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Feb 2010 They're all walking and talking....and some are even sleeping. The babies are doing okay too.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 11/11/2011 20:19

Pull up a comfy chair, grab a cuppa and a piece of cake, switch the monitors on low and let's PARTY.....!!!

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bethylou · 19/11/2011 22:21

Hi all. BBB I am always rushing on here too and never feel I can give back as much support as you lovely ladies provide.

SB hope you are soon better - do rest while you can. BG hope your test went well. I'm he same with a really high metabolism - I eat as much as DH (who is 180cm) and burn it off. Also makes me good at burning off alcohol Grin.

IC glad you are feeling okay - have been thinking about you. Totally agree that a baby a this precise moment would have been really hard. I know how hard your DH is working. Next year will be almost as hard, as an NQT, I'm afraid.

FC congrats and welcome back. Your description of pregnancy sounds pretty much identical to my second one and is another reason no to have a third. On that note, we raised £200 altogether through ebaying some equipment and selling the rest a the nearly new sale today. In fairness, we still have about 4/5ths of it left and may end up freecycling lots so that the ceiling doesn't fall on our heads.

Mous te he about your DD2 deciding it's time for potty training - that's what DS1 did when DS2 was only 3 weeks old. He suddenly refused to wear a nappy and was sorted in a couple of weeks at 2.2years. DS2 continues to use the potty often and asks for it but is not consistent yet. I have to say that DS1 is still not dry at night, although we're on the way there. It does seem later for my friends with boys than girls, although I hate to generalise. DS1 wasn't dry in the daytime nap until January this year, but was potty trained 10 months before so don't always assume that has to be the case for successful potty training. He's only just mastered grown up walking up and down stairs too, but obviously has spent much of the last 18 months weak due to diet stuff. DS2 already tries to walk up and down in the grown up way and pretty much throws himself down them anyway!!

Had the carpets cleaned on Friday which was fab and then a couple of hours off to buy a dress. It's my birthday this coming week so we went out for dinner with some friends and for once I found more than one dress that I liked. See facebook for DS1's take on heels!!

Anyway, glad to hear life with new babies is going okay (despite the inlaws PA - we've always had similar problems so I totally get it!) Off to bed now after a week of midnight bedtimes, due to prepping the NCT sale stuff, and earlier than 6am mornings (the boys just seem to know when we need our sleep!!)

Saw the consultant on Tuesday with paediatrician and now a possible date for endoscopy for DS1 on 22nd December though hoping to bring it further forward by crying/shouting as required.

Sorry for any missing letters etc.. no time to reread as DH wants 'a cuddle'!!! Night all, and may it be a long and smooth one. (P.s. we have a bed guard for DS1 still as he regularly turns upside down. We have a mothercare bed which is veyr low to the floor, but 2'6" and a normal length).

p.p.s DS2 is regularly missing tea at the moment and I barely even register it asfter all the dietary stuff we've dealt with. FC would recommend not worrying too much - we just give food, replace with toast and marg if we think they'll be hungry in the night and don't withold pudding (it's not a prize, but part of a meal). Boys are expeced to try a mouthful of stuff. They also stay at table in highchair/ on seat even if refusing to eat. Despite everything, ours happen to generally be pretty good eaters, which personally I count as a major achievement in the circumstances. Probably just luck though!!

bethylou · 19/11/2011 22:21

Oops that was huge even for me!

LittlebearH · 19/11/2011 23:46

Hello all! I am baaaack! Congrats Flyingcloud and BC. I have been so busy at work and only having a pc at weekends doesnt give me a lot of time to post. So have been doing sporadic ones on facebook.

I have literally just been working, cooking and crashing out in bed. I have got Gina Ford's toddler cookbook and am loving it. I was concerned that DDs food wasnt varied enough and too much pre-prepared or sugar was sneaking in. I have since bought 20 180mm Lakeland snap pots and have a freezer full of home made stuff. She loves shepherds pie (mash hidden) and the lamb tagine, she asked for more.
I figured if she wasnt asking for biscuits, why was I giving them to her? She is doing really well eating wise, loves risotto. (so easy, chuck everything in with some garlic puree) DD likes to help mummy cooking, sits on the worktop munching raw broccoli and carrott. If I gave it to her as a snack, she would refuse it, I am sure!

Her speech is impressive. She knows 9 colours and can say them (including grey and white) and can count to five after repeating me. She says mummy, mess and copies me yawning,sighing and coughing. All she wants to do is read books. I must have read one 40 times in one day. She loves Waybuloo on the tv and joins in the yoga.
We also have lots of actions on songs. Her favourites are "the dingle dangle scarecrow" and "wind the bobbin up" Very sweet watching her do the actions.

Her sleep is good. She says "nunnight mummy" and goes straight off although she has been waking before 6am this week. Think its the chilly nights.

DD is also throwing some spectacular tantrums just because she cannot do what she wants or wants to do something herself.

