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PerilousStiletto · 07/08/2013 12:46

I liked this one. :)

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PerilousStiletto · 09/10/2013 04:04

You were brave opening a AIBU! I'm startled that anyone thought you were. It was a good idea.
Some people are idiots.

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mopsytop · 09/10/2013 06:40

Totally not being unreasonable aethel. Wow people are odd the way they respond to things.

Feeling v ill and headachy and three seminars today … taking train as don't want to end up with a splitting head and have to drive home. Takes way longer though but at least can work in train and I even had time to make a flask of coffee before I left. Feeling bad cos minim really didn't want me to leave and was clinging to me and crying mama mama when I had to go Sad Mr. M feeling queasy too. Hope we aren't all coming down with sth.

Hope you got a bit more sleep Oi.

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 09/10/2013 10:30

I loved the video Oi, he's such a little darling. You need to NC back, I can't get used to peril. Boo for not getting much sleep, we're having similar here, I think it's teefs.

Hope today wen tok mopsty and that you're all feeling better.

aethal big boo and hiss to germs and ills. As Ds would say 'GO 'WAY! I NO LIKE IT!'

There was much snorting and chuckling over the penis beaker thread here too. It's just so... odd. I can't figure out the logistics of the dunking?!

Things are the same old, same old here. DS has been sleeping like shite, working on some new teefs and not happy about it. He's generally very adorable at the minute, and just never.stops.talking. We're off to stay at the inlaws for a long weekend, which will be nice (read; they will be having a whale of a time entertaining DS while I eat biscuits and drink TV). Have got mega loads of work to get done today though and I'm just not feeling it. Blurgh, can't push this deadline though so better pull finger out.

Side note, I've been throwing round the idea of doing my MA for a while, but just couldn't figure out how to do it with childcare and costs and work and balancing general life - the courses I like aren't available locally. BUT I've just found an online course, through University of York, which is three years but each year is a stage so can only do first or second if I want (certificate, diploma or continue on to do MA), the course looks fab - Public Policy and Management, and I think it would really help direction-wise with my career and help me progress. It's online study, essays, discussion groups etc but all done remotely.. Thoughts? Anyone done anything similar?

NorthernChinchilla · 09/10/2013 19:55

Ooh, very brave of you aethel; I've phoned a school before to complain about the behaviour of kids, and yours is a far more constructive and caring thing! It gets on my wick actually, the way people think they can behave in cars...don't get me started on people who use their mobile whilst driving, and it's the same sort of thing.

Remote learning is grand, but the things I'd consider Hop are:

  • What qualifications do the people who are doing the job you'd like to be promoted into have?
  • Have you taken advice internally/with a senior bod about what they'd actually look for in people they promote?
  • What sort of intake is it on the course, ie is it all first-time post grads or established professionals?
  • What do their graduates go on to do?
  • Do you feel you're disciplined enough/have enough time/have enough support to do an MA?

It's difficult enough doing it when you're childless, so it would be pretty tough and eat up all your weekends. However, I'd always say it's worth it, and if you can afford to do it, just simply for the joy of learning.

Hope you're home safely now mopsy, can you nap on the train?

By the way, thanks for the ELC tips folks- my Mum couldn't get the discount, but she'll definitely get him the water table given the glowing reviews from everyone Smile

Not too bad here, DS less snotty so slept better. DP is insisting we get some nursery photos, even if they are bad, so off goes £20. He's taken his ball obsession to new hights lows? by not only taking it to bed with him at nursery, but holding onto it and not letting go, "even when he was deeply asleep" Confused!

Suddenly heard about two very senior people leaving at work, so it's going to be an interesting few weeks.....

mopsytop · 09/10/2013 20:19

Just got home thanks. 14 hour day door to door. Tired! Seminars were fine though. Phew.

Aethelfleda · 09/10/2013 20:43

Glad you're Ok mopsy.

northern, a ball obsession sounds positively refined from this end. dS has discovered stripping: he's worked out the T-Shirt removal just today, and at nursery he insisted on going to sleep with his socks determinedly wedged in his armpits. Classy dude. (And good luck with the work stuff)

Tonight's entertainment is Dr Horrible's Singalong Blog, courtesy of DH's teeny amazon habit. So THAT's what happened to Dougie Howzer....

NorthernChinchilla · 09/10/2013 20:45

Forgot to say, really pleased about your DH LadyG, hope it can really be tackled now and he can get himself back on an even keel.

And that's hilarious aethel Grin I can so picture him!

LadyGoodman · 09/10/2013 21:38

Bloody penis beaker thread has broken MN Grin

I had to change my nieces nappy at the weekend DS went skitzo that I was tending to another lo. I clearly found it quite funny Grin ridiculously I was holding my friends 3mo DS at weekend and it was really scary reminded me of pre DS when I useless with babies and scared of holding them.

mopsytop · 10/10/2013 08:52

Haha just read the penis beaker thread. Made me laugh out loud! People sure can be odd!

So nice to have a day to work at home! Got bus with minim to nursery as her buggy tired burst and waiting for new one to arrive. She loved sitting in a real seat! Now having a lovely coffee as library not open til 9. So nice to take half an hour to just relax before starting my day. A rare treat.

Beginning to feel v broody. Still remembering the absolute awfulness of last pregnancy though. Don't want to go through that again... Sad

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 10/10/2013 11:26

mopsy I'm dying of broodiness. My ovaries are practically bashing me to death with all their clanging. I nearly bought another sling the other day that would have been perfect for another baby, you know, the one I'm not going to have. Le sigh.

