June mummies '05 thread 9 - The one where small beginnings become great things

[katzg]

one brand new thread!

what will our babies do this month?

Hi mrs.W! Nice to see you! I totally empathize with you on "the running on empty". Chug that wine tonight!

Sfx - If it keeps depression at bay, than I must start running! Do please ask me everyday whether I have done it?! I need to be shamed on doing it!

By the way, does everyone else cringe at this point of the year when there is yet another cold grey day, or is the foreign here that has not adapted?!

For those thinking about the second one... I can say, it never ceases to amaze me how different two babies can be (even if they look basically identical, like mine...). Which does make for a lot of fun!

DD was never very interested in crawling. She basically only did it when she really needed too, like when I abandoned in the other room.... . But in the end she walked around 11 months.

DS, has been crawling since 5 months. Loves standing up and cruising. But.... don't think it will walk anytime soon, because 1) he is too good at crawling; and 2) he is too much of a porker to stand up!... He does some bizarre variations in his crawling too!

Afternoon all! ds has randomly sprouted two new teeth without me noticing- just caught a glimpse as he was giggling today (bad mummy, I was tickling him just to hear his lovely laugh!), so that's 6 now Maybe that's why he has finally learnt to chew. Annabel Karmel may say they learn to chew at 6-7 months, but oh no! ds has to continue choking on anything bigger than puree to 9 months! Celebrated by giving him toast and risotto. Er, not at the same time, I mean lol! Anyway, the teeth thing. Anyone else still bfing? It was ok when he just had lower teeth, they were covered by his tongue when he fed (apart from the occasional bite). But his new uppers - I have teeth marks after every feed Is that normal?
Lua - if it's just being a foreigner then I must have some equatorial blood in me somewhere because I shudder every time I look out of the window these days! Certainly couldn't bring myself to go running in it lol!

Ah, ladies, I think I am over my broodiness; I spent the day with my two utterly gorgeous little dnephews (4 and 2) and am quite frankly exhausted even though their mum was there too. We had a lovely time going swimming (ds' first time! He was quite taken with it) but the whole thing was such a palaver it was unbelievable!

lua, you're not the only one. We may be born to these climes but they are still rubbish.

tea, I now think your ds must have secretly passed on the 'strange not-crawling' technique to my ds when they met!

Oh and my other gorgeous little dnephew is 2 tomorrow, hurrah for him!

(I have two other gorgeous dnephews too but they are in the medium-sized categories, being 10 and 8).

Trib - LOL it is a very funny 'crawl' to watch tho isn't it, he he he! Let's just hope he hasn't also passed on his obsession for everything yellow, and balloons!!

Glad to hear ds enjoyed his first swimming lesson, we're going to have to take dd soon as we're off on holiday in a little over 5 weeks and I want her to be happy at the thought of swimming as with ds around the family won't be able to leave the poolside ...ooh pools = bikinis = arhhh, better start using the slendertone belt and firming lotion I bought last month, really need at least a year for them to make a difference, but I guess 5 weeks will have to do, and they won't work gathering dust in the draw!

Hi everyone,
Well I really don't know where to start with our news as it is so bloody depressing and really it makes me want to do away with myself if I even think about it all.
Just to let you know I am thinking of you all
xxx

Oh Giddy Don't know what to say. (((hugs)))

giddy1 - whats up?

giddy ! hugs

Giddy - take care lovey and post when/if you want to xx

Helloooooooooooooo, remember me????
I am back on line. Not even going to attempt a catch up so I am going to just dive straight in.
Giddy I only read down to your post so just wanted to say thinking of you.
We are all fine but this move has been the most exhausting stressful one we have done and nearly two months later I still don't know what day it is so not sure how much I will be around until I feel a bit more settled and the garage has a few less full boxes in it.
DD's are both well. DD2 has lots of teeth and is impressing us with her standing unaided. DD1 now dry at night (for those of you who remember my potty training sagas in the summer) and had her third birthday party yesterday .

Yay, Skyler, lovely to see you! Your dd1 shares a birthday with my dnephew, who was 2 yesterday.

