Feb 2011...Creeping, crawling and cuddling towards Christmas

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Morning!

Ear still pants but DP thinks his man flunks worse.

Off for hair cut but back later....

Happy birthday reastiebabe Hope you have a lovely day.

And in a bizarre non-sequitur.....yes wtf is it with babygrows that are too short but massive everywhere else. I have taken to hacking the toes off them so C's toes just poke out and she can grow into the rest of it!

Dx

Ooooh PS C also has the squeaky eggs for Christmas, was it wiggles who recommended them originally?

Thanks guys. Just got back from my parents with some pressies and alice gone to sleep so I'm all set to watch my DVD. I'm going to sound incredibly ungrateful here and I don't mean to sound all demanding but I feel really tearful about everything today. Hardly any one seemed to have remembered it was my 30th and my parents gave me hardly anything compared to what my sister gets for her pressies. Everyone is busy this afternoon and it feels like no one has any time for me and I'm on my own (again). I feel bad for feeling like this as I know it's completely irrational and I'm very lucky in so many ways. Even the card that came from my granny (the one with terminal cancer) my dad had trodden on and it was all bashed up. That's my last ever birthday card I'll have from her and it's all ruined . So sorry to moan, I don't know who else to talk to without sounding ungrateful . I feel like I should be happy today. I know I'll be about this post later on.

A massive happy birthday reastie I hope you have a lovely day.

Omg the boys have now broken up from school and my house it a complete disaster zone. T, J and Im have already played airplanes, had a disco and are now den building. Joey actually just said 'mummy I bet that this is your worst nightmare with us all at home!!!!!!!' smile and wave smile and wave.

Archie is still having four feeds a day, big ones morning and night and two snackettes about lunchtime and at about 4 pm. He point blank refuses a bottle (in fact he laughs at them!) and drowns when having water from a beaker (useless boob monster). But it suits me I have so much to remember when we go out at least the boobs are always with me!

Oh reastie sorry you're feeling rubbish. I don't think it sounds that ungrateful, as I know that's not what's really going on. It's not about the presents, but it is a little about recognition of it being a significant day (which it is) for you, and that you are also still doing a really hard job, much of it on your own (as in when DH is at work). I can totally imagine how you must be feeling, you want to feel a bit special and birthday-ish, a bit celebratory, but it's actually just another day and Alice will cry and parents might say or do thoughtless things and DH might not totally get what it's all about.

Sorry about your Gran's card and at your Dad for that, it's just thoughtless. Although I'm sure it was an accident.

Sometimes it helps me at times like this to remember we're still in the first year of this, maybe it's OK that we're not going to have amazing birthdays or Christmases, we're not going to get a lie in and breakfast in bed, we're not going to go out or away to exotic places. We're still in year one. There will be other birthdays, and by next year Alice will be old enough for Daddy to tell her to go and give Mummy a special birthday kiss and cuddle. That's going to feel a bit different.

In a similar vein, I'm trying not to have too high hopes for Christmas, I'm just trying to tell myself that it's our first Christmas, C is still only 10 mo, we will probably get woken up with her coughing and crying at 5am as she is poorly, she will probably cry, she might not sleep well in the day, she might be a fusspot as she's teething. But that's OK, it's year one, it's not meant to be easy. It might sound a bit negative, but it actually helps me to think about it that way, because then the bits that are good or do go well, are like a really good bonus and make me feel lucky.

D

OK, please forget about my last post . I don't know what's wrong with me at the minute

Sorry posted too soon.
She didnt stay for my wedding meal as it was xmas eve-too busy.
I was left on my own at xmas with 4 kids as "they like xmas to them selves" she will now go to my precious sisters every year tho.
I could go on,dh has helped me by saying its as if they still see them as children but i know how hard it can be,so you dont need to feel bad for what you wrote.

Me and Dils are ill with a cold and cough. Went out to dinner at friends last night and thus disrupted Dillys routine.I was therefore up at 5 but she did go off at 7 untill 10 blissio. Had no school run so stayed in bed.

haha didnt post at all whtas up with me. Basically you get the jist my Mum favours my little sisters massivley even tho they are now in their 30's they had amuch easier life than me but are still treated as golden girls and get massively more than me at every given opportunity.

Ledkr has reminded me that I didn't really respond to the main bit of what's pissing you off reastie i.e. unequal treatment from family.

I've never had this, but DH does A LOT. As Ledkr says they get treated more as children (and have been more 'needy' over the years) and get lots more than DH does. Is it something to do with people who make the least fuss get the least attention?

