November 2012 - Any words yet?

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1948944-November-2012-What-are-your-New-Years-resolutions-for-your-baby

Let me know of any good one you like flouncy i love it when other people have the same recipe books or use the same websites as me. They try different things to the recipes I am naturally drawn to and it encourages me to do stuff we wouldn't other wise try. Like, I think it was pikz and the quinoa chicken. We love it now.

Better get on, lots to do today to prepare for my DF and my
DSM

Me too kyz.

isles I totally agree with what everyone else has said and more. Buy on your own. I bought my our house just before we got married. Paid for with my savings, money from my family, my ability to get and pay the mortgage (significantly higher earner than DH and much better credit rating). I bought it in my name. I did not and will not amend that despite now being married to DH. I stay away from the relationships board because I am sure that, viewed objectively, I financially abuse DH. But if we split, me and the DC can stay in our home. The house is affordable on just my income although it's not as big and flashy as we could have chosen. That gives us some slack in case of redundancy. DH is content with this situation. But for me, he wouldn't be in a homeowner situation. I am as certain as I can be that DH and I are secure plus I would be totally fucked for childcare if we split but I, too, have seen too much mess. If DP puts barriers in your way of financial security for yourself and just yourself , I would be concerned!

I feel so rough. Awake every half hour, crazy, vivid, exhausting dreams, S slept badly as usual and the day started at 4. Thank fuck they have gone to nursery. Not how I wanted to spend today but hopefully a day of rest will be beneficial!

((Hugs)) zamboni hope you are getting looked after. Xx

Dragged girls into nursery. LO isn't quite well enough but no fever etc. I think I'll go and get her in a while but I need to see my GP and I didn't want to bring her into the waiting room and pick up more germs.

I think a deed of trust is the right option if you can comfortably afford the mortgage on your own but if you need P's income to help pay the mortgage and especially if there have been issues of financial abuse in the past (making you beg for money, failing to pay bills, frittering joint monies, being unwilling to provide support when needed etc) - its probably not enough protection. If you split its not like the old days when under a settlement P would be expected to continue with the mortgage payments whilst any kids are in full time education - today, even if married, he'd just have to meet CSA payments for maintenance and that could be much less than you might need to support a joint mortgage.

Today started at 6.30. 5 minutes before DH's alarm. How can he tell little sod!!!???? Early to nursery it is!

F currently growling at her breakfast. Whst illness is she brewing now I wonder.

Nothing much to add to the mortgage debate as we are still renting. Suspect I'll be one of these mid-30s buyers, as none of the parents would be Iin a position to help us out.

Day off, but am with zamboni on this one and shall be taking it easy. Once the shopping is done, banking sorted and clothes hang out.

Isles I'm with the others and think you should buy something you can afford on your own. It might not be your dream house but you need to cover all eventualities and make sure the payments are affordable if it all goes tits up. That's something everyone should consider regardless of relationship history but even more so in your position. How gutting would it be to move in, then the worst happens and you lose your relationship and your home?

So Turkey was on, off, on, off, on off and now seems to be back on again It seems MIL had other money worries on her mind. DP spoke to her yesterday and they came up with a date in May. I've checked with work and it's ok to change my holiday dates, DP is asking today when he goes in. Fingers crossed.

Finger crossed apple

Hope you are all feeling better soon. I have made it in to my training day but feel ghastly. I will be the snotty spluttering one at the back

Really appreciate all the advice. I have a much better credit rating than him and a higher income so chances are I will be able to buy a fairly okay house alone. We have agreed our mortgage will not be higher than what we pay in rent (no way it could be) and I can easily afford that alone so from that point of view I'm fine if the worst should happen.

Anyway more property porn for me while i keep my options open. It's nice to know we have our new build to fall back on though.

So glad I didn't take LO with me to the Dr. Two kids in there with gastro bugs. Why do people go in to the dr for little things like that and spread them around when our doctors do home visits?

Second nursery drop off after Christmas and no tears - he's either sick of frazzled Mummy or he's finally twigged he has a great time at nursery and has never yet been forgotten to be picked up on an evening. Two mile dog walk done so am feeling vair worthy so a big fatty latte (with coconut milk) and Reese's pieces (dairy free huzzah!!!!!) for me then work.

