November 2012 - What are your New Year's resolutions for your baby?

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1937565-November-2012-The-run-up-to-our-babies-first-proper-Christmas

I was 34 when I met dh with a 9 yr old in tow. Sorry if I overstepped. Not sure what was going on with me last night. Usually I'm good at keeping my mouth shut.

Hugs Pr your mil sounds like my dm!!

Morning all.

Sorry you had such a bad night again vq - hopefully J will get the new yrs resolution memo soon [wishful thinking emoticon?]

I found dh when I was resolutely not looking for love, and was in fact v much enjoying being single.

PR I don't know what to say! Just keep on counting down the days!!

Exciting 2ww thoughts...my periods are all over the shop so wouldn't have a scooby. But as I recall you have to dtd to have a 2ww.

I have heard tell of this bp. I shall have to dust off the worksheets in the PSHE cupboard if there is much chance of a tww here

Actually, now I am back on the pill my periods are back to their clockwork normal. Not just to the day but to the part of the day pretty much.

P was bought a pair of gap tights for her Christmas. They have a cat's face on the bum. DH thought it was on the front and just about had an apoplexy about how obscene it was

I actually LOL'd at cats face tights. Brilliant, if almost inappropriate.

I shall take a pic. If she ever sits still long enough for me to put them on her.

Pass, I am also glad you mentioned the naughtiness/discipline issue. I am terrified of the toddler stage for this very reason. I have no idea what discipline is appropriate at this age. At the moment I reserve 'no' for dangerous situations - hot oven, about to drink bleach, dive head first off the back of the sofa etc. I so rarely say it that he listens when I do. Luckily. When he tantrums I ignore it or pick him up and sit him in front of a different toy etc. I have NO idea if what I am doing is right or not. I'm totally winging it. But we will all figure it out together, like we have been doing for the past 13 months

Yes if anyone has a bright idea about how to stop a 13mo trashing a christmas tre and eating baubles, let me know...

Take the tree down?

I hope I didn't offend anyone either. My intentions are good, honest. I was told I would never have kids after a mismanaged miscarriage at 26 and a horrendous pelvic infection, again mismanaged. DH married me knowing I was likely to never have kids naturally, and we started TTC on the honeymoon to get the required months of trying in, before asking for IVF. On the second cycle I fell with DD1. I never dared hope I would have one, let alone three.

My SIL was telling J off for being naughty by continuing doing things when told not to. The word 'no' is a challenge at this age. They are not being naughty. That comes later J is asleep on me. The girls are fed up as I cannot move to get lunch. I am glad to get a sit down. No chance of a rest for me.

I wasn't offended at all VQ I certainly don't intend on settling for second best. And I'm still young

Eating baubles is apparently baby chat for "I'm starving".

Also eagerly awaiting a pic of pussy tights! Loved the Christmas pud ones that someone had on fb the other day.

QQ. How many quichelets are still having an afternoon bottle? F seems to be one of a minority in her nursery gp but with thr CMPI ishoos I figured she needs it. No doubt the HV will pass judgement when the 12m reviewcatches up with us!

O is still on 3 bottles a day - morning, bedtime and after lunch. My aim for the next month or so is to gradually reduce this with a view to dropping it completely. I was told at the 12 month review that he shouldn't need milk in the daytime anymore but as ever, I am taking it at O's pace.

Glad F isn't the only one. She won't take milk from a sippy cup, perhaps because she can smell the lovely boaksome nutramigen. She has learnt where her bottles are krpt and will crawl over and pick one up and cuddle or kiss it sadly, when she wants milk. Cute.

O hasn't touched the tree in one month. I was looking forward to saying no, but she hasn't even got closer than a metre. Let's hope this will be the same next year too.

O is on 2 bottles only so can't help. But as chasing said just follow her lead.

Didn't offend me either vq.

Currently in bed, had a nice nap. Thank you O for sleeping after lunch, mummy likes it.

