Jan 2013: Part Six. Part SIX!

[Angielka]

As I so frivolously finished the last thread, I thought I'd better start a new one. Go!

Oh next door's toddler just screamed and screamed, he does it several times every night. He didn't come and ring the doorbell or anything

Little man is ill. Been eithe asleep or crying all afternoon, refusing food and no yet nappies. At the gp now praying they don't make us wait too long.

Oh no Cupcakes what did the GP say?

How was the morning alone at nursery cupcakes? and what did the doc say?

glorious at least if next door ever hear your little one you don't have to feel bad!

meringue yay for personal bests - Molly did hers too last night 7-6 with just one wake at 5 when she settled herself back to sleep. I could get used to this...

apple Molly is in with DD1 and to be honest even when Molly was having really bad nights, her screaming didn't seem to bother DD1 in the least. She slept through it all. The jealousy might be a worry, although I think since my girls have been in the same room, DD1 has got more tolerant of Molly and is usually quite sweet with her. If the baby isn't seen as getting special treatment by being in with mummy and daddy, maybe the jealousy will take more of a back seat? I dunno, you know your kids best.

Is Nancy better creepy?

Oh and I meant to say before, Molly is still doing her crazy one foot/one knee crawling but the kid can cross a room in the blink of an eye! DD1 never crawled and went straight to walking so they're all different, bugsy and yours might not bother with the crawling. I didn't apparently although my DM loves telling people that's just because I was lazy enough to be happy sitting

angiel thank you, i am beginning to think that dd1 probably would be sweet with her and try to take care of her generally and the jealousy isn't so bad anymore. I hadn't thougt of it from the perspective of Ivy having mummy at night, was a bit worried she would feel Ivy was invading her space but the travel cot has been in there for ages

Will try moving her.soon as i would quite like our room back :)

cupcakes hope he is ok

Chest infection. Poor mite is really miserable. Not even trying the ant tonight, he's snuggled up with me.

poor ds, Cupcakes. hope he's better soon.

Hope your wee one gets better soon cupcakes.

We had a scare at the weekend and ended up in a & e, wee one was vomiting with high temp, told it was a stomach virus, thankfully he seems better now but missed his first day at nursery. He is still not sleeping well at nights, no idea what to do. Am just telling myself it must be teething and he will eventually remember that he used to sleep through, it's so hard trying to work every day and look after him with no sleep :( hopefully if nothing else, nursery 2 days a week will allow me to catch some shut eye if work is quieter!

Hope everyone else is doing okay

X

So many poorly babies :( hope they all feel better soon, what a shame.

HV was round today, and lovely as always (she really is!). Gave her our sleep diary and she agreed it wasn't working - 4+ hours of screaming a day for her to 'self settle' isn't normal, esp as I was in there.

So, we're getting referred to specialist hospital health visitor, my Gp is getting a kick up the arse to sort her referral to a consultant for the sleep issues and, HURRAH! She thinks it may be reflux. Not hurrah that she is potentially in pain, but hurrah that Someone has listened, not written me off as neurotic, and that there is hopefully a fix and end in sight

ESP as dd is currently away in the car with daddy as she won't. Fucking. Sleep. He's been sent to midnight pharm at boots for infant gaviscon.

How's the Christmas shopping/birthday shopping going? I'm done for the kids, inc c's birthday, just a couple of bits for family to get, and all of dh. He's a fussy bugger. No clue what to get him.

and and for everyone! Hope all the poorly babies are better soon, Bunty glad somebody is taking you seriously now!

Been in hospital with ds1 since Monday, he had an asthma attack and had to be admitted as needed hourly nebulisers and oxygen, we got home last night, he still isn't too good but the community nurse is coming out to see him today to check his stats

Bunty .... Christmas shopping!!?? I've not even started!!

Oh no, hope all the poorly babies are better soon.

Asked DP to resettle LO for me at 6.30 this morning, he'd been up since five. Got up a few hours later and found he hadn't even put a blanket over the baby, poor wee thing has a cold, bare feet and it's chilly in here!

Oh and he's hidden my meds again! Keeps saying he's worried baby will find them but they were in the centre of the kitchen table well out of reach to crawler.

Grump grump grump. We have the 8-10 month check today :)

Morning all. Sorry to those with poorly babies. Lolli hope your DS1 is ok and can come home soon, that sounds scary . And your DSs too newbie and cupcakes.
Bunty sorry sleep is still crap but hurrah that the HV is listening to you and you're getting a referral. Fingers crossed that proper treatment will mean DD (and you) will sleep!
Glorious excellent news about your mum!

DD has been a misery the last few days. Definitely teeth - I can see the top two coming through, though she still doesn't have the bottom two and I thought they were normally the first ones? She's off her food and just looks so sad :( Meant to be meeting a friend in town but can't face it with poorly baby and pissing rain.

So impressed with those who've done their Xmas shopping! Need to get organised.

Have a good day everyone :)

Bunty fantastic news, so sorry it's taken you so long to finally get this help though. I know the feeling so well, I honestly didn't know whether to laugh or cry when DS was diagnosed with Silent Reflux. Really hope they don't keep you waiting much longer.

newbie it's so scary when they're poorly, isn't it? DS is in a right state, basically just slept or cried all yesterday afternoon. Been asleep for a couple of hours this morning, too, and you all know how rubbish he is at napping usually. Didn't help that the nurse we saw yesterday was really mean, had a go at me for not having given him any calpol yet (he went downhill really quickly, and DH said maybe don't give him any as we were only 40 minutes off the doctors appointment and he was worried they might want to give him something else - perfectly logical to me). When I said he was off his solids but taking breast milk she said "Oh, you're still breast feeding? Well, at least your doing something right for him." If I hadn't been so busy fretting about DS I may well have slapped her.

