April 2012 - Feeding, Facebook and finally summer!!

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Apologies for the rubbish thread title - thought I'd cobble something together though!

A tentative "yay!" fliss

I feel for you bear & can relate very well to how you are feeling. Yesterday I had a bit of a row with dp as I too am feeling the intensity & unrelenting nature of being at home with 3 children.

Our situation is that dp runs his own business & is out the house by 8am & often not home until 8pm. Sometimes he's working all that time sometimes I suspect not (internetting/bimbling about the countryside in his landrover etc). I admit at times I resent his freedom, though he doesn't think he has any.

On sat I had a BBQ to go to with my ex work colleagues who are now good friends. Dp was meant to be coming too with the 3 dcs but last minute stropped out & said he didn't see why he HAD to He offered to have our older dcs whilst I went but I took them with me to play with all the other kids. I think it was a bit bloody selfish of him frankly. Sunday he did one of his usual disappearing acts, gone to walk the dog, returns 2+ hours later. I was pissed off, feeling trapped at home with 3dcs. Baby with me constantly (still will only sleep on me/nxt to me in bed). So minor meltdown ensued, dp can't really relate to how intense it is. Thinks I get 'loads of time with friends' when all he does is work. I want him to be a bit more understanding, maybe have all dc for 1/2 hour / 1 hour at the weekend so I can walk the dog ALONE or get some shopping in ALONE. He wants us to each have a weekend 'OFF' a month to do whatever (not together) to do hobbies. Obviously he can't have the baby as I am bf but he'd have the other two. I said I don't want that, just the odd 1/2 hour alone & then time spent as a family. Makes me feel v sad......

Sorry bear & everyone for going on a bit. Just wanted to share that I agree it is bloody tough. There are loads of lovely bits to motherhood & family life but also some serious tests of relationships.

Yay also to *, fingers crossed for you

Enjoy the sunshine thal & your parents

Wise words re the maze marsh, I could see I might panic, I hate that kind of thing.

newmummy used a tippy cup with my dc from 6 months but they didn't really do much drinking from it until 1 yr + . Just milk here at the moment.

marshmallowpies; we went to Leeds Castle, I was pregant at the time, hubby took me into the maze, 5 mins in I wanted to get out, way too claustrophobic for me, we finally got out, and I cried!!! Hate them as it is, guess I couldn't conquer my fear! Blamed it on the pregnancy hormones (smile)

Sorry to hear of all the not getting it husbands - it's added stress that you could all do without.

Ds2 celebrated getting to 20 weeks yesterday by doing his first roll! He's already shimmying forward on his front now so we've had to separate his cot from our bed and put the bars up. Night before last he only woke once at 4:45 then up at 8:45 - thought we were over the sleep regression! Then last night he woke at 11:30, 3:30, 6:45 and then at 8:30 - so I guess not.

Tried giving him 2 different types of tommy tippee cup to play with/drink expressed milk from yesterday. Quite liked gumming on the valve cup, but didn't get any milk from it. Not impressed with the free flow cup, especially when milk tipped into his mouth - gave me that same look I get when we give him Calpol. Oh well, keep on trying I suppose.

Just had A weighed, he's 17 weeks and 16lb 3oz so going to be a rugby player not a jockey . No interest in food but going to have him in with us when we're eating where possible and give him bits to play with in a few weeks (he's obv putting on weight fine without it!

I'm glad to hear that all your babies are doing so lovely. Harry is a little tank and tried to eat daddy's chips at the weekend , I think weaning is on the cards this week.

Buns & Bear; sorry to hear your relationship stresses. Makes life so much harder. Bear you do sound v sad, is there anyone you can talk to? Can you talk to DH about it? Been there myself after DD2. Came to a head when she was 2 & we managed to get it sorted, but it took a while. Good luck, really hope you both feel better soon.

Thaleia; glad your hol is going well!

Fliss: hope you get the dotted line signed. One less thing to worry about.

Emily & I had a lovely night away with my mum & sisters the other night. But; we didn't manage to swim as U16s aren't allowed in the pool area....real shame. Will go swimming when older DD2 go back to school. Thanks for the mirror advice NewMummy. Will have to try it. Really don't think a different seat will help. We had another screamathon on the way home & my poor pregnant sister was nearly in tears too.

