November 2012 - The birthdays are coming thick and fast

[StuntedFrankenNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1884788-November-2012-Babies-going-trick-or-treating

Lily I think a quiet day is called for. Cancel anything non-essential and just go with the flow. Use teething gel, calpol six hourly, lots of cuddles, thinks to chew. She may not want to eat much which is ok. I would let her nap when she wants and get your head down at the same time. Likely your nights will be crap for a while. But you know your baby best. She might be one that copes best with distraction. I think if you keep your expectations low then anything else is a bonus.

Massive hugs sophia I can't imagine it. Feel free to have a rant if you need one.

There does seem to be a 12mo regression doesn't there. Hoping this is the last one? I can.t remember.

vq sorry to hear of another bug. D&V is what strikes most fear into me. Normally they are short lived though (2days?) so fingers crossed.

Bank holiday here.

Morning all,
I have to post this as it's driving me crazy!
After the drs I went to my mums to make some phone calls, and in the afternoon P came over (which he never does) and picked n up while he was sleeping and cuddled him for two hours! This is not him. When I went home he told me he stood up for me against his mum, and she is leaving after 7 years on living on the driveway! "Cause that's what I want"

He is being mr very nice, and I'm very confused. Also he's begun to have breakfast out.

I'm sorry it's all me, me, me at the mo. But this is the only place where I can be me.

Evil

Vvvdp is still progressing. He hasn't got much movement in his left arm due to a frozen shoulder type thing (still waiting for bloody physio!), hand is ok although weak, voice recovering although he now sings weakly and out of time he had a glorious bass voice before. Headaches are much much less, he's exhausted by work - but he's working full time, aced his month's trial and has been confirmed in post, and is massively more positive :)

Pidj great news on DH's job. So sad about his singing voice - I don't know why but that in particular is really sad . You're v brave.

There's an 18 month regression too . Sorry!

We've got the post MMR reflux here. He's been pretty inconsolable all morning. Hardly touched brekkie. Unputdownable. Almost like the colicky reflux he had when tiny.

Deep joy.

Evil it sounds like too little too late? I guess he's realised he's losing you?

Happy November quiche. This is our month. Let's hope it is full of improving health and sleep for our babies

pidj he sounds like he is really moving forward. These things take time and he has his lovely pidj and R to support him. A lucky man!

evil it sounds a bit weird to me! however, if you think he really is changing/rethinking the way he has been is worth a proper heart to heart with him. Se if he would try counselling for a fresh start. Obviously if you would want that.

Girls just phoned me to made me feel tearful. I am going to wallow today while at I go about my business and get back on track tomorrow. I have decided to write them a diary and send it over very 3 or 4 weeks. I may even write one about what napped with me and their dad for when they are older if they ever want to know when I am dead

Sophia it must break your heart every time. Have just got him into his Halloween fancy dress for his playgroup party and he's fallen asleep.

Sorry for being MIA!

Work... nuff said!

Also, O is going through the same as the other quiche babies. I am trying to figure it out. I think it's a combo of 3 things though. Dairy, teeth and regression.

The last 2 weeks have been tough, but nowhere near as tough as many are having.

Yesterday we decided to just dose O up every 3 hours alternating calpol and ibuprofen. It seemed to work and we had a much better day, and much more settled sleep. Although he did wake at 3am, he settled himself after a couple of minutes. Thank fuck.

His sleep has been very unsettled, both day and night.

He has been drooling a hell of a lot - although that seems less the last 2 days. Runny nose for a good 10 days - but no cough. He gets this a lot. Runny nose but no illness - I don't know if it is teeth or dairy. (He hasn't had any since a week before the runny nose though). Add to that the disturbed sleep, clingyness, and grumpiness.

We had 3 lots of trick or treaters last night. We have goodies left over . We live on a main road, and last year we got no one - but it was chucking it down. Years before that we got loads. However I didn't decorate the house up this year, so that is probably why we didn't get so many. I haven't done anything for halloween as O is too young for it, and DS1 is too old, even though he protested that he wanted to go trick or treating. No way, once out of primary, bugger off! He can go with O next year maybe!

Work are being awful. I was so angry yesterday. I really hate it. I want to leave, but scared, is it better the devil you know? I feel like I've never settled there. No one likes me, and people are horrible and rude to me (not just me, but I do feel particularly isolated). I don't know if it is just me or what. I preferred the previous place I worked in, however I didn't feel particularly liked there.

By that I mean that people see each other outside of work, arrange nights out etc, and I am never included in anything.

Now, I have to go in my shed and find the damn miele cat and dog that I promised I'd take in for a colleague this afternoon. Why? I don't know. Maybe people see me as a pushover. Must grow balls in work. I lack confidence. Even though I have realised others are no more knowledgeable (or less!) than me, they bluster through it with confidence.

