December 2011 - April drools!

[OiMissus]

A new thread! squee-eeeze. :)

Hope you and your family are doing OK oi. Even when you know its coming it can still feel like a bit of a shock.

I'm so sorry oi, he's at peace now. Though in an odd sort of way it's nice that we have news of a new birth on here along with his death, in the same way people like to see babies at funerals.

Lazy day here, watching DVDs and eating chocolate, even Eva is relatively happy. Random question but the collective thread wisdom normally has the answers, I have some rhubarb but not enough butter for a crumble, I'm not going to the shop as its chucking it down. Any ideas what else I can do with it?

Stew it, freeze it and eat more chocolate?

Add the same volume of apple and sugar, stew and eat with custard?

Back home and thoughts with you oi

Had a great weekend, we did Chirk castle on Easter Sunday as they had trails on for the DDs...which kept them going all day! I am still gently swaying from the boat movement and I annoyed a boat full of blokes by executing a faultless three point turn while they had stopped to discuss how the hell to manage it. I'm not horrible though, I did help them after I turned our boat around. [smug experienced boater]

Hi all! We're home after a 3.5 hr drive during which minimopsy slept the whole way apart from about three minutes-yay! Fed her literally just before leaving and now again the second we got in the door. Nice weekend w both my parents and my mil at mil's house so lots of attention for minim. She is still coughing a lot but it doesn't seem to upset her now so I'm hoping she's on the mend.

Really sorry to hear about your grandad Oi but it is nice he is at peace, dementia is a terrible thing.

Hope you all had lovely chocolate-filled weekends!!!

Glad you both had nice weekends.

Why is my mother so irritating? I've been told we don't have enough room to have chickens as DS won't have enough room to play, DH is converting the unused wooden manky rotting playhouse into the chicken shed and will build a run coming out sideways which will take up less than a quarter of our stupidly large patio, we won't even lose any grass! And I was told off for not singing to DD when she was crying, she was overtired and singing makes her more awake [buangry].

Oh dear seven, it's irritating when someone tries to tell you how to do something, even if they're just trying to be helpful. I had lots of wise old aunties yesterday telling me that I don't know I'm born with Freya being such an easy baby and that if I have another it will be the total opposite! So my next child will be the devil incarnate apparently

Is anybody else planning on going back to work full time? We have childcare sorted as we have various family members who have offered to mind Freya for us but I'm starting to worry about it already. I don't go back until November but I'll be commuting into London again, leaving at 7.40am and getting home at 7pm. It means that I won't see Freya much during the week I can't do flexi time and I'm the main earner and we can't afford to drop my days as we need to buy a bigger house in the next few years. I guess I'm just sad that I'll miss so much of my baby's growing up

Because our mothers often have the capability to annoy us in ways that no other person could possibly even dream of... and yet we still sometimes love them.
Don't know about you, but I'm certainly making a list of all the things I will not inflict on DS, and fairly horribly sure that when the time comes I will do every single one of them....

I hope he passed away peacefully Oi. I take it the funeral will be in a week or so; maybe you could work in some of the video/stories to the service if you can find them?

Started to introduce the formula today, one bottle at lunchtime; I'll do that for a couple of days then introduce another, and so on, but I'll give LLL/NCT etc a bell for any good tips. Would've been OK today had DS not refused righty earlier, and then when he settled to feed had a poo-splosion which necessitated emergency action in a garden centre- whereupon I realised I'd leaked all through my bra and top. Nice.

Glad all the hols and trips have been good, sounds like you had a fab time MsB!

Just cooking up meat and potato pie for dinner, and will enjoy a little glass with DP later, hopefully in front of the footie. I'll need it as it's round three of immunisations tomorrow, wibble!

Yup MissRee, I go back full time in a fortnight [busad].

Ah sorry to hear that Northern have you got childcare sorted? Maybe we should do a meet before you go back? Be nice to see how all the babies have grown and changed.

Sounds good, will PM, probably tomorrow. DP doing the next 4.5 months, then nursery after that.

MissRee I'm going back mid-May and DH will be childcare (just as well he's unemployed as it's impossible to find any day-care places here before September anyhow). I'm not cut out for looking after DD full-time anyway, DH is much more maternal better at it.
I'm using Annual Leave to break myself in over 3 4 weeks (BH weekend features).
My Mother is already going on about what I'll miss out on by going back (err... like us not being able to pay the bills and getting into impossible debt and losing our home ...).
She can't see that it's a simple role reversal and I'm missing out on less than my Dad did as he had no paternity leave.

Then there's the old lady round the corner "of course all mine were in bed by 5:30 each evening". I'm not having that, I don't get home until 6pm and I'll want time to get LO completely over-excited before we put her to bed otherwise she'll only see me at the weekend.

