December 2011 - April drools!

[OiMissus]

A new thread! squee-eeeze. :)

Is anyone else on Sky broadband? Mine seems to have had a complete shitfit and won't connect!

figgy we have a Kiddy Infinity for DS, he loves it and it doesn't take up any more room than the actual car seat.

seven it sounds like reflux to me.

sorelip sorry you had such a hard time, must have been very scary. Glad things are better now though.

Oh crap, I need advice please. DP has been recieving letters for the last few months which have been disappearing after he opens them. He got two more today and i've finally got fed up and opened them. Two letters regarding uppaid debts, one specifing that a bailiff will be calling within the next 48 hours to remove our goods.

I have never missed a payment in my life and have no idea what these debts are. I would pay it off myself but I don't have the money whilst i'm on maternity leave. I can't get hold of DP and am now terrified that someone is going to turn up at the door when i'm in on my own with the baby and start taking our stuff. This explains why DP has been acting so strangely lately but he's in such a bad mood I don't even no how to talk to him about it.

Are bailiffs even allowed to enter my home if I say they can't come in? I don't have a clue on any of this.

Sorry figgy just realised you are talking about 4 month old DS not an older one! Think Kiddy Infinity is from 12 months ish. Not sure they do front facing car seats for under 12 months, but might be wrong.

BJR I don't think they're allowed in unless you let them in but if I were you I wouldn't answer the door if it rings. Hope you can get hold of DP and he can give you some answers. Might all be a mistake that DP is trying to sort out without worrying you?

Thanks Gee, I think that's what we'll do. Make up the bottle with near boiling water (but using less water), rapid chill, take up in pack with ice pack and take up thermos of hot water, and then add some of that to warm up the feed. We've also got the carton and ebm option.

However, this will all be down to DP as he's doing all the night feeds for the next 4.5 months!
I may be kind and give him a night off...

Brilliant pic MissRee, that's a wonderful outfit! Don't think my DS could carry it off quite as well as your Freya but I may try.

So glad to hear you're improving sorelip but so sorry to hear that the PND got that bad, you poor thing. Any form of mental illness like that is terrifying, as when you're in the middle of it, and at your lowest, you just don't realise...and then when you come out of it you look back and it's so scary.

Will start thinking re thread names, but aethel tends to be good for them.

sorry bf one hand BJR
www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/ManagingDebt/DebtsAndArrears/DG_10034289

BJR ive no experience of this so no advice but really hope you can get hold of DH soon.

Gee no worries he is fine in his group 0 at the moment but this is just speculative for a few months. Iwill drag my arse down to a local centre as it has a halfords, M&P and mothercare and can drag their unsuspecting sales assistants out to the car park for trials.

BJR DO NOT LET THEM IN. they may be incredibly persuasive but if you have a chain on your door, use it. They can't force their way in but if they try, phone the police. If you let them on then they are able to return at any point and gain entry via an open window or door. Thats ONLY if you have already given them permission to enter at some point before though.

If you can gets phone number for them, tell them you will get DP to call them assign ad he getshome but you will not let them in.

If theyre reasonable, they may let you pay in instalments. Lay it on thick with baby etc

My sister used to work in debt collection so if you needany advicePM me.

Sorry for typos but typing one handed and feeding Freya!

Great outfit gee!
BJR you must be going through the mill of emotions right now. Fear, anger, frustration, the feeling you've been betrayed... I have some experience of this, but thankfully not to the point of bailiff threats. Your DP needs to face the organisation that he owes money too, get them to call off the bailiffs -use emotions, claim extraordinary circumstances, use the fact that you have a tiny baby, cry, shake, say it's affecting your mental health... Anything to get the org to take back the debt at the original value and -if it's justified- agree a way to start paying it back.
You don't mention the amount, and you're correct not to. Itmay notbe as serious as it seems. I once had letters from bailiffs as I canceled a gym membership before term. The gym wanted a couple of hundred quid but when it was passed to bailiffs they wanted much more. I got the gym to cancel it by pulling off an Oscar winning performance. I hope that this debt can be dealt with without too much difficulty, and that your relationship is not affected by it. Good luck. X

Hey Ladies,

Sky seemed to really enjoy swimming this morning, only slightly panicky when dunked under the water.

