November 2012 - In which the babies start to reach their first birthdays

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I quite like the look of the My Single Friend dating site. I might need to recruit one of you to be my 'friend' and write my profile though.

chasing my friend is on that one. She has dates every week.

So I managed to rock her back for 45 min and she was up at 6.30. But my back is killing me now. I hate sleep regression.

Just butting in, haven't finished reading but....

bp that is fucking ares wiping appalling. Had you booked accommodation for your weekend?

chasing I don't know! maybe the disinterested tack might work, i wouldn't want to mess with his feelings by introducing another contender if he has been hurt before. Hugs. Give it time. Xx

I now have birthday plans, which include lots of burgers and sausages, an outside BBQ and a bonfire! Maybe a couple of fireworks we will see.

Wind turbine gets put up today am sure photos will ensue. I am excited!

Oh and I am making a birthday cake I. The shape of an owl.

This is all for me I reassure you.

And I will love it!

Is my way of sneaking bonfire night over here they don't seem to do it as much as in England.

And is only family, not the whole community. Unless people pop round to complain that is!

Sophia I want to come!

Lily we had exactly that sort of sleep regression. Lasted 3/4 weeks but now back to 7-7

Mil organising L birthday as we are in SA for it. God help me. She is fucking nuts!

Sophia the last thing I want to do is hurt him but he keeps telling me he just wants to be friends. I'm not going to wait around for him to change his mind. I hate being single. I know it has only been 4 months but it has been a hell of a long time since I have been in love or been loved. I know I can never be truly happy being single. I'm in a hideous mood today. Think I will be hiding away from the world today otherwise I'm liable to snap at someone. Oscar hasn't stopped whinging since 6am so he better give it a rest soon.

Don't hide, we can take the snapping. Maybe time to just move on then as you say, completely.

Chasing definitely agree that online dating might be good, it will be something fun you can do from home as well as the 'real' dates. Don't wait around for him if he says he just wants to be friends. He might change his mind, but you shouldn't have to wait for that.

BPLP that's awful

R slept 6-5, 5:15-7:15

and chasing it took me nearly 2 years living on my own to get used to it and that was before kids! in my pre-raphaelite days badaboomtish then i met vvvdp. Online.

I can cope with being single but not being single with a kid.

chasing I have no doubt that the one will materialise. Remember to keep your standards, you are wonderful and they must be too.

Lot's of men have arrived and donned rugged wet weather wear and big boots, they have ventured off to the top field. Two questions;

1.) quick chasing do you want to pop over?
2.) shoud I don wellies and hot foot it after them to see the action or stay in out of the interesting weather?

Hmm. Dropped LO at nursery this morning. She cried, as per usual. So I waited outside then went back to have a peek less than a minute later. She was happily playing on the floor. Drama queen or what?!

Another interesting thing. You remember a few weeks ago I told you about an incident at nursery where one of the workers shouted at a baby? Ms Shouty is LO's favourite. She goes to her over her key worker (who is lovely). The other day when I arrived to pick her up she was lying on Shouty's lap having her head stroked. Then yesterday she reached out to her as we were leaving to give her a big open mouthed bite kiss. They have a real bond, even her KW was telling me about it (wih a little I think). Maybe she likes Ms Shouty because she reminds her of me

So just goes to show, good job I didn't make a big deal over it.

In other news I have spent the last two hours going through my loose change jar, where we put small coins. Have been sorting and bagging up the coins and it's come to €160!!! Hadn't done it in well over a year. That's well over a week's shopping. If I wasn't on an economy drive I could get 16 hours worth of cleaning for that. But it will go into the bank account and be used on essentials. Sorry I don't mean to boast but I was expecting €30 or so so am really chuffed.

It has lightened my otherwise foul mood. No particular reason, just didn't manage to sleep much last night.

Fucksticking insomnia.

sophia stay inside but offer them tea and biscuits when they have finished then you can casually mention your hot single friend and weed out the good'uns. Triage duties.

Chasing l did my friend‘s profile on my single friend and ahe ended up with a dh! However, she did get through more than her fair share of strange people and users from it first. She also had to adjust her expectations ~ he didn‘t ssweep her off her feet and she nearly got rid, it was a real slow~burner.
Thanks kirrin and madam. I would love to SAH but am breadwinner so got to keep my income at same level. A friend has suggested a business together but could be a huge amount of work for no return as quite risky. dh does care work, pay is awful)

Chasing my DB and my BFF both met their OHs through dating agencies. OTOH my other brother is still single...

Chasing have you read the dating thread on the relationships board? They have a great set of rules, learned from years of Online dating and are a really supportive bunch for those just starting out. I love to read it for their stories nosy parker

pr We aren't having a party. We are taking C to London the day before his birthday and staying overnight. We're going to see the christmas lights and Harrod's grotto. My mum said she might do a birthday tea for him when we get back with close family but I'm really not fussed.

chasing If I were you I wouldn't let non-date guy have his cake and eat it. He will happily spend cosy nights in with you and kiss you but wants to be 'just friends'. I wouldn't let him have it both ways. Perhaps if he thinks you are moving on then he might make his mind up.

Work situation isn't likely to occur often and I've calmed down a bit now. Still not impressed by double standards though. A lot of employers seem to treat their staff like crap because they know everyone is desperate to keep their job and there are others waiting to take your place. So I wouldn't necessarily be any better off elsewhere. Will still see what's about but overall I'm quite happy here so will probably stay. I would find it difficult to find something as well paid. Most jobs I see advertised are on less money than I'm on now unless I go for more senior positions. I'm not qualified but I have 7+ years experience so that may count as qualified by experience.

My best advice as someone who has been there, done that, is that his recent behaviour is reminding me of the cocklodger I got headfucked by. Two options - wait and see. In the meanwhile you have to be strict - friends don't kiss, cuddle, hold hands. So he can't have that closeness unless he is willing to put his money where his mouth is. So to speak.

Second option - this is the one I took! - Look elsewhere. Go on dates. Have fun. Don't have him as your sole 'go to'. DP was cocklodgers brothers best mate....

Internet dating is most definitely your friend. :)

Had a lovely hour just browsing by myself in the town I work in. It's a lovely market town. Posh. Shops here are amazing! Sat and had lunch in peace. And a hot chocolate in Costa. Now sat in car listening to music in peace.

As much as I miss my boy, I enjoyed that rest!

I had to come to work early for a meeting, but then had 2 hours between it and my shift. No point driving half an hour back home and then back to work. So treated myself to peace, quiet, food and shopping!!!

Speaking of work. Had a shitty 2 days, today is the culmination of the shitty days and I really don't want to be here for this. Nothing I have done - its a situation which ends today. I am the one who will execute it though. And it is going to break my heart. Expect much depressing posts from me tonight most likely.

Then again. I'm back in work at 7am after finishing at 9.30pm. So maybe not... I should be going straight to bed. .

I won't have seen O for 32 hours by the time I get home tomorrow. He was asleep when I left this morning :(

Oh no det I feel similar. I really don't want to be at work anyway so if they keep pushing me then I too will be forced to do something about it. I'm missing C so much, some days I'm nearly in tears looking at his photos on my phone, only to sit here taking all this shit when I would rather be with him. Fortunately I'm not dealing with health issues like you but it still sucks. I saw him for five minutes this morning before I left for work and will see him for about an hour when I get home before he goes to bed. I hate it.