Emily has developed a spotty rash on her cheeks & chin. Any tips for clearing it up? It's related to teething I'm sure. Have her cradle cap all oiled ATM before tonight's bath. Have to have her looking her best to meet all her relatives on Friday!

jelly DD had this last week. Dr advised me to moisturise it. So I oiled her face with the oil that I do her massage with. It's organic veg oil :). Cleared it up in a couple of days. Again it was her drooling through teething that caused it.

Thx Holly! Have used Sweet Almond Oil...fingers crossed it does the trick! The cradle cap is gone; it wasn't too bad, though.

Harry is also very spotty; he is covered with pimples, I think it was coz I changed the washing powder, forgetting I had Harry. Saw the doc, he said it is dermatitis, all under 5's will get this at some point. He also said to mositurise, he wasn't worried about it.
Harry also sleeps on his front now, he's so much happier. He has got himself into a bedtime routine, 7.30pm last feed, nappy change at 8pm, bed at 8.30pm, up at 330am for a feed, then sleeps until 645/7am.
No teeth yet, stopped showing signs of wanting solid food, so will wait until 6mths and do blw.
I'm sorry for all of you who are struggling with the other halves. Makes life so much harder than it has to be. I'm a 'single' mum until 19/20 Sept when dh comes back from Dubai to pick us up and helps move the brood over (1 neurotic dog, 1 puss cat and ds)
Big hug to all. All the babes sounds like they are doing well. xxxx

Hi
just wondering if anyone else is struggling a bit at the moment? Lo is teething on and off so super grumpy and I'm finding it hard to be a calm cuddly mummy when I just want to hide away with a nice cuppa and a biscuit without the wailing! Any tips for dealing with the frustration?

Snowy27 we are having the same here. Harry is given a teething ring to gum on and cuddles. When I feel Aaaah with it all I settle Mr for a nap with a cuddle and a warm feed and then have an hour or so to regain nice mummy mode.

flisscongrats hope U seal the deal soon?

Digi dd sleep got a bit worst before it got better.

snowy we have hard day s too, teething rings Calpol and cuddles. oh and bickie pegs. Don't thing there is much else U can do! :(

A has been really Dribbly and is chewing his hands big time. Also a bit more tired and grumpy than usual. His poo has been a bit weird too, tmi alert he had 4 today (not usual for him) first was green them on was yellow, looser than normal but not watery (so don't think it's a bug) and was quite mucusy. He's ff. Is this due to the amount of dribble or do I need to be worried (my anxiety is rearing its ugly head and I need an objective person to say what they would do as my judgment is out and I'm worrying).

Foe Snowy and others struggling with teething, have a read up on amber teething beads. I used them with both mine, and DS had all his by 18 months with barely a peep out of him; I didn't even realize his back molars had come through! He could just have a been a really easy teether but I do believe they helped us.

Also struggle with DH here, we argue all the time, he just won't sort himself out. Blinding row yesterday about how irresponsible he is that he leaves his lighter lying about and DS picks it up. I'm terrified that one day he'll set fire to the curtains and the children will die in a fire, he just bangs on about how he buys safety lighters. What's wrong with being responsible and lot leaving them where he can get them! FGS this isn't what I wanted for my children. And then last night he's sick (I actually think there's something wrong with him as this happens a lot but he refuses to do anything about it), so I'm up all night listening to him chucking up and moaning on and then I'm up at 6 cleaning it all up before the children wake. Crying my eyes out wiping sick out of DDs bumbo. Bear, I too hate him. But as well as being a heartless cow I'm also bloody stubborn and I don't want my children to grow up in a single parent household. Stuck. Bollocks...

hugandroll I think it down to the teething H has had a few really nasty nappies this week. If you are worried about things ask the HV as they should be able to help, we are also giving H more water at the moment to replace any loss fluids. Hope it helps I know how you feel with the anxiety.

LaTristesse thanks for that although I think I read something about the beads being dangerous. I think your DH needs to understand that you are genuinely frightened about the safety of you DC as DS can pick the lighters up and play with them. He needs to see somebody if he is being sick a lot to rule things out and also to put your mind at ease. If you need to talk then I can send you my number and text me anytime or email me. You have to think about whether it is better that your DC grow up in a single parent household that is happy then a house were mummy and daddy are both unhappy and argue. Hugs

v quickly as I'm running out the door... I bought an Amber bead anklet rather than a necklace as I was worried about the wads around her neck.

