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November 2012 - In which the babies start to reach their first birthdays

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StuntNun · 20/09/2013 05:15

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Kirrin · 02/10/2013 22:22

Not had time to catch up properly, sorry.
Just wanted to say thanks for the sofagate suggestions. pr I like the doll/nappies idea :)

And kyz ((hugs)) You are doing great. What E needs, more than anything else, is you.

Passmethecrisps · 02/10/2013 22:26

Thanks pp! We fly out on Monday so not much time for anything. We have a stroller on its way hopefully so that is in hand. Really there should be no issue - drive to airport, put luggage on hold, pick up hire car at other end, drive to apartment.

I'm an anxious traveller anyway!!

MsJupiterJones · 02/10/2013 22:26

Kyz you come across as being so warm and kind and a lovely mum. E will always need you and you will always be the best person for him. I had a day like that on Monday so I know how you feel but you really are doing fantastically. I think as the days are starting to get chillier and darker it does affect mood esp when you are at home. Not to simplify it but that can make things worse (ime).

Also missing *VQ, hope she is reading from time to time and bugs and illness are staying away.

Pass every Wed we have lots of parents and babies in my work and it always makes me get a pang. I have also been thinking about applying for a better job but it would mean longer hours away from L.

Hope all well, we had a terrible night last night so hopeful of better tonight. We finally have a toof poking through!

ChasingDaisy · 02/10/2013 22:36

((((kyz)))) you are so so lovely and a wonderful mummy to E. I'm sure what your mum said to you about your anxiety felt like what XP used to say to me about my depression - that I should just 'pull myself together'. It isn't helpful and doesn't show any understanding. You're amazing. Don't forget that x

I am so tired. I should have gone to sleep ages ago but I am putting it off because I know that once I close my eyes it will be morning before I know it and I'll have to drag myself through another day.

PetiteRaleuse · 02/10/2013 22:45

(((Kyz))) you are Fab. End of. So sorry about your chicken :(

misslaughalot · 02/10/2013 22:51

Pass we got a My Little Seat for travelling with babylaughalot from eBay. Might be too late for you now though, but I'd recommend it as they were the only fabric one I found that had shoulder straps too. Small enough to pop in the change bag so it comes everywhere with us.

Kyz you are the best person to care for E. End. Of. Thanks

misslaughalot · 02/10/2013 23:02

Babylaughalot is only sleeping for 15-20 min bursts tonight. Her face is red hot but her temp is fine (37.7). She's not waking and crying, just grizzly, and is falling back asleep after 10 mins or so awake.

Teething do you reckon?

TheDetective · 02/10/2013 23:03

So tired.

One more day then off for 3. Thank fuck.

O is being amazing. DP took him to soft play this afternoon I'm not jealous at all, oh no! and he was picking on the 3 year olds and stealing their toys Blush. Okay, so that is not so amazing. But given he has had dairy, I just figured he might turn in to grumpy O, but nope, so far so good!

Work is very hard for me. All those babies... all that crying! I was never broody because of work before O, now I am constantly. I think it is nostalgia how can it be nostalgia when it was 5 fucking minutes ago?! rather than broodiness. I don't want another baby right this second, but I wish it was still me in their position. If that makes sense!

So jealous :( I don't want to be at work! I want to be with my baby!

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Lily311 · 03/10/2013 04:54

She is awake but still in her cot. However we had a bad night. I just fall asleep at 9.40 when she woke screaming. I thought it was morning already so brought her out. Than checked the time. I managed to get her back to sleep in her cot but she woke at 1 and was up for 40 fucking minute. It is much harder than the newborn stage.

I don't enjoy her this week. I'm too tired. She is frustrated and tries new things. Pls let it settle soon.

kyz as others said you are doing amazingly well with E. Hugs

fruitpastilles · 03/10/2013 07:02

Morning, haven't caught up properly yet but just wanted to say,
kyz you seriously are an awesome mummy, going from your posts on here, you are so caring and thoughtful and I honestly think you need to give yourself a break. E loves you whether you take him out or not, it's hard to overcome these things and you are doing brilliantly. Maybe your mum was just trying to scare tactic you into going out, thinking that by doing it this way it will help you. E has lots of people in his life who love him and can take him places if you can't at the moment so don't beat yourself up about it. Sending you big hugs. So sorry to hear about your chicken too xxx

GTbaby · 03/10/2013 07:09

9pm last night. - I may try Ewan with A tonight. He is a major Velcro baby Sad. Doesn't like being held by others. Cries as soon as I put him down.
Real shock to the system. As H was complete opposite.

Ok. Now 2 hours after starting this post.

