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Feb 2010 They're all walking and talking....and some are even sleeping. The babies are doing okay too.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 11/11/2011 20:19

Pull up a comfy chair, grab a cuppa and a piece of cake, switch the monitors on low and let's PARTY.....!!!

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BabyGiraffes · 16/11/2011 12:53

FC It's hard... I remember having to wake dd1, giving her a beaker of milk while I dressed her, and putting her straight in the car for her to have breakfast in nursery Sad. Out of interest, when does your dd have lunch at the cm, and does she get an afternoon snack? dd1 used to get a finger food 'tea' at nursery at about half 4 and then often had little interest in dinner.
I am a big fan of family dinners but when it's that late it just turns into stress... We are still not there with dd2 and the girls eat about 5.30, followed by myself and dh at about 8. In time I will combine our dinner again (work permitting) and eat as a family around 6.
In your case I'd probably give her something easy, get her into bed and then you and your dh can sit down in peace to have your dinner Smile. And then have a nice relaxing family dinner/lunch at the weekends.

mous yes, I get slobbery kisses a lot and she is also quite clingy at the moment, and jealous. You should have seen her look when I held a friend's baby briefly!! Grin

BabyGiraffes · 16/11/2011 18:28

Dd2 is a silly sausage. She played 'round and round' in the kitchen until she fell over, banging the back of her head on the floor. She started gagging for a moment and I thought she might be sick, but apart from a bump on her head she seems to have got away with it Hmm

StoneBaby · 16/11/2011 18:32

mous big hugs.

flyingcloud · 17/11/2011 05:50

Mous I have a friend whose DD didn't really speak until 3. She never seemed that worried. They are a bilingual household and her daughter is also very tall for her age which has made it harder when dealing with Other people's perceptions. I think in the case of bi (multi) lingual households children often speak later and each child can vary wildly as to their aptitude.

PenguinArmy · 17/11/2011 12:04

Like the OP on that thread, I started with a few words but then stopped and then didn't really speak until I was well over two. Can't even blame a bilingual household.

Well ILs waited 45mins before asking to go out with DD. Despite telling them about DDs food issues and how in order to test different things she needs to completely off certain foods they then went for ages about what were they going to give her for lunch. I pointed out she has lunch after her nap. They are going to a park but then were asking what to give her when they went to a coffee shop. I calmly said there is no coffee shop there (coffee shop is normally the reason they are an hour later than they say they were going to be) and that I doubted there would be time plus DD and a coffee shop don't go. If they're taking her out, then surely its for her to run around. DD is already tired and with only one nap (which is quite late in the day anyway at 1:30) I don't want her being out for ages.

Plus I was going to a go a sling meet (third month of trying as they're only once a month). They insisted they were here to help me especially going out to thing but were then an hour late arriving so can't go.

also again thanks for your lovely comments. This week has been alright, a lot better than last Friday. The secret is just being out for as long as possible isn't it. Once your busy you all forget how tired you are.

PenguinArmy · 17/11/2011 12:05

fucking hell that was long and moany, but it's out the system now Grin

StoneBaby · 17/11/2011 12:10

Angry at your ILs PA Vent as much as you need Smile

Well I received a doctor bill not for the ECG but for the 'Interpretation of the ECG' = £59 Shock The GP spent less than one minute looking at it!!! Shock Thanksfully I have health insurance (just hope it'll cover this)

PenguinArmy · 17/11/2011 12:14

thanks sb

i think it's worse sometimes that they are such small petty things as it reminds me I am makes me feel I'm being petty.

I hated having health insurance, everything was an unknown. I felt like I was always waiting to see if a bill arrived because I had no idea how my HI worked. Turned out it was amazing, but if someone had just told me that. When I had my first ante-natal appointment in the bumph you get given was a list of prices.

Well DS is down (but sucking in his sleep) so I'm going to try a nap as well Shock

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 17/11/2011 14:46

PA that sort of thing would irritate the hell out of me too. Don't blame you for being narked. They really should respect your wishes and advice as your DD's mother. What's the matter with them?!

mous sorry if the thread title felt like it was rubbing in the talking thing. I'm sure your DD2 will talk when she's ready. Almost certainly the number of different languages she's exposed to will be slowing down her down a bit, but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. She's just got more to sort out than most toddlers. Einstein was a late talker too Smile

fc the food before bath idea sounds like a good 'un. I often give DD her lunch in the car (or on my back) on the way back from toddler groups - various types of sandwiches and fruit, usually. My friend gives her twins their sandwiches in their buggy on the way home. Otherwise they'd all conk out before eating. If your DD's getting a decent amount of food earlier in the day, that sort of light supper-on-the-go might be another thing to consider....