Afternoon all. Hope you all had good Christmas'

pr hope you haven't gone insane yet

I'll have to think about New Years resolutions and get back to you. My today resolution is to stop feeling so fed up, am on a right downer today. Sure I'll be fine by bedtime though.

chasing How do you get away with not saying 'no'? It feels like every other word I say is no. M can be very testing at times but I don't know if it's just my inability as she seems to be fine with others. Dreading her being proper naughty

Just been sorting out Christmas presents, we've got shitloads. Some of them things we've specified previously as not wanting, it makes me feel ungrateful but I don't like the waste of money.
M has got loads of clothes, most in the same size (that she's currently just wearing) so she's either got to wear them all now or they go unworn. Sorry there I go being ungrateful again.

Off for a food shop as soon as she wakes from her nap. Really need to have a proper clear out but haven't got the energy. Plan is to go to ikea on Tues for some kind of storage and a new DVD shelf

My mum showed me the handout for a course she went on recently on development in 0-5 year olds (she is a HV). It specifically stated that at this age they have learned what No means but aren't capable of stopping themselves. So what happens is they touch something they aren't allowed, you say No, then they go to touch it again and look straight at you; they may even say No to you. But they are waiting for you to stop them. So it looks like naughty behaviour but it is normal developmentally. Once they reach around 18 months then they should have the self control to stop themselves.

Fatima anything with tags on can be exchanged. Bil and sil did that at ds's christening - gorgeous outfit but in 6-12 when he was 10 months and Gap which comes up small i did a switch in store, the young, single and possibly gay but certainly v camp assistant didn't bat an eyelid, very understanding even better when i realised 12-18 was a bit snug, went back for 18-24 and both items were on sale so i got a partial refund :o

Are Gap and Boden notoriously small? R is in 18-24 Gap and 2 Boden via a charity shop and he's not a huge baby

E does exactly as described. She goes to do something I don't want her too, I say no, she looks at me, shakes her head and then goes to do it again.

She's paid not the blindest bit of attention to the tree, or my mil who has a 7ft one. Bit gutted as I probably could have had the big tree I wanted but never mind. She's napping now so had better use the time wisely and start trying to sort the house out but sitting on the sofa is much more appealing!

L is on 3 bottles a day but we are just working out how to rejig it. He currently has a bottle at 8am, one at 5pm and a small one just before bed. He often struggles to eat his dinner at 6pm so I thought maybe we should do dinner earlier and bottle later, with a small drink of milk in the early afternoon if needed. It's quite hard to work out the logistics (maybe that's just me).

I think I said to Chasing before that my parents split up when I was a baby and my mum went on to meet someone else and have my sister and brother. We may be "half" siblings but we don't feel it, we are a family. Happily Ever Afters come in many forms and I hope Evil, Chasing and Lily all find new happiness in their lives in 2014 and beyond.

Been out to lunch. Girls were brilliantly behaved, really lovely, am v proud. And relieved as with the present company a scene would have been impossible to handle.

That's amazing that you asked about bottles chasing as I was going to ask the same thing today. It is so reassuring to know that we have the same worries almost to the day!

P is on 3 bottles but very often doesn't get her lunch one. She has one first thing, one just before her afternoon nap and one immediately before bed. I would like to swap breakfast and bottle round now or offer less first thing. However, her amounts have dropped by about half anyway.

Thank you for the reassurance about behaviour as well. Having been at MIL's I am all over the place with what I 'should' be doing. Not that she judges but she expounds a lot. Initially she was all "nothing is more precious than P" and would let her do anything even when it was dangerous. Then by Christmas afternoon she was getting cross at her stuff getting touched - hardly surprising when she had been openly encouraging it. Then in the end she lost the rag and yelled at P which didn't make anyone feel nice.

Oh help, DH has texted me to tell me that MIL, BIL and DNiece are coming round for dinner? Do I go out? Or put a brave face on? I've already checked and there's nowt on at the cinema so I'm not sure where to go.

O crikey stunt. Nothing useful to suggest other than and ...

Wine could be an idea...