Dx

Thanks guys, I was just about to ask mn to delete my post as I felt so bad about what I had said and people taking it the wrong way. ledkr I get so upset about my sister seemingly getting preferential treatment (although my parents never agree). She gets pretty much whatever she wants - she's getting a laptop for christmas as she 'needs one' as the one she had new less than 3 years ago she dropped twice and broke - when my parents got me a laptop I had to save up half the amount to pay towards it and then it was christmas and birthday combined. She got rail tickets to go travelling around europe for 3 weeks and tickets to a ball that cost over £250 per person to go to ( ) for her borthday this year. She's never ever even had any kind of job fgs - every year my parents say she will get a summer job and every year something comes up that she's so busy with she can't possibly even fit part time work in - when I always had to work. I hate to sound all'she has I want' when it's not about that - it's just I feel we should be treated the same. d you're right i think re: christmas. I've now lowered my expectations and am not so bothered or looking forward to it any more.

reastie happy birthday!
Its a shame we are not nearer as I would have dragged you out for a ridiculously indulgent bday lunch! I feel bad that you aren't having a good day. 30th is a bit of a milestone birthday so you should be being spoilt. However, if nobody is doing the honours I suggest doing so yourself, buy yourself something fabulous and expensive and forget the cost! with regards to your parents favouring your Dsis, thats a shame. My sisters and I (and my bro) have a different sort of problem, we had a v chaotic upbringing and hence none of us were favoured or spoiled! I think thats better in a way as we are inseparable and completely defend one another to the death (dramatic but true!) However did you say that your parents gave you your house? Maybe they spoil your Dsis to compensate or something? Anyone with more than one child can promise you that they dont have a favourite child so I'm sure your parents love you just the same, but show it differently?
I hope you start to enjoy your birthday more, lots of sparkly birthday wishes flying to you from me in glamorous Nottingham..... :)

ha mizk thanks. You see this is why I feel bad about moaning about my parents - yes, they did give me my house ( ) - but they are giving my sister 2 houses ( ) (allbeit smaller than this house). . I'll shut up now . Hopefully I'll get spoilt by DH later - I'm living in hope of flowers (see, I'm not that hard to please!).

Happy Birthday, Reastie, my dear! Sorry your nothaving a fab day. I think what Delia says and summed it all up. Because I have an older child I know thatit all gets easier, and that Noah will eventually give me presents for Xmas and birthdays and getall excited with me. It hard being a parent as thebaby comes first in everything, evenwhen your ill you still have to take care of everyone else! Why don;t you and Alice go out for lunch?? As per the parent and sibling thing, don't let it get to you, I think sometimes peoples don;t realise how they act/talk can effect other people. I can tell youare a sensitive soul, like me, and it can be tough. I really hope dh spoils you. Men are generally not good at the surprise present thing. I have to ask dh for presents for Xmas etc as he is useless.

Noah still has four bottles a day. before breakfast, mid morning, mid afteroon and before bed, although we're stopping the one before bed as he's thrown it up the last few nights. Either milk doesn't agree with him or he taking it too quickly! We're going to give him a snack before bed instead and hope he's not sick but sleeps through until morning.

Four4me, wow four kids at home???Must be madness in your house!

Its my last day at work now until the new year....yippee!! Ben was very excited this morning as they are having Xmas lunch at nursery today and all the babes and tots and eating in with the preschoolers so he gets to see Noah! He is getting so excited about Xmas I'mthinkiong he may explode by Xmas Eve!!

P.S. Fat boy Noah is now in 12 to 18 month clothes! He;s huge, but beautiful x

reastie you poor girl there's nothing worse than being disappointed on your birthday, the one day you are dependent on other people being nice to you. I think it sounds tres unfair how your parents treat you and your sis, agree with delia it's about those who make least fuss getting most attention. We'd defo take you for a boozy indulgent lunch and a good moan if we were closer. Big bunch of and large glass of from me xxxxx

ledkr has Ella finished all her performances now?

Ah reastie, i know exactly where you are comming from. I reallyhope your dh spoils you this evening, you really do deserve it. Feel free to pm me if you like.

Oh and in response to whoever was asking about bottles, C is having 3, first thing, mid-pm (after she wakes up from nap) and last thing, and she has water from a tippee cup with lunch & dinner. I think after she's one I will try and replace the mid pm one with a drink of milk from a cup.

She's not fed in the night for yonks...

D

reastie poor you I would be feeling exactly the same. I am the ultimate birthday diva. When it is mine everyone knows. It is great when your kids are older as you can communicate with others through them.... Ie 'Joey don't forget it is mummy's birthday next week/tomorrow and she would really like xyz and whatever you do don't tell daddy/grandma/etc ( completely guaranteed to get them to tell them )

I wish we could all get together tonight for a fab feb reasties 30th drinks party.

All quiet here at the moment, Im and A in bed and J gone to work for a couple of hours with dh. So my lovely squidgy Tommy and I on the sofa (me mning and him playing his ds-his idea of heaven). Thought of you wiggles this morning he put the big red car DVD on and him and Im were acting it out!! Drove me mad!!!!! Anyway sat here ignoring the tip of the house!

Hi folks...at work & a bit bored (well...ignoring my to do list, really!). reastie happy birthday, tho sorry your not feeling 'birthday enough' if you know what I mean...hopefully dh will come up trumps for you!

