Feb 2011...Creeping, crawling and cuddling towards Christmas

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Morning!

Ear still pants but DP thinks his man flunks worse.

Off for hair cut but back later....

needto you poor girl, had no idea things were so desperate for you :( Living with an alcoholic is really, really hard, I know, my dad is one. (well, stepdad but he's like my dad). He hasn't had a drink for 3 years now but it's always there, if you know what I mean. I really wish you all the best with whatever you choose to do and how you work through it all. Is he going to AA? It may be worth you going to a meeting for family of alcoholics, my mum did and it helped her a lot. How sad about the wedding :( how do you feel? Sending lots of love to you xxxxx Glad your friend is in a better place now, good you got to see him before he went. They can be wonderful places, hospices, my mum goes to one quite often.

reastie chuck in the fat fighters and do SW with me, it's brilliant :)

chocoroo thanks for the new thread

debka really lovely about your sister.

NeedToCreep so sorry for your shit time, we are always here, even if its just for a quick aaagggh or a shoulder to cry on, all my love xxx. Am happy your friend has found peace, Mr Ws aunt died yesterday - she had MS and had been ill for such a horrible length of time x.

Need to good god love, poor you. There is a support thread on mn for the partners of addicts.I worked with them for years and its not easy.Hes not just going cold turkey i hope? My exh was a big drinker,i dreaded all social occasions as he would get so drunk he'd sometimes wet the bed,it sounds funny but it was truly horrendous.Pm me if you want to talk.

deb great news about your sister.

ponyo I decided it was more than a coincidence our dd's having oral thrush then spotty front bottoms and so i bought some canesten so will let you know how it works.

Evening,

Needto really sorry to hear about you and 'd'p at the moment, didn't know things were that bad, sounds like a lot to cope with. Is your gut instinct telling you to stick it out? Like wigs said we are all here for you if you need to talk Ben sounds like a cheeky one, I am impressed that he is clapping, I have been trying to teach dd for aaaages!

deb yay for your sis!! How lovely, how far one is she? Exciting news :)

reastie sounds like A is doing pretty well with her eating, some days dd can do well and eat loads (so it seems) and some days she lives off rice cakes and bottles. Like today - oh and chips

I felt a bit funny today that it is back to work on monday - I remember my last day of work before mat leave started, I finished at lunch time and went to macD's for lunch (treat ) and sat with my big belly contemplating the next 9 months and being very unsure what to expect, now its all over and I'll be putting my baby in nursery 3 days a week
Am pretty sure I'll cry on moday morning!

Hello everyone else, I'm off to look for reasties biscuit thread

x post ledkr I am going to ring out of hours docs in the morning for an appt b'cos its got worse, the rash has a white bit on top of it now and is spreading, plus looks so sore. Let me know how you get on with caneston. I said front bottom to docs when I rang today, couldn't say foo to her she sounded a bit posh

Evening ladies.
deb congrats to your sis, how lovely that you'll be an auntie!!

needto my mum is an alcoholic also, I don't often talk about in RL as I feel a real sense of shame and embarassment, silly as that is. It must be so awful for you and if you want to vent, just pm me.
Oi led lay off front bottom! It must be a Midlands thing cause we use that expression too.... Hope canesten works, poor Dilly!
Enjoy fireworks etc everyone. Please empathise with me as I have to go to ILs alone for fireworks tomorrow night! DP is at football til late so I shall be entering the lions den alone. However MIL is having Cassia all day so I have a whole day off, planning girly lunch and cinema trip to see The Help,hooorahhh!!!! Has anyone else read the book, I adored it.

Thank you, all of you for your support. Im so sorry that it seems to be so common, it really is horrible. I didn't know just how much he's been drinking until last night when he came clean as he's been very good at hiding it. We went to the doctors today and he's having a blood test on weds to check his liver and has been referred to a specialist centre that he has to call on Monday. The doctor was great, very supportive. I didn't know there were groups for families and think I'll look into if there's anything local to go along to. anyway, it explains a lot of the arguments we've been having and his behaviour to a certain extent. I feel ashamed too but not sure why.

wiggles so sorry to hear about mr w's aunt, that's such a terrible illness. How is he doing?

mizk I loved the book too and really want to see the film, can I come with you please? (BTW we also say front bottom )

needto I am so sorry you are having such a shit time with dp, like the others said we are here anytime. It is nice you were with your friend and got to spend some time with him, at least now he will be free of pain. Sending you some hugs today.x

debka Fantastic news about your sister! Please let it be me soon x

mizk enjoy your night with the inlaws!

I had a fab wee day today spoiling myself, went shopping and bought a new jacket, converse (for the wedding!) and an iphone!

Hope you all have a fab weekend! Here have some or for the sw lot .

jane if my sis can do it, so can you :)

She's only 6 weeks so a long way to go yet BTW

Oh deb I know, but it seems like we have been ttc for an eternity it really has only been 5 months.

I'm a tad emotional tonight, it is our friends annual fancy dress party tomorrow night, I can't face it though. I keep thinking about us last year so full of hope and excitment with Zoe kicking away inside me.

MizK and debka I loved the book, I heard the film was more a prequel kind of thing with the same characters rather than a remake of the book, of course I could be talking shite

jane iphone, iphone - you say I'd actually be more excited about the Converse.

I went to our local pharmacist about Sofias bottom once and he referred to it as her front bottom

ponyo let us know how A gets on with Dr and don't worry about putting her into nursery, she'll be grand and she'll love it x

NeedTo Mr W is ok, more worried about his Dad - the funeral is tomorrow morning, there's a bit of kerfuffle about the funeral, bit boring and stressy - but Fil isn't keen on Mr W going to the actual Mass as its in a dodgy area (well when I say dodgy we all grew up around there , but its sort of a no-go area because of Mr Ws job and none of Mr Ws extended family know he's a policeman so its awkward to say the least) Told you it was boring Anyway don't you dare feel embarrased or ashamed!

