June mummies '05 thread 9 - The one where small beginnings become great things

[katzg]

one brand new thread!

what will our babies do this month?

Hello ladies
Giddy I am really feeling for you. What an impossible situation. YOU NEED A BREAK!! I bet you sometimes feel that if your dh did go that would be one less thing/person to have to think about and accomodate. You can get through this though but you do need a break. I know nothing about these things I am afraid but there was an article on This Morning about respite and they mentioned Kaleidiscope (sp?). Take care honey.
DD1 has a sickness and diarrhoea bug. Really hoping dd2 doesn't get it as she is really quite poorly. dd2 was up for two hours last night too with her teeth so I am a bit tired. Right got to dash. Take care all. Hope you are well.

Thanks for your lovely supportive messages everyone. I am sorry that I am always on here with such dull and depressing news.
I am in the worst "place" imaginable. My daughter is so beautiful and so vulnerable. I am not able to support her needs and those of an increasingly demanding baby, however hard I try. With help from friends and family it seems to be still an undo-able task.
We are going to a meeting with Social services and a whole range of people involved with her care on friday to discuss all this.
As for the baby , she has not been too well and seems to do nothing but cry unless I am carrying her around.......I'm sure a lot are like that but I feel that she cries more often than not iykwim. It's exhausting!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dh is wonderful but tired. He works hard, takes time off to "rescue me" works hard again...blah blah blah. We never have a minute to take our eye off things.
I just feel like screaming at him to get lost and yet I know I love him. God if he's here I'm pissed off with him and if he's not I'm still pissed off. Its a feeling like I just want someone to hit.
He asked me if I wanted him to go because he genuinely started to believe that he was making things worse for me, like I despised him so much it would be better for everyone if he went.
Its so sad because I cant imagine anyone ever being more the "one". I cant remember when we even had a night in the same bloody bed last.
Anyway, tomorrow is another day.
take care my luvlies
xxx

hello all

hi giddy, its good that you have a meeting coming up, just dont leave until you get what you need, you really deserve some rest. its hard to have space to love dd1 when its all so stressful, i find that good residential care provides that and can also be very good for her. best of luck thinking of you.

skyler- just thought you might not know about the meet up threads [north and all north meets south] there is also a photoalbum with time i might be able to provide links or someone else willhope you are well

mumma - have you moved yet? good luck with that

we doing ok, spend most of the time retrieving dd from under tables chair beds and other sticky situations.
in-laws are coming to visit mid months, thankfully staying in hotel, always lovely to see them
felt queasy opening the council tax bill plus ca change!

take care all hope you well

well my mastitus has finally stopped hurting but still feel veru drained by it!

Giddy1 - hope you get some help very soon, if you wre near by i would offer to give you a hand but i'm miles away.

DD2 has now mastered standing from sitting and is now very mobile but still shoeless due to her tiny feet

Thanks ladies
Feeling a little less like I am drowning after the meeting yesterday. there were about 20 people there including 4 social workers plus nurses from the local hospital and head teacher of dd1's school.
It is now understood and aknowledged that a residential place must be found for her but the same old argument about who has to foot the bill was thrown around. I was quick to explain that in my opinion if the baby were to come to any harm , Social services would be very accountable as I have given them plenty of evidence of this potentially happening and one of their own employees has seen it first hand....they have a duty of care and must class this as a Social need and not pass the buck to an educational one!!!!!
It is going to some sort of panel which is not open to us and then we are told whether funds have been made available to cover the cost of her care "somewhere"
Anyway it is as I have said befor the hardest set of emotions I have ever felt (and I have a truck load of emotional baggage)
DH and I are completely solid as a couple....just struggling to see that at times. I love him to bits really and had a fantastic night last night sorry tmi
dd1 is away for a few days and dd2 actually slept all night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ooh we took DD2 for her fist chinese meal yesterday lunch. mmmmmm she loved the noodles....well she loved it all

got to go, catch up later
lots of love xxx

Giddy glad the meeting was ok, hope the panel comes up with the answers you need nothing like a nice evening to help clear the wood from the trees abit. Keep us posted on how it's going.

