December 2012 - the fourth trimester is nearly over

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mamapo we're going to Book of Mormon in June! My sister found a deal on lastminute.com. My mum has moved house this week and now lives just 5 minutes drive away so she will be babysitting.

hales now you've mentioned it I would really like a photo of me breastfeeding. I've got a "modest" one with a muslin on Z but it's slightly odd because the cat is sitting behind me on the back of the sofa, watching over my shoulder!

Cats are so voyeuristic!

eggs I know! I'll post the photo on the Facebook group.

Am completely sucked into the recent bra threads elsewhere. Mammalarocca has a sale on (amongst other things) Hotmilk at present. I might buy a couple more - Hotmilk are my comfiest bras ever.

Fuming. DH got home from work at 9.45 last night and was due to start at 10 tomorrow morning. Got a text from his boss at quarter past 11 telling him he has to be in for 6am and is still on till 8pm finish. DH has seen D while he's been awake for 5 mins since wed. And now late start has been taken away tomorrow/this morning he won't see him till Monday.

Ooh seconds good tip off! I love hotmilk too - so much prettier as well. Also amoralia and cake lingerie.. (cake....mm....)

After my epic day of face stuffing on Wed (and thurs ,) have eaten tiny lunch and quite restrained supper plus pramactive this morning and long walk this aft so hoping I've gone some way to balance out.

Actually had a lovely afternoon with mil after worrying about it, they are less worried about us moving to London than I thought, which is ace. Think I've been unfairly projecting behavior of ghastly mother of my exfiance who would have been uber clingy grandmother, but mil just happy to have time with Oz which is fully understandable!

Ps seconds where are these bra threads?

honey that's awful. A text at 11:15 saying he has to be in work in less than 7 hours?!

utopian I don't know how to link with them on my phone but one was in AIBU that is now full, and a new one in Style and Beauty - search for user Statisticallychallenged, who i assume is a bra fitter, who is commenting on both.

utopian here's the AIBU - sorry for lack of proper linkage.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1678173-To-despair-at-EVER-finding-a-bra-that-fits

That's shite Honey, Theu could've given him a bit more notice.

Utopian I admire your restraint, I started the pill again and am waiting for appetite to calm down. If it stays like this I'll be enormous!

Oh dear Seymore I'm sure everyone with kids has been the mum with the baby screaming in the supermarket at least once. and drag DP out of bed or better yet, send in the big DC's

First and last tome I forget the last nappy change of the night. I have no idea how some of your babies last the night. DS does horse wees and has woken himself up by soaking his outfit inc grobag. Putting the washer on at 2am as it's his last one = not fun.

Honey that's crap

Seymore I hate it when ds screams when we're out, I'm sure no one minded though!

I'm loving the bra thread too, it seems hot milk don't go down to my back size though which is annoying

WillYou, try a bamboo fitted with fleece soaker over. No leaks

I hate my bastard neighbours, they woke F up with their shitty music and no doubt came home screaming and shouting (they always do). We are up watching supersize, eating cold home made pizza. Atleast DH is off tomo, I can have an afternoon nap.

Honey, are you getting any advice with the employment law stuff? There has got to be something in his contract about last minute shift changes.

He spoke to the area manager who is looking into how his manager is running things- luckily he's only an acting manager and the new one is coming in next week. After today he's going to have worked 54 hours in 4 days

Eugh we're up for the day. Typically dd is still asleep. I've just switched over our broadband router from bt to sky though so that's something productive done for the day going to make parsnip soup later. Might have beans on toast for breakfast....

Ugh 2 might wakings , how did we cope a couple of weeks ago when it was all night every night? Thank god that stage doesn't last long.

Thanks Pidj

As in called up Spotty? Are they open this early?

No as in switched the routers over

At two night wakings we always have three!

We've not had 3 for a while now but I only put him down properly at midnight so don't count the 11pm.

