Dec 11: Not tonight dear, I've got a haddock.

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I liked this one. :)

I'm not on the fb group either, so can't see photo . I namechanged from Kate btw

Must befriend xiao only seen her in the group so no baby pic to goo over.

LadyG/figgygal/Victoria here Kristy

Lovely pic of Giles on FB

QoC - Darcie & Sky's mom - Gem

Been to ikea and got Sky's birthday present plus some extras for our kitchen

Kedgeree for tea? Girls are bathed so after dinner they will be ready for bed and then I'll be cracking open the as it is deserved after DD1 attitude today :(

I'm boring, been through various name changes but I still like being seven. I hardly ever go on the fb group though, too much shit on (general) fb, winds me up and I tend to only go on once in a while, though I'll have to go and check out Giles.

DD1 has been horrible, such a stroppy madam had a massive tantrum when I tried to help her put her pyjamas on, yet she happily lets DH help her . DH is at work, DDs both asleep and DS staying at nannys. I bought 2kg of pickling onions today so that's my job for tonight.

What did you get for Sky queen?

I've copied Giles' photo onto the Top Secret fb page so you can ogle him. (I don't think Xiao will mind. Hope not.)

DS came over clutching his bottom saying poo .....very proud wish he'd waited though dinner was literally going on table and it's bath night so new nappy lasted approx 23 minutes. But still excellent work for him!!

Well done babyG!
Boi trumped in the bath this morning, and adopted a crouch position. I asked if he wanted a poo. He said poo. I said you can't poo in the bath, swiped out the toilet seat thing and wrestled him onto it. He screamed and insisted, over and over, "poo in bath!" He didn't use the toilet so I got a nappy on him. The poo didn't arrive for another 6 hours or so...

Seven we got Sky a little wooden kitchen and some bits to go with them like saucepans , utensils, plates , cups etc.

Headache after stressful day with Darcie :( but will make it better right.

Well done to those on the potty front!

Sky is asleep, Darcie is sat downstairs with DH. I've just got out of a bath and sat in our bedroom enjoying the peace!

Giles is so cute.

We got Hope a rocking horse for birthday from amazon it should have been £90 but i got it for £30

Hope is pushing boundries today and i lost it with her and feel so bad now. We put her to bed early as i couldnt cope with her anymore. I just feel bad about it but know it will get worse before it gets better as she is a smart cookie.To get her to sleep we all had to protent to go to sleep

Aaron has started foundation and has started reading and learning phonics and only two weeks in he has S ticked off and can read group a and is learning is, a, the and yes sight words. Im so proud of him he is doing his reading each night and praticing his writing. He is writing his full name as well so its a good start to school year so far

Well Freya continues to "entertain" and challenge us. We were at the animal farm today. DS gets a stick to dip in the lake on the little beach bit. Freya looks as if she is going to stand and join him (I am literally a metre behind her) ... she just keeps on walking into the lake! Not only that but at the first step she doesnt stop but keeps on walking till she falls over. I grab her out but she is covered head to toe in not too clean lake water and I dont have a complete change with me. I had to strip her off and put her in just a water proof coat and wrap her in my gillet. She of course insisted that her soaking wet wellies went back on her feet! Cut short our morning out.

Giles is very cute but doesnt bring out any broodiness in me - am definitely done!

That kitchen sounds good queen - we need to think of some birthday and christmas ideas soon. I think Freya would like that.

freya says "toilet" and sits on it a bit but is not ready to go in it yet. I am happy to leave her in nappies for some time yet.

Today is a clear-up-the-house-a-bit day. There is so much washing to put away as my usual housework time has been eaten by the getting back to work malarkey....

oi, DD2 has a broken arm. She's coping fine though, just pootling about with it in a cast, sleeping fine, I'm giving her calpol and neurofen when it aches and she's being very good.

Had my nephews birthday today at the local playzone and my girls loved it. So much so they've been bathed and Sky is fast asleep already, Darcie in bed with TV on settling down for the night.

The unit & shelves we got in ikea yesterday for our kitchen yesterday have totally transformed it...I love it. Just need new flooring, new tiles, new units and new oven & hob and kitchen done lol.