Despite all this, I have been feeling pretty worthless and tired. Been waking up in the night and my head going round and round. I dont feel like socialising etc. and my councellor suggested I go back on anti deps as she thinks that is why I am still feeling a failure and struggling to be the perfect mum/partner etc. So far, it has been two weeks and feeling side effects, insomnia and increased anxiety. i have been told this will settle down.

Anyway this has turned into a massive me me me post. (been at the wine, disclaimer)

Congrats again PA I think you are superhuman!!

What else have I missed??

Hugs to all. Missed you guys.

StoneBaby · 20/11/2011 08:08

LBH welcome back. Glad to hear that your DD is doing okay and Sad you're feeling so tired

PA DH will deal with him today, yesterday was my turn as he was working.

bethy glad to hear that things are getting better but shame about the consultant date Angry I also need my carpets cleaned.

After agreeing that DS needed a haircut, DH has changed his mind... Hmm I agree DS is cute with his blonde curls, but they need tidying up. His hair are longer than mine when wet Shock

PenguinArmy · 20/11/2011 10:57

Just posting and running

LBH Your DD sounds amazing (which is a large part due to you) and so do you. All that crazy working, plus you not just doing stuff with DD but going out of your way and having the foresight and conviction to do even more things with her. I know you're feeling down, I hope ADs help and you can look on you r life and see how great you are. I always had a couple of things that when feeling down I would try and remember (although took the counseller to point them out in the first place). Just something that helped me.

PenguinArmy · 20/11/2011 18:12

DD has a rash. We've not dealt with one before so feel a little lost

InmaculadaConcepcion · 20/11/2011 18:57

PA have you tried ringing NHS Direct and describing the rash? A GP told me that small children can develop all kinds of rashes and most are completely harmless. That said, it's always unnerving and better to get it checked if you're worried.

LBH lovely to hear from you and how wonderful that your DD is doing so well (tantrums notwithstanding). Sorry that you're feeling low at the moment . Is your DP being supportive?
Please come on and vent your feelings whenever you need to/are able to. We worry about you when you don't post for a while!!

bethy great to hear from you too. Good news that you have a date for the appointment for DS1 but blimey, how much longer...??! Good luck with the hassling for an earlier appointment.

Just had the PILs over for the night to baby sit while DH and I went out (yay!!) to a gig (three local bands with people we knew playing...ace!) and for the first time in her life (I know, I know...) DD got put to bed by someone other than me or DH. And it was all fine, which is good news so I reckon we'll be spreading our wings with more confidence in future.

I had rubbish sleep last night though - combo of getting back late, cold symptoms keeping me awake and DD waking up just after 6. I've just bought a memory foam mattress topper to make our futon more comfortable for guests (and us - we slept on it last night, let PILs have our bed) and it does the job. But we've now put it on our own bed as the easiest way to store it between times and WOW I just had the most comfortable nap OF MY LIFE!! I'm a fidgety sleeper anyway and lately have had problems with arms and hands going dead while sleeping, but this was a revelation. Can't wait to get back into bed tonight!! Grin

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PenguinArmy · 20/11/2011 19:11

IC you know there is no going back now. Grin

We want a kingsize bed and although you can get them quite cheaply, we know we wouldn't settle without a memory foam mattress and Egyptian cotton bedding all in king size which is the expensive part. We were lucky to get them in the first place but now we're spoilt I tell ya.

I'm happy it's a viral rash, will keep an eye on temp. Knew she wasn't back to normal yet. It's a bit shocking seeing one for the first time and then feeling guilty you didn't see it earlier. We've been treating her as normal until tonight when we abandoned cooking dinner and even bath. Only on changing her did we then see it.

StoneBaby · 20/11/2011 19:17

PA Can it be roseola? DS had it a year ago and it was a rash which appeared after a few days under the weather with high temperature. But I agree with IC contact NHS for more advices.

IC well done on letting your ILs taking care of your DD at bedtime. It's hard but so worth it (mu mum has done it a few times but DH never Hmm )

BabyGiraffes · 20/11/2011 21:14

We?ve had a truly terrible weekend with around 5 night waking from either of our girls. I feel about twice my age right now, esp as I came down with dd2?s cold myself. I currently sit at my computer with tissue stuffed up my nose ? a very fetching sight Grin.

PA I was told by my GP once (when I rushed in convinced dd1 had measles) that there are so many viral rashes out there that most have no name... But agree that if you are at all concerned about her, please do have her checked over in the morning Smile

mous your dd2 does sound incredibly ready to go without a nappy but I would share your concern about accidents on the subway or in a snowsuit... Shock. Would she take kindly to have a nappy/pull on whenever you are out and about? I did this with dd1 on long motorway car journeys at the time and she never got confused about it. Oh, and if you dh was a late talker I wouldn?t be too concerned about her just yet.

