November 2012 - Adventurous eaters, food refusers and everything in between

[StuntNun]

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bry big hugs. It's normal to feel numb and you are doing brilliantly, you are the best Mum for your little girl. I knew nothing about kabuki but did a quick search.

mm no pmt here probably bec I'm too busy to pay attention to everything else.

lois food sound too good to be true. Nom NIM.

det I saw a pic of O in his toddle pot. Is it comfortable?

chasing it will pass. A week ago O was the same as your O, she got so frustrated by everything and she was unputdownable. She figured out sitting and rolling that week so I guess it was developmental leap.

O woke once, I knew she would as she hardly drunk anything yest because of her thrush. Poor little one.

Thanks all xx

Sorry to hear the sleep dodger has resurrected herself MM - hope she behaves for you tonight. It does sound as though the sickness etc may be related to stress/anxiety. I hope the nobhead insurance companies get their acts together pronto for you.

Lily hope Os thrush clears up soon, poor mite.

Bry nothing to add to what other people have said, but it sounds as though you are doing wonderfully xx

Luis

2nd night in the cot went swimmingly. Feeds at 10 and 3. There was definitely some grizzling at some point but I went back to sleep, and then it was 6 and she was up . Total food refusal this morning, and a whingebag to boot - trying to work out if it's tooth related, or ff related.

We're sat out in the sun. I say sat. Me and LO are sat. dd1 is playing tig with the dog. It's going to be28 degrees today so in a while after the vitamin D fix will be closing the shutters and staying inside. I've got very pale skin, and am over careful with the sun possibly, but until they get used to it want to avoid it.

I can't believe that a week ago we still had the heating on.

DD1 has no temp this morning, but still doing horrendous bms, so will not take her in today. She seems well in herself. Shall giver her rice for lunch.

(((Hugs))) Bryzoan the dx is the hardest part but it also makes things easier when you have a definite diagnosis. I find with my DS1 I divide his life into before diagnosis where we didn't know what was wrong and were stumbling along blindly, and the time after where suddenly we had a reason for all the problems, the inexplicable behaviour and a way to help him. For accessing sen help then a firm diagnosis is essential as the system likes to have clear 'labels' for people. It'll take a while to sink in but then I'm sure you'll find a bit of peace with it all. Is there a support organisation that you can join for Kabuki?

Thanks stunt - yes - there is kabuki uk - have already signed up for their family fun day which us in 2 weeks, and met some of the families through facebook. They seem lovely. Have definitely noticed the label thing - as soon as it was being discussed as possible doors started opening much more easily. Was thinking about that 'divide' last night. We will never not know again. As you say though, I'm sure we will just get used to it and it will just become a part of our lives soon.

Bry sling meet is next Friday, otherwise i can come up whenever -it's only 25 minutes for me. Could have a rummage for clothes and toys in TEDS if you like?

R slept 8-5 with 1 wake up

Morning all

Bry I did a quick google of kibuki syndrome and have no wise words, only massive hugs. The love you have for your children shines through from every one of your posts. They are extremely lucky to have you

kabuki*

bry hugs.

With friends, mmmmm, I've always moved in fairly small circles of friends. Always been a geek too lol and would also chose riding to a piss up. Well maybe not at 18. I dunno. Ime friendship groups change as you move through different phases. So when I was at primary school I had two BFF. I'm in contact with them on fb. In secondary school one of my BFF moved to the 'cool' group. She was pretty with long blond hair and wore trendy clothes and loved take that. I has straggly hair, a big nose, skinny as a rake and loved horses. I had very very clever friends. Very clever ones.

Two of the three if them are still my BFF!!!

I have two close horsey friends. A close work friend then lots of other friends. Any if whom I meet up with up on a fairly regular basis. Maybe you guys wouldn't call them friends. But it's how we define friendship. I think it's people who happily chat to, go to lunch with, gossip with.

I think online friendships are also invaluable.

But like everything, life changes.

I don't go out to seek friends, I just make them on my way. Some continue, some don't. But they've all been friendships. Like 'relationships' some last, some don't. But they happened.

Bloody hell PP! Good one R!

I think we have all done a little google this morning Bry. My brother has Asbergers and was only diagnosed a year ago at age 47. There is a clear 'before and after' but he remains the same wonderful brother I have always had. The diagnosis has opened doors for him and he is getting a lot of good support.

Lily thank you. That is helpful to know about your O, as she is a week older than mine. I think a developmental leap is to blame. He was practicing his rolling in his cot last night and this morning managed to roll back to front without getting his arm stuck. Hopefully things calm down soon. It is wonderful to see him so mobile though.