Time to chill with a glass of wine now.

Jiggle m.ikea.com/gb/en/catalog/products/spr/49874533/ this is the kitchen we brought Sky yesterday

Thanks for all the good wishes you lovely lot and thanks also to Oi for posting the pic to the FB group for me he's a gorgeous laid-back little pudding and we're still getting used to his dark(er) hair - I think after ice baby DS we just assumed all babies had white blonde hair and pale blue eyes!! This one has mousey hair and dark grey blue eyes (at the moment).

He is feeding like a champ (yay tandem feeding, no nipple pain and loads of milk!) and weed all over DH and my mother this morning she and my dad are horrified at meconium nappies as DBro and I were both in ICU at birth for long enough for that all to have passed them by. MIL was here too and so so helpful but sadly had to leave today.

Now just concentrating on getting through the next few days of after pains while feeding, and somewhat ridiculously I have an ice pack to my shoulder - somehow I wrenched it in hospital trying to haul myself upright without hurting my stomach, I'm such a klutz.

But the intro to DS1 went brilliantly - he came pattering into our room at 6.30am, was SO happy to see me, and then came into bed with us to meet DS2. We asked him who it was and he pointed and immediately said "Baby Giles! Baby brother. So small, gentle" and we gave him a panda "from" the baby which he then tried to give "back" to Giles He patted my stomach a couple of times and said "very careful mama tummy". And since then he has pretty much ignored him...we'll see how he feels in a week when Giles is still here!!

Lovely to hear from u xiao glad all is well flabbergasted by ds1 speech too.

Just put DS in a new pair of pjs from next size 2-3 they r practically sprayed on they r so small finally broke and bought his new Hayley dino skeleton coat yesterday he looks über cool for winter now

Oh and another day no nap seems if he out in car he will sleep if not he's happy just staying up it doesn't seem to make him overtired or grumpy though so happy to go with it.

Oh flip, I must be mega broody, your post almost has me in tears Xiao!!
We've had a hugely productive day. DH tackled the mountain of ironing, we cleaned the kitchen, and then I potted a new plant, went to garden centre for the pot and lots of smaller plants, then re-made the hanging baskets in front of the house (x4), then cleaned the front of the house, dug over the front garden patch, eradicated weeds, covered the outside furniture for winter... All in glorious sunshine.
I now have a broken back and a bucket of wine. This evening is brought to you by the letter b.
But next will be x (factor) And then d, Downton. B = bliss!

xiao - lovely to hear from you and how sweet - DS1 sounds adorable! And yes amazing speech.

Qofc - thanks for the kitchen link - I like it and good price reduction. I try to avoid pink plastic things so I like the fact it is wood (and not pink!)

oi - wow - we never get that much done in a day anymore. DH was out most of the day (his hobby is fairly time consuming) so just getting through the day with the 2 of them and a bit of washing etc is all I can hope for! Mind you, within 45 mins of him coming him we'd managed to row as he cannot entertain Freya and leave me time with DS very successfully at all but freya is a real mummy's girl at the moment so it is hard.

Bit of X factor, Downton and wine here too!

Ahh that's sounds lovely Xiao :)

One if my friends is due in two weeks, I can't wait to meet her baby :) we know it's a girl, so I've bought a little outfit for her!

I've been busy Xmas shopping (early I know!), just got to save up now for DH, DS, DM and DBro. They're the main 4 and going to be lots of fun this year as last year I was on unpaid mat leave!

Clothes wise, DS is just growing out of his 18-24 month pj's and tops, but he is still comfortable in his 18-24 month trousers. I think by Xmas he will be in 2-3 year size.

DM is visiting next week, can't wait!!!

DS comfortably fills his 2-3 year stuff- we started buying it at 18 months- and I don't think he'll last the whole winter in this set of clothes.

We had a similarly productive day Oi, DP did the ironing and I've made mountains of soup, and then we took DS out to the really good park, and stopped off at a fish n chip restaurant on the way home ! This just about made up for the fact that DP unilaterally decided to lie in til gone 11 am, git....

