October 2011 - Let the poo obsession begin

[PenguinArmy]

Come chat, moan, boast (by stealth of course), vent, rage, relax, worry and be reassured. Welcome to all the new babies. Stats thread here

I'm also getting really annoyed with visitors turning up an hour or so after they're meant to I think of all the visitors we've had NONE has turned up wen they said they would!
I'm currently waiting on my sister who text saying she would visit around
6-30/7pm and she'll text when leaving it's now 19.25 and still not even a text to say she's onto way! Ds goes to bed at 8pm

cheshire am glad you asked about petrol too!

Amotai and I are doing well, it's been 2 weeks now since dh went back to work and I'm still figuring out how to get the balance between resting at home with him and getting out and about so I don't get stir crazy at home. We've had some wind issues though and vomit episodes, but nothing you are all probably having too!

edward what does Mhairi mean? I don't miss my bump except when I am in the bath as that's when I used to always feel him move. Only hangover from pregnancy for me (apart from the physical stuff) is I still keep putting the seatbelt under my stomach when in the car. That, and my almost obsessive eating of sushi!

Mhairi is dd's name.
Dh was at football tonight so this was my first bedtime on my own. it's impossible to do with one person so ds has

Only just gone to bed (now that dh is back)

Stupid iPhone posted before I was finished

I can vouch for the 6-8 week crying peak! Goodness me! Poor ds must want ear plugs x

tally please don't feel guilty, so what if she's bfing and you're not full time, your baby is happy and that's all that matters.y dsis didn't produce enough (if any) milk but was desperate to solely bf and her dd ended up back in hospital for weight loss and both of them super stressed. She's now at 6 months the happiest little thing I've ever seen - and definitely not starving

country after a day at home with screaming babies and a frustrated ds plus housework and dinner etc dh came home last night and asked if I would be nice to him and not wake him with the babies tonight !! Seriously!!!

Both girls slept just after nine last night and woke up at 3 for feeding yay for 5 hours sleep!! Here's hoping they go back down until 6-7ish x

bb3 I am glad someone else understands. Dh has been very sweet in lots of ways this week (breakfast in bed on first day - with champagne!) But day in day out he doesn't see that there is extra work I need help with. I also think its a chemical thing when ds wakes in the night I'm all cooey but dh feels like his sleep has been violated and that the baby should know better. No patience!

country the annoying thing with my dh is he was off for 2 weeks and did help with night feeds and ds and was shattered and kept going on about how going back to work would be so much easier than staying at home - but he seems to have conveniently forgotten that!!

Oh countrymama and BB3 hope your DH's were better last night. DP got cross as I asked him to change a nappy at one am as he was already up with E how dare I?!
E had a rubbish night wouldn't settle, I think he's got wind which is unusual wondering if it's something I've eaten or if he's doing something wrong when feeding. He's started playing around when trying to latch on it's like he gets too excited and rubs his mouth from side to side around my nipple and puts his hands up and it takes me a while to calm him down enough to latch on. Then he's guzzling the milk down so he ends up choking. Not sure if there's anything I can do to stop him doing it?

Hi everyone. First post here. !

Thomas was born 6 days ago and we are doing really well so far - he is feeding well but only every 4 hours, the rest of the time he is asleep!! Last night he did 11pm to 4am then a big feed then back to sleep at 5.30am and is still dozing now at 9am ... I am actually slightly worried he is sleeping too much ? He does feed strongly for an hour tho when he is awake and there is loads of milk so maybe he is just ok?

With DD I seem to remember the first week her being quite dozy and it getting much trickier later on ... Did any of you find this?

I had a 3rd degree tear as Thomas shot out in a 7 min pushing stage but it has given me no trouble at all - no pain or anything!

Added to that DH is still home to look after Dd, so I am feeling that things are way too easy here, about 100 times easier than being 10 days over and running round free a toddler was!

I'm not boasting, I'm just shocked as I was expecting this week to be crazy and very challenging!

BWs to all.

BB3 and Country my DH said he would be glad to go back to work in terms of it being easier than doing everything in the house and dog walking because I am feeding, he came home yesterday though and said how much he had missed Pops (she has a nickname already!)

She also has a runny nose poor thing, she only got rid of previous snottyness the other day :(

Currently waiting for a dryer to be delivered between 8am-12 so we were showered and baby bathed and dressed by 7am, get us! :)

Pebble Poppy does that sometimes, she used to just latch straight on now she farts about a bit and flaps before then suddenly latching on properly, not sure if there is a reason for this or it's just a thing that happens.

Bumps congratulations on baby Thomas. Love the fact that he shot out! :)

How do u tell if baby's sick because they're unwell or if they've overeaten/not had wind up properly etc??

Mhairi has just been sick a lot twice.

Congrats bump my eldest is Thomas too

Another hard night of tears and ages to settle, seems to be

Oops posted too soon. Seems at 10/11pm Jessica struggles with wind, tummy ache etc and takes ages to finally sleep. Took till nearly 1am and woke up everyone.

Had hv today, she's lovely. First hv I've liked and stayed ages chatting. Weighed Jessica and she'a 13 days and 10lb2 so nearly full lb gained since birth. She has got such chubby cheeks and legs.

