November 2012 - To sterilise or not to sterilise (bottles that is)

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1820625-November-2012-Thinking-about-first-birthdays-Already

Vq I was just so scared of letting the kids down - dd's needs make her care needs hard to predict - I don't know how much preschool she can cope with, and she had a seizure a couple of weeks ago - which made me feel I want a close eye on her. And also that i want to make best use of her time to help her be the best that she can be. She will always find things hard and I felt that if I was always wondering if I could have done better by her it would drive me nuts (and it would). I was also worried that with fewer days at home in the week, with all dd's physio and speech work and various appts to squeeze in, quality time with g would suffer. And I do genuinely apart from today like being with the kids. On the other hand, it was just 2 days, and the new role was an opportunity I've been hanging out for a long time. I have a feeling it wouldn't feel quite right whatever I did.

Chasing - wise words as usual from vq.

Sounds like J had a good day. Way to go little man.

Bry I think you have made the right decision. I would rather regret a missed job opportunity than have the life long torture of feeling I had not done right by the kids. Another job will come up in the future when you are better able to take it without this dilemma.

J woke again and vomited everywhere. We are now in the lounge talking politics.

((((((vq))))))) thank you. You are such a sweetheart taking the time to help me when things are so tough for you. I really appreciate it. I had myself in a right tangle and couldn't sleep. Your post was pretty much my thinking prior to handing in my notice - but it is funny how much ones' identity can get tied up with work. I've felt quite lost today. And losing my financial independence forca while is a blow. Still - I will try and stay current - and when the time is right hope there will be other opportunities.

Poor J, I hope he settles soon and you both get some sleep. Big hugs to both of you.

Way to go chasing. I am glad it was a nice evening. When are you going to see him again?

bry totally agree with vq. I moved back to Hungary just to be able to stay at home with O till she is 2. I do question myself time to time whether it was right but than I look at her and I know I was right. This time will never come back.

Any time Bry

Three fucking hours! Just as well I love the little guy

DH is now awake reading as the noise disturbed him. I had to wake him to hold J while I got changed as I was soaked, so I will let him off this time.

Hi Lily. Sorry you are awake too x

Insomnia vq. O has been sleeping since 7.

Thanks both. G has been an angel tonight but dd1 has had me up again and i'm not sleeping. Thing is dd1 could be at preschool in the mornings (and afternoons if she could manage) and mil had offered to have g, with dd from when she comes home - which in some ways would be lovely. But she has also offered to have g's cousin (the same age), so there would be 3 of them. She had dd 3 days a week before I went on mat leave and enjoyed it but found it hard. My concern was that 3 who are learning to walk and in nappies would be too much and dd might not get the rest she needs for 2 consecutive days at preschool (and that I won't have enough visibility to be sure it is working). Does it still sound the right decision to you?

Morning all. I read last night but was too tired to lift finger to pad.

chasing that sounds great and he sounds like a gentlemen. pass is right you should be thinking do you like him, it is good that you didn't rush in. Really you should take it nice and slow and have a proper old fashioned romance. I am so please for you though and glad Oscaf bounces

Well done in your interview mm fingers crossed for the next stage.

yesterday was hard work, we had fish and chips and a bottle of wine for tea. It was lush. We cleaned upstairs, which took nearly 3 hours because it is so dusty, then varnished 7 doors, the granite work tops went in and DH boarded part of the loft. Then I looked after 2 unruly boys had my fish and chips, wine and sleep.

Similar today but downstairs.

Hopefully we will be in next weekend. [ fingers crossed emoticon] how long will it take me to recover I wonder?!

Morning all, no more to add to what people have said chasing but he sounds very nice, very respectful and that is a nice start.

Last day home alone with the girls. I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Since the illnesses kind of merged into the work thing (started stressing back in March about that when I had my annual appraisal don't get me started ) It's been a shitty year really. But I do have two lovely girls that I love and who love taunting me

So relief, joy, sadness, feeling of failure, but above all the realisation that in two weeks, if everything goes to plan, I will have a clean house, an even fuller freezer, and lots of childfree time though work doesn't really count as childfreetime as my boss acts like a spoilt teen with a tiny clique cheerîg her on But we'll see about that anyway.

Sounds like you are doing brilliantly Sophia. Very exciting :-)

Forgot to say well donecand good luck to you too mm.

Just woke dh for a chat before he went to work. He thinks it would be too much for his mum - she'll already have the cousin (who is gorgeous) 3 very long days and she struggled with dd with less. He just doesn't think it would be a realistic option. So I guess I probably have done the right thing. Better just get on with enjoying it now and stop bellyaching.

