Dec 11: Not tonight dear, I've got a haddock.

[PerilousStiletto]

I liked this one. :)

Hop, I could've written that post... DP once even jokingly called me 'the surrogate' and said we should have another child 'so I could have one'. I told him to fuck off that it was a bit close to the bone, and it doesn't help that I work full time, and more than DP, so he does all the pick ups/drop offs at nursery.

It's balanced out a fair bit now, but I know the hurt you can feel. And yes, everyone thinks DP is wonderful as he does half of all the childcare and took half my maternity leave, and it IS great, but it doesn't stop you wanting to be the favourite. And I know how sad that sounds!

I do think we owe it to ourselves and our DCs though to keep on parenting how we think best, and to remind ourselves they love us really

Sorry to hear that, hop. We have the opposite here, and DH gets quite upset. Just as with you, Boi has a fab time with DH when I'm not around, but when I'm in the room, DH doesn't get much of a look in.
Actually, it is slightly better now than it was - there 's hope yet.
We've always completely shared everything "parenting", although I do all the drop offs and pick ups from Childcare. And obviously in the first 6 mths, I did the feeding. But it doesn't sound like there's any pattern between you, me and Northern that can be read.
Whilst I love being the favourite, it can be a complete pita when I'm trying to cook or do something.
My favourite times are when it's just us two, that's when I feel our bond, and it sounds like you have those moments too - so I guess just treasure them, and hope that DS gets out if this silly phase of preferring the shouty one!

Oooo we are thinking of getting that kitchen too QoC

oi (you shall always be oi lol) we are only just in 18-24 month clothes! Started worrying a little, but i guess he will catch up eventually. Hopefully hes not taken after my height, but his dads 6ft1 lol

we still haven't attempted potty training. Hes just not ready. He will say he needs a pooh, but wees come at anytime... Although he has started grabbing his junk before he has one!

Good to hear it's not just me. DH at work today and DS slept till half seven (WIN!) so didn't see him this morning, he's been lovely all morning and just gone for a nap. I'm currently trying to sort out the worlds biggest pile of baby clothes into different sized piles. It is mad; I can't just give them to a charity shop, but don't really want to sell them as a lot were gifts, but can't keep storing them forever. I've given some away to friends, and my cousin is having a baby in November so if it's a boy I can give some more away. I just don't know how he ever wore so many clothes!

Hop we are the same as peril in our house DS clings to me, always shouts for me, comes to me with books and toys and even runs past DH when dropped off by BM to look for me he feels shit at times about it but knows it isnt personal. DH is also the disciplinarian in the house so i wonder if he comes to me because i am crap at telling him off. It's all a phase. Also with you on what to do with clothes we got rid of everything up to 9 months when i was determined I wasnt having any more since then i have put 3 full binliners and boxes of clothes in the loft where they will have to stay until they crash through the ceiling, we either dont have another or we have a girl, such a waste he has such beautiful clothes.

Kri5ty dont worry about potty training we not even thinking about it until at least next summer, DS has a thomas potty chair in his room but he has taken to literally using it as a chair when reading books....probably should put a stop to it. On the clothes front DS is 91st centile for weight and height, I am 5ft 10 and he is so like me long bodied and short legged, he is still in 3 pairs of 12-18month trousers which i cant believe still go round his waist. He wears mainly 18-24 tops have been buying 2-3 ones for a while but they just seem ridiculously large on him.

First lecture tomorrow. Two hours long. Nervous nervous nervous nervous.....

Hmm... I would say DS wants me if he's hurt, ill or tired, but definitely looks to DH for fun!

DH and I both share things like putting him to bed, baths, nappy changing etc., and I'd say we are both quite strict! Poor DS!

Busy week for us ahead, working next 3 days with 2 exercise classes, visiting a friend on Friday, then baby group in the afternoon, them DM coming to stay :-)

Good luck for tomorrow Mopsy just think next time will be easier!!

We're just giving them to charity Hop- I've kept all the under 12 month stuff, and then all the dungarees/coats/trousers for 12+ months. The rest is off, got a bag going out tonight.

Wow aethel, broken arm and puking... d'ya think they just waited until you were back at work for full parental stress ? Hope they perk up soon.

I am sure you will do brilliantly mopsy- if you know your subject, which I'm sure you do given your job(!) you'll find it all flows out, even if you don't stick to the 'script'. Hope you sleep well, and let us know how you got on.

