FEB 2011 - Peekaboo!! Sitting, Eating and sometimes Sleeping

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, Welcome all - will post stats later, so any lurkers decloak

tadjennyp Olivia will be 4 at end of October - she has passport at the ready

debka and Sabine well done on last night! Hope tonight goes the same

ledkr vvvv re hair - I had to resort to home dye job this evening, just to make me feel less grey! Hope dh gets leave sorted out.

reastie I feel guilty now for not doing any exercising, going to make a real effort this weekend (crosses fingers behind back), hope swimming goes well, don't worry about the pool, it'll be great fun.

emski its scary to think how quickly the babies are growing up

Four4me beautiful pictures, you're a very lucky mummy, they're gooooorgeous.

americanexpat welcome back, any photos?

Back from the zoo, weather was crap but we managed to avoid the worst of the rain. Sofia and Olivia were brilliant and really enjoyed it, although I asked O on the way home what her favourite animal was - she loved "the baby goats" , could have went up the bloody road to see them instead of a 2 hour drive . Have posted a couple of photos. Mum and Anna had a fab time, we picked A up at 5pm and she was all bathed, fed and smelled yummy, giving a baby a bath and putting them in a babygro is my mums favourite bit of babysitting

hubbard sending hugs and bit of hand holding, hope tonight goes quieter.

44me & wiggles - cracking pics!

Wiggles - Anna looks so grown up! Are you broody again?
Send Olivia over! Anna was gutted in March and threw a right fit when I said leprechauns wouldn't visit us as we weren't Irish!

Sending sleepy vibes. Ought to take mine out to the park or something!

sorry just a quick post, just back from the hospital as my dog attacked my son. Will probably not be on for a few days as am finding it very hard to deal with. My son has had 15 stitches in his face and the dogs been put down. Am not in a good way. Will be back when i can. Stay safe ladies

So sorry, hubbard. Take care of yourself and ds. xxx

hubbard that is terrifying, hope you and DS are holding up. Look after yourself xxxx

wiggles Anna is so big and grown up!

reastie just don't think too hard about the costume, enjoy A in the water. BTW I had a dream last night where I was naked then caught in the riots- now THAT wasn't pretty!

Had both my girls here last night, Imy still sleeping (such a good girl). S woke at 4.20 for a feed but went straight back off till 6.20. I wasn't surprised, she hardly took anything at her bedtime feed.

Have good days all xxxx

Oh my god hubbard, thats awful poor Thomas! I hope you are both ok, it must have been so frightening for you all.

debka well done S, she is really getting the hang of sleeping now!

Fab photos wiggs your girls are all so beautiful!

reastie enjoy swimming you will both love it!

ledkr sorry about your dh leave. I am doing SW again, the pounds are creeping back on! I love the SW chips too yum

Hope everyone else is good.

I had my baby mindee yesterday she has just started crawling, so i had my work cut out for me!

hubbard I am so sorry, sounds so scary. Hope you are as well as you can be at the moment and see you back here when you feel up to it.xx

deb sounds like anopther good nights sleep in your house, yay!

wiggleslove the photos :)

jane were you basically running around after the mindee all day then? They can be quick can't they!

Right I'm off to nosy at Four4's photos, am heading to ikea today so hopefully they'll have the highchair tray (they'd better )

hubbard that is . How are you all? How is Thomas? What a terrible terrible day for you. xx

deb great news on the sleep - sounds like the cc worked a treat

wiggles I love the piccie esp Annas top there . The girls looked like they had a good time at the zoo

Well, the friend I was going swimming with is ill so swimming trip postponed :( Am thinking of going with DH at the week end now I've spent a fortune on babies swimming junk essentials which is NOT going to go to waste . I'm not brave enough to go on my own for the first time [pfb] .

Four4 I love the pics, such smiley boys! And your dd is beautiful.

reastie shame about swimming, I don't blame you for wanting dh to go with you, like i said i'm not going on my own either - nothing wrong with being a bit pfb

hubbard thats awful,so sorry. If it helps my ds 2 had a horrendous bike accident when he was about 8,he smashed his face in, between his top lip and nose was open so you could see his teeth! The facial surgeons did such a good job and he is now a handsome 25 yr old with NO scars. You must be feeling dreadfull,but loads of people have dogs with kids and nothing happens so dont feel guilty.Take care xx

Hubbard, am thinking of you. How bloody scary and upsetting.
Reastie, shame about swimming. I take Noah each were, but usually to a class, I end up feeling a bit lost otherwise!
Deb, well done on the sleep. Really gives me confidence to try it in future if needed.
Off to nosy at Wiggles photos now

Morning,
hubbard so so sorry to hear your news and just hope you and your DS are doing okay, sending an unmnetty hug.

reastie I felt the same about swimming and it was a relief to have OH with me as it meant we could get to grips with things (like where to put our bags and locker key etc) so would recommend going with DH at the weekend. Alice looks scrummy in her swimsuit!

jane sounds like you're being kept very busy!

NOt much to report really other than more moans about OH but that's boring, very at the moment but it might be down to AF.

Countdown to September has started and have started asking people to sponsor me and it's going well. Not sure how I'll prove I've done it everyday though other than a weigh in (NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN!) or photographic evidence of me sweating each day

needto rant away if it makes you feel better. I will be joining you all in the shredathon although i can't possibly ask friends and family to sponsor me as they have donated so much already, i would feel very cheeky in asking them! Some friends are doing a 10k for SANDS and Zoe in sept too. I will however donate something.