Yes I was wondering about the amber teething beads for a necklace/ bracelet. But my mum put me off saying babies shouldn't wear jewellery, they might break and choke on the beads!
What's everyone thoughts????

sorry alot of you having problems with dh/dps. I guess im pretty lucky my hubby, he is pretty good and does lots with lyra. We have been together for 12yrs so know each other very well. A part from the odd argument we get on pretty well. I'm sure if he could bf he would! :)

He did mention if was his fault she woke at 12 last night, I went to bed at 10. He when in to remove a cloth from round her neck, and woke her. So I had to get up to feed/calm her!

She loves a cloth over her face, so I have cut up a muslin to cover her eyes. Now we worry when it moves to her neck!
Any ideas what i could use instead for covering her eyes? that's breathable!

Her normal routine is bf at 5pm then solids at 6-630pm, then bath at 7ish. Bed at 8-830 sometimes bf then try to give bottle at 10pm end up doing bf. Sleep and feed at 3-330, then wake/feed at 6-630 then sleep with mummy till 830-9am.

LaTris - sorry to hear DH is being a pain. I hope he stops being such a bloke and goes to get his sickness checked out soon to put your minds at rest.

We've been having major meltdowns at bed time here. It breaks my heart. He cried for an hour and a half last night and wouldn't be consoled by me. I'm putting it mainly down to teething but I'm going to try putting him down earlier tonight incase he is overtired. He just always seems too awake earlier.... hmmm fingers crossed.

Hi everyone, how are you all now it's nearly the weekend?? Sorry to hear about your dhs/dps being insensitive and thoughtless - mine spent all of last week doing that- moaning about the lack of ironed clothes and the amount of work he was having to do- clearly the fact that I was keeping on top of everything else in the house and wake up with naomi every half a hour....grrr.
She's been hard work this week, waking all the time, major screaming at bedtime, general grumpiness - she's definitely teething, but she's having three bottles through the night as well. Just struggling a bit to see an end to this
I hope you all have a good night

As first night in his travel cot and he's really tossing and turning, fingers crossed he still sleeps through.

He is still pooing many times a day and it's quite watery but grainy and yellow at the same time, he's happy in himself and no temperature so it's either teeth or we tried him on baby porridge earlier in the week, he's soooo not ready for food even though he was showing signs but thinking it may have upset his system a bit :(. Should have listened to 6 month advice.

hi hug. Just wanted to say that dd is ff fed too and we often have grainy yellow poo - sometimes up to 5 in a day- so what you describe sounds quite normal here- esp with the advent of teething !! so I wouldn't feel too bad about the rice - how was A with it? hope he settles for you.

Hi dizzy he hated it and didn't really get the gist of it so we will wait longer. The more dh and I think about it the more we realise the weaning signs were teething signs.

A slept in his travel cot well but kicked the sides in his sleep from 4.30 keeping me awake so I'm shattered already, early night today!

Re weaning: the German GPs say that weaning early = 4 months is the way forward, apparently there is a study re Israel and the fact that babies are weaned early and have fewer food allergies. So who knows best?? Nobody for sure.

Just had my Friday meltdown. I don't know why. In London, I was lonely and here is so much, it's too much. Maybe I'm too hard to please. Hate that we had to go to the in-laws every 2nd day. Hated that my mum had to cook for a family of 8 (because she's gran and she loves it) and had no time in the morning for me when DS is sleeping - as he doesn't sleep in the afternoon anymore, only for 1 hrs or so. He only had a bath once since we are here. Of course it's my fault but it's things like: we left too late for the in-laws, he's all over the place and wants to go to bed at 6pm (5pm BST!!) and is already screaming his head of ... Excuses.

Also, instead of help with the not so nice things like bed time (it's not working, yesterday we had an hour of screaming murder and today 10 mins of hell, too), I am still on my own and, on top, supervised by DH. I find him difficult too as he is on a mission to save his child all the time. He's never been picked up so often and so quickly and I can honestly say that I am quick.

DH and I did not once spent an evening together, he was ill the first few days, met another friend, was tired or worked.

Maybe next week will be better .... One more visit to the MIL and DH is leaving too. How sad is that?

Wish me luck!