December 2012 - the fourth trimester is nearly over

[MaMaPo]

:)

[halesball]

I'm quitting breastfeeding i've had enough just had to book an emergency appointment at my GP. I've had pain in my right breast all morning which is increasing all the time. I need something to take the pain away.

[brooke89]

Hales we've done the same and dd has stayed over at parents twice already all night. All we do is look at pictures of her but it is amazing to have a proper sleep that night!

[SpottyTeacakes]

Oh Hales I'm sorry only give up of you're really sure, I read on here somewhere to never give up on a bad day but I totally understand it must be awful being in pain and you've done really well to get this far ((hugs))

[HoneyMumandSon]

hales just remember a baby needs a happy mum so you have to do what's right for you. A fed baby is a happy baby no matter how the milk gets there! ((Hugs))

[Secondsop]

hales - hope the GP gives you something to help with the pain. If you decide to give up, just remember you've done brilliantly to make it this far.

waves at the other 37 year olds I'm one also.
We'd like to start trying pretty soonish. I had one period a few weeks after birth but the second one hasn't materialised yet - hope they regulate soon. It took me longer than I wanted to have little Z; i had my mirena out the month after my wedding and it took my periods took 2 years to regulate. Once they did, within 3 months I was pregnant but miscarried. Then 4 months later I was pregnant with Z.

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

Hales you have to look after y0ourself. A stressed out mummy is no good at all and will affect your milk anyway. Have a chat with your GP and whatever you decide your DC will be fine.

Spotty give DD a duster and set her to work . I've got to do the big shop, meh!

I'm 29, but DP is massively broody again! We watched OBEM last night and he asked if we could start trying again although that may be a sneaky way to get me to have sex with him Think we're going to start TTC early next year. Speaking of which we've only had sex once since J was born - 6.5 weeks of lochia, 5 days off and then a 13 day period just ending now, but I feel like I've got morning sickness. Hope it's just a bug as I am on the pill. I'm waaay too scared to POAS! Imagine, 2 in 11 months

[SpottyTeacakes]

WillYou she's fallen asleep under the table

Dp and I still haven't had sex. I was thinking about it then I got my period still about that.

I know someone with eleven months between theirs. Their first was an ivf baby so they didn't think they could conceive naturally

[FriendofDorothy]

I saw a midwife I know and she told me that they have just received a referral for someone who had a baby about the same time as Edward. She is 8 weeks pregnant already. Dear God that's quicker than quick!

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

Imagine going into work and telling them you had a second baby due before your 1st lot of mat leave ended. I'm too chicken for that!

[FriendofDorothy]

Oh, I hope to be pregnant by the time I go back to work.

[SpottyTeacakes]

I would be a bit sad I think. My friend had a small age gap and she said she never felt dc2 really kicking as she was so busy concentrating on dc1

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

This would be a second 1 born before going back though FOD as I'm having the year off. My work's a really small business and they'/re struggling so this would cripple them. What age gap are you aiming for?

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

*FOD bet they were on that thread about hearing people have sex on the labour ward! DP's cousin has just had her 2nd in 10 months, 3rd in 25 months! DC4 and she's 21, no idea how she copes!

[HoneyMumandSon]

Does anyone know what the rules are for if you need to take mat leave again quite quickly? Do you have to be back for a set time before you can be off again?

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

I don't think you do Honey, see here

[annelid]

wow, lots of us 37 year olds then!!

I hardly post but have been reading everything! W slept through the night last night for the first time, (nearly 8 weeks), it was lovely. Long may it continue.

[FriendofDorothy]

I go back to work in June. Hope to be pregnant by May, but who knows if we will have problems conceiving this time. Would like a 14 month gap between them but Edward is so wonderful I feel slightly disloyal thinking about another ome!

[HoneyMumandSon]

All this is making me want to start trying again sooner! Wgen I started talking about it last night DH said he thought I was going to say end of the month rather than end of the year! It's a lot to think about as we'd prob need to move if we have another and I need to complete my phd at done point in order to have some decent career prospects. But my bro and sid have just under 2 years between them and have always been closer than I was with either (I'm 7 younger than sister and 5 younger than brother) so want to keep the gap small if I can.

I want to win the lottery and it would take a lot of the issues away!

[SpottyTeacakes]

That's very specific FoD it will be lovely them growing up so close in she they will be best friends

Don't think so honey it's only if you start a new job.

I'm going to leave my job at the end of maternity leave looking forward to hopefully getting a proper job

[Stacks]

Morning everyone. T was well behaved on our drive, slept 2.5hrs when we woke him for lunch and nappy change, then slept the lat 3 hours. Slept well last night in the travel cot too, 10-2:30 then 3-7! I fed him back to sleep then til 9:30 :)

I've got a cough, started coughing up phlegm yesterday. Really hoping T doesn't get it. Off to pharmacy today to see if I can get something I can take while feeding. Means I can't go meet my nephew though. Don't want to risk making a newborn ill.

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

That sounds like a nice gap FOD. I know it works for some but DP and his brother are 4 years apart and they didn't get on at all until they were adults. My young cousins are the same, the eldest got used to being spoiled as an only child and when his sister came along he was really jealous. There's 2y 2m 2d between my sister and I and we've always been really close although I apparently threw an almighty tantrum when they brought her home

I would be looking to go back in Jan and start trying again in Mayish. I am not risking another Christmas due date! Doing the Christmas food shop 5 days after giving birth was hell on earth!

If I win I'll cut you in if you do the same Honey! I'd have 4 DC then! What's your PhD in? I have one in Biochemistry, I have a good job but it's a huge commute (40 miles ew down the hellish M6), which will mean that I will be out of the house long hours. When I go back I'm going to ask for 4 days, 1 from home.

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

We've got the cough too Stacks hope you feel better soon. J has been throwing up phlegm since Sunday. I had no idea so much gunk could come out of such a tiny person, and why does it always land in my hair?

[HoneyMumandSon]

Phd is in children's literature so ideal job would be lecturing a couple of days a week and working on research the rest of the time I can dream
Def up for that deal willyou - as much as euromillions would be nice, I'm not greedy and about 5 million off the national lotto would be wonderful. And would be more than willing to share! is it bad that I am planning my future with the main goal of winning the lottery?

DH and I would also love to start our own business, but one thing at a time!

[pmgkt]

Both kids having afternoon naps at the same time, perfect. My friend had a 14 month age gap, and only had to do about 5 weeks work. As it was such a short time she went back full time so that she got full time amount of mat pay, rather than doing part time, which ta what she has now done. She just called in favours from friends and family, Hubby took some leave, plus she also acrued leave during that 5 weeks. She did feel a bit bad but as she said she is only having 2, so it meant they could retain the same person to cover her second lot of leave, and also they have got it out of the way knowing she will now be focussing on work and career again.

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

Everyone has a lottery plan - who you'd split with, how much you'd give everyone, what you'd buy yourself!

I work as a medical writer, writing up clinical trials/information packs, etc. I do have the option of going freelance if I want, but that seems a bit scary at the minute.