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OiMissus · 29/03/2012 08:38

A new thread! squee-eeeze. :)

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GeeandTee · 10/04/2012 01:27

Brain too sleepy to say anything coherent but scooby. I am dreading two weeks on my own with both DCs and not sure whether I'm more worried about being on my own for a week or staying with parents for a week! It must be so much harder for you.

LittleMissFlustered · 10/04/2012 01:42

scooby you're doing a great job, truly. Children are designed to wring us dry, but it's survivable:) Take each day as it comes and shrug off the idiotic insensitive comments as they're not worth giving headspace to. Soon enough your husband will be home to share your bed... and puke duties[buwink]

I just got four hours between feeds! Approximately three and three quarters of which I was asleep for:o

hawthers · 10/04/2012 01:43

scooby sorry to hear that you're having a rough week. Another week nearer to your DH coming home - when is he due back?

I hear you on the dad tired comments. Mine said this weekend that we all needed to be aware that he hadn't slept well so he might be a bit ratty. DH and I snorted into our lunch as my DM pointed out that we might be a little more tired than him....

OiMissus · 10/04/2012 06:43

Aw scooby the times when we feel most alone are when we're surrounded by people. Just because they are the wrong people. - Not that your family aren't great, just that you miss your DH, tis all. Chin up, chuck, he'll be home soon. Xxx
I shall be doing my favourite things today, shopping, then meeting some girlies off here for cakes. :) -I'm not sure how many people are coming actually, but cakes is cakes. [bugrin]

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aethelfleda · 10/04/2012 09:02

Hi girls. Lots of sympathy sc00by, you're doing great despite the relatives' "support"...

And huge for octoboy, may there be many more longer breaks!....

Gotta take DS for second jabs today, forgot to arrange a playdate for DDs , friend has bailed me out at last minute....phew....

msbuggywinkle · 10/04/2012 09:25

Yes - no guilt on going back to work people. It is not allowed.

I start back at the end of the month, running a bfing drop in, doing the helpline and I am doing a day a week on the postnatal ward. I am thinking about starting some more bfing training soon too, because I like being busy.

My sympathy to scooby and seven on the irritating family.

Today, conquer washing mountain. And be annoyed by the annoying health visitor who is doing DD2's 3yo thing.

Rashkakeller · 10/04/2012 09:29

Hello ladies :)

Has a busy Easter involving the pub, a 2nd birthday party and grandparent visiting. Also had Asa's first professional photos done - he was great, decided to demonstrate how good he was at holding his head up when on his tummy which was amazing considering he usually eats the floor when I try little show off. Maia almost didn't play ball when we asked her to have a couple of photos done with her brother but managed to bribe her!!

Scooby I can only imagine how tough you're finding it (and LMF for that matter). I'm overwhelmed with 2 with the help of a very hands on/supportive dp so gawd knows what I'd be like on my own. Hope you get him back soon

LMF much applause for the sleep and glad Octoboy is on the mend

I can't remember any other posts...my bad!

We gave ds a few mouthfuls of baby rice yesterday alongside normal on demand b/fs and he slept through for the first time in 3 weeks! Never seen him so smiley! Waited until 6 months with dd because she didn't need weaning so all new to me but he's a big solid lad so went with my gut feeling and yes it is messy, Oi, my cushions will never be the same again

Today is grocery shopping and to the docs for ds' 3rd lot of jabs. Also need to collect the dirty washing which seems to be in every room in the house and put away dd's shoes as there are 5 pairs on the stairs!!

Re the fb group, can anyone join or do you need to be a poster for a while first?

Have a great day, I hear there is sun outside today!

LittleMissFlustered · 10/04/2012 10:38

You're one of us Rashka so message EasilyBored and join in:o

Today we will leave the house. Honest!

seven77 · 10/04/2012 11:25

Morning.

I have my friend coming round soon with her DS. The place is a tip and DD has been crying for over an hour! She's just had half a feed and finally taken asleep, I need to put her down and get on but I don't want to risk waking her.

