Jan 2013: Part Six. Part SIX!

[Angielka]

As I so frivolously finished the last thread, I thought I'd better start a new one. Go!

Oh and apple I didn't think you sounded patronising, but re-reading my last post I totally do!

Oh you are all so lovely, you made me cry again (in a good way). Neither of you were patronising at all. I'm glad to hear it might get better. I think part of the problem is that I'm always a bit of a perfectionist and this motherhood lark can't be perfected. I don't know how all of you with more than one do it.

I'm not really worried about the crawling, just wondering if she should have spent more time on the floor. But strangely this evening she did get her knees under her for the first time, so who knows! And she pulled up to standing from lying in her cot. So maybe she was reading my post

I will try to have a break. DH being ill and starting a new job has meant I've had less rest than normal. E won't be settled by anyone else atm, think it's separation anxiety, so perhaps a daytime coffee/bath/nap at the weekend.

Oh and reassuring that everyone feels bad sometimes, though of course I'd rather all mothers were always happy

Hi All

Lolli/cupcakes totally and at your gp's.

Wish all DC's well

Glorious, As the others have said we all have shit mother syndrome at times. I feel so guilty that my DD2 has to spend so long in the car everyday on the school run and then be dragged to activities. I also have the don't play/teach/talk enough worries.

Bunty I'm very impressed with Xmas shopping. I'm so not organised have bought a few bits and amazon cart is ever increasing with more 5 minute wonder tat .... Oh I have decided I am going to buy DD2 the toot toot pink garage.

DD2 tried to step yesterday steps used loosely, more a case of I'm moving my feet but if you don't catch me I will face butt the floor wasn't keen to try again today despite me spending all day trying to make her

Wish you all good nights

glorious I often feel like a shit mum too, especially over his sleep. From when I was quite young I've so desperately wanted to be a mother, there's nothing else I'm really any good at and I thought this would be my 'thing'. It's hit me really hard that it's not come naturally, it's been so hard DH and I have pretty much decided no more children, which breaks my heart as I was a miserable only and didn't want that for DS. I do think 6 months plus is a really tough time. When you have a newborn, you're exhausted and you don't know what you're doing, but everybody expects that. Now, we're still exhausted and we still don't know what we're doing, but everybody seems to expect you to be fine. Try not to be too hard on yourself. I get through by remembering that it will pass, and all too soon our babies will be teenagers off living their lives and we will be wishing they were tiny again!

at Cupcakes and Lolli's HCP experiences, so angry on your behalf. That's really outrageous what that woman said, Cupcakes!

Glorious I have shit mother syndrome all the time! I am a perfectionist too which is not a good quality to have as a mum! I find it so frustrating, I am 34 so was in my chosen career for 12 years before having babies, felt v confident etc and I had no experience of babies at all so being a new mum was a massive shock!

I worry so much about the stupidest things, the other day was literally agonising for ages over whether I should go to closest supermarket (there and back in time for lunch, nap in cot after), or further nicer one (lunch in cafe there, then probably LO would sleep in car on way back... But then he might wake up on arrival...) Round and round these bloody thoughts went!

Part of the problem is they are so unpredictable and it's really very little to do with us. I can do x, y, z as planned but that may or may not = a prompt nap and a long sleep at night! They are just not programmable!

Anyway glad I've got that off my chest! Went to the 8-10 month check yesterday. HV said he is doing fine overall tho he scored slightly low on communication. Think I need to make more of an effort to talk slowly and clearly to him and tell him the names of things!

They seemed really keen to push CC for any babies not sleeping through, which seemed odd to me. I thought they would only mention CC if someone raised it that they were really struggling. I said we were hopeful he would grow out of it himself soon.

Oh yeah and Cupcakes, we are planning another one, but not for at least 3/4 years! Biological clock be damned :)

Just back from nursery run. For the first time Dan has not been asleep and doesn't want a nap so my lovely morning peaceful coffee time has disappeared .

