November 2012 - Adventurous eaters, food refusers and everything in between

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1767146-November-2012-Lots-of-mummies-going-back-to-work

[ChasingDaisy]

Here too.

Second wake up. Both times he has managed to turn himself around completely so that his head is at the foot of the cot I think his new found mobility is preventing him sleeping for long stretches. Anyway, decided not to feed him just now - rolled him onto his side and rubbed his back. He's now asleep again

[ChasingDaisy]

He's awake again. And hasn't been fed in months apparently.

[LuisGarcia]

How're you doing, CD?

Ok, so. I'm so fucking thankful I missed Wednesday and Thursday that I'm sticking my flag into Foodie Friday. We are having roast chicken with vermouth veloute, carrot lyonnaise with vichy coriander carrots, potato rosti and steamed broccoli, followed by parsnip muffins for dinner tonight.

[LuisGarcia]

(I'm only posting that as a reminder to myself of what I need to shop for tomorrow morning, to be honest)

[ChasingDaisy]

Are you/were you a chef?

I was momentarily happy because O seemed to have gone back to sleep. I am now despairing of his lack of ability to stay the fuck asleep.

[ChasingDaisy]

I would have my weight problems sorted in no time. Drool.

[LuisGarcia]

No, I'm not. I only taught myself to cook once J was born and I was responsible for feeding him. Now it's my stress release activity. I mainly taught myself by watching an American show called Good Eats, which is largely available on youtube, and puts every single British cookery show to utter shame.

Chasing you are a marvel.

(Also, go reread MrsG's post to you from a while back and LTB)

[Bryzoan]

High fives Luis . I don't even know what half of that is. When life settles you have to go on masterchef so we all have someone to cheer for. Would make it much more fun. And you don't have to be an idiot like you would if you went on the apprentice.

High fives everyone else.

So - yesterday for me was 'feeling numb thursday'. Had our long awaited genetics appt for our gorgeous, happy, funny r - and a diagnosis of kabuki syndrome was confirmed. In a nutshell this means she is always going to find life quite hard. We were pretty confident it was kabuki or something very similar before the appointment. But still our hearts are breaking into a million pieces all over again. At least now though we have loads of speech therapy, physio etc in place to help her be the best she can - and by stopping work I'll have time to give her and g all the attention and help and every chance I can. I just love them both so much it hurts (as we all do).

I can confirm I really am a donut though. I really wanted a cup of tea at the hospital after the appt and like an idiot I thought I would try a splash of milk in it - hoping that g has grown out of his problems. Big mistake. Back to 90 min wakings tonight. Bugger. Sorry g.

In fact can I have sweary weds 48 hrs late please? Shot fuck bugger bugger balls and bacon. There. That is better. Thank you.

[Bryzoan]

Only my iPhone would think shot is a swear word.

[LuisGarcia]

[Bryzoan]

Bacon really was mine. I just ran out of steam.

[Bryzoan]

Thanks luis. Not feeling quite up to a rugby tackle though.

[Donnadoon]

Thankyou thechick And to your H too :)

[LuisGarcia]

Anything I can think of to say sounds trite and stupid, other than the fact that you've been an inspiration to me on my journey with J, and R is very very lucky to have you.

[Bryzoan]

Thank you. That's better. You've also been an inspiration to me. It's been really lovely hearing about a kid who is signing just in the context of being a kid, and part of someone's normal family life. The sen boards and facebook groups I'm on are great but are about difference. It is lovely to feel a bit of it as normality for a change. J sounds absolutely wonderful. It would be fun to meet him one day.

[YellowWellies]

Oh Bryz big hug my love. xxx

[PurplePidjin]

Bryz dx is the hardest time - you have to confront the fact things are different and you grieve for the child you imagined you would have. I'm always on for that coffee if you can get to Ringwood

Yes, kids at work. Lovely, polite, talented kids with "don't care" attitudes and police/ss involvement because the adults in their lives can't be arsed

[MissMummy1]

Big hugs bryzoan - will a diagnosis help with resources and support? xo

I am in awe of all of you dealing with allergy sufferers. I now feel like an expert just reading this thread about your ezperiences with CMPI.

The RL friend thing is a tough one. I spent my whole childhood craving to be 'the popular one' at school but in reality only really ever had a few really close friends. Now in my adult life I have lots of friends from lots of different areas in my life, but only really 1 (maybe 2) close friends, and certainly no one person I could define as a 'best friend'.

Matilda did not get the memo about being able to sleep through. She took forever to go down last night, finally slept at about 11ish and has been up since 4. This is not 12 hours that you have been doing all week child!!! It seems she only sleeps well when her dad is here.

I have also realised that the car situation is stressing me more than I thought. I would not be surprised if it is to blame for me feeling sick all of the time as last night was the worst i have felt for a while.

Is anyone's post pregnancy PMT a lot worse than it was pre-babies? I have been a complete bitch to dp the past few days. Really nasty to the point I am embarassed with myself and have no justification. EVERYTHING he is doing is wrong - including breathing.

[PetiteRaleuse]

Morning.

Yes mm my post pregnancy pmt is worse than I have ever had. I am hoping it will calm down over time.

Just checked weather forecast for my stay in England. You know that lovely sun? Wll it's going from the northwest from Tuesday (I arriveMonday night) and lots of lovely rain has been predicted. With some sun. Not too cold though so I suppose it could be worse.

[PetiteRaleuse]

Ha. Jst checked another website and that rain predicted on the bbc site is no more than 2mm in a day. That's not rain. That's dew.

[ValiumQueen]

Bry big big hug x you are a wonderful mummy and your delightful little girl is very lucky to have been born into your lovely family x

[PetiteRaleuse]

bryzoan I only just read your post. Massive hugs. I echo what vq just said. You're brilliant.

[Bryzoan]

Thanks yw, pidj and mm.

Pidj I would love that coffee. At the moment we have loads of appts between all the therapies, medical stuff and looking at schools. But I'll check the calendar :-) your job sounds tough. It makes me really sad that there are so many kids out there with parents who don't care enough.

Mm - yes - it will be something of a magic key. I have already used the faintest whiff of a diagnosis to unlock quite a lot... But it will really help with the statementing process (which should help to get the support she needs for school).

I am sure the stress could be a factor in your illness - did they start at the same time? I remember once being promoted out of a really stressful job being suddenly amazed not to have a knot in my stomach and be feeling sick any more. It does all sound horrid. Worth checking medical reasons too though to be safe.

Luis - been meaning to say also that I've found hearing about the way you have made signing such a normal part of j's life has been really helpful to me. You and mrsG sound like you are doing brilliantly. Hugs to you both.

[MadamGazelleIsMyMum]

bry hugs. I have no experience of your situation but you are clearly very strong and a fantastic mummy.

luis I'm drooling.

mm not having periods thank fuck so don't know about pmt.

Right - vDH got up when the day started at 5 am. Had better join him

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

yw my bit of friends wisdom. Don't jump in and take it slow. Don't mix up your children's friends with yours I.e. if your child is boosom buddies with someone you don't have to be BFF with their mum. The groups you interact with will change a lot over the next 5 years until they go to school.

You will be ok and you always have the quiche!