NeedTo so sorry you're going through this, I haven't been around as much as I used to be but had no idea you were having such a hard time. Good advice here though, you should get as much support as you can, and you have nothing to feel ashamed about, nothing at all. I do hope you can find a way through it.

jane sorry also you're struggling tonight. I suppose there will always be these things that make it all raw for you again, and I know you've said before how people who don't 'get' you seem to think there should be a point at which you get over it or move on, which is stupid, as of course you don't. Sending you big hugs tonight and thinking of Zoe. Also lots of vvv +ve vibes for TTCing, it must feel like an eternity but it isn't really, and it won't be long now, you have so many people rooting for you!

LOL at everybody saying front bottom!

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Ladies, form an orderly queue for autographs please . Is it sad that I'm really excited to be in the talk round up?

deb great news re: your sis, fingers crossed for her

needto

jane an iphone? I know this won't help you but your time will come, maybe all the wedding stuff is stressing you out a tad and post wedding everything will slot into place

Ah jane I'm sorry, I thought of you when I posted about my sis. Bloody sucks doesn't it. I'm sending much love to you and Zoe tonight xxxxx

wiggles sorry to hear about MrW's aunt, I missed that. Hope he (and his dad) are ok. I'm sure A will love nursery too, I think what worries me is that it is a long day and I don't want her to be upset b'cos me or dp aren't there

jane are you going to the fancy dress party? Don't if you don't feel up to it. I was thinking about you and Z when I was thinking about when my mat leave started earlier, like I've said before you are so strong, you will get pg again soon honest, it just seems to take forever doesn't it. I am jel of the iphone by the way, and the converse actually...

MizK ooh a day off - enjoy! We are thinking of taking A to the forest for fireworks but I don;t want her to be scared, she was crying ealrier when we put her to bed b'cos of the noisy fireworks poor thing.

I was all set to watch frozen planet but stupid sky box didn't record it

jane sorry x posted with you, sweetheart every day is hard- some days for whatever reason are even harder than it should be possible to bear, but you'll get there. Stress about conceiving is something I can really understand xx

my brain isn't working tonight wiggles hope the funeral goes as well as possible and mr w's cover isn't blown

jane i think most of us have experienced it taking too long to concieve so take heart.I can imagine the things that set you off as you do things that you did last year before it all happened.
Can i also say jane much as i love you YOU CANNOT WALK DOWN THE AISLE IN A CONVERSE JACKET get a nice dress fgs

Sorry you are going through this Needto. I hope you both come out the other side. It's great that you managed to see your friend too.

Sorry about MrW's aunt, too, wiggles. I hope you manage to get the funeral problems sorted out.

Well done Deb's sister! Definitely your turn next, Jane.

Wishing all the thrush away. A calls hers a pee-gina when she forgets!

Had booked the eldest two into the parents' night out at their pre-school but unfortunately E has been sick a couple of times so A will go on an expensive playdate and we will get a takeaway! My face looks like you could do dot-to-dot on it at the moment anyway so hopefully we can go out next month.

Sending sleepy vibes to all the babies.

tad feel better xx

reastie is the Christening this weekend?

Oh and any lurkers I'll post up the stats soon, so decloak yourselves!

Gosh Needto so sorry you've been having such a tough time . As everyone else has said, we are here when you need to talk.
Sorry about your friend, I imagine he is pain free now. My Dad died in a hospice, when I was 13. It was a wonderful place (well still is). Even though you miss the person, it is somewhat of a relief that they aren't in pain anymore.

Sorry about Mr. W's aunt wiggles. Hope his dad is ok.

Debka that's fantastic news about your sister! A little niece or nephew

Jane ((hugs)) I can understand why you didn't want to go to that party. You and Zoe are often in my thoughts, I was Just looking at her picture on your profile when I had a nosy at your hen do pics. She is so beautiful.

You look like you had great fun at your Hen do, btw! I can't believe your wedding is so close now! Eeeep!

Tad hope E is better soon!

Ponyo and Ledkr hope the 'front bottoms' clear up and you get to the bottom (ho ho ho) of what it is.

Not much to report here, all very boring. L went to bed very early as she was too tired to fight it so I'm not holding out much hope for a lie in in the morning! I've been eating the left over Halloween sweets that weren't given out to trick or treaters (we didn't have a pumpkin this year so I don't think we got as many as we normally do but I got loads of sweets in).

MizK enjoy your film and your "day off"

needto hope you are doing okay, I guess if DP has admitted he has a problem that's a really positive thing. It must be so difficult for you, thinking of you. Hope your friend RIP.

wiggles sorry for mrw aunt, hope he is doing okay.

debka congratulations, how lovely

jane it will be you soon, it feels like an eternity though doesn't it?

reastie I feel honoured to know you, hope you still talk to us civvies.

at front bottoms. Glad I have a son, willy, easy.

tad hope you feel better. Our fancy waitrose is in jesmond. ledkr I am looking for a gilet to match my horse face as I type. I would just go there for treats and butties, do usual shop at asda still.

ponyo frozen planet was brilliant, really cute penguins nicking each other's rocks for their nests!

Sure N will wake up soon so will quite while I'm ahead, night all xx

Lol at the gilet and horse face comment! MIL (she of the only shops in John Lewis) has indeed bought E a gilet from JL and he won't wear it!

Yes, Wandering, I also help the dcs out with their Halloween candy!

MizK, hope you have a lovely day off.

Can't get E off the Alphablocks game on the CBeebies website. At least it's a bit educational, right?