No more babies in the pipeline here, although I said that before the first, and after the first, and we still have a second. DH has his appointment with the urologist in a couple of weeks though so hopefully soon he will be properly done this time.

Glorious Daniel has been standing for a month or so, but only in the last week has he stood in his cot (at 3am, shouting at the purple dinosaur on his wall ). He commando crawls so no hands and knees here, but as Angie says, its not actually a milestone, some babies never crawl at all. I think your DD is likely to bypass it altogether now she's figured out how to stand.

Newbie and Lolli and anyone else with poorly children, its shit isn't it? We've all seen rather too much of A&E recently. I would like to have one week without some form of illness. Haven't seen that since August.

Bunty so glad you finally got a referral for Cameron. I've also almost finished christmas shopping. Just a couple of awkward people left to buy for and thats it. I feel quite smug about it this year.

Chuckle

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Is anyone else still suffering with crap bones and joints? I get nasty throbbing between my hip and knee and it stops me being able to walk a lot of the time.

cupcakes you are so right about how everyone expects the newborn phase to be difficult but actually in many ways it gets worse/more complicated. But I'm sure you're the best mum your DS could possibly have and you are doing so many good things for him without realising.

meringue I know exactly what you mean about leaving an environment at work where you knew what you were doing. And those dilemmas about how to organise the day in the face of a totally inconsistent baby!

I'm feeling better Pleased that E sleeping in the cot means the odd

Morning all. How is everyone and how are the bubs? DD still miserable, she has a viral thing and high temp. I can see two top teeth poking through now. She's off her food and refusing to breastfeed as well :(

Glorious glad you're feeling better. I also feel like a shit mum a lot of the time. I think it's par for the course! DD isn't crawling either and hates being on her tummy so can't see how she'll ever learn to crawl. She's also not interested in standing up. They just all do things at different stages. Plus I think Ellen's a late January birthday as well isn't she? So a lot younger than some of the other bubs. Someone put this video on Facebook earlier - it's v cheesy but quite sweet :)

Love the card Lost!

glorious glad you're feeling better about things. I was going to say that if you do want to encourage you're little one to crawl you could always try a turtle tots class. Ours has all sorts of exercises to encourage movement. Tigem I thought how much easier it was when DS stayed still so I reckon you should sit back and enjoy it!

Lora terrible hip pain here, too. Shooting pains down my right leg and sometimes it just goes numb and I have to grab onto something so I don't fall over. They don't tell you all this stuff, do they? One day I'm going to write a book called 'the truth about having children'. It will have chapters like 'things you can do in the car whilst waiting for your baby to wake up' and 'what will hurt after you give birth: everything'. They will hand it out in schools and teen pregnancy will be a thing of the past.

Rubbish day so far. DS bit me on the leg and I pulled my leg back and he lost his balance and fell over - big red mark on left side of head. Then realised car seat had been taken out of the car (thanks, DH) and had to ring my dad to help of put it back in. Got in car to take DS to gym - no petrol (thanks, DH). Took ages to refuel as everything went wrong, nearly got accused of stealing fuel. With all the faff DS didn't sleep on the way to gym, so was really tired, fell over - big red mark on right side of head. Just got good from gym, he fell asleep on the way so now I'm waiting. Sigh.

Meant to be going out tonight - first time since DS was born. Am feeling very wobbly about it but really don't want to let my friend down.

Same cupcakes, I nearly fell over taking the pram and dog for a walk last night. I get slight relief from wearing a knee support. Pleased its not just my body being shit. And NO they tell you the bone pain dissappear s.. the liars. I can add chapters to your book 'dont expect to be dressed before ten, your little darling will be though'

Lora It can be a joint book. Anybody else got any chapters they want to submit?

My last post was really miserable. Here is something less miserable:

Whenever I get DS' toys out, I put his play mat out first. Yesterday I put the mat down, he turned around, smiled and crawled right over to it, plonked himself down and waited for his toys. So cute.