Well today has been a lot harder, dd has been sick after almost every feed meaning I've spent most of the day changing her as a result ds is getting a bit unruly due to lack of attention.
Midwife thinks she has oral thrush so on way to docs to get her checked.

Littlepebble that describes DS's eating

Bump I was also like that, after a few weeks you start feeling normal again. Enjoy it.

Can't believe some of these DHs

edward I think you would just know (bit cliche I know). Hopefully it doesn't develop into reflux. This is a good resource for thrush

I got fed up with seeing a grey face in the mirror so managed to put some make-up today, plus DS went down for 30 mins. However I misjudged when he was due a feed so ended up running to the coffee shop (normally a 10 min walk from the car park). I can now vouch for the jogger ability of the Phil and Teds My DM is still here so she took DD to the park while I headed off.

just catching up on the thread now, can definitely relate to very helpful and wonderful DH who still doesn't quite seem to understand just how much i have to do.

we've had a really tough week this week, still both have thrush, what the doctor thought was piles (sorry TMI) turns out to be an anal fissure (the most bloody painful thing ever!), my stitches are still healing (after over a month!) and now it seems that little E has colic and / or reflux as well :( it just seems to be one thing after another!

any colic or reflux advice would be greatly appreciated!

there is a reflux support thread in the breast and bottle feeding section. Can't remember much but for a long time we thought DD had silent reflux as a lot of similarities. There are however lots of knowledgeable people over there not people who forget as soon as that stage is over like me

Oh dear, E still hasn't let me sleep it's 3am and he is trying to feed constantly or is crying and unsettled. Midwife said he's going through 3 week growth spurt so is trying to stimulate milk supply but it's getting ridiculous now I need to sleep!
He weighed in at 9lbs 12 today almost a pound put on in a week! He's a feeding monster!

Little pebble - hope you got some sleep in the end. X

Hi all! I am sorry but this is going to be one great big moan. DS2 is now 9 days old and BFing is just a nightmare. DS1 never latched on and I was sooo pleased when DS2 latched on straight away. All the midwives at the hospital said he was latched on correctly (we were in for 36 hrs), however, over the next 3 days it got so painful I couldn't bear it. My nipples were cracked and bleeding. So I ended up expressing and feeding by cup for some feeds in an attempt to help my nipples heal. Also tried using nipple shields but he didn't take to them and they definitely weren't helping pain wise. So I've given them up.

However, the problem is now that he isn't latching on at all. I am managing to get him latched on once a day basically (more through good luck than good judgement). It is still painful when latched on. He obviously isn't taking enough of the areola but when he does he just gags and doesn't latch.

I really don't know what to do other than keep trying but at the moment I feel like we are going backwards and BFing is slipping away. I can't stop crying and although DH is being a star, especially with DS1, I am not sure how sustainable this situation is. I am not getting much sleep, feeding is taking hours, literally, as I am spending so much time trying to get him latched on. And feeding by cup can be a battle too. On the odd occasion he is latching he is feeding for about half an hour, which is just bliss (apart from the pain!). Oh and he also has jaundice - joys!

The positives are that I have enough milk to feed the entire street so expressing isn't an issue from that respect.

I am going to a local BF Support Group tomorrow and I have just rung the NCT helpline so waiting for a call back. I did ask 3 times for a breast feeding counsellor last week from the local midwives but I haven't heard anything. The midwives are being supportive and seeing me regularly (apart from the one who told me that I might just be one of those women for whom it is always painful . Just what I wanted to hear!).

I think I might post this in the Breast feeding section. See if anyone can tell me it's all going to be OK in the end. I need some positive stories at the moment!

Oh HandDived I really feel for you, I don't have anything helpful to say as I am a newbie at it.

Posting in the bf section is probably a good idea and maybe Penguin will be along soon with her thoughts - she seems very knowledgeable on bf issues.

Hope things improve, sending

As you quite rightly say handDived you need RL assistance as the situation sounds a bit complex for a forum. The NCT might be able to put you in touch with some BF specialists i.e. qualified BF help. If you can pay then there are private ones you will come to your house. I think a thread in BF section can only help but more provide a few tips (e.g. good support in your area) rather than the full help you need (you will inevitably get asked about tongue tie, maybe supplemental nursing system etc.). Sorry the MWs are being a bit shit on this front. There are so many questions to ask, hope the NCT lady helps to narrow things down.

and thanks chesire didn't stop me having red tiger stripes on my nips this time around.

DS continues to be unsettled with wind. Keep reminding myself it will settle down soon. I do find it hard to be patient with DD when he is crying but thankfully still got help around. Bit worried about what monster I will turn into when DM leaves. MIL was asking how DS sleeps and how we sleeps in the cot. I'm not one for lying especially since they are asking direct questions but don't know what to say, they seem so disappointed and unable to handle the truth, but we're staying over at xmas so they'll find out anyway...maybe. I don't know, just rambling.

Tried to take a xmas photo today (as a present for parents not a card ) but DD was tired and you can my few extra pounds. Try again another time me feels.