November 2012 - What are your New Year's resolutions for your baby?

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The phrase is "quiet enjoyment" and supersedes all other added clauses. The only time they have right of entry is in an emergency - fire, gas leak etc. Non payment of rent definitely isn't that!

We've been discussing marriage since we got together. Chose a ring on a silly jaunt in Nottingham, just pissing about, a few months after we got together. Dad said not yet, then all the crap hit and it hasn't been a good time. 2 days ago was the 1st anniversary of his stroke, and in 2 days it'll be the anniversary of his dad's death (16 years ago) so we need something to cheer up the arse end of December!

Wedding will most likely be register office followed by pub lunch. Guest list of 40ish, family and good mates. I might go frock shopping for a laugh but will most likely wear a shift dress and smart jacket type thing. Marriage is more important than wedding so it'll just be a good excuse to get the people we love in the same room for the day tbh. Biggest expenses will be paying for dn's carer (there's a couple of TA's that do respite for sil so will ask one to come so sil can chill) and possibly hiring a '65 mustang from a company across county - dp's absolute dream car. I'm kinda hoping someone local has a hot rod i can borrow otherwise my dad has a '49 MG we can use. Oh, and probably Spring 2015. Think that's all the important details!

Just watched Love Actually (gets me everytime) and now got dirty dancing on. Good lord pass the tissues!

pidj Your wedding plans sound lovely. I look forward to hearing all about the planning and build up to it. Congrats again.

evil I'm no expert in the area of being a tennant as I've never been one myself. In your situation I would put myself on the council list and see what comes up. You don't have to take the first thing they offer you. You get 3 chances and I think if you don't take the third option they strike you off the list. But not sure how that works with your settlement. Anyway there are wise ladies here who can advise you on the best course of action re your landlady.

Re clothes, I found it very hard to part with DD1's clothes. I kept everything. And of course having had E it has all been worth it. My best friend had a girl a year after I had DD1 and I passed a lot of things to her. Plus I now have DN so have passed everything E has outgrown to her so a lot of the clothes have been worn by 4 girls! They look well for it. Not sure what to do with it all now. I'll prob keep it all vacum packed up in the loft until I know for sure whether we'll try for DC3 or not. I must sort through it first though as not sure all of it is fit to be worn 5th time round.

Can't believe it's new years eve tomorrow. I know 2013 hasn't been the best year for a lot of the quiche ladies and I hope 2014 is a happy healthy year for us all. Just saying it now in case I don't get a chance to post tomorrow. Fuck, I turn 40 in 2014, fuck fuck. Still 40 is the new 30 right? And I have loved my 30's.

Got one unhappy little girl tonight. Already on second wake up with screaming crying and tensing up. She's now sat with her books farting away think it must be wind.

She did the same last night, asleep early then awake screaming half an hour later and wouldn't go back for hours. Had a poo in the process. How do I get her to go back to pooing morning and early afternoon?

She was doing so well, the two weeks before Christmas she slept through 7 nights out of 10 then weekend before Christmas it all went tits up and then with Christmas exhaustion it's now all to cock.

Speak of the devil she's just done a poo. It bloody stinks at the moment, god knows what she's been eating. Sorry for the tmi

evil stay where you are. If she ever does that again write an official letter. You were a few days late, she can't intimidate you for a one off late payment. Stay strong. You have the right to consider your rented house as a home. Giving landlady the benefit of doubt she freaked as the first payment was late. But one more time you call her on it.

You have nothing to lose by putting yourself on council housing waiting list NOW while you have no settlement. If nothing comes up you have the settlement to fall back on. But if sth does come up, grab it with both hands, if you like it.

pidj if you look on my fb you'll see my wedding pics. There were 10 of us in total but it was perfect. No-one from my side could make it. But it was great.

fatima Did you get a new car? If so, what did you go for? Sorry if I missed it. Just thought about it randomly today for some reason.

And the screaming begins....

At bedtime Flouncy? Any idea what's causing it?

Pidj I love the sound of your wedding plans and am excited about following the build up on here. We had fish and chips and an ice cream van for pud, which popped in to the reception venue and played the wedding march on it's chimes

No he went down ok(ish) or as ok as he does. DH has to lie with him on our bed til he falls asleep then transfer him into the cot. He'd been asleep for about an hour. They're currently out a drive in the car as the last time he was like this hubby took him to OOH where they found zero wrong and said maybe he had a sore ear which unblocked with the drive. It's horrible.

And bedtime is 10pm but time DH gets back downstairs after escaping from James' _arms.

I have been reading - but needed to get on the laptop before posting.

Re milk, O doesn't have much, but I fill a tommee tippee beaker with oat milk for him to have in the morning, either with his breakfast, but to be honest, whenever I remember tend to forget these days!. I give him a bottle at bedtime, but he doesn't need it, can sleep without it. He didn't have one last night as we were out and he just went to bed when we got in. It's just a habit really. I should probably just stop it. Maybe just offer another beaker with his tea.

Sleep - O is sleeping more than ever. He's currently sleeping well (I say currently!!) and self settling is going on. I don't know if CCing is to thank, but it seems a very big coincidence. He's currently having 13-14 hours at night, and 2 hours in the day. Approx. He's waking around 9am these days .

Pass your post the other day hit a sore note with me. I've wanted to post since I read it. O was looked after by my mum for the very first time on saturday. I was dreading it. When I picked him up, she said he was naughty. I asked why. She said because he wouldn't listen to no. I had already warned her about this. She said 'well he listened to no when I told him not to touch the fireplace, but not the candle'. Yes. I'd told her that also. He will absolutely not listen to you if he is fixated on something. That is why we have the fireguard, baby gate, cupboard lock etc. She kept going on about it, how he just kept going back to the candle over and over. I asked her why she didn't just move it. She didn't want to.