Skyler-hi,good to "see" you.
Giddy-sending you a big hug and lots of love.xxx

Giddy, thinking of you sweetie

SKYLER!!!!! hiya welcome back!

hi skyler nice to see you backso how do you like the new area?

hi everyone else too, hope you all ok take care

thanks ladies,
I have not had a great time that is a fact....well none of us have.
Girls have had another severe outbreak of this D+V bug. Looking after them both on my own without a break day and night is really becoming a nightmare . I hardly ever have more than 3hrs of sleep a night and that is not an exageration.
I have been fighting with Social Services to take some quick action and support us in finding DD1 some alternative care i.e a residential placement but that is a joke.
I phoned them last week (one of dozens of calls) and coldly explained that if thy did not to something quickly then I was afraid I would snap with the pressure of coping with DD1 (she is so difficult and needs constant one to one care)
I have explained that she is harming the baby and I need to put the baby first now.
What Social Services are effectively bribing me with is that if I put DD1 in their care she may well have to be cared for 200 miles away for example. That makes an impossible decision for me because I have to weigh up all areas of our lives, the effect going on like this is having on us all.
My marriage which has always been really solid is now in tatters. We have no time for each other. He is my true love but I treat him like I hate him. He had his bags backed yesterday and I forced myself to ask him to stay. Oddly I wanted him to go because I cant stand the stress we are all under.
A Social worker came last week and witnessed DD1 harming the baby repeatedly. She was so sympathetic at the time but now what?
Anyway I must end now because this is too difficult for me.
Lots of love to you all
xxx

Poor you, Giddy, and poor dd's. That's so I don't want to alienate any social services posters - a lot of them are very caring and hard working, but the system they work in can be soooo frustrating. I have a very good friend who is a fostermum. Her current fosterdd is a really mixed up kid and causing so much stress and anxiety. My friend was going to go for long term fostering as social services haven't been able to find adopters, but she was told that if she did that she wouldn't be allowed any respite, wouldn't be allowed to leave the fosterdd for any time (so couldn't go and visit her grown up kids by herself), and wouldn't be allowed to foster any other children for the forseeable future. She needs respite because the fosterdd is so much work. She's a great mum, but she is having to consider giving the fdd up altogether, because she can't even go and visit her own grandchildren by herself. Plus fdd needs to be able to learn that people will leave her, but that they'll come back too. She has to learn that people going isn't an abandonment, which is what she's used to.
Sorry, Giddy, didn't mean to ramble on about friend's problems, but just sometimes the social services system gets me so , people like you, good, caring, wonderful people are pushed to the point of snapping when it'd be so much better if help was put in early so you never got to that point. Grrr. Many (((((hugs))))) to you anyway.

hello giddy so sorry you are having such a terrible time.
such a long time caring for two high needs children with no help is long past unfair, no wonder you feel so low.
regarding dd1, i am afraid i have seen lots of parents in similar situations, it becomes ever more desperate and social services are constantly strapped for cash. mostly while you still 'cope' they do nothing. in one case, it got to a point when the mother was so losing her thether that the child was left at a respite centre with a bag in the middle of the night, she rang the bell said she had enough and left.
i know it sounds extreme but after an emergency placement things worked out for him.

i really hope you get some respite soon, tiredness and stress are not very conducive to great couple life, but i guess he knows that its both going through this
take care and talk if you want
hugs

Giddy1 - thinking of you sweetheart, wish there was something i could do to help, please do come here and let off steam if you need, i've emailed you so if you want to have a long vent then i'm more than happy to listen

Giddy - poppet just read your post what a nightmare . Vent away if you need to, cry with us if you need to... xx

Afernoon mums hugss

Giddy hunny I emailed you last week, im so sorry to hear your having such a bad time darl, please feel free to call me, Ill email you my number again.As for social services I cant belive they wont help you, keep asking hunny, they have to do something, please like the mums say talk about it with us hugssss.

Hiya Skyler hugsss welcome back, nice to see you are settling in ok wow your dd third birthday how lovely hugsss.

Katz whats the new job then? think i missed your post.

right ill catch up later wills awake xxxxxxxx

Hi All,

Remember me?? I'm the one who comes on here about once a month, wracked with guilt for being sh*t, vowes to change my ways, fails, feels guilty again, you get the picture.....

It is lovely to see you all on here though. DS is doing fine - 2 teeth, lots of commando crawling on his big fat barrel belly, lots of smiles and shouting. Work is hectic but still enjoying it.

Baby no 2: yup, we're thinking of starting to try again towards the end of this summer. I just want some of a summer feeling vaguely thin and not like a big, fat walrus. Is anyone actually pgt again yet?

Lua, which gym are you at? If you are at the same one as me (I think we discussed it), come at the same time as me if it would help to motivate you....

Giddy, big hugs to you. Nothing constructive to say, but i am thinking of you girl!!!

hello all

can't remember who does our stats page but the girlies from the due to aug would like to know how

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Oh Katz. You copied from it last week my lady, and it is mine

I shall pop over to the August ladies and let them know how it is to be done.

Jonah: Weekend meet in York this weekend, please say you can attend!

Giddy - will write a proper response this evening, my heart goes out to you and your family, you are truly between the rock and the hard place just now. Thinking about you xxx

thanks trib - i thought it was you but had a wobble of confidence when typing my message! i just pinched the info to cut and paste i haven't got the slightest idea of how to do it!