Enjoy the shopping oi, we're going tomorrow to buy a castle with DS pocket money apparently.

seven77 · 10/04/2012 11:25

Fallen asleep, autocorrect drives me mad.

seven77 · 10/04/2012 11:32

I moved, she was sick on me and now we're back to crying

msbuggywinkle · 10/04/2012 11:35

HV was actually lovely! Miri has gone back up to the 50th centile (yay!) and the HV is helping me sort out a referral to the Women's hospital to have my smear done under General anaesthetic (double yay!)

seven hope your day improves

BeeMyBaby · 10/04/2012 11:38

missree I'm going back to work in August, then full time in Sept, with DD1 I went back to work when she was 17 weeks and the only way I coped was putting her to bed at 10pm (fed her to sleep with me) so I got about 4 hours with her each evening, and think I will do the same with DD2. I'm lucky enough that my parents or DH will look after them, with the hope after DC3 in a few years I'll get to be a SAHM.

AnAirOfHope · 10/04/2012 11:43

Hope is teething and the crying is bad. Tried everything she just grumpy.

Air runing around just in his pull ups and hands over his ears (sad)

MissRee · 10/04/2012 12:46

Aethel Freya also had her second lot of jabs today! She wailed for all of 2 seconds and then gave the nurse a great big smile Grin booked her third lot whilst I was there - can't believe how quickly the time is flying!

Air DSS also puts his hands over his ears (and has been known to shout at her) when Freya is having a crying fit. I don't like telling him off over it but I can't have him shouting at her.

In all honesty I don't think we will be able to survive on reduced pay until November unless some bills "accidentally" don't get paid so I may end up going back sooner. It's a tricky one because DP and I have decided that so long as the mortgage, council tax and Jack's maintenance get paid, everything else can wait until I go back to work and we can hit the bills hard. I think having unpaid bills and chasing letters hit the doormat will stress me out though but we shall see.

Figgygal · 10/04/2012 12:51

Hello ladies

Not had a chance to catch up yet been in scotland since thursday with no chance to keep track and the thread has dropped off my im on list so need to re-mark place.

From what i did see some weaning chat and return to work guilt so on those topics ive just ordered a highchair for lo and weaning shall commence next week when he is 17 wks. Been out for some baby rice and tommee tippee weaning spoons as a start now need a splash mat for the inevitable mess. Funnily enough in the last week or so i finally feel like ive got ahead of lo stomach hes up to 3 hr feeds and often longer, hes a lot more chilled out too but am back to work at end of june and feel i want a couple of months to "enjoy" introducing foods so am still going to start. Think he must be around 19 lbs now so cant see milk satisfying him much longer anyway. I have my first keep in touch day at work next week and he's off to PIL for day but have childminder round 1 day too to formalise those arrangements. 11wks until am back to work pt but starting to dread missing him but have no option like others.

So anyway am off to catch up hope all is ok with lo's

GeeandTee · 10/04/2012 13:03

Is this thread going to get really quiet when people go back to work? Or maybe if people have office jobs they will check/post even more often?! I am lucky as don't need to go back until December so will take full year as I did with DS. We are struggling a bit financially but I'm trying to cut down on non essentials and we'll manage. Childcare x 2 cuts into my salary massively anyway!

AnAirOfHope · 10/04/2012 13:38

I feel really bad now as our bills including mortage only come to £700.00 so we are ok for me to stayhome with kids but we will need to move in the next three years so i will go back to work then and put kids with a childminder.

Thats if dh has not got better paying job then or i learn to drive and get part time job. The extended ml helps me bf them for longer so its good in that way

NorthernChinchilla · 10/04/2012 13:48

Well that's been a massively shit morning.

With managing to miss two feeds from righty yesterday, as opposed to just the one, I felt like I had been punched in the chest. And then a pink patch appeared on my boob...
Thankfully, as DS was having his third jabs today, I asked the nurse to have a look, and she said she didn't think it was bad enough for anti-bs. But of course the 'normal' prescription (feed, feed and feed some more) is exactly what I need to not do, as I'm trying to drop feeds.

