November 2012 - In which the babies start to reach their first birthdays

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LOL det at the whopper child. Good luck with the cheese. Am a bit jealous about the non-dairy babies starting up with their milk traces and cheese. F is still no good on anything

GT apparently mws used to check for TTs at birth, and use their little fingernail to cut the TT if they found one! Really is that simple. My gp did Fs.

pig that's rubbish about Christmas

Having a really emotional evening for some reason. Wondering if I'll ever be in love again unrequited doesn't count , hating being single Probably doesnt help that I'm watching don't tell the bride and searching for love quotes on Pinterest

BP Jonas isn't onto dairy yet so it's not just F - I'm starting traces for me but he couldn't handle it last time we tried. Haven't deliberately tried him for a while but he picked up toast and butter off the floor at playgroup today and nommed it - wah FFS I've not quit fecking dairy for it to be thwarted by some lazy moo not picking up after her kid!!! - so we'll see how tonight goes! If he can handle it I think I'm going to mix feed rather than wean at one. I'd like the convenience of someone else being able to put him to bed but I'd like to keep BF through the cold and flu season especially with him doing 2 days at nursery from November - I'd like him to keep getting the antibodies so he's not knocked over by every bug from nursery.

GT that's bollocks about the TT - NICE guidelines say it should be snipped for free on NHS if interfering with feeding. It took a second to do Jonas'. Speak to the BF support at your hospital xx

Chasing Nothing like a bit of competition to get a man interested.

Perhaps it is time to try a date with someone new?

Oh bplp I'm sorry I know it's not quite the same but F will really have no idea about xmas at this age. And certainly not know what day it's on so you can do it a different day and she'll be non the wiser says the evil mother who i missing her daughters first birthday to go to a wedding. I don't really understand how they can just cancel your holiday. Is that allowed??

chasing why on earth are you looking at love quotes on pinterest?

gt Glad you had a lovely relaxing day. My DN tie tounge was picked up at 7wks and bf got so much easier once it was sorted.

kyz Glad E self settled ok without calpol.

A close friend of mine told me today she has to have a hysterectamy. She has 2 lovely boys and in all likely hood wouldn't have had a third but it's hit her hard, understandably. I am so sad for her. There are a lot of other health issues too so she is very nervous about the op. And there is no guarantee that this op will remove everything nasty that is growing. I hope I can be of help and support to her. Brings all my winging about very insignificant problems into perspective.

bp there's no way we will be trying j with dairy. He reacted massively when we were on holiday. I had gotten ice cream on my hands and hadn't washed them before I touched James, I picked him up and he had hand prints, literally red rashy hand prints everywhere I had touched him!

det what are your thoughts re work?

GT any chance you can get referred to the Royal Free? L had his posterior TT done there at 11 wks and they were great. The sooner the better, I had to wait 3 wks and should have kicked up a fuss to be seen more quickly as it was such a late diagnosis.

Det they rang me back straightaway but then there has been hassle over the collection. Annoying but luckily do have stroller now.

Oh ok, glad to hear others haven't introduced dairy.

Eliza that's so very sad, no doubt she will appreciate your friendship.

The thing that bothers me most about Christmas is that I had psyched myself up for working Boxing day, which is usually our family day with dsd when we do presents etc, and the fact that this year would be different - but nice as me, dh and F would have Christmas on our own. And now they've changed it, and making me work every day before and after....just a shame to not get that family day.

Anyway. Will try to stop whinging now.

Chasing let's ask det to find you a 2nd man and get the competition wide open

I know it is daft Eliza, I let myself indulge my loneliness tonight which I don't usually do.

I think you're right detective - got any more men up your sleeve?! Not sure how I'm going to meet anyone else. I definitely want to though. And not just to get him interested. I want to go on dates.