Katz poor you and the mastitus, ouch, hope it all clears up completely very fast Re dd's shoes iirc you said she was a size 2.5?? Amber's shoes are only a 3, they were from clarks - I'm sure they had smaller ones??? It was a big clarks tho...

Hope everyone's having a good weekend and no-one was caught an April fool DH was when they anounced on the radio chelsea were loosing 5-0

Took dd swimming for first time today and she absolutely loved it, which was a great relief as it's just over 4 weeks until our holiday and ds lives in the water from breakfast til tea, so god knows what we'd have done if she'd have hated it!

Supposed to be looking at how my ebay items are selling so had better go or dh will have ago again...'are you on that mumsnet again?' cor I'd be a rich girlie if I had £1 for everytime he's asked that over the last 2 years

Catch you later, take care all x

LOL, Giddy just re-read my post and I meant keep up posted about DD1, not your nice evenings!!!

up = us

doh! preview, preview, preview!

Giddy-Glad the meeting went ok and really hope the panel come back in your favour.

Tea-Ds hasn't been swimming yet,but really loves water.We're going to take him when we go away in June and hopefully I'll be alot thinner and won't be soooo embarrassed to be seen in a cozzy.I've now lost 2 stone 2lb's in 6 weeks,so really pleased.Cant believe how easy this diet is.
Talking of Ebay...we went to a boot sale last week,bought some things to sell and I made £93 on 11 items tonight.Also sold a bundle of Oscar's clothes the other week for £109,so really pleased.Told Dh I'm going to be a full time Ebayer now I'm not working,hee hee.
Hope everyone is well!

Morning all
Giddy thank goodness the meeting had a positive outcome. You must feel so torn! Glad you and DH are OK too .
DD1 still ill with this bug. It is a horid one. Docs said just sit it out till Mon. She is def better than she was so that is good. DD2 has no signs yet thankfully. Doubly glad still b/f as apparently this has good antibodies to fight gastroenteritus (sp?). Fingers crossed.
Tea and Katz - Shoes??? Are your dd's walking! How exciting! I missed all that.
I am off shopping today to buy some clothes for our big weekend away in London next week (to see Mamma Mia). Excited and nervous as first time leaving dd2 eek! Pathetic aren't I. She was up 3 times last night and this is still the norm. Yawn.
Have to dash for now. Take care all. xx

errm that will be horrid then.
Swimming sounds fun too. Must take dd2. She loves water.
Bubb - That is HUGE weight loss. Well done. What diet is it?

Skyler-Sorry to hear about the bug.Ds had Gastroentiritus a few weeks ago and was really ill with it.I think there's lots doing the rounds at the mo,so hope she gets better soon.
I'm on the Cambridge Diet.A bit drastic but it's working and is by far the easiest diet I've evr done.Should hopefully lose another 3 stone by the time of our holiday in June,which'll be nice.
Actually treated myself to a lovely top in Monsoon this week.It was great not having to shop in Evans..AND I bought 2 sizes smaller and it fitted.

KVG-Hope you enjoy the meet up today and of course,anyone else who is going.The weather is dire here,so hope it's a bit nicer up north.

you can see a picture of my little girls funky walk \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1700&threadid=159776&stamp=060329172704\here!}

Hi Skyler, welcome back
Giddy, I'm glad the meeting went a bit better, fingers crossed they come up with the goods. Glad you and dh are, er, getting on
I'm feeling a bit blue myself today. dh had to rush off this morning to drive his dad to Kirkcaldy as dh's grampa is dying . He had a stroke last weekend, but now has a chest infection and only has hours left. dh phoned when he got there and was just crying down the phone, I wanted to give him a big hug. He's 91, though, so he's done blooming well. My grandma has been really unwell too and we weren't sure which one was going to go first, but looks like it's going to be grampa. So sad to think that ds will never remember having met them.
Sorry to be so miserable. I'll try and be chirpier next time...

