Dec 2011: Running around after our Cybermidgets...

[Aethelfleda]

Roll up, roll up, it's the Dec 11 new thread.
Prepare to be upgraded (if you can catch them!)

Faffin I put DS in the shower yesterday. I am forever hoovering up sand now too.

Right, will do catch up (since I'm on lunch and determined not to go to Tesco and waste money on rubbish food).

Oi glad you've got your relate sessions set up. One way or another it will help you figure things out. I don't know about falling in and out of love. I go through phases of having DH drive me utterly mental, but I still love him. I would wait on the holiday until you've had chance to get a few more sessions under your belt so at least communication has improved.

Mopsy well done on the job and hope the driving goes smoothly. I would recommend that you do get out and about on your own. And get lost. That was when I realised I could really drive - I didn't know where I was going and was stressed about being lost, but I was still driving!

Glad the singing went well aethel , good luck with the house stuff northern.

Air muchos haddockus to the man child. It's frustrating, especially when you have a DS who you don't want turning out the same!

Octo hope you are powering through your week and the kiddos have gotten over their case of The Horrids.

We had a nice weekend with my folks, DS was adorable and just chatters non stop these days. He hates this heat though, and refuses to go outside without his hat on. Put him in the car on Friday and he started crying saying 'hooooot! hot hot hot mummmmyyyyyy!' He's been taking mega naps too; can't blame him really, I just want to lay down indoors when it's this warm!

In other less fun news, he's back to pinching, biting and hitting. Maninly when he's tired. We're doing the consistent 'move him away from us and say No Hitting/Biting/Scratching/Pinching!' but he wails and wails then comes over and clings to us. The pinching really really hurts too, and DH has a bruise on his face from it I'm starting to get worried he's going to be one of those thug violent children you see on supernanny. I know it's silly, he's too little to be stressing about that, but still He's also a total wirlwind and wont sit down and read a book etc. Just wants to go go go. Loves his 'Sampit' and chucking sand everywhere. We got a cheapy paddling pool from Tesco, but the cat assaulted it. And DH managed to accidentally spray DS in the face with the hosepipe. So now he's scared of it!

I swear I'm sunburnt from being outside for 10 minutes damn my Scottish complexion

Afternoon! I thought today was meant to be lessinsanely hot?

For some reason our office was baking today, almost un-work-able in, so not sure what happened there either aethel!

Just mad levels of work at the moment, nothing special going on here- DP has picked up the throat thing that I had so is even more sorry for himself (if that were possible).

Need to get little brother's present and card tomorrow, and will have to pull another late one to try and get the work shifted- if I could spread it all over the next week and a bit it would be OK, but lots of things have to be done by the end of this week, sigh....

Did send a pic of DS to my Mum though, when he escaped naked after a nappy change and climbed, triumphant, onto the coffee table- great one for his 21st

Where is everyone?

oi glad you got the relate sessions sorted out. Have you been tonight or does it start next week?

for aethel and janey who knew what was wrong with DD2. After no suggestions from GP on Monday (he asked what i wanted to do, I'm not the one who went to medical school ), and much inconsolable screaming we went to A&E this afternoon. They suspect CMPA, she's now on Nutramigen for a couple of weeks to see how she gets on with it. She's currently only had one not hugely successful feed, and it smells foul so I can see shy she doesn't want it. They've also said it might be a couple of weeks before we see an improvement.

aethel is it any relation to DD1s lactose intolerance? Seems odd that each baby has been more intolerant to dairy!

Hope you cope with work northern, only 2 days until the weekend.

octo hope you're surviving your crazy busy week.