I managed to get Friday off after all. But only after getting someone else to come in on her day off. She doesn't do my job so can't cover as such but apparently we need two people in our department at all times except when it suits my boss I can be left running the department on my own all week or when she decides to go off and test drive cars on a whim but she can't be on her own from 4-5.30 pm

chasing Maybe det is right?

gt poor A. See your GP and ask if they can refer you to have it snipped. Seems ludicrous that it's preventing him feeding properly and they won't do it. That can't be right.

bplp that sucks. I thought holiday had to be honoured once it's booked? Do you have a company handbook?

bplp I adore xmas so appreciate how important a family day is. I really hope you get a suitable solution.

chasing Internet dating? I know it's not for everyone but I have a lot of friends who met their partners on the internet. Two are married and a third set getting married in Nov. It's not like turning up in a pub and meeting a random stranger as you will have had a lot of communication with them before hand so in theroy should know them fairly well.

Waves at kyz :)
chasing they say you find when you're not looking
Bplp at work for you

Hello everyone. Not posted for a bit as have had no broadband for over a week (still don‘t, using phone). All l can say is if you aren‘t with BT don‘t ever try to move to them (had no phone for 2 days either!)

Sounds like you are doing great gt. Glad P is better pass, good news on the cheese front det. Can‘t remember all the other things l wanted to say oh except mm the meal yoou were pplanning a couple of pages back sounded amazing!

Everyone in the daisychain household is full of collds. Also being made redundant next year from my main source of income so stressful time. Not til next July and can reapply but l hate the uncertainty

On the positive side H had a good birthday. Saw a friend and went to a park on the day then had family and a couple of friends round on Sunday. Had a bit of a diy farm theme ~ checked table clothes, plantpots with breadsticks etc in, seeds in children's‘ party bags and a chocolate birrthday cake topped with choc buttercream as soil and dessicated coconut syed green as grass and a toy tractor on it!y

Christmas, to all of you, won't matter for LOs. This year it is just for us. I promise you that.

But in the interests of sweary Wednesday reincarnation get those swear words IN. It's been far too long.

And cheeeese. Detective I would love to be tasting cheese, or chocolate again for the first time. I gave LO a jaffa cake this week. I knw, naughty, but I will post the series of photos on FB tomorrow. Well worth the bad mumminess of giving her a jaffa cake. It was [:o]

Am I the only one not doing a birthday party?

We're not. I haven't done any for DD either but she quite likes going to them so not sure I will get away with no party when she turns 3 in January. We will have a tea with whoever of family is around and a cake for DS but no organised party. I would find it all stressful and expensive and I hate the idea of invitees feeling they have to buy presents and us then having a load of extra stuff we don't want or need. I'm such a misery guts.

Yeah my mum keeps asking about presents and quite honestly, other than the gifts I got her, she doesn't need anything. She has piles of DD1's stuff and a shitload of cardboard books to destroy... In fact, half her toys will be binned or red crossed in the next few weeks. Tricky age... Especially with older siblings.

Thanks for the suggestions re the bloody sofa. I think it is a combination of lazy and attention. It is always in the evening, so I guess tiredness doesn't help, But it also seems to be aimed at me, rather than DP - although that may be coincidence as he is at work in the evenings? We had it again this evening, although luckily on the floor not the sofa but still. I've gone for Sophia's approach of firm and kind even though shouty mum mode was fighting to get out
Thanks Eliza Did you do anything to help stop it or just accept it as one of those things? Nursery also said it was pretty normal.

Sorry F is ill again BPLP You must be totally fed up with it by now And boo hiss to crappy christmas rotas :(

glad the nurseries are good pikz and sophia It'll be lovely to have some time to yourself.

sorry about the redundancy daisy :( It is bloody stressful.

Don't think I'll be doing a birthday party PR If I do, it'll be very low key.

