November 2012 - What are your New Year's resolutions for your baby?

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Oh sorry, sans the baked bean sauce, but still, tinned beans?

vq big boy bed?? Already?
flouncy hugs
pr for you too

VQ good point. Guess I was trying to prevent him from getting under it in the first place. Going to check out bigger sleeping bags I think!

DD1 moved into (in theory and occasionally) a single bed at 18mo.

The girls went into their toddler beds at 18 months old. By big boy bed I do not mean full size single, but a toddler bed. Following a helpful chat with a pal who had a child with similar issues as J, she said that they put him in a bed at the age J is now as it was easier to settle him in it rather than leaning into a cot. Also the little one did not wake himself banging off the sides of the cot as J does. I am getting pretty desperate and willing to try anything.

He cannot really go in the pink bed now can he? We have an under-bed so may try him on that.

I think my SIL did that with her DD and it helped with sleep issues although she is still struggling to get the actual bed out of her room and into DNs own room

Sophia a single bed would not fit in our room so worst case I would end up in with him. Best case, DH would end up in the nursery

I considered giving him a tot of whiskey last night. It works for his Pa.

Sorry for bad nights ours wasn't great as we're at the ILs and he's in the room with us. At midnight I was worrying the little bugger would want to feed every two hours because he smelt milk but DH kept picking him up instead and he got the hint and went down til 6 and then 8.30. He has slept through three times since the fecking MMR when am I getting my sleeping baby back ? VQ good luck with toddler bed - its got to be worth a try - J will be in his cot until 5 at this rate as I'd just find him trying to climb out of a window or something!

It's 'my sleep in' but the ILs house is tiny and I can hear every word from downstairs. Most words seem to be "No Jonas" and then a frustrated shriek .

PR (I know its early but still...)

Zamboni you've voiced my fears about duvets. Am sure it'll be fine but its a worry. Best untucked maybe? One of my earliest memories is getting 'lost' under a tucked in duvet whilst sharing a double bed with my sister at my Nan's. I was two and was eventually fished out like some hysterical caver!

Isles that's so sad about your LL - despite being an oddball he seemed so good about the rent etc when your P was on sick leave: that seems such an odd reason now to be an arse! I'm presuming P has squared things with him? Fingers crossed this worrying situation will turn out for the best and you'll be happily housed soon.

YW he has convinced himself dp lost him a work contract. Err no,his dodgy unqualified workers lost him it. You could draw names out of a hat for who reported him, but it most definitely was not us. we missed one rent payment over summer when dp was ill and we were right on the ropes and he told us at the time to forget about it. He is now accusing us of not paying several months (funnily the months I paid and can and have proven with a bank statement). Prick. There have been several niggly things he has done that have annoyed me (sacking our lovely garden and telling the guy it was our doing, bawling at his brother in the street, racing his car up and down the street, dumping crap in his yard in front of the house and most recently the grief with the heating). Our friendship is definitely finished and I think our time here is too.

M has a duvet. In a desperate bid to get her to sleep She doesn't sleep under is but kicks it off and cuddles it. Sometimes works. She was horrendous last night so I am dreading next week when we are both back at work and both need sleep.

Sorry for bad nights. Flouncy your night sounds dreadful. Try and get some rest while your mum has the kids

I was wondering about toddler beds. I was thinking 2?

Am I the only person in the world at work today ?

Happy New Years Eve quiche

I have been terrible at posting lately - but have been trying to make sure I read everything.

Re duvets. We are still in sleeping bags here, but I figure an untucked duvet would be safer than a tucked in one. When O was ill and vommed over both sleeping bags I had to use a blanket and he kept kicking it off and crying because he was cold, so we will be in bags for a while yet.

I am in awe of all those of you coping with sleep deprivation. How you cope is beyond me. You truly are all superwomen.

What else? Oh yes, I too want to be a propa grown up like Sophia. I also quite enjoy ironing. Oscar seems to have come out of his month long whiny phase - coinciding with him being snot free for the first time in a month and figuring out how to sit down from standing. He is a happy happy boy. But we have jabs next week so I am making the most of it.

I'm not very good at keeping things. I have kept the first 3 sleepsuits and hats S wore, and one that was my absolute favourite, but the rest went to my friend who had a little girl 7 months after. I have kept the obvious things like her christening dress/shoes/bib/socks/cardi maybe a bit over the top there and I have kept her flower girl dress that she wore for my cousins wedding. I probably would have kept more though if it wasn't for my friend having a girl.

Aww kyz E sounds so loving. I always picture him toddling around with a permanent smile on his face batting his gorgeously long eyelashes lol

pr I'm surprised your only back on 5 a day to be honest! How much longer are they there for?

congratulations pidj - the wedding you are planning sounds exactly how I would do it, I totally agree with you on the marriage being the important part.

