1958191-November-2012-Any-words-yet

Evening everyone

Well done Isles!

I'm so happy for you Lily - you have fought so hard for this. Both L and O would be proud x

Sitting still. O doesn't at all really. I have had to start strapping him into his highchair for mealtimes as he had started to climb onto the table/stand up in his chair...

I have started to feel very guilty that O is an only child. He loves other children and really lights up around them. He gets on very well with his cousin (12 days older) and sometimes when I see him playing alone I get very sad for him Having said that, I am not broody in the slightest. I had to poas a couple of weeks ago and I genuinely don't think I have ever been so scared. Me and my boy are a team and the thought of changing that is scary.

Thank you all! I really convinced myself I'd failed the first part

Been out for tea with colleagues to celebrate and now enjoying having an evening to myself!!

VQ what's he done?

Lily once again I am sooo chuffed you made a major step forward today x

Sophia can you adopt me too? although I do have my very own wonderful mummy who despite being ill today had m and gave me some new clothes

I really don't know what to do about my house. For every week I think (D)P and I are okay and we're going to have a solid future, I have a day of wobbles. We've not even argued this week but I just don't know. Because he'll have no equitable right over my house, I really don't think he is going to ahead with providing me the deposit. I'm just getting myself really worked up and over thinking everything. Basically though, I was really reassured when I went online and saw there are several nice houses for rent at the moment. So if we (collectively) don't go ahead with the house, there is somewhere for us to move to until the new build is ready, and if I (me and M) are let down by him in this whole process, then there is somewhere for us to live. I hope. I will have answers by this time next week anyway, but either way I WILL be moving out of this house despite getting rent, prick of a landlord still hasn't fixed any of the ishoos by Spring.

Woooooah massive stream of consciousness there! I think I've had enough wine!!

As much as it pains me isles I have to say I understand your DP not wanting to pay towards a house he will not own. I wouldn't even if I was in a perfect relationship. I hope you can find a way of buying on your own and kicking his sorry ass out

Having more than one leads to feelings of guilt too. There are advantages and disadvantages to being an only child or having siblings. Each family is different and special, regardless of how many members there are, and where they live.

I did leave a list for DH today and I tried to explain about the meds but he was just looking at the telly (Peppa Pig) and occasionally looking at me like I was a fusspot. Clearly he did not listen. I had written the times of all his meds yesterday so DH could work out how many doses he had been given of each over the last 24 hours. I even put the day on it. So he takes that to mean that it is a list of times when he SHOULD have medicine. I had clearly stated not to let him go longer than 4 hours without an PCM or brufen, and he said I had just droned on. I was

I have news everyone! Oh where to start!

Good news
The ex could not have n on our agreed day as he was in hospital. That's right, and I didn't have anything to do with it. So I had for the whole day! but he came out yesterday. I have no idea what happened.

N has discovered running!

Bad news,
I gritted the path leading to the house door as it icy till noon. So n fell over on it. He's grazed the skin on his head, but seems fine. Just as crazy as ever. In fact he seems to like running into things,

I've instructed the lawyers to ask if ex, can have N in the afternoons.

Evil

PR I told him that I categorically would never do it for him. He is adamant he will. I am not sure. I'm also not entirely convinced he will get a loan, given the grief we had taking out car finance and even a sodding mobile contract with his patchy credit history. Should I link some property porn?

I don't want any more. Not now anyway. I thought I did, but I don't. I love M. I love the stage she's at. I love being her mummy and all the silly little things we do together. BUT I also love my new career and I love the fact I am finally getting time for myself. I am an intrinsically very selfish person, and whilst I love her unconditionally, I don't think I could cope with diving myself between 2 small people. (D)P would have another tomorrow

VQ I would be fuming. I thought you meant a list of chores. Not okay

*dividing

I didn't want a second child. Ended up with two. We got married on the (my) condition there would be no kids. Funny how minds change.

Evening

Does anyone else feel like calpol has become practically part of the bedtime routine? I think p has had a dose at bedtime every night since Christmas. Bugger off teeth and bugs and jags

So glad j is turning a corner vq. Next time your DH suggests that you are 'droning on' about caring properly for your sick child let me know and I shall perform a drive by wedgie

Sitting still is not p's thing. Sitting at all is not p's thing. DH walked into the sitting room last Friday and was so stunned to see p sitting on her arse that he took her temperature.

Ageing pussy has bloods and urine taken today. Some could be tested there and then and it looks like her kidney and liver functions are fine! She has a high enzyme however which might be indicative of a thyroid problem. Treatable by radio iodine or different food. We will go with the food. She is so thin though. She weighs 2kg. She weighed 3kg 9 months ago. Poor wee soul.

Did you really pr? What changed your mind?

pass no calpol here, but reflux can fuck off. So many reflux poos burning my little ones bum.