If you're a misery gut madam them so am I - I feel exactly the same way about presents. DD1 is 3 in December but I am hoping to get away with not having a "proper" party for another year at least - I'll do something but only with 3 friends and their kids.

bp wank badgers. My sis is a doc, and we have a bit of a lottery each year as to what she has to work. We just do Xmas on the day we can all get together. It's fine. It has its advantages too - we can see inlaws for example on actual Xmas day on the years my family has to do xmas on another day, which is important to them, and means the years when my sis can only do Xmas day, that sort of pulls rank. My view is that my family's day is the only proper Xmas and I don't care what day we do it as long as we do it!!

daisy chain bad news re redundancy. What will you do - look god something else or SAH?

apple what a load of hassle. Is this a one off do you think or is it going to be an ongoing issue?

chasing I think what eliza suggests is a good idea. I know lots of people who have net via the Internet or where the Internet has played a part. Worth browsing?!

eliza about your friend. Am sure you will be a great support.

How are you feeling about the bear starting nursery YW? Fingers crossed he won't get too many bugs - S has obviously been doing 2 days pw since I went back to work but he's done brilliantly apart from his fecking cough and although he has had colds etc, I try and think all the germ exposure is good. The worst thing about it is how both DC basically incubate germs which make DH and I ill if we are at all run down. So my recent illness was absolutely down to DC who didn't get more than mildly ill, but I was v tired and stressed at work and so I was more susceptible to some new germs. BP please don't correct probably inaccurate medical explanation

GT no idea about tongue tie but sounds like you are doing a fab job. Yay for a good, chilled day.

det feeling sympathy for work issues and just being at work and missing out at home.

S's cough is in full flow but he is totally fine. Eats, drinks, happy, playing, but it interrupts sleep. He's I with me so I am braced for a crap night. Am sure his chest is clear and its just something he is susceptible to which gets worse from tome to time as the paed indicated, but DH will be going to the GP again to make sure. Work is ok but am very busy and about to lose my fab secretary who makes my life at work easier and fun. She got a PA job with term time hours which is perfect for her but I am gutted.

izzy how is it going? Can't believe an errant bit of ice cream caused such a reaction, that must be so hard for you and the other dairy avoiders, to protect him from exposure.

Hope those not posting for whatever reason are ok.

pidj biscuits sound great!

lily we use huggies pure for every conceivable use in our lives and like them.

Hope everyone has a good night.

GT tongue tie should be snipped. End of. Tis a tiny two minute thing. He won't even feel it at this age (am fairly sure they don't feel much for quite a while) There is no way an NHS which is supposedly pro breastfeeding should allow it to continue. My two were done before we left hospital ie on day three and I was told after the fact with LO. IF it has to be done privately then I would kick up a massive fuss. And neither had trouble latching, but they still did it just in case. I wasn't there, as they think here that parents don't need to see that kind of thing. But it was over, from them taking baby from the room to bringing them back, calm, in less than ten minutes. BOLLOCKS to private. Your GP or MW can do it, is easy.

YET AGAIN a year on I cannot believe that the NHS is so crap on such simple things.

kirrin I try and be calm with DD when there are accidents don't always succeed and we spend lots of time talking about where wees and poos should go, and praise her enormously when she gets it right. Am sure they will get there. I guess for some potty training is a long process - DD can be totally dry some days but on others have several accidents.

kirrin accidents, however deliberate, need to be treated as such I think. 'Oh, you just did a pipi on the sofa and not on the loo? Nevermind, next time will be on the loo' type comments. And as gazelle says lots of praise when done correctly. I would guess that it is an attention seeking, I'm a baby too type behaviour. A phase, fingers crossed.

Oh, a plastic dolly and a pack of vvvvv cheap nb nappies from lidl might help to go from older sibling to carer mode. DD1 loves changing 'her' baby's nappies with real ones. And dolly can be used to demonstrate potty behaviour. Just a thought. Sometimes dd1 sniffs her dolly when I am changing LO and says ooooh, cacastrophe, and takes a nappy and wipe and gets on with it.. You just have to reuse the cheap dolly nappies for weeks of fun

Ffs, she has been up for 20 min. I repurpose to get her. She cries than calms down, repeat. I'm beyond exhausted. Wtf is going on with her sleep?

No party here either, can't see the point.

Repurpose? wtf iPad? Refuse!