A has fallen asleep swaddled and listening to Ewan. 2min later cries. Routing. So fed. Now asleep. On my lap.
We have literally slept with him on me every night.

I knew I couldn't have two babies who slept well Blush asking to much?

I'm having my first middle of the night I hate bf rant. My arm hurts for crying out loud! My arm. To add to the boobs, nipples, swollen feet, aching legs and my vag. But add to that shit my arms.

This morning. Could post above last night. Kept failing n A kept crying.

So how do I stop him being a Velcro baby. Please help me Confused

fruitpastilles · 03/10/2013 07:26

I've just read loads, have forgotten most Hmm
bplp work are utter cunting wankers, can't believe they have cancelled your holiday, are they even allowed to do that? Shite about working over Christmas aswell, but as pr says, at least F won't know any different this year.

pass you will get your promotion when the time is right. Glad you are relieved about it though.

det woooo for cheese! Sorry you aren't feeling shit at work.

Have a nice time at ikea eliza

Yay for teefs jj

Sorry O had a bad night lily

Sorry you're having a rough time gt I have no advice re a Velcro baby I'm afraid.

YellowWellies · 03/10/2013 07:31

GT sorry hon but most babies are Velcro - H was the unusual one for being so easily settled. Remember how the rest of the quiche spent the first few months complaining about our unputdownable babies? We weren't doing anything wrong. It'll pass but it's just his personality x

fruitpastilles · 03/10/2013 07:34

Off to soft play today with my cousin and her 2, have never took S before, I can't wait Smile

ChasingDaisy · 03/10/2013 07:37

GT that's how O was for the first couple of months. My advice is to go with it, let him sleep on you as much as he needs. He is brand new to the world and needs the comfort of his mummy. The more comfort you give him now, the more secure he will become x

YellowWellies · 03/10/2013 07:46

GT get a feeding pillow to help with the arms as you do sit cuddling them whilst they feed for much longer than if FF and try to remember that the pain (ie vag, legs, feet) isn't all from BF. It's a mental game and the first couple of weeks is a blur of feeding - it gets easier.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 03/10/2013 07:49

pass defo the fabricy booster seat. That is all I have ever used.

If all else fails there is always a knee.

PetiteRaleuse · 03/10/2013 08:21

Second the feeding pillow. I still use mine now as LO likes to settle in it for her bottles.

Did anyone watch the Hairy Bikers last night? The chef they spoke to about the macaroons is in the first village after the border, right next to DD1's old creche. Have never eaten there as it is too expensive and, though I do love treating us to a fancy restaurant on occasion, there's never anything on the online menu which appeals. However I drove past every day of course when going into Lux and every time I drove past she was stood outside smoking and arguing with her cooks :o Then they went to a spot by the vineyards which is one of my favourite local beauty spots. Was v strange to see Luxembourg on uk tv like that.

misslaughalot that sounds like teeth. Very slight fever and discomfort to me sounds about right.

I bought one of those thermometers that you just wave near their heads. I love it. I take everyone's temperature including the dog's several times a day, just for the fun of it. I know you all joke about my suppository preaching but taking the temp up the bum is just too hard now with the wrigglers.

PetiteRaleuse · 03/10/2013 08:23

pass does your sister rent out her flat to tourists? If so could you linky? I quite fancy a trip down there, I have never been.

ChasingDaisy · 03/10/2013 09:14

Lily sounds as though it may be a developmental leap? I know that offers you no solution and is very unhelpful but it might explain it?

PR I had that on last night but was too busy feeling sorry for myself to actually watch it properly. Wish I had now.

misslaughalot · 03/10/2013 09:31

Ugh. Worst. Night. Ever.

MissMummy1 · 03/10/2013 09:32

Today I am thankful to have lots of plans. We are on our third tantrum of the day already:

  1. No Matilda, you cannot wear the bathroom bin as a hat
  2. No Matilda, you cannot attempt to commando crawl under the stairgate
  3. No Matilda, you cannot feed your regurgitated handfuls of porridge to the dog, no matter how tickly his licking is.

FFS. Each no is met with back arching, screaming and floods of tears.

I am also thankful for my coffee machine....

MissMummy1 · 03/10/2013 09:33

I am also rebelling and using the tumble (condenser?) dryer today. P would have a fit if he knew, but he has completely fucked up my washing rota. Angry

GTbaby · 03/10/2013 09:34

What are thoughts on nipple shields? Mw suggested it other day. I dismissed due to nipple confusion. But as I get more sore I'm tempted to try anything.

Considering
A) I have flat nipples
B) a is tongue tie
C) I'm in pain lol

Are they reasons for using them? As A feeds more on one side I'm getting very sore.