November 2012 - Any words yet?

[StuntNun]

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Not watching it as I watch on the iPlayer. Not plot spoilers please!! It is more his attitude that gets me. Love a brainy bad boy.

A bit like I don't fancy Hugh Laurie at all but House? He makes me all a flutter.

Oh yeah. I sometimes do the nails in short bursts. Couple at a time to avoid her getting too intense

Yeah, I'm that desperate.

IMHO Sherlock looks like the sloth out of Ice Age

Am thinking I need to start watching some of these programs of which you speak.

Am Watching take me out with dh, fire just dwindling, and empty chocolate wrappers scattered at my feet. Nice lol.

We are currently watching boardwalk empire on DVD. It's good

Just looked at a picture of the Sherlock in question, and i am not impressed. But then sometimes it's the character, like Cal Lightman in Lie to Me. He's not my idea of a dish but my god i'd poke Cal Lightmans willy, I would.

J and E are quite happy to get their nails cut so no tips as never needed.

chasing it's lovely to hear you so happy.

Ipad is running out of charge and phone rubbish for posting as it's unlearned all my words.

Good on her yw and fxd everything works out.

I am wobbling over my house. I dont like the sloping garden. Or the fact it is so close to my mum. Or the wait until December for completion. Or indeed the fact it would need to be a joint mortgage with dp and not entirely mine. So I am going to see another couple to keep our/my options open. I don't need to fully commit to the new build until june at the earliest.

And my landlord is now £850 richer after dp caved and paid this months rent a prick.

Good for you. A joint mortgage is a bigger commitment than a marriage so it's better to be sure about the house - it's good there's no rush if you don't have to sign on the line until June - has your LL crawled back under his rock? Hope so Where else are you looking?

Cross post sorry !

Still in the bay. Going to view the tiny house in parklands I linked ages ago, and a bigger one in letham.

He has agreed to sign to the effect that if/when we split the house will be mine but will believe that when I see it and my inner control freak would rather it was mine from the outset

Would also prefer m to be in the donib catchment.

When I split with DS1's dad, I had just bought my house 8 months earlier.

In my own name.

Made life extremely simple.

He moved out. With nothing. Nothing but his clothes and playstation.

No divorce - not married. No money to divide - no savings. So very simple. I hear of messy divorces and think, thank fuck.

Please get the mortgage on your own. Mine is still in my own name, and will stay this way until I no longer give a crap about having a home for my boys!

isles please don't get a mortgage with him. It's a complete nightmare IF you split. I had a joint mortgage with my ex fiance and it was a fucking disaster when we split. Think I've said before he'd been cheating on me for years but the house thing was horrendous. Even more so than the embarrassment of cancelling the wedding etc! There are papers filed in Edinburgh as it was classed as as a matrimonial split. It was a joke. He stopped playing mortgage yet was entitled to half the house profits etc!

*Paying. He was clearly playing!

This is my logic. I really hope we don't split as things have really levelled out since I went back to work. But I am not scared of the future in the slightest if it happens now i have some form of financial security. Basically, I know I could walk away tomorrow if I wanted to and I want to keep things that way.

I also want to buy a house and there is a big difference between what I can afford alone or with him. So I think he may just have to compromise on the big flashy new build. Or I might need a lottery win.

Basically for once in my life I am trying to do the sensible, right thing.

Isles if it were me I'd keep the big flashy new build as something to aim for in the future, you're doing v v v v well to be able to buy at all so young given the average age of FTB with no parental help is now mid 30s - a four bed new build would be crippling right now if P left and didn't pay his way. As your wage increases you can look at moving up the ladder. I get you - I'm the same at having to wait for what I want - deferred gratification is a bitch but it is worth it in the long run - better a modest house of your own with no stress than a big showy box that brings misery and which you eventually resent.

I'm glad things are better for you Isles that's wonderful to hear and hopefully things continue in that way. Onwards and upwards. A 4 bed new build is a big step from renting and not one that many twenty something or even thirty something's could manage. It may be best to wait a bit for that and but something more suited to your current needs. BUT we know nothing really and can only offer advice and opinions on what we have gleaned from your life and our own experiences. Hence me being worried about a joint mortgage prior to marriage. It's something I wouldn't and didn't do again. When my now DH and I got together I had my own flat. He moved in with me and contributed to bills but it remained mine and had we stayed there after marrying only then would his name have went anywhere near anything. He works in finance and as such sees the messes made when couples split and joint accounts go awry. He was completely happy to stay in my flat til we bought together and that was in the May prior to getting married. We had been engaged since the July the previous year but wouldn't have bought if the wedding hadn't been booked for a few months later.

J has only just been resettled after a disaster bedtime more of a distaster than usual as he ended up down with us as he woke after 30 sodding minutes in the damn cot. Seriously considering doing a vq and moving him to a bed. It wouldn't be tap that much of an issue if he had a room and not a bomb site! as the cot is a cot bed thingy so could be turned easily-ish into a bed.....he can't walk yet so may be a silly idea but it's the only thing I can think of that we haven't tried that isn't adoption!

Anyway I shoulders to bed. I've just screenshotted a bunch of soup recipes thanks to sophia so shall see what we fancy when the pit of boring carrot and coriander is done!

Many spelling mistakes and typos but I Cannot be bothered fixing them! Sorry!

Bring on sweary Wednesday so I can tell the motherfuckers that are reflux and sleep deprivation exactly whst I shitting well think of them. 2 cunty hours later, with 4 resrttles prior and still going strong.

I am so sick of no sleep.

Sleep deprivation nearly cost me my marriage. It's the pits. Calpol and some milk seems to have worked, for now. Dh wiill be up for work in 4 hrs.

I bought a property with Leo but had the mortgage in my name only as we couldn't get a good deal on both of ours. This was the best decision actually, when he died it made everything so easy; Dealing with the bank, solicitors, families, etc. buying a property is a bigger commitment in my eyes than having children and it's harder to get out of the relationship if you have a house. Just don't jump into anything which you might regret, there is nothing wrong with renting a bit longer.

No Sherlock spoilers pls, I'm catching up tonight.

isles my DH bought the house we lived in before with his ex partner and they had an agreement of trust written up. So she had contributed, I think, a third, to the deposit, and he had to buy her out with, I think, a third, of the equity. I could see no stress about it from my side. He just did it. Because it was all in a legal doc. We had the same drawn up when I moved in before we were married.

Good night here. For all of us. O has now pinched the remote control and put countdown on!