S is exactly the same with not listening to 'no' she looks round gives a cheeky grin and carries on doing exactly as she was before. I don't know how others get on with not saying no, I feel like I say it to S all the time. What stunt said rings true! she knows that she shouldn't be doing it but just can't help herself. stunt what age did your mum say it was when they are able to control themselves? I can't remember. I can't bloody wait for it though anyway.

We use a duvet now, I stopped using bags for the most stupid reason ever, I thought by giving her a duvet it might feel a bit more like my bed and she would sleep in there better. Needless to say it didn't work and she still ends up in with us every night in fact I think I might go back to a bag just to see if it makes any difference.

sophia have a lovely day with dh, fx for daytime sex

pr I think you should clatter around and make as much noise as you can to wake them up. I can't believe she would be so rude about your menu.

Oh no flouncy big hugs x

Urgh ironing - I hate it, I would never stand and do a pile of ironing. I iron as I wear things most of the time I too am in awe of sophia and how grown up she is. I need to get some tips!

Jonas can undo his sleeping bag now - should I get him a duvet? I really want to confine him to a bag for as long as possible as his climbing is getting ridiculous. In the past week he has climbed onto the dining table, onto his IKEA highchair, onto the kitchen worktop, halfway up a bookcase, into the wash basket, onto windowsills, and up the back of the sofa. His nickname is Sir Edmund Hillary ATM! I'm going grey er.

Isles what a nasty man such a shame as I love that house . DH had to work yesterday though thankfully his boss said to log on and check for emails every couple of hours but to book the day to admin! I hope today goes quick.

Happy NYE quiche

I don't know how long they are staying.

I do know that Fil has just gone out to buy oysters for this evening's meal , that my lamb will not be done my way and there will be zero veg that I like, I don't eat tinned veg. I like frozen or fresh, but not tinned except tomatoes.

I have so many more anecdotes to tell you all, but am trying to stay calm. So will drip feed à la pidj :o

For now I shall wallow in self pity that my dds need shrinks and adhd medication. And joy that cbeebies stopped anyone sleeping.

I do single beds instead of toddler beds as cba with buying so much furniture just for a couple of years. Plus I had two single mattresses (long story) knocking around the garage so just needed to buy a frame. Will get second frame in a few months. I have a barrier thing but DD1 stood up and stepped over it which was scary, so only used it once.

Gosh yw I thought S's climbing was bad, it's nothing compared to J's.

pr I think you should do the dinner yourself the way you like it and not even entertain the idea of her doing it. Could you just insist that they are the guests and you will prepare the meal? Actually, mil doesn't sound like that will wash with her.

Some bags are easier to undo than others YW so have a look at the fastenings. We had one with poppers at the shoulder and DS1 would do this kind of shrug and they would all pop open and he would crawl out of it.

Fruit I got through 2.5 episodes of Castle while ironing so it was definitely me-time and I now have a lovely wardrobe full of ironed clothes and some nice flat wraps. Hopefully after all that ironing I won't need to do any more until next year!

There's no definite time for development Fruit, it's all very child dependent. We're closely observing J at the moment to check for signs of ADHD and ASD, both of which DS1 has although DS2 seems pretty neurotypical. One of the signs is uneven development so for example by two years old DS1 could do jigsaws like a machine - he just picks pieces up and puts them in the right place without checking the picture, looking at colours, turning them round to fit - but he didn't toilet train until 3.5 years old.

Yeah I suppose that was a silly question to ask really, it's all child dependant isn't it, you only have to look at the quiche babies to see that.

Grrrr so annoyed, was supposed to be up and out early today to have a mooch around the shops and dp is still snoring in bed, I asked him at 7:30 if we were still going and he said no I've not long come to bed. So now I have to suffer because he was playing on his stupid playstation all fucking night.

She hates being cooked for. Did some lovely meals Friday and Saturday and she looked like she was going to vom each time. It's easier to just let her get on with it. Even fil knows better than to compliment my cooking. Last time he did there was a massive row. (Years ago). I'm not slaving for hours to have people sulking over the food, eating it in silence as if it is the most disgusting thing they have ever been forced to eat. DH makes the right noises but on Friday he said my dinner was good and mil snorted.

Once she has left she will bitch to everyone that I didn't lift a finger of course.

and :) :) :) for Pp
Congratulations
at everyone else
Pr for putting up with that shit
Evil One piece of advice I always adhere to is " to do absolutely nothing until you are absolutely sure"

She sounds lovely!

I'm so glad that I have hardly anything to do with the il's. Dp's lot are a waste of space in my opinion (and in his).

She even brought her own peeler as she can't work my very complicated one

That's my peeler too PR I luffs it but my mum can't work it either, she prefers a straight handled peeler.

I have just checked my bank balance. It's not good.

I s'pose it's a generational thing then. Still bugs me she brought her own though.

I think it's pretty clear that she's a bit loopy PR, complaining about a peeler is fair enough but bringing your own? Nuff said.