November 2012 - Babies are getting busy, busy, busy

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1858262-November-2012-In-which-the-babies-start-to-reach-their-first-birthdays

Oh my gosh madame how awful. It must have been a very weird atmosphere. I'm guessing they couldn't have been that close to the b&g. Hope your hangover subsides. I cope very badly with hangovers these days!

chasing hope you managed some sleep. Whoever you talk to with regards to getting proper arrangements in place with O, just be 100% honest with them and then there isn't anything xp can spring on them. Yes you have depression, but you are also dealing with it, not hiding away pretending it doesn't exist. The depression won't count against you. It doesn't make you an unfit mother. What would is if you had any alcohol/drug issues which sometimes coincide with depression. You do not. Depression is an illness. Thankfully it has started to be recognised as such. They will not take a child away from it's mother because they are ill.

Miserable day here. Chucking it down with no signs it's likely to stop. Luckily the only plans I have is a trip to a garden centre which is undercover. E is all snotty bless her but seems to still be in fine spirits.

Oh gosh madame that must have been awful

Thanks Eliza, I got a bit of sleep in the end. On my way to meet my dad now to buy Oscar's new stroller. I don't even see myself as having depression anymore. Yes, I am taking antidepressants but I don't actually feel depressed anymore. I am actually fairly happy and content right now. I have really started to see the value in good friends. And I just had a chat with a lovely young guy at the bus stop which is good for the soul. I'm really starting to enjoy people again, if that makes any sense.

chasing Very glad you feel that way. Enjoy choosing O's new stroller.

It was the groom's grandad. The hotel were so professional and dealt with things very well. It was strange to continue knowing what had happened but the family were very clear that the celebration mattered and should continue and there would be time to grieve afterwards. As guests we took the view we should follow their lead and do what they wanted, so we did make it into a massive party. I guess there is no right or wrong way to handle something like that. Awful though.

chasing I have a little bit of experience of ironing out contact issues etc, albeit from the other side of the fence, being DH's girlfriend after he split with DSD's mum. There was never a court applicaton, but I did look into it a bit when things were more difficult. Happy to chat if it would be helpful.

madame I think the family dealt with it appropriately. If I was in that situation that's exactly how I would want it handled and I'm sure the grandad felt the same. Glad you were still able to make the day a joyous occasion. Life should be celebrated.

that is all extremely sad.

Can't have been easy gazelle but glad you all managed to have a good time regardless.

Lazy day here clearing up. Will go out for a walk after LO's nap. Need to buy DD1 gloves or mittens. Last year she refused point blank to wear them

Madam how sad.
My family is very much like that family. People die you have to get on with it. My in laws. That's a different story. FH was told he could not go to his friends dads funeral. As the birth of a child is an auspicious time and can not be tinged by bad things. Very weird.

Right A fed from one side for half an hour. And has settled in carrycot. if he lasts longer then an hour I will feel more confident that the soft boobs are not a sign of less milk.

GT in XP's family/culture, the most vulnerable member of the family isn't allowed to go to funerals or even visit graves. So when XP's dad passed away, his elderly grandad wasnt allowed to go to his son's funeral. Anyone who is pregnant isn't allowed to visit graves and the same goes for young babies. They believe that death will take the most vulnerable person next.

Chasing that's sad. I just think superstition is fine. But thinking someone's death will jinx things and have a knock on effect is horrible.

My PIL have really stupid superstitions. Half the time I feel they make them up as they go! Recent stupid one is.
Dad is going to hospital in wed. So no one can bath or wash clothes on that day.
I've given up asking for reasons behind the bullshit.

I bought invitations for Oscar's birthday party today I plan to spend the evening writing them.

I find all of these superstitions fascinating. But obviously wouldn't if my life were being governed by them.

Yawn. Well we have three teeth cutting and god he must have woken and comfort fed like four times in the night so DH and I are knackered. Sadly my sister was over and we'd been having a blether and a or two so I think he definitely got a dose of BM 'Baileys'. He's been a miserable bugger today too - though we managed a nice windswept walk with the woofer along a local beach. I hope the others cut quickly. I think I'll avoid any dairy until they do as he doesn't need any reflux from dairy to add to his teething reflux. Poor chap. Poor me. I wanted another Mars bar.

I'm trying to freelance but my brain is mush. Good thing I've got some easy stuff to do (reviewing stuff) that I might be ok with without firing on all (any) cylinders.

Good thing also that VVVVVVV DH is bear and dog sitting and cooking tea. He's also doing embarrassing Dad dancing to the radio whilst Jonas holds court in his high chair.

The wedding death stories are . Life can be so bittersweet.

Sure can!

I think continuing the party if at all possible is the right thing to do. Couldn't have happened at the wedding I was at just because of the venue. Anyway, some weeks later DH was looking through his photos from the wedding and he found some beautiful shots of the man dancing with his daughter. DH had no idea who he was but thought they were nice. We sent the pics to her and I think they were distributed far and wide! It was lovely to have been part of something positive about the day.

Anyhoo. The p-meister is asleep and the wine is open.

I keep noticing people scowling at P. Don't know why. DH has started to notice as well. Today a woman looked me up and down, looked at p then looked me up and down again before pulling a massive scowl and walking away. Weird! Anyone got any ideas? Not used to people scowling at P!!

Pass I've had that from some Mums of ginormobabies at HV weigh ins when they figure out how old Jonas is and see him as small and presumably in their heads, underfed. Is it because she is wee maybe? I used to still do get well paranoid about it. If it is that - remember she is not a prize marrow. That's what I tell myself and I'm v. glad the HV said it very loudly at our last weigh in as I was getting paranoid.

People scowl at me as I have a chubby baby and a fat arse to match. Fuck em I say.

Sorry to hear of the wedding sadness it was bad enough when my PIL died 6 weeks before ours.

Maybe. It does happen sometimes when she is wandering about. I initially thought it was because she was wearing a baby grow (not long off the plane), then I wondered if dummies were considered not ok (but I see them all the time). Today I wondered if it is lack of hat. Actually, now I am wondering if it is because she has a hint of the ginge.

I smile at all babies! Babies are awesome.

Love the prize marrow thing. I am vair proud because she is now completely in her 6-9 clothes!

My sister gets all sorts of comments from people about her wee one despite the fact he is completely and utterly healthy. Sadly the reason is because she is overweight. Poor soul gets very upset about it and has been convinced that he is obese. He is 11 months old!!!

Pass, P is dinky and walking. I think people will double take. They then look at you and feel just damn envious as you clearly have it all

VQ are your smilies broken? You look on my screen (telephonical device) like you are pulling a hmm face rather than a sad one. Did you mean sad or hmm? Hmm away to your heart's content obvs! Just checking.

Well fo sho vq!

Smiles all the way. Fucking smilies. They play up every now and again.

Did you mean to stick two fingers up at me Pass? (Joking)

Sad face for wedding obviously :-(

Pass, i get the face from other mums sometimes when i say R is 10 months. It's because he's usually squirming across the room to find the most trouble while their chubby 11 and 12 month olds sit placidly on the mat staring at a rattle like it's an alien concept wee ones that move are an oddity and, like all motherhood, something to be Judged.