Does anyone elses baby scuttle away giggling whenever they are caught heading out the door/towards the cat/into trouble? He's so cheeky! He gets halfway there, stops, looks round waiting for me to call his name and when I do he just zooms off even faster laughing maniacally!

Oh yes pascha Ivy does this too! Thats how you can tell shes up to no good :)

cupcakes that book sounds great. I was given a book after ds2 was born. It was the first year told from babies perspective, like a diary. It was pretty funny but i can't remember what it was called or what i did with it

After 4 babies my body is old and creaky and frankly feels a bit broken these days :(

Ivy went from 7 -6.30 last night without me feeding her! Would be great news as i'm trying to drop night feeds but she was a nightmare between 2.30-4. Felt guilty not feeding her but i honestly think its just habit and i really need her to be ok to move rooms. And i'd love a full nights sleep too!

My body is wrecked!!! I have pain in my SP, which is weird as I never had SPD when pregnant. Thinking about going to the doc for that one. My knees are wrecked and my back is put out from top to bottom!

Cupcakes my car is stocked at all times with juice, a magazine and a packet of chocolate hobnobs :)

He has such a funny sense of humour. He likes to sneak up behind me then burst into giggles.

No sneaky giggles here but DS finds the dogs hysterically funny, especially dog 2. He just sits and giggles manically at her. She looks really anxious and then runs away. I think she's getting a complex.

I think DS is trying to walk. He keeps pulling himself up on things and then just launching, falls flat on his face, cries, and then does it again.

glorious I definitely feel a bit crap most days, especially this time around with all that's going on with Cameron. Stupid doctors make me feel like I've got munchausens, so I doubt myself.

Thanks pascha! Dan sounds adorable.

We had an amazing night on Wednesday, and she slept from 10 until 6!!!

Last night was shit. She's got this chest infection and keeps waking herself up coughing up a lung. I do think the gaviscon is helping. Issue is, the monkey now doesn't want it from a syringe, a cup, a spoon, and will only tolerate one sachet in 4oz of milk.

cupcakes how many sachets and when are you giving it? Only with milk feeds?

Cameron let go of the table 2 nights ago and walked to me with no prompting! and started saying 'ta' when handed food something. Very proud but jeezo. All a bit quick.

apples that's brilliant! Well done ivy!

lora love the card. Is very apt! I also have random pains. My sacroiliac joint crunches and clicks when I'm walking. Am a bit worried ...

When should I start worrying about a persistent cough? She had a cold 3 weeks ago and she hasn't shaken of the cough yet. She's perfectly healthy, cheerful and active otherwise.

Don't doubt yourself bunty,you know her better than anyone. Ignore the stupid doctors.

glorious I feel guilty at least once a day - I feel like I don't play with them enough, or cook for them enough etc etc. And today I had bad period pains, and my milk seems to be disappearing and I was so tired I lay on the sofa and left them to play for a bit. And X accidentally bit DD1 on the nose. So I've been feeling guilty about that too.

cupcakes seems to be a biting trend today!

poly I took X to the doctors yesterday as she is in her third week of having a cough and she didn't seem herself yesterday. Doctor listened to her chest etc and all fine but she said its the right thing to bring them in if they don't seem themselves. You could get her checked out but if she's well in herself I doubt they would do anything. Might make you feel better about it though.

poly I think the standard rule for anybody is if you don't shake something within 2 weeks see the GP, so I'd make an appointment.

Bunty he has 2 sachets mixed with 6 tsps of water half way through his bedtime breast feed. At the moment he only sleeps in his cot at night, the rest of the time he's on me so upright. When I work up the courage to try putting in his cot for naps I'll give the gaviscon with the feed before the nap, too.

I'm going out tonight. First time since DS arrived!

Sorry to everyone having a hard time. [Flowers]

Can I add my knackered wrist to our list of ailments? Caused by holding my increasingly chunky dd for hours while she bfs to sleep.