November 2012 - The birthdays are coming thick and fast

[StuntedFrankenNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1884788-November-2012-Babies-going-trick-or-treating

[PetiteRaleuse]

I have a bottle sized glass. If you look in my fb albums there is one called holidays round about 2009. It's a decanter, but sometimes we do get a bit silly with it.

detective I was looking through my pictures earlier and i think it was you (?) who asked about a rash round the mouth. If you go to the album called 2011 and go to the pictures round about October and November when DD1 was about 7/8 mo she had a rash just like O. It was put down to teething drool.

My local gym ( //www.mondorf.lu ) is freaking expensive but has a lot to offer. They do a 15 day trial for 69€ including full assessment by a fitness instructor. Worth it?

[FlouncingIsles]

evil chasing gives really helpful advice she is my idol. I actually put my details through entitled to on her recommendation and I am entitled to child benefit (which I get anyway) and tax credits (a mix of working and child) - the latter will pay all my childcare with a small amount extra.

If you type csa child maintenance calculator into google I was able to work out how much child maintenance (nearly x)p should be paying. I have decided to argue with him if he keeps paying for my car with an additional £50 in my account each month I will not go down the csa route. Second he starts being awkward I will hand my girly car back and take him through the courts for everything feeling empowered, will more likely cut my losses quietly

Anyway, chasing how long did it take for tax credit application to go through? Can I apply now retrospectively or just fill out all the forms to be dated and sent off on leaving day? I am guessing with Christmas etc it will take a while

Tonight he has buggered off to the pub with the chap next door (who has already told me him and his wife are on my side, so I think he is taking him out of my hair for my benefit). Anyway, I am fantasising over my sofa purchase. I didn't quite mention A to new landlady - will do after tenancy signed or just keep schtum - but said about putting some of the furniture into storage and using my own. She was more than happy with this. And as I hate the sofas in the new pad, I am going to treat myself to a lovely big corner sofa in the January sales.

[PetiteRaleuse]

We had good news today. DH came back from work (!) to say his project has worked (some stupid banking IT system) and he will no longer have to work every Sunday in November testing it. Yay. Also announced he is taking the day off on my birthday. And taking me out to lunch. Except he took the day off because he is getting his new company car that day, hadn't really made the link with my birthday but I'm not taking that to heart he forgets his own mother's birthday.

[FlouncingIsles]

PR that might be worth it? I will get half price gym membership for bannatynes through work. I am undecided on whether or not to go for it in the new year.

I also have bottled size glasses, considering using them tonight

[ChasingDaisy]

Being a victim of domestic abuse got me no extra help financially, but obviously take all of the help you can get!

Isles is right about child maintenance, check on CSA website what P should be paying. If you can't agree it between the two of you then just let CSA chase you.

Isles, I can't remember exactly, but I know that none of my applications took long to be processed. A couple of weeks max for each I think. Although I was already receiving child tax credits, but it was amended when I left XP. The first thing I did the day I left was phone each of the benefit lines and apply. Hardly any form filling and did most of it over the phone.

[ChasingDaisy]

Coca Cola advert has just been on. I can now officially declare Christmas open I actually shrieked when it came on

[FlouncingIsles]

Chasing I had a little sob over the JL one! although either I am less emotionally unstable, or it isn't as lip wibbling as the previous two years'

[Passmethecrisps]

Last year's JL one (was it last year's with the little boy waiting to give his present with the covered morrisey track?) had both DH and I a bit wet eyed

[PetiteRaleuse]

I LOVE and make an exception of Xmas marketing for the coke advert :)

[Passmethecrisps]

Holidays are comin, holidays are comin!

[ChasingDaisy]

I think last year was the snowmen one. The little boy was the year before. The Tesco one also made me cry this year. Bit anything with families and Christmas sets me off at the moment.

[Passmethecrisps]

Ah. So I didn't even have new baby hormones to blame.

