November 2012 - What are your New Year's resolutions for your baby?

[StuntNun]

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What's happened pp?

The patchwork memory things do look lovely, I could never choose what to use though I don't think! I have some little outfits of e's that are very special but I find it hard to part with any of it (hence still having it all!)

pr you're doing far better than I would be with your ILs, bless you

Oh fuck! I am so thick!

I am so very, very, very pleased!

Eep eep eep eep

Oh ehm gee can we all be bridesmaids and bridesman? Please oh please oh please!!!

PP awesome news! May you have a long and happy life together! And well done him for not doing the skinflint "engagement ring as a Christmas present" ruse ! Well done that man

cross posted, congratulations pp!!!!

YW they usually have disclaimers that they are not toys. A quilt is very different to making a cuddly thing. The piecing and cutting out for example. With a quilt you can assemble it in strips and whiz through.

Brilliant way of putting it btw pass, it's definitely like they think they're invincible, I love it! It would be fab for him to always stay so confident :)

Hopefully the quiche will be able to help. I have a choice to make but I have no idea which is best.

1, I get my money from the settlement and get a mortgage and my own place. But I'm part time and the house prices are high here, so unlikely to get a mortgage.

2, I go to council house. Which means I could go anywhere in my city, there are some lovely places in the city but there parts where gangs roam the streets and stabbing are common place. But will they accept me with my settlement?

3, I stay in my rented place, but I have a landlady who is very crazy. The first payment didn't go to her as the bank fucked up. So she came to the house knocked on the door and then let herself in and shouted at my sister, while my sister was holding N. I don't really want to stay here because of this.

Evil

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Ah fair enough VQ (you secretly make these don't you!!!)

Evil I'd get myself on the council housing list (put the settlement in Ns name) just in case you fancy it in the future as it'd likely take a fair while to get to the top of the list. I'd then go and see the citizens advice about breaking your current rental contract without financial loss (has the landlady put your deposit in a deposit protection scheme, as she is required to do by law?) and looking for a new rental. Good luck xx

evil see citizens advice or pop in to the local social work or housing office where the duty children and families worker should be able to talk to you about your options. I don't think a settlement will prevent access to social housing as anyone can put themselves on the list. You would get points according to income, ability to pay rent and the fact you are alone with N.

Congratulations Pidj

Evil, when I looked into council housing I was told that I would be top priority, but that I would be looking at at least a 9 month wait.

Congrats pidj

evil will get back to you..

I'm staying in the rented place till I get the settlement, but I don't know what will happen afterwards. I know the list is huge in the city. So I need to think about it now.

Evil

Forget the [cocoa], we need fizzy and details! Congrats pidj, what a fab way to end the year!

evildo what the. passes and the yws of the world say! they are eminently sensible and intelligent wimmins.

Aye thank you ladies. You know I try hard to be an akshul grown up and to prioritise my peeps..

Tomorrow though DH has the day off and the boys are in nursery and I will be a fool in love again a pnd am keeping fc'd for daytime sex!

ppwe want all the details when it is appropriate to share. I am so happy for you.

pr yep! I would be back on 20 a day quick smart if I were in your shoes.

Congratulations pp. Just managed to creep out of H‘s room. He has 2 big teeth coming through on one sidde and is not happy.! Well done on persisting zamboni. Hope good nights are had all round.

Evil can you send me a copy of your tenancy to scour through? I got out of my last one with my psycho landlady as there was a clause along the lines of "Tenant should be allowed to habit property peacefully and without interruption" and another about "Landlord to give written notice at least 24hrs before visit". These are pretty standard so in theory, it shouldn't be difficult to find a reason to get out of the tenancy. Not sure about house-prices in your area etc but I can probably give you some pointers on the mortgage front too.

I hear you on the wanting to move thing. When I moved into this house it was a massive relief after all the grief from my old landlady to finally be able to call somewhere home without a landlord terrorising me. This house has been the longest I have lived somewhere since I left home - I have moved 6 times in 4 years - and has been the only place since moving out of my mum's house that has felt like home. So now my landlord is being an absolute PRICK I am really hurt that that feeling of homeliness and security has been pulled from underneath me. I am soooo angry he has left me feeling unsafe and uneasy in my own home, and whilst I was keen to buy a house and move this year, I am furious the decision has been made for me. I did have a proper sobby cry about this last night

Congrats PP I am so happy for you!

I am with VQ on the toy front. Personally I didn't see £50 as extravagant for a one off memory piece. I am not normally a sentimental person but I am scarily attached to the memories contained in some of M's clothes. The amount of time, effort and energy it took the lady who made mine to make something so wonderful is worth so much more than £50. I charge almost that per hour for much less work, and out of that she had to take postage, materials, etc. I know I couldn't have made it.

Oh and the cup is a purple tommee tippee one with a pull up spouty lid.

I get so cross when I hear about poor landlords. The laws are quite clear and actually weighted on the side of the tenant. The problem is that so many landlords have some sort of feudal superiority and act like they are doing you a favour by allowing you to pay to live in their property. I am always astonished by people who will ask about how often DH and I 'spot-check' the flat and so on. They are equally astonished when we say never. We have a key agreement which says that we keep a set of keys for emergencies (loss of keys or medical or flood and noone answering type thing) but we categorically cannot let ourselves in without warning. In fact our tenants can legally change the locks if they so wish.

Congrats pp. Great drip feeding

evil def get yourself to a housing advisor - a specialist. isles good thinking re get out but an English AST may not be the same as you're used to seeing. It will have an exclusive occupation clause but whether the landlord's breach of that is sufficient to allow Evil to repudiate the tenancy is difficult to say. Am not a housing specialist though and what a landlord knows and doesn't know, and whether they are a serious commercial undertaking or a one property one man band ( as I suspect in this case) may affect outcome. evil you know where I am if you want me to look into it. But if you're waiting for the settlement that could take you to the end of the initial 6 months.

Sorry evil, Zamboni is quite correct, I have virtually no experience of English tenancies . BUT I am almost qualified on Scottish and English mortgages.

Thanks everyone, I'll have to speak to housing person.

Evil

It's a good point though isles and the agreements may be quite similar. If you want to get out before 6 months have passed then collectively we might be able to help

Thanks everyone, as soon as I get the settlement money, which probably will take 6 months, I'll want to move.
Evil