We got the memorandum of sale today and survey booked, just need to hear the date. So we just need the bloke at the top of the chain to bloody find somewhere.

Oh, and DS got his pictures back from the nursery...better than last year when he screamed at the photographer and we didn't get anything, but he's not smiling in any, and at best looks a bit meh, and at worst a fat-necked yokel. Photogenic just like his mother then, sigh...

Best of luck for tomorrow Mopsy! You'll be fab!

Pompoms for you today mopsy, you'll knock 'em dead!

No need for luck mopsy you'll smash it!!

Woke up at 4.50 .....my eyes Hurt

Have a good day Mopsy - good luck

Hope it goes well Mopsy, you'll be fab!

You'll do a great job mopsy :)

Hope the puking comes to an end soon aethel.

northern sounds like house stuff is going well, hope the survey is ok.

We had a chat last night about more children and have decided we're definitely done. I'm a bit sad in a way but I know there are too many reasons not to have another, plus I think I'm probably the type that I'll always want just one more. I know I should be thankful for what I have and I'd feel I'd been incredibly selfish if we had another boy with MD.

In other news apparently BIL was out drinking in a members club the other night (it's the only place left locally he isn't barred from) when someone told him if he didn't leave he'd be "beaten to a pulp" :o. Sorry, I know violence doesn't solve anything but it did amuse me just a little bit, even DH said he wished he had been.

Thanks everyone. It went fine. Another two hour lecture tomorrow then my first week of teaching is done. Massive hurdle!

PS the support on here is awesome. Thanks so much lovely ladies

argh assistance needed. an ex boyfriend works for the same firm as me (massive number of people employed around the country). I haven't seen/spoken to him in over a decade. we have one mutual friend who mentioned to him that she had seen me last week and now he has sent an email to say hi. NO idea what to respond with. in fact i don't want to respond at all but i have to as there is a chance that i might need to talk to him professionally at some point (god i hope not).

any ideas?

have drafted:
I'm good thank you - I've been with the firm for a good seven years now which seems crazy. Definitely a world away from [previous job we worked at together] for me. Sounds like you are getting on well in [northern town].

can i just leave it there please!?

Sounds fine to me. No questions so he has no need to reply. Maybe he just felt nostalgic!

Seven - it's awful, isn't it. I hate violence of any kind. Hate it. But... Sometimes... Well, I like that he got a warning and told that his presence was not acceptable.
Hinky - if you absolutely do not want to open up contact. Then leave it another day before you reply. (I'd be tempted to ignore it completely.) refer briefly to what you are doing. But don't mention "sounds like you're doing ok". It gives him an open door to respond and provide further info.

I think that your email sounds pretty good hinky, a pleasant nod to times past without being in any way a conversation starter/flame rekindling. What counts next is his reaction to your email (hopefully either no reply or a short one liner to say "yep. Things are fine." The tone of any reply will tell you volumes and hopefully have the unspoken message of "nothing to see, move along".

Hmmm. dH drafted in as extra emergency childcare cover for tomorrow AGAIN, as DS and DD2 still not well. Arg. I'm only doing a short shift but that will have to be it until they are both better.DH being lovely about it, but I hate leaving them when they are poorly, even for a few hours....

Thanks for comments will go for a very bland reply tomorrow and hope that is it. Pretty sure he is married with kids too so no idea what the point is

Had another hour long wait at Dr's last night DS snoring again honestly he is like a train it is sooo loud!! The CM says she has never heard anything like it. Fobbed off with antihistamines and to go back in a month. He will be sleeping in with us this weekend as we off visiting in Scotland might have to have a couple of Gins to knock me out.

Have to deliver a presentation at an induction even this afternoon have just spilled lentil soup all down the front of my fave black work dress.......shite!!

Oh and Peril loved the vids of Boi on FB sooo cute!!!!

I need a haddock!

Im sat at home worrying about Aaron in school. He had a temp Monday and didnt go to school was off yeasterday went in today a his teacher called me he fell off his chair and banged his nose and head and their was blood. He seemed ok and wanted to stay in school. I asked if it was broken but they cant tell!

So i said he could stay in school. Now im worried but too scsred to call and check on him!

He will be fine right?

voodoo if the school was worried they would be practically throwing him at you... Bumped noses often bleed. It's virtually impossible to break a young child's nose as it's almost all cartilage, it wil bend and swell but not usually break. Ring the office if if you're worried, they won't mind, and I bet he'll be fine but you'll feel better.