Good luck pr - hope you do enjoy today and the girls are kind to you. You've done brilliantly with all this and are far, far from a failure (but I recognise the emotion, feeling the same from the other side!). Being a mum is hard sometimes.

Was it Daisy who said Sept 12 were only on their second thread? March 11 have been on the same thread for over a year. I think we are pretty much unique and we have all gained so much from knowing each other. I'm not sure how I'd have coped without you lot especially over Xmas and New Year, but also the last couple of months. Nov 12 Quiche kicks serious arse.

It's all going well so far. DD1 is still asleep. LO is in a much better mood for now. I am slightly concerned about nursery - LO is going to find it hard from a separation point of view, though she'll love the freedom and new toys; DD1 is going to love it except for being told what to do and, more likely, what not to do.

But she really really needs social interaction and someone giving her things to do and giving her boundaries that she can't just choose to ignore. I hope she doesn't beat up too many of the other children.

It was the right decision Bry but also a difficult decision. You have had to sacrifice your career path for now and your financial security plus your self-esteem gained from working and doing your job well. It is only natural to regret those things. But if it helps your daughter to achieve progress any quicker or gives your kids added emotional security or allows you to attend appointments without having to rush out of work an back again stressing over delays... There are lots of positives in this change. I think any decision of that magnitude leaves you strung out for a while.

I reckon we deserve an award, Well you lot do, I only post once a week or so

I agree with PR that this quiche is unique. I have made some very good friends on here. The quiche has literally been life changing for me. I can't imagine that there is anybody on another PN thread whose first thought after a date is to update the thread with what happened

Tired today. Very tired.

Thank you stunt - that made me cry more and feel better all at the same time. This quiche is indeed a lifeline.

Bry tough call. I think I'm your nearest if you need quicheyness, just let me know :)

VQ trying to crawl sounds promising, although the disturbed nights while they get the hang of it aren't fun

Wow Sophia that's an immense amount of work

R woke twice (12:30 and 3) for cuddles, then slept till 7 :o

I was made redundant last year Bry which was pretty awful all round. But suddenly all my concerns about DS1 starting high school next year seem a lot more manageable because I will be available if he needs me and I will be able to be more involved with the school putting in measures to help him. It's not great having our income reduced but to be honest we were overspending on a lot of things anyway, especially with both of us working long hours, so having to tighten our belts is no bad thing.

bry I was made redundant when I was pregnant with DD1. I had pretty much decided not to go back after mat leave anyway as it would have been so hard to do my job with children and I didn't want to work more than 2 days a week poss 3. So I thrashed it out with my company ad got redundancy. And whilst it was pretty much my decision it didn't really make it any easier. I felt lost for quite a while after which was also weird as I never thought of myself as a career minded person. DH set up our finances so that I wasn't asking him for money which helped as it was strange losing my financial independence. I had alway been quite fiercely proud of the fact I had never needed any financial help. But that all passed and now I'm in no doubt that I made the right decision. I will go back to work one day but now I'm enjoying E without any of the work issues I had with DD1. You'll get there, it's so tough but I have no doubt thy you've done what's best and you'll come to realise that in time x

Oh and meant to add pr I hope you have a good day. I will be prancing about with my Pom pomms when DD1 goes back to nursery. I've hot to wait till bloody 16th sept.

Right got dietician coming at 10am to access E so better get myself dressed!!

O had an excellent night, and is in fine form this morning! I was expecting and braced for a fucker!

He went to bed at 7.30, and there were no wakings at all til 7.45am when DP's alarm went off! Then he didn't even cry! Normally when he wakes he cries, but no, he just babbled away and played for ages! So I had a nice long leisurely wake up . I hate having to throw myself out of bed first thing! I like at least 20 minutes to wake up!!

And he is smiley, chatty, and being generally funny and lovely this morning!

Yesterday his wake ups were similar after his naps - no crying! Just waking up chatting away! I like this! Keep it up!

Dietician today, but bit pointless, as nothing will change. Oh well. It gets me out the house right?!

And he only had his bottle at 9! He's due a nap now, so think I will just skip breakfast and give it for lunch instead. :)

Use for frozen home made purees that will never be used for their original purpose: mix and add tomato base for pasta sauces. Freeing up space in my freezer...

This is the second day in a row that LO has skipped her morning nap

Oh well, that will be nursery's problem