December 2012 - the fourth trimester is nearly over

[MaMaPo]

:)

[EggsMichelle]

Hales I also decided yesterday to stop BFing, F is much happier with the bottle feed, isn't permanently hungry and has started to get frustrated with the nipple. I am proud that I have fed him for almost 3months, and at least now DH has no excuse not to do the night feeds!

I was forcibly separated from F the first time by DH and IL's, however it was either give me the 1hr break or I have a complete mental breakdown. If I hadn't had that experience I would still be reluctant to leave him now.

[Barbeasty]

A is 10 weeks today. He's only 2lb10.5 heavier than when he was born.

I don't know that I'm worried per se, he's alert, got double chin and chubby cheeks, he feeds ok and we get decent nappies. But he is sick a lot, sometimes entire feeds. And that's something that the Dr and HV have completely ignored every time I've mentioned it. Poseting doesn't soak a muslin in 1 go! And it doesn't shoot across a room either.

But, given last night's constant feeding, I think we might be in for a growth spurt!

Not looking forward to a day with constantly feeding DS, and a DD who's testing boundaries on little to no sleep. But DH will be home in 10 to 11 hours.....

[pmgkt]

7-1 1.30 -4.30 4.45 - 7 when dh woke him getting ready for work. With decent chunks of sleep why do I feel so tired? Both me and dh are on a diet and have planned what rewards we get each stone we lose. I have opted for a night in the spare room so I can have a whole night of undisturbed sleep. Done 4lb so far.

[PurplePidjin]

Barbeasty, you're not obliged to see "your" dr each time - keep trying different GPs until you get some answers

Good going, pmgkt

[pmgkt]

Barb I have a similar situation here, as long as he is maintaining the same centile then its fine. Ed slipped off the chart and that got him noticed. I switched to ff so I knew what he was getting plus my boobs had never really felt full so I was concerned. He is now 9th centile so they are happy even though when I took him for his jabs the nurse commented that he was a tiddler. I ignored it as he is fat compared with 4 weeks ago. You aren't alone which I hope helps

[brooke89]

Pmgkt it's cause it's broken sleep

LO did half 10-5:30 last night she usually goes back to sleep for 6-8 but hasn't this morning, I've woken up with a really high temp hope I'm not getting ill!

[coffeeandcream]

Morning all, we're having a pj and chocolate day as DS has a cold coming on (so do I I think - thanks for sharing DH).

Not sure what others do, but on Friday and Saturday nights DH is the one who gets up to do nappy changes and brings DS to me for feeding and then he takes him back to bed. There's something wonderful about being able to stay in bed the whole night, even if I'm not 'sleeping through' lol

[SpottyTeacakes]

Barbeasty I think you would know if there was something seriously wrong so it's good that you're not particularly worried

Pmgkt sounds like a good night, maybe a coffee will sort you out!

Coffee we don't change ds at night unless he's pooed and his cot is right next to the bed so all I have to do is stand up. Ill often get dp to go and get me a drink though weekend or not he keeps saying I must be a plant

Dd also has a bit of a cold. She's had it on and off, along with a cough, since November. Started nursery on December though so that hasn't helped. Might get another nap out of her today!

[Barbeasty]

The 6 week check was the first time in 5 years I'd seen "my" gp, out practice just gives you an appointment with whoever is free, unless you specify (and A is just registered with the practice, not a specific Dr).

So far the hv said to talk to the Dr as it sounded as though he might have reflux, and the Dr wasn't bothered and just said the hv would monitor A's weight.

It's only because I wanted to see if he'd dropped more lines that I took him to be weighed yesterday! Otherwise nobody wanted me to bother until his 9 month check.

I want to keep an eye though. DH is fairly short, and was very small as a child. His parents refused to have the growth hormones they were advised to give him, so he may just be following in his dad's footsteps.

[ISpyPlumPie]

I've got a water infection . No burning, but need to go to the loo all the time. Just back from the docs - have got ABs. Totally paranoid though as got both gp and pharmasist to check they're ok with bf.

Also slightly moment when the Dr asked if I could be pregnant. He didn't seem to believe me when I first said there was no way, and a practically had to spell it out that it really would be physically impossible as there has been absolutely no opportunity for it to happen since N was born.

[SpottyTeacakes]

Oh ISpy hope it clears up quickly for you! I was when the nurse asked what contraception we were using and I had to reply 'the baby'

[SpottyTeacakes]

Ds won't stop crying for no reason. I'm just annoyed now and dd is all whingey and clambering on me. I just feel like leaving them to it and going to bed

[MaMaPo]

Oh Spotty - days like these are tough, aren't they. Here, have a .

After what feels like forever of holding C for daytime naps (or suffering the consequences of an overtired baby), I decided to treat naptime like nighttime today (swaddle, closed curtains) and lo, the baby has been in her cot for half an hour. She's woken up once or twice and needed a bit of dummy wrangling once, but this is progress! Maybe the swaddle is key. I just bought another one online as we only have one (it's a special zip-up one) and if she soils it, we're scuppered!