Christmas presents for DS pretty much done, not done birthday yet though as we're planning to see what he particularly likes out of his Christmas presents and go from there.

Just realised how bad the typos were on my last post! Sorry, was on the phone. We didn't try the COT, not ant.

Oh my god. Cupcakes what a total bitch that nurse was to you. That's outrageous. I'm and on your behalf. Hope your DS gets better soon

RUDE! cupcakes you should compain!

Hope all the sick babies get better soon and and for the tired mums.

cupcakes you need to do a letter of complaint about that, it's shocking. And for what it's worth I think it was perfectly sensible not giving calpol. Hope he feels much better soon.

I've just written a complaint letter to my surgery about 3 things, one of them about them not doing the hip check at 6 weeks and us having to go on for a scan. I wasn't going to complain but this morning I took X for her flu jab (we all have it to protect DD1) and we got sent away being told she doesn't need a second. Well she does. And now I have to go back in again. F-ing useless nurse.

bunty glad things might start to improve once she gets diagnosed.

tugs and newbie hope your babies start to feel better soon (and anyone else's I've missed).

lolli how scary, is he ok now?

Wow apple sharing rooms?! I can't imagine mine getting any sleep although maybe I should try it. I have a white noise machine in each room just to block out the noise from creaky floors!

lolli that sounds horrible you poor things.

cupcakes I can't believe that, totally unacceptable. Complain!

tugs thanks, and agree about the rain. We went to Lewisham earlier (local high st) and it was a bit miserable. But we were in search of a warmer sleeping bag as E has been cold and with the heating on she finally slept a whole night in her cot rather than coming in with me. Still woke up all the time but I slept better in between.

bunty so glad you're getting some proper help.

Talking of babies being cold, does anyone have the room at the recommended 18 degrees? It would be freezing! I put X in a winter sleeping bag (2.5 tog) and the room is between 20 and 21 degrees. Am I doing the wrong thing? I couldn't sleep if the room was cold but are babies different?

Birdies a friend recently mentioned room temperature to me and I turned the thermostat up to 20 in DS' room as a result. He didn't sleep any better, but it least I wasn't freezing when I got up to see to him.

Thanks for the support guys, might have to draft a letter but to be honest the entire surgery is absolutely useless. When I've complained in the past I get the same "we apologise if this caused offence however our staff are extremely busy blah blah blah." Not sure I have the energy,

DS is such a state, bless him. We get about 20 minutes of happy babbling / playing before tiredness hits again and he just doesn't know what to do with himself.

birdies our room is 18 or colder but I wouldn't follow our example! Think the sleeping bag we were given wasn't 2.5tog any more so she was cold even with 2 vests and 2 sleepsuits. Hence a new bag, merino sleepsuit on the way, more heating!

Sorry for double post and the whinge I'm about to have.

Does anyone else sometimes feel like a totally shit mother? I started off feeling so sure of myself but the last couple of months have really knocked my confidence. She won't sleep and I feel like it's my fault. She doesn't crawl. I don't think I play with her enough (we cuddle lots, feed, try to get her to nap, run around seeing people or doing chores). I had a big sob at DH last night because I feel like I'm letting her down. He was lovely and told me I'm amazing, and I know if this was any of you I'd tell you not to be so hard on yourself. But I still feel useless

Thanks all, nurse has been today and his stats are much better just got to carry in with the 4 hourly inhalers and he should be fine in a few days!

Cupcakes and for you! Sounds a lot like my doctors who on Monday morning told me Coles oxygen levels were 88% (anything below 92 would require a mask with oxygen being pumped into him) and needs to be In hospital, I said I have no car as in garage he told me to get a taxi I called ahead to the hospital to say were on route as he has open access to the childrens wards and they hit the roof!!! Within 5 mins of us being at the hospital a doctor was in the phone to my GP telling them what a disgrace they are for not phoning an ambulance!

Glorious I feel the same sometimes, I really feel like Darcie gets left out and just tags along with whatever DS1 is doing, compared to the attention that DS got when he was a baby she is practically neglected!
Your absolutely NOT a shit mummy, I'm sure we will feel were not good enough or not doing the right thing for them for the next 18 40 years!!

glorious first of all and don't be so hard on yourself ;) Honestly being a mum is hardand you are tired which makes everything seem worse. You know you are loving her and doing your best for her. Thats all they need!

Not all babies crawl and lots of babies just don't sleep. Is there any way you can take a break? Get dp to take her and try and get some sleep.

I found with my older dc that the first year is hardest and it all seems to get a little easier once they are 1 of course some things get harfer but generally sleep gets better which helps

glorious sorry just read that back, sounds a bit patronising - its not meant to, jus wanted to offer some reassurance. Long day (and night) and brain gone on holiday

at your GP lolli. That's a disgrace too. Jeez, I'd be writing letters left right and centre.

glorious I don't think there's ever been a mother who hasn't felt a bit shit about themselves once in a while. It's bloody hard work and they're all different, and they don't come with a manual and just when you think you've got the hang of one thing, they go and chnge something. Don't be so hard on yourself. and like apple says, try and take a break. Even if it's an hour on your own, or a nap.

Crawling is not a milestone. My sassy three-year old never crawled but runs about like a mad thing now.

Nobody feels like they play with their babies enough. That's life. Just hang on in there. Again, like apple said, some things will get easier.