It's cooled down here a little now thank goodness

seven - sympathies. It sounds really tough. I hope that beatrice starts to feed and feel better soon.
northern what is the obsession with climbing on coffee tables?!
Yes, Relate was last night. It was pretty gruelling. It was tougher on DH. He's really hurting. I was honest, I said that I wasn't in love anymore. I said that I found certain things about him irritating. Is it possible to bring it back?
I spoke about feeling the weight of the responsibility. It was up to me to chose whether to fix this or end it. And that it's not pleasant!
In the end we agreed that we would start to try and make things better - to give it a chance. So we said that we'd try and spend time together, to try and enjoy each other again, and also try and work on making ourselves happier individuals, by doing more things apart.
(Although where we will find time for this, I'm not too sure.)
But we will try. Small steps. It will take time. And it will take dedication.
later last night, he said that maybe he should man up and take the responsibility from me and let me get on with my life, and end the relationship.
I said that whilst I think it's good that he can think that way - and free me from some of the responsibility, we had agreed to work hard to give the relationship a chance.
He's got the day off today. he's going to spend the morning putting in a concerted effort to improve his individual situation by finding a better and more rewarding job - something that would stretch him and put him with nice people and not the miserable, ignorant bastards he currently works with. then he has his gambling appointment. the first one. he cancelled the NHS CBT appt in London, and made an appt at Gamcare (more locally) instead.
the worse thing is, when we were at Relate, and when he was talking, I was just getting more and more convinced we had no future. He just rambled on and on and never got to the point. It was infuriating.
I will try.
I will try!

Seven that sounds horribly distressing hope she's better soon

Oi if I were u I would give it this one last push and if you still feel the same call it a day you will still have tried but not to extent you will wish you hadn't dragged it out for years with no success .,,,,,,easy for me to say though

Poor DP actually now has what I had, precisely- awful throat, mouth ulcer(s), and feverish; neither of us got much sleep last night as he tossed and turned. He is now officially allowed to Feel Sorry For Himself- I have judged him worthy.

It's now only one day to the weekend seven, for which I am mightily grateful! So sorry to hear about all the trouble with Bea; what is CMAP by the way? But the fact that you had to go to A&E for it, honestly.

I will be glad in a way when he moves out of the baby unit at nursery Oi; I'm a big believer in letting them learn through play, etc, etc, but as a result of his well-kitted out nursery, everything at home is a ball to be thrown (they have a soft shape room with ball pit where he spends 50% of his time) and every bit of furniture is a climbing frame.

Hope you're bearing up OK anyhow, it's grim going through that at home and then slapping on the professional face and turning your mind to work...either that or it can be a break. I think he'd have more of a chance of saving the relationship if he passionately declared his love, and his action plan for keeping you and then went on and did it...you sound a bit fed up with the 'meh'.
I really hope it works out, and you're certainly giving it your best shot.

Slugging in front of 24 Hours in A&E if DP gets off the phone to the 'rents...

northern cows milk protein allergy, nothing exciting! Sorry DP has caught the lurgy.

oi relate sounds tough but you're doing the right thing giving it one last really good try. Must be hard for him to hear but you have to be honest.

Bea has been happy during the day, one of the other mums at baby weigh-in even commented that she seems like a very contented baby. She's been a bit unsettled tonight, but she took her biggest ever feed so I suspect she's overdone it making the most of being able to feed without clearly being in agony. She's now asleep lounging on DH.

Where are kat and gary by the way? hope youre both coping with the heat, you must be due soon now.

I'm here lurking as usual!

37 weeks yesterday so officially full term. Eek! Heat has been interesting , the biggest problem is just not having the energy to do anything with ds.

I finish work next Sat (did my last delivery round last Saturday) and am quite enjoying learning all kinds of gossip now I am office bound

Sorry to hear about the various issues, will try to do a proper catch up on the laptop later.

Morning!

Hurrah! Isn't it wonderful when you get a name?! I'm Ammy.
northern I love 24 hrs in AandE. What is wrong with me? Why do I like to watch broken people being fixed? It's not right, is it? I cry lots, smile lots. I'm a idiot.

TFI friday

aethel, Minimopsy only started calling me mama a couple of weeks ago. It is lovely!

Scorcher here today. Too hot for me I think !

I am mummeeeeee in our house up in Scotland with the parents it's even hot up in the north of Scotland. DS was running around til 10 last night and slept to 8 this morning unfortunately I was awake at 4:30 and couldn't get back to sleep as DS mattress is like a rustling crisp packet every time he moved.

We've been playing in garden all morning now cooling off with cars 2 and pancakes.

Very exciting times kat so jealous

We're off to Ma n pa's caravan tonight. Just for the day tomorrow. We have to come back Saturday night in time for BOi's football training 9:10am on Sunday.