Has anyone ever used sitters.co.uk? Or does anyone in London have a recommendation for a good babysitter? My husband and I have tickets to see the Book of Mormon in April (yay! tried to go in New York and tickets were upwards of $500) and need to find someone to look after little C from about 6.30pm until midnight.

[EggsMichelle]

Mama the crazy things we will try just to get some rest!!!

Barbeasty get another opinion, does sound like reflux and F was a different baby after being prescribed gaviscon.

I have made pizza dough for the first time since my hand swelled mid pregnancy (couldn't get my engagement ring off) very therapeutic and my house smells of yeast. Can't wait for the smell of baked dough as well.

F has been an angel all morning, not a squeak until I scared him with an over enthusiastic cuddle and screamed for half hour!!!

[IsThatTrue]

eggs at over enthusiastic cuddling!

Ds2 had his first ff today as I'm not getting any chance to express (working a 30+hr week and looking after ds2 and doing school runs etc) and occasionally I go out to Zumba or the nail salon. Today was the nail salon and DH gave ds2 4 oz which he took grudgingly. (As soon as I came in he started up like he was starving so he could get boob, he just sat licking my nipple and grinning at me nice to know I'm wanted!)

spotty I'm sorry you're having a hard day. Any chance of DH giving you an hours break tonight?

[SpottyTeacakes]

Not likely, if I'm lucky ill get a ten minute bath. He's working tomorrow morning then going straight to football. Then (rant alert) at 4pm we have to go out for 'afternoon tea' for his grandad's birthday. I'm really annoyed about this because 1, they only told us yesterday and 2, 4pm is a stupid time for afternoon tea. By the time everyone has arrived and got cake or whatever it'll be dd's dinner time! They're such a small family you might have thought they would take us into consideration. Plus 4pm is the beginning of witching hour definitely not a time of day I want to be going out with two little ones in the cold! (Dp will be at football until 4:30).

Luckily after ds's screaming session he fell asleep he must have been tired.

IsThat it's good you can give a ff if you need to, gives you sons flexibility

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

Breathe Spotty and repeat after me - THERE WILL BE CAKE

[SpottyTeacakes]

But I'm really fat WillYou and should definitely not be eating cake!

[halesball]

Eggs i'm quite happy now i've made the decision. Me and DP were talking though and i was saying i would quite like a picture of me breastfeeding H (i wouldn't show anyone the picture). He told me that was weird and i shouldn't do it. Who do you agree with? I think i just want a record of it as it was a part of the first part of her life. But he says that H will never want to see the picture.

Funny story from this morning, as you know i live with my dad and my sister and niece have been staying here. Well my mum came this morning and took H and my niece to my nans so i could sleep. I never heard her come back but my mum, dad, sister niece and H have all been downstairs. Me and DP upstairs talking about our sex life but also making quite obscene jokes about each other and families not thinking anything of it. When we come downstairs my mum dad and sister were laughing and told us we'd left the baby monitor on, so they'd heard every word oooops.

[HoneyMumandSon]

Calories are instantly negated if you eat the cake with in laws.

[IsThatTrue]

But you're bfing spotty and definitely should be eating cake!

Have you had words with do about getting a break now and then? You really seem to be having a tough time. I know what it's like with a screamer (ds1) and my XH was around most the time although about as much use as a chocolate teapot

Well ds2 went into his Moses awake about 30 mins ago, I had to give him his dummy 3/4 times but he didn't shout and is now asleep. I'm very lucky he's such an easy baby, it does prove all the 'making a rod for your own back' crew MIL as I hardly ever put him down until he was 8 weeks and have only started because he's insisting on it ( not settling on me).

[IsThatTrue]

hales at least you weren't having sex!

[SpottyTeacakes]

Woops hales! And

Your dp is being ridiculous take lots of photos, surely it's not for dd it's for you? You will cherish them forever she will definitely appreciate it when she has her own baby too.

I don't really like feeding ds in front of dp's 78 year old grandad either, although he is lovely I don't like to make him feel awkward!

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

Hmm it's very quiet on here, I presume you've all gone out clubbing gone to bed at 7pm

Ah sod being fat Spotty it's cold outside! I've decided up invest in suck you in knickers for the hen do. And I'm sure he won't be able to see anything boobwise, plus I'm sure he's seen it all before.

One of the first pictures I took was of me breast feeding Hales if you want one then take one and sod DP. It also amused me when DP's interfering nan snatched my phone and looked through my photos. She and DP looked like this and I couldn't have given a shit!

Hope you feel better soon Ispy

[SeymoreInOz]

hales It's so easy to forget about the baby monitor!

Ispy I hope you're feeling better soon.

Does anyone mix feeding find that formula makes their baby constipated? DS has only had one bottle of formula so far but he was constipated for 2 days afterwards.

spotty I feel your pain. I'll join you with the cake and maybe some .

DS woke up in the supermarket yesterday and had the mother of all meltdowns. Lots of people were gathering round, I don't blame them, it was breathtaking screaming. It was my fault for going out with the pram rather than the sling. We had a 20 minute walk home so me and the DCs had to run the whole way with DS yelling. I get really nervous when we're out now and I'm starting to stay in more and more! DH went straight out from work and got back at 5am, he's now sleeping off a hangover.