Feb 2011...Creeping, crawling and cuddling towards Christmas

[chocoroo]

Morning!

Ear still pants but DP thinks his man flunks worse.

Off for hair cut but back later....

poncey photoshoot link

Ahem, here is a link to some photos I had taken of the kids on Wednesday, before it snowed yesterday. A friend took them.

Morning!

Aw, what gorgeous children Tad! I love the close up of S where you can see his 2 little teeth so cute!

Aren't we lucky, on this thread, that we produce such beautiful babies

Alphablocks is great. I can't get to grips with all this jolly phonics business though and I'm sure I'm confusing DD1! I still do the old way I was taught.

I feel like a tool saying ssss instead of se and forget!

Have read, but can't remember all as slightly hungover. Dh and I went to friends 40th birthday, it was first drunks night out since Noah was born so I had more than a few glasses of wine.

Need to, I'm so sorry about what's happening at the moment. I don't think we had any idea how bad things were for you. I know it's not very mnetty, but have a huge hug from me and Noah.

Deb, congrats to your sister, what lovely news. Hears to hoping its Jane next!

Tad, beautiful photos of very beautiful children!

Wandering I can say the phonetic alphabet, it's my party trick. I used to volunteer in primary schools pre children and it's stuck in my head.....along with Silent Night in German!

Dh has taken Ben to football then were going swimming. I've just eaten a nice bag of BBQ crisps which I'm hoping will cure my hangover.

Just saw on the news about the huge crash on the M5, it's only two junctions down the motorway from us. Those poor, poor people. Will be thinking of them today.

Morning all, ponyo frozen planet is on sunday dinner time too. It was fab borg That caterpillar amazed me!

wiggles I missed the post about dh aunt, pass on my condolences (sp?).
I understand about the your family not thinking it is agood idea for him to got the mass. It is such a shame that religion still has to be hidden.

ledkr No jacket but I will be wearing my converse trainers down the aisle!

debka Don't be sorry, I wasn't having a dig at you btw (sorry if thats how i came accross).

tad at the pee-gina! Will check out your pics soon.

needto How are you today?

tad your babies are so beautiful! S has the most piercing blue eyes just gorgeous!

Sorry reastie you have a cow on your roof ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

ems crash is close enough to us for it to make me it sounds horrendous doesnt it.You can thelp thinking it maybe someone you know can you?

Fireworks tonight ive been roped into doing it here to fullfill dh's childhood fantasy of letting them off as dh prefers that.

D has been awake since 5 and i can honestly say im fecked off.She had a few mins sleep and is literally crawling about the house grizzleing and i have no idea what to do with her-wpnt eat drink play sleep or cuddle

needto - DH and I went through a similar situation a couple years ago, PM me if you want to talk. Sorry to hear about your friend but I agree that death can be a blessing at that point.

wiggle - Condolences on Mr w's aunt. It's a shame he has to hide his job.

jane - I hope your friends understand if you don't go to the party. I saw Zoe's photo again while looking at your hen night photos and still get a bit teary when I see it, thinking about what you've been through. I was thinking about the (potential) meet in Edinburgh with Borg - "Ooo, I hope jane is pregnant!"

tad - love the photos! I want to get some family photos done but DH doesn't smile (it's like Chandler in Friends having the engagement photos done). It'd be me and L smiling and DH scowling.

reastie - do you have to feed the cow on your roof?

DH has taken L to the farmer's market so I'm sat home ALONE in the silence enjoying my coffee. I'm also feeling quite victorious because I managed to get my new Mooncup in comfortably last night [victory fist pump]. Smarts a bit on my tear scar when I pull it out though.

Morning all,
That crash on the m5 is just horrific, I didn't see the news till this morning and just welled up.

Thank you so much for all your thoughts, it's so strange, I really didn't know. I mean, I knew he liked a drink and probably drank too much but it's the hiding it that scares me. Now I'm feeling calmer I can explain a bit more, I was woken up on tuesday night at 2am to hear oh skyping his ex and he told her he loved her. I feltmthe bottom drop out of my world, I was so shocked I couldnt hardly speak. I asked him about it and he said he didn't mean it in 'that' way and showed me all the messages they've been sending. He lied so much and was so drunk, even when I was reading the messages he was still saying he hadn't contacted her. I know he hasn't cheated as she lives in Bristol but then I found out he'd joined an online dating site recently, again this was in the early hours of the morning when he was very drunk. I know it's not an excuse and I can barely bring myself to think about it. We have talked a lot about why he felt the need to do all this and the honest answer is that he has messed up, big time, and does this when he's been drinking. It sounds awful reading all that back but I don't think he was doing anything other than being an immature git.
I told him the wedding is off and I needed time to think so he's been sleeping in the living room and we are talking calmly now. I hate not being able to trust him but he has literally begged me for a chance for him to earn my trust again. He has hit his bottom I think and the fact he's going to stop drinking is a good thing but we are still going to have to work on our relationship a lot. I never saw this coming. Sorry, I'm rambling, still a bit all over the place.

You lot are amazing, sorry this is all so me me me, I just can't stop thinking about it. Xx

Needto, I can't imagine how tough it must be for you, it sounds like oh has behaved like an idiot and hopefully is ashamed of his behaviour. I can't believe you've been going thru all this and I've been crying and moaning about going back to work!
You must do what you feel is best for you and Ben. And learning to trust oh if best then we will help and support you. Please post whenever you need to, even if you do think you are just rambling, sometimes it helps to get it written down.