I just ended up feeling really quite cross, and like I had the worst child ever.

She also said I didn't warn her about nappy changes. I asked her what she meant. She said she had to get DS1 to pin him down. I told her that I had written it on the list I sent. I told her he wouldn't keep still for them. She said I would have to bath him when he got home as she couldn't clean him properly . Then she said I didn't warn her how horrible his poo was. FFS.

I got a text today - 'think I'll watch the boys at yours next week'.

Thank fuck. She is looking after them this saturday also. I did say to her 50,000,000 times to have them at mine as it would be so much easier but she has always refused. She never comes here. She came once when O was 9 months. For 45 minutes. That is it. . MIL comes over for tea, spends time here etc. My own mum - no. I always have to go to hers.

Anyway, I'll shut up now. I'm just moaning. I think it upset me more as people I told in work were all 'oh I wouldn't be like that with my grandchildren' or 'I've got a really close relationship with my mum, she's great with my kids' or some other such thing. I just feel like my mum doesn't really care that much.

Congratulations pidj. So happy for you, and love the plans for the wedding.

det my parents never come here! they are most comfortable at home. It's fine by me as I hate having guests over .

sophia you got to have a daytime shag.

I'm keeping all O's clothes. I got tons from my sister and I intend to pass them to friends and family. The best bits I keep, one day I will make a quilt for her.

Who uses sleeping bags and duvets? When do people switch? We are in bags and stay in them for time being but interested what others do.

Lily we'll use a sleeping bag until either he starts to climb out of his cot or he starts getting out of the bag in the night.

Three wake ups tonight, accompanied by much crying. When is he going to sleep through again?

lily we have just transitioned from sleeping bags to duvet. Mainly because he has outgrown 12-18 and in month size bags and I haven't bought more because the 18-36 month ones I have seen so far are too short for him. I was going to post about it because it's freaking me out a bit. I'm tucking the duvet in really well to stop him going under it but I'm finding myself worrying a bit, even though the duvet is v light. He still spends most of the night sleeping with me though.

S has a bottle of cow's milk morning and night. I'm going to swop the morning one for a beaker shortly. The bedtime bottle is such a sleep cue that I imagine it will stay for a couple of months yet.

PR you're still surviving then?

eliza I think of various quiche people randomly too!

det

Morning Another totally shitty night here. Beyond a joke. Day started at just gone 5 when I had had enough.

Thankfully my mum is mostly great. Her house is fairly childproofed. MILs not in the least, but we go there so rarely... Jacob has started with the climbing so I will need to put everything out of reach from the back of the sofas. Not sure how to do that really.

J has not been in a Gro bag for some time. He now has a duvet. I wonder if this is part of the reason for his waking, but I figure if I put him back in a bag at this stage it is a step backward. We will be putting him in a big boy bed very soon as he may well do better. I will totally clear the room though, like a strip cell so need to sort the baby stuff that is lurking therein. I was hoping to have done this over this break. What a fool I am for thinking of this as a break

I spoke to DH this morning, saying that I thought he had realised how hard I work at night whilst away, but that as things had continued the same way since coming home, it was clearly for effect. I said at the weekend I am going to have one morning when he gets up with everyone. He is now looking hurt, dejected etc. He is at work today, and I am glad as it will be easier.

Zamboni I would think it is safer not to tuck the duvet in. I remember reading about a LO that crawled around and under the duvet. S is a lot older than that child though. I would think he would be able to push it off him fine, but not if it is tucked in IYSWIM.

I think I will try sleeping bags one last time. Ours are long enough for our 3yo so plenty big enough for the one that doesn't sleep.

We still do bags. I have one bag with legs in that DS1 would not entertain for some reason so will try it out On O when he is a little older. We moved to duvet with DS1when he was about 2 1/2 is that quite late?

About the same for the girls. Though DD2 would still be in a cot bed aged 7 if she was allowed she loved her cot and used to get into DS1s and curl up in a ball

F r a change the weather is raging, but I am excited about my day with DH!

Was kept awake from 2.45 until 6 by insomnic ils. LO was woken up at 2.45. Went back down after a quick feed but I bloody didn't.

They are currently asleep. Know what? They won't be for long.

All that time organising my menu? No fucking point. We're still doing the lamb but it will be stuffed with nothing. When I described what I was planning she made gagging expressions. So she's doing it herself. Tonight, I give you practically raw roast lamb accompanied by green bean and haricot white beans (without the tomato sauce your beans come in). From a fucking tin. Which she brandished at me with pride after her trip to the shops yesterday.

And I can't count down days as I don't know when they are leaving. In my short nap this early morning I dreamt they had flounced. It was a dream :(

And breathe. Off to catch up on fred.

FFA sake pr how rude. How f rude. I am v cross for you. Lamb and baked beans? I will be interested to know how that goes down.

Night from hell. Ended up at OOH. Dh stayed at home so he could sleep sleep as again he needs needs to go to work. So have had a grand total of 5 hrs. I called my mum and picked her up up after Dh put J in car so she could lift him and pram etc at other end cos I can't still. He was fine when we got there. Dr was said maybe his ears as he couldn't get a good look. To continue with calpol and bring him back if I he was worse. I came back to to stay at as she's watching kids today anyway and seemed sully to go home and wake Dh . So I've slept (ha!) on the couch. I now need to to drive home to collect do and hubby hubby and bring dd here before letting hubby have the car and me me go back home. I can't stay here as need to wait on parcels parcels arriving for hubby's birthday tomorrow. Feel bad as mum didn't get sleep sleep as I heard J screaming a times.