Exciting times kat!
Am quite jealous.
Ok, so,... If me n him are trying to be nice. What if I try really hard and we dtd? What if I get pg? It seems rude to introduce condoms. And I do want another baby. But if we then split up, (which is quite likely) I'd struggle, and I'd make myself properly single/less attractive to lurking men-types...
Constant quandary of the over-40!
(A Facebook "sponsored post" yesterday was about the menopause, ffs!!! Get off my wall!!!)

oi to be brutally honest I think you need to have a hard think about whether you'd be prepared to be a single mum of 2 in the (sorry but likely in my opinion, though I'd be delighted if you prove me wrong) event you split. Another baby will only make things worse, it certainly won't save your marriage, right now it's close to ripping mine apart.

aethel hope sports day went well, enjoy your weekend!

I'm not coping well. Feeds have gone back to impossible and screaming :(. I have been a horrid shouty mum to DS who has been playing up, probably as a result of the stress and tension at home. Feeling like such a crap mum and a failure. Sorry you're probably all fed up of me moaning by now.

Seven sorry to hear your struggling. Hope Bea settles once she gets used to the Nutramigen...Sky is on Nutramigen AA.

Oi..hope things get better with DH. If you give it one final push and it's not working you need to walk away for your happiness & BOi's.

Kat...hope you feel better once you put your feet up as not long now.

Well it was my last day at work today :( very sad and emotional. It was a very hard decision to make and made even harder today by everyone telling me not to go as they will miss me :( held back the tears there but they fell in the car on way home.

Oh well new chapter of being a housewife and full time mummy with cake baking on the side ;)

Glad she's got some new milk Seven, she'll need a bit of time to settle on it. If she's still upset after the trial then I would go back to the GP (or a&e!) and ask about nutramigen AA or neocate as (I'm assuming you've been given) nutramigen lipl still contains cmp although broken down. It's worth mentioning that nutramigen contains soya which many with cmpa can't tolerate either. Or she could need reflux in addition to the milk. It's all trial and error unfortunately but glad you're on the way with it now and hopefully little miss will feel better very soon.

Monkey was worse when we trialled nutramigen, he hated it (he was nearly 5m) and it was caesin which he is more allergic to than whey, he settled on pepti which is whey based but still has ranitidine now for reflux.

Lactose intollerance isn't anything to do with cmpa and definitely over diagnosed in kids in my opinion (probably because so many health professionals confuse the two). For lactose intollerance as a baby you're born without the enzyme, where as cmpa you're body mistakes it for the enemy! Most lactose intollerance is in people who have lost the enzyme.

I love 24 hours in a&e too, blooming emotional roller coaster though!

Oi I hope you manage to sort things out, although I really don't think getting pg would help anything.

Queenie enjoy being a sahm!!

I get 'mummy mummy mummy mummmmmmmmy' yes baby? And then he laughs and walks off :-/

His papa gave him crisps with soya in them the other day, he's feeling better but the runs have arrived. He also nicked a packet of biscuits and before I noticed he'd chewed through the packet but he's not reacted (his milk and soy reactions are different) I'm not going to even think about challenging at the moment as have just had to cut out egg but so proud

The last episode, 'Mothers and Sons', sob! That little boy with all the health problems, but the gorgeous red cheeks and fluffy hair (who was alright in the end), sob!
We only started watching it accidentally through the last series, but love 24 Hours.

Oi, I'll express a view here that would get me flamed on the other boards, but... As seven says, if you truly feel you can cope with, and love, a second child, then I'd go for it, as time is probably on the short side. You've got the financial resources, though it would probably mean downsizing and a bit of a lifestyle change, and you've got family nearby (if I remember rightly) which is worth its weight in gold.

If you feel you'd resent the child for taking time from BOi, or being a man-repellent then don't. How does your DH feel about no.2 btw?

And a massive, bear-type (((hug))) for seven. We're all the parent we don't want to be when stressed, I've been like that to DS this week as I've been under the cosh at work and DP's been ill, and I've just got the one. You're doing fantastically coping with the some of the worst torture of the early months, and it is grim.

DS won't really register it, as it's just an occasional thing, and Bea will get better eventually, and you love them both- repeat ad nauseam!

oi If you want a second child and h does as well then go for it. you could split up today or in 6 years it makes no difference.

How would you feel being pg on your own and giving birth on your own or doing all the night wakings and then getting up in the morning as well?

Also if you can deal with handing over both kids to exh and maybe his wife and hers/there kids as well, go for it.