Oscar is being pretty whingy and clingy lately as well and daytime naps are becoming a real battle.

Evil, I can't tell you what to do but I would say to be wary of him declaring that he has changed. In my experience it doesn't last.

Dating update: I have a lunch date with new guy tomorrow. Have been texting him and he seems really nice. Have decided not to see Media Guy again. Communication has tailed off and life is too short to spend with the wrong guy. Then Just Friends guy is taking me to the fireworks on Sunday.

Not caught up properly but sorry to hear of so much sickness. Hope everyone and their kidlets get better soon.

And sorry about your girls going home too sophia, that was a lovely picture on facebook.

yw hope J feels better after his MMR reaction too. I remember DS1 came out in a rash a week later. I'm v glad that he's settling in well at nursery. DH was called to go and pick F up early from one of his settling in sessions this week as he just shouted at them for 90 mins. The next one wasn't any better either and he's supposed to do a whole day on Monday and Tuesday next week

One week today and F will be one. Although his actual birth was fab, I still have mixed emotions about the newborn time due to his two hospital stays for urine infections. I'm going to go and see my friend with a 5 week old this weekend and I'm wondering if I'll get any broody urges at all. Sometimes I think about another and I swear both boys realise and usually shout at me at once or after each other for at least an hour and a half. Maybe I should just take their hint!

Oh and F and I are taking part in the pilot study for the big 70,000 one next year. We've got our appointment next week.

www.lifestudy.ac.uk/homepage/Pilot

One of the questions they asked over the phone was whether I would be happy answering questions on a touch screen computer. I laughed and said my 3 year old would probably be happy with a touch screen (save for the actual reading of questions bit obviously!). Turns out F also loves them too after having a play with Granny's ipad last weekend.

jims I was going to do it until they told me I ad to travel to London for the appointment which won't work really for me as am in Northern Ireland. Was disappointed.

Go chasing....so, moving on then what outfit for tomorrow!

O us screaming head off in cot but I gave just had to sit down. Will give hi. 10 screaming mins and if he has not stopped I will go get him. I have to go and scrump some beetroot for tea from next doors field!

Both A n H have been unsettled all night. Which is very unusual for H.

Come on quiche babies lets let mummies sleep. Pls

Combination of regression teeth n injections? He is now having a long afternoon nap. Wanted to take him to a session at CC, it's about exploring food n exercise. Am hoping watching other babies feed themselves with encourage H to do the same. However going to have to wait till nxt week now.

On a GREAT NOTE. Found a local ish children's centre. It's 5 min drive away (rather then 20min drive of previous one I went to, although unfortunately not walkable. )
It has sessions in the morning and afternoon! It's in the nxt borough which is why I've never heard of it but cos I'm on the edge of my borough it's very close.
Yay!

Sophia I can't imagine how tough it must be for you ((hugs))

Quiche.. help me calm down or I may do something I might regret. There is one colleague at work whose mood swings make things hell for everyone else. Once again today she has thrown a strop and everyone is tiptoeing around her. You can cut the atmosphere with a knife and I'm fed up with it. She has made several mistakes because she was too busy on her phone, facebook, emailing, which I now have to put right. I have been told not to mention it to keep the peace. FFS

Soph I also decided not to do the survey thing after they told me about trip to London. And I live in outer London! I did wonder what ppl further afield would do. Figured they did the initial tests all over the country. Obviously not. Also the literature I got said they would pay for a travel card, which would cover my costs... But not those coming from further!

I've got a rail season ticket in to london anyway for work so i was just going to treat it as a day out for me and F. Can see why you wouldn't want to come from NI though sophia!

Jims we are doing the lifestudy pilot too.

In the ear temp is 39.4! Doc says to pop in later as that's a bit alarming. He's glowing like a mini thermonuclear reactor . Lunch was cake and puffits, a singular cherry tomato, half an EK pouch and a couple of prawns. Not like my piglet

apple That is not on. How the hell is she being allowed to get away with that? Who told you to keep the peace? Go and see a senior. Grass her up ! Its not healthy for you to seethe quietly ...seriously x

When are you going ms jupiter? We're going in the 10th nov (sunday).

We went to the zoo. It was cold and we had to come home as girls were knackered so missed the sea lion show, but we had a great day :)

Been to lawyers, and basically, think rock and hard place. She said it was abuse, and get in touch with the GP, if the GP thinks it is I get free legal stuff, that may include the house. If I leave it's harder.

I'm still in shock, but I don't think he will change. This morning he said I had to do all the house stuff, cause I work part time, and of course other stuff, that he hasn't said yet.

Evil