Bottles-N still had 3-1 as soon as he wakes up, 1 after lunch before his nap & 1 before bed. He doesn't always finish them, so thinking about trying to introduce cow's milk in the new year. Clothes wise, get's now getting into 12-18 months, purely for the length!

Re: Xmas, I think we too have gone overboard...he has a trike, activity cube, talking waybuloo toy, puzzle, books, bath toys, musical instruments, Xmas pyjamas & prob something else I'll find in the cupboard I forgot about! Sis texted me last night to say she was checking in a spare bag for pressies for Nate...got me worried now as we have no storage space!

reastie sweetheart its pants when a fuss isn't made on your birthday. I know it might sound childish but I make a big deal about birthdays in our house. Christmas is kid heaven and I love it too but your birthday is your special day and I am very lucky in that the big man feels the same but my parents can be a tad lax. For various dull and not very exciting reasons my birthday as a child was never a huge thing so I make up for it now.

My sister was a bit of a "difficult" child, teenager, adult and we used to spend years treading on eggshells to make sure she wasn't upset. If its any help she realises now what an absolute mare she was and tries to deal with any problems head on instead of demanding a new pair of shoes/horse/puppy etc

What have I said before? this is all our special safe bit of being a Mum so never feel you have to apologise about anything you type - unless its to diss any of my yummy tv crushes

Mr W is on his Christmas do tonight, if there is a sign of any vomiting I'm putting the snib on the door!!

thank you much everyone. DH came up trumps with a bunch of flowers and a PVR (I think that's what it's called ) which you can actually pause live tv with [mind blown emoticon] . I spent half an hour crying on his shoulder and then had a long hot soak in the bath, which I felt much better for. Thanks everyone for listening and sympathising

wiggles hope Mr W behaves himself at the do and doesn't come home in too much of a state the love god can do no wrong in my eyes

granny good to hear from you - me thinks you will have to buy a new house to fit all Nates christmas toys in

four4 sounds like you're in for a very tiring christmas with all the kiddywinks at home - how on earth do you clean/tidy ? It's bad enough with a mobile and destructive baby let alone adding 3 children on top of that!

Btw where is 40 ?

Glad your evening is looking up reastie, my parents have pause live tv, I don't understand how it works Sofia loves it, she's constantly making up excuses to go the toilet so she can stop the tv Mummy

Am watching Love Actually I know its a cheese fest but was only Christmassy thing I could find but Christ that Keira Knightley is irritating

Cover yourself woman, I know you have a fantabidoozie toned midriff but its supposed to be Christmas and cold, pull your top down - you'll catch your death

Hi all just popped on to say Happy birthday to reastie and glad your dp didn't disappoint :) Don't blame you for feeling how you did btw, don't be

I am all bunged up and feeling sorry for myself :( However A seems to be on the mend which is a relief - it was her last day at nursery today and I managed to spy on her when I picked her up, she was playing with toys quite happily then when she saw me she did a big grin and crawled over at top speed, I might have had a tear in my eye

wiggles that Knightley is soooo irritating, stop pouting woman!

Off to bed to sleep off my impending cold, back tomo night all xx

Ladies there is going to be a murder, Dh is cooking up a banquet in the kitchen, he has come home from the pub drunk and decided to cook a fecking meal from scratch. I'm laying in bed ( yes the shit woken up) and I can hear him banging and clattering away oh and the bloody extractor fan! I have been down to him to make sure he has not burnt the kitchen down. Seriously, who decides to make some sort of chicken chilli dish in a sauce when they are pissed? Whatever happened to a slice of toast? I am
Not going to be able to sleep now. honeymoon, well and truly over!

Morning ladies, hope everyone is OK and more or less ready for Christmas now. I'm still working today and tomorrow [booooo], but C's nursery closes at 4pm tomorrow so will have to duck out early to pick her up.

blizy on your behalf, drunken munchies can only be chosen from the following list: toast, cheese on toast, bacon butty, takeaway (natch), or random assortment of cold fridge things that don't go together e.g. a slice of pork pie, some leftover cauli cheese and pasta salad.

Ponyo might have a tear in my eye on your behalf re the looking at babies when they don't know you're there. I have the same thing. Usually I leave Mum's and look at her through the window for a minute and it's so lovely to know she just carries on banging on her high chair and eating toast and grinning after I've gone. I picked her up the other day and she launched herself out of my Dad's arms and grabbed my lapels and pulled herselt into a massive hug then was just bouncing and squealing in my arms. It's nice to feel loved!

reastie glad to hear your evening improved on your day. As wiggles said don't be about things you say here, sometimes it's the only place we can say what we really feel. BTW I didn't mean don't look forward to Christmas, I more kind of meant, I try to just keep my expectations moderate then will be pleasantly surprised when things go well!

wiggles agree she is v annoying in that, with her little tilty head move and fake shy/modest act. I like her in Pride & Prejudice though (like Matthew MacFadyen A LOT more tho [drools]!).

Have a nice day all

Dx