Isles get well soon! I'm going to book a docs appointment as whilst my sinusitis and tonsillitis has gone I've now been deaf in one ear for a fortnight .

I'm glad you appreciate the advice isles I was a bit worried it was starting to look like wee were ganging up on you again!

sophia I shall be soup making on Sunday as that way it stays fresh for the week ahead. The idea of soup is that it'll force me to have a healthy lunch. I've decided to start my weight loss today. I have 6 weeks til my go on holiday and I'm annoyed I'm so fat still. Not sure whether to just use my fitness pal and track calories or whether to try following slimming world....big decisions eh!

Our night was horrific. J was very screamy and we gave calpol at 2am. Shortly after that DD woke and I had to go into her bed. Great fun!!! MIL is getting her living room painted today, despite the fact her new couch doesn't come for 6 weeks and the old one will still need removed. Seems silly to me as I'd worry the paint will get scuffed when the old couch is taken out, goodness knows who by! This means that j and dd are expected to be upstairs as living room out of bounds. Not a great combination I feel so I've kept DD. It's going to be a long day for me to be upright, I'm uncomfortable sitting rather than lying after the surgery and as I can't watch J, DD has been going to MIL or mums too. I'm going to take her to the soft play which is minutes away from the house.

Not that gastros are always little of course. But most people don't need to go to the doctor's for one. My aillent was particularly minor today but I wasn't puking on people's shoes and spreading it on

I just called into work and am now a quivering shaky scaredy cat wreck!

flouncy I know that feeling well.

pr yes talk about mil. I think. I am not the right person to advice as I loathe Leo's family. I am decent with them but I hate them.

Just painted my toe nails, I have 3 paints. I must have owned them for the past 2 years. Am not really fashionable, am I?

flouncy I know how you must feel. (I am a Sunday soup maker too I think it really helped me loose my writ and if you can try to have a larger bowl of soup and no bread it helps I think)

Those of you who went to Malta, whereabouts did you stay?

Can I ask about bottles and cups? Where are we all with these? Oscar still has his milk from a bottle but am thinking of changing his daytime bottle to a cup. He drinks water from a sippy cup - should I be thinking about moving to a 'proper' cup?

O has milk from a bottle, morning and eve. She drinks water from sippy cup. A free flow one. She can drink from glass too.

I did not get Sherlock. I need someone to explain the episode to me after obv everyone saw it in the quiche.

O has milk in a cup either with or after breakfast, but bottle near bedtime - just as a comfort thing. Really should knock it off, as I know he would be fine with it in a cup, but I'm being lazy. I'll do it soon!

S has milk in a bottle morning and night. He drinks water from a sippy cup and judging by his drinking-the-bath-water-skillz, can handle a cup. Prob move the morning milk to a cup it beaker and keep the bottle for bedtime for a while longer. Ditched the bottle fully for DD about 16mo, working to a similar timetable I think.

Good afternoon quiche.

Still going with the eating healthy here, 2 Rivita with 1 hard boiled egg, spring onions and one of those mini pots of extra light philidelphea,a clementine and a coffee for lunch. Tomato and pork risotto for dinner.

Still unsure what's going on with J, he has another new rash on his back, I can't work out what it is.
He's been kind of sleeping in his big bed for the past couple days,a lot mor successful than the cot.
He still has 2-3 bottles of milk in the day even though he drinks from a sippy cup. I'm going to make the switch when we've tackled sleeping properly.

I love the soup idea Flouncy, I could even get DP a little thermos to take some to work. Anyone care to share their top healthy flavours? Would it last all week in the fridge?

I still use my slow cooker for most meals, I, still evangelical about it

Afternoon.

I am a soup evangelist! I have homemade soup for lunch every day. We make on a Sunday and it lasts all week. If it is a meat based soup then I bag and freeze in single portions.

Today I have potato and leek. Other faves are:
Spicy tomato and lentil
Roasted red onion and tomato.
Broccoli and Stilton
Celeriac and bacon
Carrot and orange
Carrot and cumin etc etc
Generic fridge soup.