Evil

Pass I feel like that about Calpol. F has got 14 teeth through in the last 8 months (working on the 15th and 16th right now as well!), that means we have almost been constantly teething, and when we aren't there is almost always an illness. So it feels like calpol or ibruprofen before bed happens more often then not which worries me, but I hate putting him to bed in pain. I tend not to give it in the day though unless really ill so I try not to feel bad about it.

Isles there's a lovely two bed house down at the Moorings just come up for rent (my sister is looking now they are sold). Garden, shed, parking, brand new kitchen and bathroom - £625. I know you love that development. She has discounted it as too far from the station but its lovely for drivers.

I think if you are not sure about P / the house then in your gut the answer is probably no. If you do buy with him get him to apply for the deposit loan six months after obtaining car finance as otherwise his credit is likely to be very dodgy. DH's got an Experian score of 999 and he was refused a mortgage increase for four months after getting car finance and we were already homeowners but just wanted to port and increase the mortgage (we already had an AIP so it can mess that up too!). Three months later and he got the best First Direct mortgage deal on the market and £50k more than we'd previously wanted. Timing can really help or hinder (but I'm teaching you to suck eggs given your new quals!) .If there's a chance he'd be refused then I guess you'll have to figure out what's the priority new car loan or house deposit if his credit file won't stretch to both. If its you buying the new car then after DH's experience it might be worth getting the car after the mortgage is in place?

I'm really glad you're loving your new career .

I think we're going to start trying for no.2 in May / June. Though I do look at our wee family and think we are just fab as we are - what if the strain of having refluxy baby part deux fucks things up? But then I look at my sister and realise I'd love J to have that bond. Also I'll have enough freelance clocked up to qualify for MA again. Grasping cow that I am!

I looked after a whinging teething bear and my sister's two today so she could go to a solicitor re her divorce. Apparently despite contributing 80% of the deposit she'll only be entitled to 60% of the equity - its a pretty standard settlement in Scotland where there are kids so perhaps best not to rely on any agreement that he'd give you the house deposit if you split Isles? If there is any uncertainty that the father cannot afford to support two households then solicitors would suggest an enforced sale. My sister's happy with what her DH is offering monthly and they're keen to keep things amicable but I was shocked at how settlements have worsened since my parents did it.

pass we have Calpol before bed a lot too. I worry about the possible effects of giving it so often but I need some sleep and so does C.

Glad it's not just me then. It is only one dose a day but still. It makes me anxious. None tonight though.

We've had 12 teeth in 3 months . He has anbesol most nights and calpol if needed at least 3 times a week mostly more it seems I've been wary as there is a link between calpol and asthma and my sister was convinced that's what caused her DS' asthma (after having CMPI dismissed as colic or teething pain for 18 months by the HV he had it soooooo often as he was in such pain ) but today he got his allergy test results back and the asthma is caused by their three cats. ahhhh cheers all! (joking!)

Lily I don't know. One day we just stopped trying not to get pregnant. Took two years to get knocked up then had a mmc. There's no way I'd have had feetility treatment, but I got pregnant with dd1 next cycle.

With LO we were a bit silly as I figured it could take years again and got pregnant immediately. I was . We had a dodgy early scan with no heartbeat, I was to go back 2 weeks later to have mmc confirmed but she was fine. DH booked the vasectomy the moment we were wheeled up to postnatal ward. We were happy she was there but no more.

Same here with Calpol pass. We seem to be having a respite from teething and illness but there was a time when Calpol was very much a nightly occurrence. It did tend to be the only dose I gave within the 24 hours but I still worry.

A dose of calpol a night will be harmless. I'm much more careful with ibuprofen.

YW That's the one. Going to see it Tuesday. Will probably put an offer in then. The more I think about it, the more I know the house sale is going to fall through.

There are loads up for rent atm. Another one in Letham that might suit your DSis?

Settlement sounds about right actually. It is more down to who has contributed to the mortgage payments, as opposed to deposit.

Pass, was Ps high temp just a one-off then?

Yes we've gone through Calpol at bedtime phases too, then sometimes you almost feel like you'll jinx the sleep if you stop, but we do try not to unless he is teething or coldy. Last night he woke up and was beside himself, no temp and didn't seem to be in pain but couldn't find another reason for the distress so figured it was worth a try. He settled down so maybe it was pain, so hard to know sometimes. I'd rather err on the side of giving it than have him unable to tell me what's wrong and suffer.

WRT the house, even if we split and I need to buy a new car myself, I will have saved enough over the next 10 months to put down the deposit on a similar house by Christmas anyway. Even taking into account car payments. From that point of view I am not too stressed. Losing the house in Parklands will be sad but I'd much rather have financial peace of mind we will never have joint finances, just glimpsing at his bank statement earlier gave me palpitations!!!

I didn't know about the Calpol and asthma link YW. I'm asthmatic, as is XP so I already worry about that for O. I have pretty much grown out of it now, although it flared up quite badly during pregnancy, and it didn't bother me too much when I was a kid, but one of my childhood friends died of an asthma attack 2 years ago, leaving a young daughter, which has made me much more paranoid about it.

It's an unproven link chasing