I can totally understand how hard Christmas must be chasing

[YellowWellies]

Isles I'd mention the dog after once you're settled - say XP couldn't keep him due to work commitments and its either you have him, he gets put down or you move out. Offer an additional deposit and I'm sure they'll say yes. It is technically illegal for a landlord to refuse anything which would be considered normal enjoyment of ones residence (smoking, having pets etc) and test cases have gone the side of tenants on this.

I put it to the quiche that the nicest sounds in the world are baby giggles and puppy dreams. Am drinking , making sweet corn fritters and listening to Betsy in her basket.

[ChasingDaisy]

Yup, Christmas is going to be a shitter this year. I haven't been single at Christmas for about 10 years. Going to be very strange waking up alone on Christmas morning. And having no presents to open selfish emoticon My family are buying me driving lessons for Christmas so nothing to unwrap for me.

I definitely win worst mummy award tonight. I actually don't want O to come home tomorrow. Want XP to keep him. Feeling very very shit.

Sorry Isles & Evil, I have been trying to keep a lid on the 'being a single parent is shit' stuff lately for your sakes, but tonight is tough for some reason

[StuntNun]

NEW THREAD: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1906769-November-2012-Isnt-age-one-a-lot-of-fun

[PetiteRaleuse]

chasing this Xmas will be the making of you. Look what you have achieved.

[ChasingDaisy]

I just want a family. A proper one.

[PetiteRaleuse]

You can have four kids and a crap father for them like my mum did and it won't be a family. You can have a happy secure unit of two and it is a family. And one day you will be a traditional unit again. You will. End of. This Christmas is you and O on your terms. Last year you were three but an insecure unhappy three.

[Pikz]

Christmas was always better as me, mum and bro than it ever was a a so called 'family'

[TheDetective]

I did my first christmas as a single parent. The next one I was not.

4 years down the line (almost 5) I have a proper, loving, amazing family.

I can promise you now, that 4 years ago I never ever believed I would have that. And the last 4 years have literally flown by.

I didn't settle for second best, or settle for anything less than a loving caring man.

I was not gorgeous, and didn't have a fabulous figure, and I had a list a mile long of what I would and wouldn't accept in a partner.

I thought I wouldn't ever find love, or have more children.

I have. You will. Time is all it takes.

:)

[GTbaby]

Fucking fuck fuck. Lost post. You know when you finally say something and realise no1 heard you. That's what my lost post feels like. Fml

FH got totally trashed. He went out with work friends. He usually gets drunk with friends. But us sensible with work ppl. But his colleague had to bring him home. Could hardly stand.
Just thought he has been good recently. Maybe he was changing.
Only good thing is he slept in sofa n didn't buy me all night trying to get in bed.
This morning he was very shocked at how bad he was. But I know he will be good for a while then when I feel like he has turned a corner it will happen again.

H had another strange day, routine wise. Slept till 9.30 had milk n breaky. then napped 11.30 to 3.45! Then went straight down at 7.
FH doesn't want me to wake him.

[ChasingDaisy]

Am I really mean? I wake O from naps if I feel he has had too much. I never let him have more than 2 hours at a time as it throws the rest of the day and bedtime out of kilter.

[misslaughalot]

Chasing little misslaughalot and O have the same birthday. She has only just this week started bearing her own weight by standing leaning against the sofa, and she doesn't crawl. She's a bum shuffler so I don't think she ever will. Like you I worry that I'm not developing her enough, but then I try to stop myself and remember that they all do things in their own time.

As a former teacher I know this all too well!!

[applepieinthesky]

I must be a mean mummy too then chasing because I'm exactly the same

[PetiteRaleuse]

I woke LO from her nap today. Needed to go out and get yoghurts as DD1 was almost sectionable over the lack of yoghurts. Went round the supermarket reminding me of yoghurts. Got home after a whole trip saying I want a yoghurt. Offered her a fucking yoghurt. Didn't want one. Thought she was just messing so opened one for her, she threw it at the dog. Got to bed time I WANT A YOGHURT. Resisted temptation to throw one at her. It was hard but handed one over. Took one spoonful and WAHHHHHH I don't want a yoghurt. Shoved her in front of French Strictly Come Dancing and she fell asleep on the sofa.

One is fun compared to that