Thanks for the comments about the course northern. It looks like the students are mostly public sector workers and people employed in the areas I want to work; public policy, welfare benefits and third sector orgs working in policy development. I haven't been able to speak to any one who works in policy development about how they go there, so that's something to pursue, this course seems to be more practically based rather than the more theoretical Social Policy courses. It says you'd need 10 - 15 hours a week to do the reading and work, and I think I could manage that by doing it after bedtime and giving up my Saturday lie ins to do some work then. I really miss studying, I loved doing my degree. I'm just at a point where I need to do something to give me more direction and focus.

Saying that I'm shattered because I was up till 1 doing a piece of work that I still haven't finished. Going to be taking work home with me this weekend too, good job inlaws are obsessed so involved when DS is around!

Faffin · 10/10/2013 12:20

Penis beaker has gone global. A friend of mine in Texas posted a link on facebook to a buzzfeed story about it. Check out " best of the penis beaker debate" on buzzfeed.com Grin

QueenofClean · 10/10/2013 12:32

I had a peaceful night last night on my own (once girls in bed) DH home tonight, tried to MN but the Penis Beaker thread broke it :( so resorted to watching crappy tv.

It's not even funny just a little strange!

Sky has got a chesty cough sounds like she's barking and really snotty. Darcie and I just have sniffly noses.

LadyGoodman · 10/10/2013 13:00

QOC i am on the cold and flu now too, no appetite and it is miserable in london today froze my bits off at the tube station this morning. Have a meeting until 4 then mad dash across london to get back to bristol, am missing my little man today .....i have gone soft :-)

Mopsy and Hop i have been near delirious with broodiness at times this year i convinced myself i was pg last month as i was 2 days late i did 4 pg tests even though i knew in my head i wasnt. I am feeling like i am coming through it though i am 33 in Jan if i dont get pg next year that is it for me and at the moment DS is so lovely and we are in lovely bubble i am not sure in my heart of hearts i would be ready for the newborn baby stage again....DH definitely not keen although he has said we can get pg once his issues are resolved/more stable. Considering Ds took less than 2 months and the MC happened after 1 night of foolishness i dont expect there to be an issue getting pg but you never know.

I am going to name change back asap.

mopsytop · 10/10/2013 13:33

I'm still having the 'but what about my job' conversation in my head. 2 year contract and I sorely need the experience but I am 35. would be 36 having baby even if I got preg now. don't want to wait too long. ugh. what do you lot think?

Aethelfleda · 10/10/2013 15:31

Mopsy, are you calling me elderly?

Aethelfleda · 10/10/2013 15:32

Ps good friend of mine had her two at 40 and 43. She's fine. They are a great family.

Aethelfleda · 10/10/2013 15:45

Pps saw xiaos new LO today . No broodiness here. NoSiree. We're done.

hinkyhonk · 10/10/2013 16:42

If we go for it next year I'll be 36 when dc3 arrives. But then again a load oft friends haven't even started to have kids. Plus the study that said fertility dropped off loads at 35 was apparently carried out in rural France in the 1850s

mopsytop · 10/10/2013 17:13

Tis true. I'm also worried bout the age gap with minim. We are all two years apart in my family and it is a nice gap but I didn't know my elder sis (6 years older) or bro (4 years older) v we until we grew up. So I'm not sure I want to wait til minim is 4. If wasn't for job situation I'd defs already be preg with no 2 (assuming I got preg easily). Ugh. I wish it was simple.

And no aethel you're possibly the youngest person on this thread (at heart at least Wink )

mopsytop · 10/10/2013 17:15

And I love my sis/bro and get on fab with them so it isn't like a major issue and I'm sure lots of you will have positive experiences with similar age gaps. I really just want someone to say go on have a baby it won't fuck up your career. But no one can say thatSad

Aethelfleda · 10/10/2013 20:56

mopsy my love, having children can (and probably will) affect your career. I know it's impacted on mine a great deal. BUT you go ahead and have babies whenever you darned well like, and the thread told you so (didn't we, girls? Back me up here!) twenty years from now you will have one-two/three/five loving DC, and that family is what really matters, not how many stripes you have on your epaullettes.

mopsytop · 10/10/2013 21:19

Aww thanks aethel. Your post brought a rare nearly-tear to my eye.

I DO really really really want to just say sod it and have another baba. But I worked so hard for this career change and I'm also scared of fucking it up for myself. So I'm really hesitating. But I think you're right. Family is more important by a mile. By a million miles.

LadyGoodman · 10/10/2013 21:42

DS said I love mummy and I love daddy tonight almost died it was so cute Grin

PerilousStiletto · 10/10/2013 22:22

How old are you Aethel? I thought I was the oldest. Smile I will be 41 this month and have every intention of getting pregnant next week. Wink
Career... Maybe I am fortunate in that I am older and well established in my job. But having Boi hasn't been detrimental to my career. It hasn't helped - in the bosses' eyes. But I have pointed out to them that since having Boi I am even more super-efficient than I was before, because that's what I have to be, being a full time worker, main house-worker, main parent... You know what I mean. Anyway, I will have another baby, and they will darned well like it and believe I am even more super. Eventually.
As for being a mum at 40+, it's no big deal. I run around just as much as the other parents at football (if not more). I'm fit and healthy, I'm confident and calm - and happy in myself. I am patient. There are loads of good things that come with age that help parenting. You just need good knees. Smile (But I'm pretty fit, so we're ok!)

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QueenofClean · 11/10/2013 00:20

Mopsy - I agree with Aethel. Just do it Smile

Oi - sending good luck conceiving vibes to you Wink

Well Sky has croup poor mite. On a course of steroids so hopefully that will help massively over next couple of days.

DH is home and taking up my star fishing room!