Wiggle, meant to say sorry about dh aunt. I just had a tear in the car earlier about my grampy who died in June cos we got some poppies for Remembrance Day and as he was a marine commando he was always so proud and woud march every yesr. Poor Ben got upset cos I was upset then wouldn't leave my side. He's got over it now tho and is taking photos of every thing in the living room!

needto so sorry you're going through this. People on here have great advice and I'm glad it helps even a little. I can't tell you what to do, but am willing to listen. I know that me and my OH have really felt re pressure of having a baby and that things have changes for us. We're trying to work it through. I think having children puts a lot of extra strain on a relationship and cracks can soon show.
My advice involves lots of tea/wine and talking it through with both your OH and someone else outside the relationship- best friend/ sister type. Thinking of you xx

wandering thanks for the advice, when I did get him to eat a lot he was up for a feed twice (usually sleeps through ish!) so I might not bother any more!!

We are out for dinner tonight with the very pregnant friend to get her son used to us so we can have him when he goes into hospital. Her baby hasn't grown much in the last month, so she needs lots of rest, and it really brought it home how much harder it is with more than one.....! Kudos to bigger families.

Uh-oh all that spinach I forced down him the other night has made it's reappearance.... Thank god it's the weekend and I can pass on this one!! Makes me nostalgic for those breadfeed poos :)

breastfeed oops!

Mizk and debka - I read and saw The Help and the movie just doesn't compare to the book (of course). It's an OK movie, some bits changed to make it a better movie. They changed the part with Constantine's daughter, which I thought was very important in the book and a perfect example of why the segregation laws were so silly. I hope you know what I mean, I don't want to give away too much to anyone who hasn't read the book!

needto - I hope this is the bottom for him and it's all up from here.

needto I don't know what to say and can't imagine what you must be feeling just now. I agree with emski you have to do what is best for you and Ben. I am here to listen anytime and it does help to write your feelings down. Hugs for you xx

So sorry needto, that really is a horrible position to be in. My exh had a real problem when he drank, though not with the frequency, iyswim? He would get so drunk that he couldn't control his rage or his paranoia and he did become violent and I just didn't know what to do as I was so young. It is a horrible feeling, not knowing what is going to go wrong next, or set him off. Please feel free to rant on here, or PM me or someone else if you need to get things off your chest. Bottling it up is one of the worst things you could do. We are all here for you. xxx

Hey ladies,

needto so I guess that explains why OH was always sleeping in the day when you mentioned it a while ago . Hope you're having an OK day and enjoy the film tomorrow. xx

wiggles yes your super brain computer has A+ed once again - tis the christening tomorrow - I have my outfit all ready and I have written a time plan for tomorrow morning as I've told him he will be in charge of alice and getting her ready for the service. Here's hoping he can manage it as his only bit of organisation so far has been to check if his suit/shirt etc need a clean or iron - he hasn't yet done this and I KNOW his shirt never got cleaned after its last wear (our wedding) [shakes head] . Picked up the christening cake I ordered and a bit dissapointed I have to say - it's got 'alice sarah' on it but the alice is like a l i c e (very spaced out) and the sarah is really close together like she ran out of room as she didn't leave enough space

byron tell me about it (the poos) - they're terrible arn't they [holds nose] . I hope your friend doesn't have a week long labour or something if you're looking after their LO

Oh wiggles was it today that was the funeral ? (I might have made that up )

Gosh that car pile up looks horrific. I don't know why but I've noticed since being a mum I'm much more emotional about these things and really worry about if things happen to alice/feel so bad for the family bad things do happen to

american well done on getting that moon cup in

ledkr any sleep from d yet? Tbh Alice does that too but since we are still doing cc (just a lite version like delia does gina ford lite ) she does nap - she screams for a while but we know she is tired and whiney.

X factor tonight - I admit I'm going off the barlowkins very quickly - so arrogant. choc and 40 you're welcome to him

tad I love love the piccies and am v as I want ones like that for Alice [wails]

Thanks for the lovely comments on the photos, girls. Hope you all have a lovely and safe Fireworks night.

Sorry, x-posted, reastie, have a fantastic Christening tomorrow. I am sure it will be wonderful and Alice will do you proud and look extra gorgeous in her special outfits.

reastie I hope the christening goes well tomorrow, We want to see photos of you and Alice looking all gorgeous!

I'm having a quiet night to myself, DF is going to our friends party. My sister asked me to hers for fireworks and drinks but I hate fireworks and I'm off the drink! I'm going to watch a dvd with some phish food instead- bliss .

Sounds lovely Jane - make the most of that!

mmmmmmmmmm phish food jane my favourite

tadjenny absolutely gorgeous photos, really beautiful, we're big fans of CBeebies website here too, of course its educational

reastie I didn't realise Alices middle name is Sarah so is Olivias. Am sure everything will go off brilliantly tomorrow

jane enjoy the dvd and food!

We ended up skipping the mass and heading to the gravy yard as Olivia calls it , it was very sad but she really was terribly ill for the past few years. It was also bloody freezing . My computer is slightly misbehaving so hopefulyl I won't disappear into a puff of virtual smoke.

Hope you all enjoy bonfire evening, we don't do it here

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