Thanks for all the support, ladies. We're all ok here. Sad, but relieved for him.
I'm back full time in 2 weeks too. I'll be attempting to leave the house before 7, and getting back before 6. On Mondays I'll be dropping him at sil's, Tuesday nursery, weds and thurs at my mum's, then back at nursery for a half day on Friday.
I'll be happy to be back at work, but sorry to be missing out on BOi growing up. but needs must! The big house won't buy itself! And I like nice things. And I like working - it makes me feel valued when people want my "expertise". And I like spending money. Shopping is my passion, and it needs to be fed!

It's horrible isn't it? Gone are the days when we get to choose whether or not to go back to work I would want to work anyway but it would be nice to just do 2 or 3 day weeks. I feel bad for moaning now, knowing that some of you are going back in a couple of weeks/months

I've made sure that DS's bedtime is comfortably after when I'll be getting home too YBR.

I used to make DP walk down and pick me up from the station (he needs the exercise she says sounding like the domineering partner from hell ), and I'll enforce that but with the addition of DS too! So they can meet me off the train, and then I'll have half an hour before getting DS ready for bed and giving him his nighttime feed.
It's one of the reasons I'm so keen to hang on to the first and last thing bf'ing, as that way DS and I will have 'our' time and a proper physical connection.

Am embarrassed to admit that although I love my job, that we need me to go back, that DP is such a homebody and loves being with DS, etc, etc, that I'll be so jealous if DP becomes DS's 'favourite' .

And heavens, don't feel bad MissRee, it'll be hard whenever we do it!

I already have a huge Daddy's girl here!

Random ramble alert:

This last week has seen quite an improvement in the sound of octopus' chest. To the extent that he's not had his inhaler for two days! Now, I'm pondering why, as you do. Natural progression of the virus? He's bigger now so more capable of fighting it? I've been taking and thus possibly sharing steroids and antibiotics for a week? I got him referred to the asthma coordinator, making him need to feign wellness?

Whichever it is, long may it continue:)

Oi, sorry to hear about your Granddad, dementia is so bloody awful. :( x

Oh Northern, hope you have a great few weeks before you go back.
We're having the 'Working, childcare and a new house sooner rather than later vs SAHM-ing & moving in 10yrs' discussion atm.

seven, mums eh? Mine is now banned from looking after DS until he's older..and less breakable.

LMF, big ole for Octoboy!! Great news x

Sorry I've not been about much...spent the last day looking for this thread in the ante-natal threads. I blame tiredness.

Home from MIL's, all well apart from bloody great argument on way home with DH who I was paranoid about him driving a bit too fast in the rain on m25 cos I'm risk averse . DS slept beautifully this time and woke half a mile from home so am feeding him again before attempt at bed.

I too am determined to continue bf-ing. It's evidently good for him - he's a big lad, bright-eyed n bushy tailed, etc.. It's been great for me -I eat all kinds of crap yet I weigh 1/2 stone less than pre-pregnancy. And it's good for our bond, but also whenever he's upset and nothing else works, nursing will calm him. (although I try to avoid it if I know he isn't hungry as I don't want him to be dependent on me). So when I go back to work, I will be expressing during the day, and bfing morning and evenings. I hope it works. I don't want to wean before 6 months mainly because it sounds messy.

Warning- me me me post.

Have had the worst night/day so far. Ended up having big argument with parents when my dad told me that just because I was a 'little' bit tired i shouldn't be unreasonable. Ended up storming out v upset. In truth I'm totally exhausted. I was hoping tonight would be better but so far I've been up since 1030pm with both boys. DS2 currently asleep on me having coughed his guts up. I know looking after two is hard work and I'm prepared for that, what I didn't realise was how lonely I'd feel. Getting back into a cold empty bed in the middle of the night is soul destroying. My DH is my best friend and rock and without being able to even ring him to talk through the tough times makes it all so much harder. I knew I'd hit a real low point whilst he was away but I thought it would be whilst I was on my own in Norfolk not surrounded by my family. Maybe I was expecting too much from them. At least I've got chocolate Easter eggs to drown my sorrows in!

Yay octopants! :o

There's no guilt required for going back to work, you have to do what's neccesary to pay the bills. I can't imagine leaving mine to go to work but I know I'm very fortunate that we manage to scrape by on next to nothing make ends meet on DH's wages.

I've already sworn to myself that I will not be an irritating interfering mother. Mine also commented on DD's 'fat' thighs earlier. I know it's not a big deal but after years of comments about my weight and my self-esteem being on the floor during my teenage years I will not tolerate it with DD. Sorry I'm rambling, off to bed!

Sorry scooby it must be so hard without being able to talk to your DH, do you have any idea how long he'll be gone? Your dad should know better, can I assume he didn't do night feeds when you were a baby? I snap at everyone when I'm tired, tbh I'd rather be left alone than with irritating family.