2Happy re grandpa...my grandma's 86 next saturday and everytime we see her I think it may be the last...lots of falling down and failing memory...I too think it'll be so sad that my jids won't really remember her, but they live on in your memory and you can impart those at least to ds

Bubb - wow on the ebay sales, my stuff just doesn't seem to be selling and I'm amazed at the sale price of Oscar's clothes, I had two massive bundles of ds's stuff and one only went for 99p, the other fetched a whooping £5 - I'm obviously doing something wrong!

Skyler dd has been walking since 9 mths (10 mths today!) but in the last couple of days she's managed the forward crawl at last so may opt for that as a speedy option because the walking still requires someone's hands in assistance

Hope the Northern meetup went ok today

Catch up with you all later, x

AAHHHHH jids = kids

good to here my dd has a fellow walker friend!

her walking has come on leaps and bounds this weekend she just goes and goes!

2Happy-Sorry to hear about your dh's grandpa.I lost my great nan a couple of years ago and although she was a fantastic age(104),it was still awful.It also upset me that she sooooo wanted another great great grandchild and kept on at us,saying she wouldn't be around forever and to hurrah up.She had no idea we were having treatment and had been trying to concieve for years.She finally passed away and 6 months later I fell pg.Would've been great for her to meet Oscar,but it wasn't to be.I do have a lovely picture of ds with my great great aunt(her sister) and it's amazing to think she's the oldest in the family at 102 and Oscar is the youngest.Sending you all a big hug.x

Tea-I always list the bundles in the featured category now.You do end up paying about £12 for the listing,but it's so worth it.You also get 12 pics for that and lots of interest.Try it next time-I'm sure you'll be pleasantly surprised.
You could always try Gumtree-it's a great site,like Ebay but completely free to buy and sell.Just sold my huge Graco travel system on there tonight,for £100.Thought I'd never be able to get rid of it,hee hee!

Btw...is Ds the only Junie who's not even crawling yet?

Thanks for that Bubb will have a look at the other site - I have a massive Britax travel system to get rid of! . Thought of the featured items but worried that if items don't sell I've paid a bundle for the privilege

Oh and don't fret about the not crawling...enjoy it all too soon you won't be able to stop him and then you'll be desperate for the days he didn't move, believe me!

Still no crawling here Bubbaloo! Or rolling either! But dd has a few words that me and dh recognise and half a dozen signs now. THe HV says she's a cerebral baby - I think that's a nice way of saying she's lazy!

Hi all.

katz, love the pic.

bubb - deeply impressed by the weight loss.

giddy - hope you are hanging in there.

skyler - welcome back. impressed you are still bfing. i gave up the last feed two days ago and am definitely missing it.

all is good here. feels very spring like all of a sudden and am realising that ds is not that far off turning one. seems very strange.

we are busy bankrupting ourselves to buy as many cupboards with locks as we can fit into our house, as ds is a risk-magnet at the moment, and nothing is safe.

quick question: are people moving their babies onto a cup for their milk, yet. ds is now having 5 bottles a day as well as solids. i think he's going to need a bottle for first and last thing for a while yet, and he has water out of a cup at mealtimes, but what sort of age do folk plan to introduce a cup for milk? Or will it happen naturally as he reduces his milk intake?

x-posts mcmudda - still in awe of your signing baby. the closest we've got here is a kind of low growl when ds is cross.

I'm stil breastfeeding, but plan to drop the daytime feeds when dd is one and can have cows' milk - then she'll have that in a cup, but me morning and bedtime. I think as long as they stop having bottles by about one then there are no problems with teeth and speech etc. It's something to do with palate formation I think, sucking from a bottle is fine for a while but needs to stop to let the mouth grow properly.