I hate having to do this, as like you Oi, I really enjoy bf'ing, and it obviously suits DS as he's the size of a six-month old. I really, really want to continue with the 7am and 7pm feeds for as long as is possible.

I spoke to a bf advisor at one of the national helplines, who was very nice but just advising me on how to keep on feeding/expressing whilst at work, legal entitlements, etc., which for a whole host of reasons I just can't do.

It's calmed down a bit, and I'll try skipping a feed this evening instead of this morning.

DS then howled the place down with the jabs and as I comforted him the site bled all over my white top and through to my white bra, so I looked like Texas Chainsaw Massacre mummy wandering round the supermarket.

I therefore indulged myself.
Some women may buy handbags, eat chocolate, drink wine, buy clothes- I buy a plant, and so will do up a new pot for the back garden this afternoon.

Breathe.

That's great news about the octopus LMF, hopefully life will be a bit easier now he's getting better, and it'll be nicer for him too. Oh, and it was the referral; the moment you try to sort these things, they resolve.

I really sorry you've not had the full support you'd want from your parents scooby, that sounds pants. And it is true, you're never more alone that when surrounded by friends and family and feeling distant from them. I hope a few cuddles with the boys and tonnes of Easter eggs will help.

I couldn't agree more about the tiredness comments hawthers, in fact I think there should be a law against people complaining about being tired to new parents/mothers, especially those doing the night feeds. I really have to bite back the 'oh do fuck off' 'I think I may be a little bit more tired than you X' comments to DM/DP/anyone who is daft enough to make them.

So glad you got a good HV MsB, makes all the difference, and that they're helping make life a bit better re. your smear, that must be a weight off your mind.

LittleMissFlustered · 10/04/2012 13:58

The kids are at the cinema with a friend so I'm drinking coffee and then headed to primark for her in exchange. I think I've got the better end of the deal:o

msbuggywinkle · 10/04/2012 15:57

NC I know we don't get any training on moving from bf to ff, it is the same for at least one other of the big bfing charities.

I am really relieved that they have listened, although I'm not sure that I can cope with the whole thing even with a GA.

CherryBlossom27 · 10/04/2012 16:07

I need a kick up the bum! I've been so lazy today, I just can't be bothered to leave the house and I've been sat on the sofa!

DS has his next jabs tomorrow, and on Thursday I'm doing a KIT day at work....feeling scared of how I'll feel leaving him with FIL all day! FIL is completely capable, but I still feel nervous! I think doing a KIT day will be good for me to have a break as I've only left DS for 3 hours since he's been born.

I'm counting down the days until DS is 17 weeks and then sod it, I'm introducing solids! I'm going to trust my instincts as I'm sure he's ready now, but I'm waiting for 17 weeks because of the advice.

MissRee · 10/04/2012 16:14

I can't wait til bedtime! Although it stressed mr right out when it turned up unannounced and 2 weeks early this morning, I am SO looking forward to sleeping in our new bed Grin

seven77 · 10/04/2012 18:10

Sorry to air and northern for also having bad days.

cherry there's nothing wrong with a lazy day occasionally.

msb I'm glad Miri's weight is back in track, and that they're listening to you and taking you seriously. I know you don't really talk about your DD1's birth but it must have been pretty traumatic to have such an effect on you. Remember we're all here if you do ever want to talk about it. I don't know if you never went into detail before because you didn't want to scare anyone when we were pregnant.

Anyone heard from dsm lately?

Another question for the wisdom of the thread. The solicitor needs the title deeds for the legal pack for the flat auction, I'm useless with anything legal. I found a Title Information Document from the Land Registry, is that what I'm looking for?

Today DS has eaten next to nothing, I threatened him with bed at lunchtime, he went voluntarily and slept for over 2 hours! I felt so sorry for my friends DS who came to play with him. Eva has already had an early bath as she was covered in sick, I need Wine and curry tonight!

AnAirOfHope · 10/04/2012 18:35

Tgi fridays and hope finaly sleeping yay. Now if i could just get air to stop playing up................