I've been Elbow deep in poo before 7am! I stood there staring at it for 10mins not sure where to start and had to double bag the nappy! Cheers Jamie!

Oh no I hate that when there's so much poo you don't know where to start!

Ds goes down between eight and nine so wakes kind of 11,2 & 5 ish

We did 11, 2, 6. Trying for more now though now DP's gone to work

Dp's gone to work too, dd is colouring I think I need more coffee..... Hope you get some more sleep!

Hope it gets sorted prompt when the new manager comes honey, I fear dh is missing out on so much of dd's early months as he works ridiculous hours too

spotty can I come for lunch? I lurve parsnips!

I'm again today. So, if you remember I had probs with dh last Friday when we went out for a meal for my birthday, he said he'd do the night shift and I should let my hair down and drink, this I did and he let me down by being too drunk to look after dd. Anyway, we had a couple over last night which has been booked in for months and was to be my 'official' first night of drinking and dh to do nightshift. Because of last week I didn't allow myself to get drunk but did have a few glasses of wine throughout the night (whilst I watched dh steadily get wasted . I went on cups of tea at midnight but didn't go to bed til 4am , had a lovely night catching up. Dh said he would do the next feed and I should get some sleep, he'd be up in a bit. Cue dh falling asleep on the sofa, not waking up to the 3 times dd screamed between 4am-7am, I had to get up and make up a bottle to give her, I was obviously prepared for this and secretly quite pleased as wouldn't have left her in dh's care anyway. She wouldn't take it well from me though and I had a real battle on my hands.

Now, I'm proper pissed off as dh has shown me once again why I don't trust him this time round. We had had an argument earlier in the eve as I am due to go on a hen do overnight in a couple of weeks and he was arranging to have a couple of friends over for poker. I said over my dead body after what happened last Friday and I'd never relax for a second, he basically told me to fuck off for insinuating he doesn't know how to appropriately look after his own daughter. But, look what's happened again!! I feel like cancelling the hen do, I thought long and hard about whether I was gonna go in the first place but after lots of encouraging I thought yeah, why shouldn't I go and enjoy a night away dh has gone on numerous stag dos whilst I was pg and it's my turn but now the thought of it makes me want to cry.

I prob make dh sound like a total twat. Fir everything else he is great-he works hard, is a great dad to ds, we have a strong relationship but I don't trust him to care for dd competently whilst I'm away and that hurts me. I'm fucked off with him having a go at me for being overprotective and not trusting him but he hasn't shown me any reason why I should what would you guys do?

Sorry for the long me me me post.

Our babies are quite consistent. Last night C did 12, 3, 6. Then took forever to fall asleep in her cot. Just woke again at 8 and we're having a cuddle and feed in our bed. And she's drifting off again!

Out for a full English later - I'll need breakfast part one first.

Sorry xpost Chloe. Horrible situation for you (and how on earth are you functioning on no sleep!).

Not sure what did obit a calm conversation is clearly needed. Perhaps phrased as 'how can WE ensure baby is cared for?' But I would also be furious about him getting annoyed because you're insinuating he doesn't know how to look after baby - I'd ask him what other conclusion would he draw based on the evidence? And I'd be clear that words and intentions aren't helpful. It's his actions that count.

Man. Good luck.

Chloe if it was me I'm afraid I wouldn't go. But I haven't left ds for even half an hour yet

Thanks mama, I'm sure the lack of sleep will hit me like a tonne of bricks later We do need to talk, I honestly think dh doesn't see that it's an issue to be drunk whilst in charge. I have no problem with having a few glasses of wine I have a serious problem with having so much you don't wake up to a crying baby. I actually don't think I could physically do that but then I'm a light sleeper and even in the past would rarely drink to that level anyway. When dh drinks at the weekend if we are with friends or doing something social then he will drink to this extent. He honestly doesn't see any problem with this-I have discussed it with him even before dd was born and he thinks I'm overeacting and making a big deal about a trivial thing