Is the shoulder pain possibly the 'shoulder tip pain' or whatever it's called that you get after c-sections Xiao? I know it's one thing I was warned about, and I got it too- thought I'd pulled a muscle as well, but it's the displaced pain from really trapped wind after the section. I am afraid if it is you'll need to be unladylike to get rid of it, lots of peppermint!

Can't wait to see a pic of Giles, and sounds like everything's going swimmingly.

SO sorry to hear about DD2 aethel, how did she do that? Glad to hear she's not suffering with it, but blimey, poor thing.

Good lord, it would take us weeks to get all that done Oi

xiao that sounds lovely. (I want another baby!)

jiggle Freya has style, that's very funny (though possibly not for you at the time).

I am feeling glum today. I'm struggling; DS just prefers daddy. If DH is here, I might as well not exist. He grabbed my hand to go for a walk earlier, then looked up and realised he had grabbed me, not DH, let go with disgust and went to DH. DH is finding it hard going to, as he just never gets a break if he's in the house. Weirdly, when DH isn't here (at work, or away) DS doesn't care, and is happy as a clam and we play all day. But as soon as daddy walks in the door, mummy can fuck off it seems. I'm just... it's really upsetting me. We changed up the routine so that I'm putting him to bed every night, and he's sleeping a lot better and bedtimes are less stressful because he's not screaming whenever DH tries to leave the room, but it's not helping during the weekends. On Sunday's it's DH's lie in and DS is absolutely fine then, we even play 'sssshhhh daddy's sleeping!' games when we're going up and down the stairs, and he's happy to be with me. But as soon as DH is up... I feel like just taking DS back to my parents every week so I don't feel so bloody sidelined. And to top it off, DH is a bit of a shouty dad. We've had so many conversations about him needing to adjust his expectations and stop getting so arsey when DS is playing up but he still gets really cross, and DS just thinks it's funny, so DH gets crosser and then I intervene because no one is learning anything from all the shouting and naughtyness, and then I feel like a shit back seat parent. I just don't get why he is so clingy. DH has always been around, and done 50% of the parenting and drudgy work of nappies etc, he's not a 'fun dad', I just feel really left out. I was thinking earlier that one of the driving forces for me wanting another baby (not that that is ever going to happen) was that maybe the next one would like me best. How shit is that? I feel awful because when it's just me and DS, everything is fine and we're thick as thieves and so happy and have so much fun, then daddy comes along and I just disappear.

Sorry for the me me me ramble. Am just sad and can't really talk about this IRL as everyone thinks I'm so lucky to have a DH that gets his hands dirty with parenting.

oh dear hop :( I can understand how frustrating that must be. No advice I'm afraid but tons of sympathy. You know he loves you so much that he can be secure preferring daddy at times though. Weirdly, it shows how secure he is in your love.

I'm wrecked but lovely weekend. Managed to get a few hrs work in during Minim's nap yesterday and today. Otherwise we tidied the while house... HUGELY overdue; there was crap allover. I also cleaned bathroom.and hoovered everywhere and we did about five loads of laundry. We also went out for lunch today and minim was fab and then we went for a run around the botanical gardens... fab weather and minim had a ball. So all round nice but also productive weekend. Having a clean and clutter free house feels SO nice.

Still not sure we were as productive as you though Oi!

figgy you were dead right to get the coat. I got minim a fab yellow quilted one from boden, it's ace and she loves wearing it and asks to put it on!

xiao glad all going well! P has amazing lang skills, like my nephew. 2 mths younger than minim but ridiculous lang skills. He sounds like a 4 year old. Not that I'm . Well. Only a wee bit

Hop ds1 was like that at the same age to the extent of pushing me away when dh was near. It hurts like hell and we're supposed to be grown up about it but it's so hard to be. Hope it is reassuring but it does go in phases so I was favoured for a while although dh is still the main one he wants overnight (ha ha ha ha ha). Not going to help but ds2 is definitely a mummy's boy so dh is getting a feeling of what it is like now. Grin and bare my dear I'm afraid and it will get better

Thanks, I try not to let it bother me most of the time as I know that when it's just the two of us he thinks I rock, but when DH is mega grumpy with him and he still follows him around and cries when he leaves the room I get so fed up. Blurgh. We've got soft play tomorrow, that's always fun and will cheer me up.