BG DD is often mentioning your DD now - when she sees a photo, she always correctly identifies her, remembers going to the park and seeing the ducks and her "jeans" remind her too... ("jeans" are anything made from denim - so mainly skirts and pinafore dresses!)

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Bearcrumble · 17/11/2011 14:54

SB So sorry you've been ill and I am aghast at the charges for glancing at an ECG.

PA Your inlaws are arseholes. How late were they bringing her back this time?

I saw the midwife yesterday - all fine except a blood test showed I have high cholesterol (high overall and high LDL - the bad one) so I have started eating a lot more fruit and veg and amtrying to cut down on butter).

PenguinArmy · 17/11/2011 15:10

well they're still out but I made them come and get her a sandwich.

Cheeky DD fell to sleep in the buggy Shock (my fault I should have had DDs nap 30mins earlier today but they were complaining of being under pressure to get back if they only had 90mins - well I wasn't late arriving). However instead of waking her they waited 15mins before calling so figured the nap was lost. Apparently she had 20mins in all because they stopped for coffee.

StoneBaby · 17/11/2011 15:22

PA you see they still managed to go to the coffee shop!!! Grin

bc take care of yourself.

BabyGiraffes · 17/11/2011 16:13

PA Did you say they came to see you to 'help'? ConfusedGrin Must say you are dealing with this better than I would... Just as well I have no IL...

PenguinArmy · 17/11/2011 17:14

mystery of the buggy nap solved - she has a cold

PenguinArmy · 17/11/2011 18:50

OMG Came out of the kitchen and MIL had DDs trousers and nappy off on the potty

StoneBaby · 17/11/2011 18:54

DS when told off (which happen quite a lot) now put his head down, his bottom lip goes out and looks at you from below. It's very hard not to laugh Grin I have then to tell him to come to give me a hug.

DH is also really proud as DS repeats some of the words he says. I'm more annoyed that DS doesn't do it in French as much Blush

StoneBaby · 17/11/2011 18:55

PA Shock Shock Has she at least ask you about it??? Shock

PenguinArmy · 17/11/2011 19:02

Nope, no asking

I'm feeding DS in the bedroom and possibly staying longer than needed Grin

StoneBaby · 17/11/2011 19:04

I don't blame you, I guess that you're fuming! I'll be soooo annoyed if something like this was to happen to me us

StoneBaby · 17/11/2011 19:05

One to cheer you up

BabyGiraffes · 17/11/2011 19:28

SB Now, this has cheered me up! Smile Although with no in laws and my own parents too old to travel I almost feel envious of chaotic large family Christmas days...

PA are they gone yet? Grin I am sure they mean well at heart but even my own mother would try a stunt like that! Can you send them round to ICs IL for some tuition? Smile

BabyGiraffes · 17/11/2011 19:29

not

PenguinArmy · 17/11/2011 19:52

Yes they've gone. It was a bit weird at the end. They didn't attempt to find out our dinner plans or schedule and since I'd feel weird having a family meal in front of them (they'd made it clear they were eating elsewhere) I just gave DD beans on toast and starting her bath and bed.

I'm not going to tell DH so I'll vent it here but while I hiding feeding DS, DD came in so MIL came in and despite her shouting 'mummy mummy mummy' and crying she just picked her up and carried her out.

Think I realised while they annoys me so much, it's that passive way of asking if this was OK or can they do this after the event. The way they phrase things despite the smiles is quite passive aggressive because then if I say no it's an active thing on my part IYGWIM??

BG yes the definition of help - announce you're taking DD out so you can get on with jobs and do things. Make sure times are dictated to you and also ensure they completely clash with any activities you may actually want to do. e.g we'll take DD so you can houseclean.

DH is quite close to refusing to talk to his parents so I try and act a lot more chilled in front of him and rant away like a loon on MN

I wonder when we'll all get to do the big family thing in our own homes.

StoneBaby · 17/11/2011 19:57

PA I would still let DH know, just in case his mother mentioned it to him. But try to stay composed about it (and then rant on MN).

Just wait a year or two and you'll do the big family thing with your Dh, DD and DS, you'll see it'll be worth waiting for! Smile

PenguinArmy · 17/11/2011 20:02

have you applied to the cheaper nursery? Will it make DC2 more of a possibility?