IC Way to go! And a good reason to have come back from Madrid, no? Grin

LBH Lovely to hear from you and do let us know how you get on. Your dd sounds delightful! (And so do you? I am most impressed how you manage to do so much cooking after working so hard!) Smile I am sure you will be fine and life will get easier for you. Talking to someone and taking AD is the right thing to do Smile.

I have no idea if dd2 knows any colours [lazy mummy emoticon] but she is quite observant. She likes to offer people cups of tea made with her singing tea pot but when she gets to me she offers me a cup of coffee!! Grin

Beth Hope you get an appt soon and also hope your own health issues are sorted quickly Sad.

SB (I think) Yes, I am terribly broody but dh has made it clear that he?s already compromised to have two (apparently he only wanted one dc), so 3 is out of the question? Sad. I have sold/given away a lot of our baby stuff now but crucially not everything, just in case Wink

Right, enough from me?. Here?s hoping for a quiet night Wine (or maybe there should be a lemsip emoticon)

PenguinArmy · 20/11/2011 22:20

BG you always sound so calm and together that the thought of you rushing to the GP is actually reassuring (sorry if that comes out wrong)

surely the disturbed nights are a reason to not have another Grin

DD feels cool now and we have a 9am tues GP appointment for DS and I, so there is that as back up

BabyGiraffes · 20/11/2011 22:57

PA Grin

flyingcloud · 21/11/2011 11:05

Marking my place, will be back later.

StoneBaby · 21/11/2011 11:24

BG You convinced him for a 2nd, maybe you can managed the same for a 3rd (use the appeal of maybe it'll be a boy) Grin I hope your night was better.

PA I hope your DD is getting better

Well, I got a mild conjonctivitis but can't be bothered to go to the GP again, so I'll wait and see.

Waves to everybody else.

BabyGiraffes · 21/11/2011 12:33

SB Well, I had no idea I forced him to have a second... Hmm (It took two years and two mcs to have dd2 so it was hardly a surprise...). Oh, and the thought it could be a boy would put him right off!! Grin
Thanks, our night was better at least as far as the girls were concerned. I still had to stuff tissue up my nose to get any sleep...

BabyGiraffes · 21/11/2011 13:02

dd2 has been such a sweetie this morning it's nearly made me cry. She put a blob of vaseline on my red sore nose (on the tip of my nose but still appreciated), pulled on the toilet roll and brought me about three metres of it so I could blow my nose Grin, and offered me a pretend cup of coffee and her cuddly bear... Awwww, she knows mummy is a bit under the weather (to put it mildly!)

PenguinArmy · 21/11/2011 13:23

I always sleep with tissue in my nose when I have a cold

InmaculadaConcepcion · 21/11/2011 13:49

Aw, BG, your DD2....!!

Not a great night for me either thanks to my cold. That, and DD's cold. She woke a couple of times in the evening (I think she was annoyed by being woken by a need to cough) which meant I was on edge overnight thinking she'd be awake again. She whimpered once or twice, which instantly woke me and had me out of bed and ready to take action before I realised all was quiet. Then it took me a while to relax properly and get off to sleep again.
The bed was very comfy, though!

On Saturday, DD didn't wake until 08.00 Shock.
Shame I had been awake since 04.50.... Hmm

DD was being most annoying at meal times over the weekend, dawdling over her food so much it was starting to drive me nuts. Now I've decided if she hasn't finished up within 40mins, I'm taking the food away. And no more pandering to constant requests of "bit more" of things when she's still got lots to eat on her plate or allowing her to faff with her sunglasses/hair clips/our cutlery. She was noticeably better this lunchtime after I was firm at breakfast, so hopefully it won't take her long to get the message that procrastination is not going to be encouraged.

I'm starting to realise how true the saying "give them an inch and they'll take a mile" is when it comes to small children....!

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BigBlueBear · 21/11/2011 14:02

I have a cold too.

Boo.

StoneBaby · 21/11/2011 14:12

Oh, poor you (BG, IC and BBB).

BG Grin at your DD2 taking care of her mummy (and Grin at the thought of the loo roll going from the toilets to reach you)

BabyGiraffes · 21/11/2011 14:19

dd2 stopped being a caring daughter and refused to sleep this lunchtime Sad. Sorry to hear about all the other colds... 'tis the season to be snotty Wink

PenguinArmy · 21/11/2011 14:24

DD is in bed for nap 2, temp down but rash still spreading.

DS has just slept today so hoping he's not getting it. I'm loathe to wake him just in case.

BabyGiraffes · 21/11/2011 14:26

PA oh dear, poor you and your dd and ds!!! Sad

BabyGiraffes · 21/11/2011 14:28

Oh, and PA please do wake him to check he's okay. At his age I wouldn't take any chances... Sad

PenguinArmy · 21/11/2011 14:30

oh he wakes to feed frequently but goes straight back off. Get a quick nappy change in etc. and he's on my lap snoozing now.