Are you feeling any brighter today, chasing?

Arghhh!! Really struggling to keep up.
In fact had a shit couple of days so struggled to do much.

A few QQs while I finish catching up...
Ms not BF as much during the day (but then woke 3 times last night) should I just keep offering as much as possible?

How have you got them to take water from the sippy cup? Is it just a case of keep offering at every meal time and they'll pick it up?

How do I serve avocado? Can I do slices and mush it too? And am I right in thinking it can't be frozen?

And another baby fashion related question:

I bought M a gorgeous romper from a "designer boutique" that I love but had so far managed to stay away from. It was 30% off anyway which brought the price more in line to say gap/boden type. However I got it home and one of the poppers on the shoulder (there's two poppers on each shoulder) does not have the back attached to the material, it's the inside of the two poppers so still wearable.
I've emailed the shop lady and she was v apologetic. She was ringing the brand to see if they have any more available in that size they can send, if not she'll give a full refund.

Here's the thing, I love the outfit. So I don't want to give it back for a full refund. It's still wearable with the popper not fastening. But obviously I wouldn't want to pay full price (-30%) for a faulty item. (There was 30% off everything).

Do you think I could ask for a partial refund and keep it? Or would that be cheeky? Or ask for a money off voucher for next time I want to buy something?

Fatima it would be worth a try, not sure that they have any obligation to offer anything other than a full refund though. F has dropped feeds in the day, but added in her own dream feed since starting solids (not very dreamy as she wakes up and squawks for it)

fatima mush up avocado with a fork or chop into finger food. It's very slippery though so not surehow it would work as finger food. I normally mash with a fork and spoon feed or put on toast. I havn't tried freezing it - I can't imagine that working but I might be wrong.

LO will take her sippy cup and drink from it, ie puts it to her mouth. It's a bit hit and miss as to how much she drinks vs how much she dribbles right back out. I would keep offering, maybe show LO how it works acouple of times.

Kellymom's advice on refusing bf in the daytime is to offer the breast every two hours Fatima. It's a phase and it should pass in time. They just have so much going on at the moment.

AIBU to tell DD1 that Mr Tumble is on holiday this afternoon because she's going to want to watch him and I want to watch the French Open semis :o

Huge hugs bry you are an amazing mum and R is still your wonderful girl. The love you have for them both shines through your posts.

Like vq my brother has Asperger's and was diagnosed in adulthood. It has made so much difference to his quality of life and how much support he receives. It was definitely a point of no return but has been so worth it.

Quick catch up while O snoozes in his car seat.

Avocado: I mush up and spoon feed/spread on rice cake. Have given as finger food but bit slippery.

Sippy cup I offer at every meal and he is getting the hang of it now. I usually hold it for him but sometimes he will hold it himself.

Just went out for coffee and shopping with my dad and stepmum. O sat on their laps while I drank my drink and we had no tears at all! First time this has happened so I am properly chuffed. He is either coming out of that phase or getting used to them. Either way, I am pleased and the in-laws can eat their words

pig I am feeling a bit brighter today thank you. Will probably be more stressed later. This is the only day this week that P isn't working a late shift but he is off out to a party tonight so it is down to me to sort dinner, bath and bed again. Seeing MIL tomorrow which will be fun

Oh and O has started to reduce his 10am feed, only taking 1 or 2oz. I'm guessing this is ok? He tends to have breakfast at 9ish which is usually porridge and fruit. Today he had a rice cake as well.

QQ (for YW and others!)

Gave F her first bottle of Pepti Jnr yesterday at 4pm. No probs yesterday with evening meal, feeds, sleep. Since this morning, she's been fussy, grizzly, hiccuping and coughing. Am sorely tempted to chuck Pepti in the bin and go back to Nutramigen. But should I persist, as this may be teeth related?

Also confused, as the diet advice sheet says quite clearly, avoid hydrolysed whey protein. And Pepti is hydrolysed whey proteiin

PR tell her that Mr Tumble has gone on holiday to watch the tennis and if she watches really closely she might spot him in the crowd.

Good idea chasing, for pr's DD!

Have just had to pick a poorly DS up from nursery. He vommed spectacularly. on the plus side, I am now at home with the tennis on. But didn't get any work done at work. Ah well.

A woman brought her 4 week old into work today. He was 5 weeks early, her waters broke in the office and she only just made it to hospital. I didn't manage to chat to her as was dashing out to get DS, but I overheard her say he was regularly doing 11pm until 5am. WTAF?