Sensory was really good too as included baby signing :)

She has just had her final jabs now until January screamed for a bit but calmed down pretty quickly thanks to her bottle and lots of cuddles.

BJR my sympathy. That's a crap situation to be in.

Just been to the doc because the episiotomy is, err.. still not right and he's put me on antibiotics for two weeks: 4 a day on an empty stomach (2 hours after, 1 hour before eating). I'm not sure my stomach is empty that often, will have to think about this very carefully! What a drag.

Good grief... just walked back into the front room to the sweet stench of baby poop! I fear I may be dealing with a poomageddon...

MissRee Was it a poomageddon moment?

Right...
That's awful BJR, and it's only a couple of days since you posted about how he was being distant and grumpy. It's a horrible thing because you feel threatened in your own home by the very thought of them arriving.

Your DP may go funny at you for opening his mail or something, but you'll need to have it out with him, and hopefully he'll be reasonable. You need to find out how much he owes, and to which organisations, including store and credit cards, as it is rarely/almost never just one. These things spiral and cause people to act irrationally.

As MissRee says, and from the Direct Gov page, don't let them in. However, your next step, post the above chat, is to work out how to pay them back, and in what priority order.

If the bailiffs try anything funny, call the Police immediately, and mention the baby and that you're home alone as it will bump you up the priority list.

Let us know how you get on.

Yep DSM, one big enough to warrant an outfit change!!!

Right, thank you for all the advice everyone. Finally got hold of DP and he has rung and said they have put things on hold as he wants to dispute that the bills are unpaid. But i'm not sure I believe him.

Just hope he's going to deal with it as nothing from the old house is in my name so I can't even find out what sort of amounts of money we're talking about. Sorry for ranting on here, I don't like talking to people in RL about stuff like this.

Have closed all the windows etc just in case anyone does turn up, only thing they would be able to get to outside is my car and seeing as thats all in my name i'm hoping they can't touch it.

Hope you get it sorted BJR

Freya is currently sporting a knitted cardi from an 80-year old family friend. Not only does she look like an old man with her crazy wispy hair, she now smells like old lady perfume too

BJR Hope it gets sorted. However, I would be having a discussion with DH about who, what, when and how much the debt is and why he hid it from you?

Agree with all the sensible advice above BJR: don't let 'em in, and a sit-down chat with DP Asap. Good luck (((hug)).

Thread title: I know the geek theme is wearing a bit thin, but given how many babes seem to be teething can I suggest "The Trouble With Dribbles?"

Saw my lovely cousin with her 2 week old: cute and sooo tiny!

A first for me tonight: am helping at Rainbows, sarnie tea for the DDs, feed DS and then (wow) out to a local restaurant for a work colleagues' leaving dinner. DH has promised to come home early (sadly 6.30 is "early") and will be armed with EBM and Aptumil.

Oh no bjr, how stressful. I hope it can be sorted without too much hassle, stress and upset. If it is bills that have been paid, why didn't he tell you about it earlier? I hope you're ok, what a horrible thing to deal with. Please come on here and rant as much as like like if it helps you.

Hope you get it sorted, BJR. Lots of people hide debt because they of it as a failure but push him on it. You need to know the facts for your own sanity plus you have a home and a child with him so have a right to know, good or bad, what you're both facing. Good luck xx

Oi, wasn't Fitness First was it? Arsewipes...

MissRee, love the outfit!!! How cute is that!

YBR, hope the meds kick in soon. I had an episiotomy the first time round and I can honestly say, I dealt with the c section healing better!

Awful what you've been through, Sorelip, good to hear things are getting better

I so needed a pocket Aethel, yesterday, when my mil told me not to feed my crying son because he was "too plump" (75th percentile plump) die bitch, die I impressed myself by saying nothing. Dp earned himself a house point when I told him by asking when the grandparents will learn that they should be seen and not heard...hahaha

DSM, I took ds swimming today too, to tots splashtime and he seemed to like it. Screamed the place after though until I had got us both dressed and could feed him!

Im still.ill. Hope had her last jabs today. Air with gp waiting for daddy to pick him up.

Im (envy) of all the swimming babies i would love to take hope but im waiting for her ezcema to get better first.

Also has anyone introduced a sippy cup let to their lo?

Yet sorry posting on phone