I was super busy yesterday, was in bed and fast asleep before 10 pm! I am now off work until Monday (when the schools start back).

enjoy the last few days off jane

needto go on - rant away . to photographic evidence of sweating though.

Well, I'm bored already and it's not even 10am. Was allset for the swimming and now don't know what to do with myself. Loads of stuff needs doing in the house but can never get much done with Alice around and feel guilty about her spending another day at home with me attempting to entertain her - she sometimes looks so bored and frustrated as all I feel lik eI've done with her this week is taken her for walks/shopping and tried to entertain her indoors but can't think what to do with her today. She's fallen asleep next to me now - probably from sheer boredom .

OMG Hubbard that's absolutely awful! I can't believe it, I'm so sorry, Hope your DS is Ok - give him lots of hugs

Wiggles fab pictures! I can't believe how quickly they are growing - Anna is looking more like her big sisters you have three gorgeous girls!

I could do to put a recent pic of C on my profile but she still looks like a potato I don't think she has changed much! (or maybe I'm in denial of how much she is growing)

Hubbard so sorry to hear about your ordeal. Hope DS is on the mend and we're all thinking of you. Come back soon.

reastie sorry the swimming trip has been aborted. I'm awful on days when I have plans and they're cancelled, I just have no idea what to do and if I'm honest it tends to send me on a bit of a downer. Don't blame you for not going on your own tho, I have been taking C for weeks but still would feel a bit yikes about going on my own.

wiggles those photos are just adorable. What lovely girls.

We've been to hosp this morning for follow-up apt on C's reflux. Everything's been pretty good for ages so hopefully this is our last appointment. Will be keeping her on meds for a couple more months then trying to reduce them. Dr didn't ell me off for increasing them of my own volition though which was good. C was really good but shattered when we got home as she hadn't really had chance to sleep all morning bless her.

Bit bored today, no visitors, nothing planned, grey day, booo.

Dx

Will pop back later - just wanted to let hubbard know am thinking about you and hope Tom is soon on the mend, we have a dog too, know how hard this must be for you. Take care of yourself and hope to hear from you soon. Love to you, Tom & Freya x

Back again

Have been looking at all the gorgeous pics on here of your babies, we certainly have outdone ourselves with them.

Okay rant, skip if you have better things to do!
Last night OH was putting B to bed (he does this twice a week and thinks he deserves a dad of the year award) and I was outside de-heading flowers (this is what passes for my social life now) when I heard him shouting at B to go to sleep and I mean really shouting. I ran in and tried to take B away from him and whispered for him to get out and let me do it but he (OH) had tears in his eyes and refused to let me take him. He eventually got B to sleep (I waited outside the nursery door) and came out and apologised and was genuinely upset and angry with himself but it shocked me. He hasn't ever lost his temper with me before (well not like that) and I said that I know it's difficult sometimes but if he feels like that again he's to put B down and come and get me to take over. I'm so angry with him though and although I know he would NEVER hurt B (that sounds so dramatic and I promise it's not heading that way or I'd be out the door) I can't bear the thought of it happening again. Am I overreacting? I know all parents get angry sometimes but I hate the thought B being shouted at when he has no idea what's going on. Hopefully it'll never happen again and B is absolutely fine and had lots of cuddles with OH this morning before he went to work. Am I being pfb?

Phew, feels better.

hubbard you poor thing, look after yourself. Like ledkr said, it's amazing how good the plastics docs are. Thinking of you lots xx

everyone we're bored today too, cancelled plans, horrid weather. Decorator is here too so have to avoid certain rooms and everywhere is starting to smell a bit glossy so I think I'll have to traipse out with N in the rain .
N still not wanting to eat anything!! Even the organix thingys, just played with them.

Sorry that was the most boring update ever, I have completely lost all motivation to write anything. August is pants.

needto I do'nt think you're being pfb at all. My dh loses it like yours does. He's never so far done it to Alice but he does really scare me when he does go a bit mad, but he usually knows when he's getting to outburst point and just walks out leaving me and/or alice and goes and kicks or punches a wall or shouts swears alot or something . It doesn't happen often but when it does I really freak . Is it a man thing? I'd feel the same as you completely. Why did he get so cross? Was Ben not going to sleep? Was DH stressed with other stuff already? Was he really tired? Poor little Ben . Maybe he didn't know what to do and got in a fluster and didn't want you to help as you do such a good job he might have felt sad he couldn't do it (I'm just making up things now to try and understand why he might have done it!). i think you defo need a little chat when you are both calm and relaxed and have some quiet time (haha - what is that) just to see where he's coming from and how to handle things together as a couple next time. This isn't an excuse as your oh didn't work the situation well but I think sometimes men just need to let it out and then it's all forgotten to them and they can get on with things having seemingly forgotten it. Sorry, that's prob no help at all but I would feel the same as you. FWIW my mil refers to dhs cross outbursts as 'oh that's just the reastie men way - they are all like that' and shrugs it off like that makes it acceptable drives me absolutely

delia I know - I've been twiddling my thumbs today! Done a bit of cleaning when alice asleep but need to get out of the house but it's raining :( Picking up my sister from the local train station is the highlight of today for me

Oh Needto sorry to hear about what happened. First of all, try not to worry about it from B's point of view as it's a one off and he won't remember it or have any ramifications. You were right to say your DH should have come to get you (or at very worst, put baby down and walk away) if he felt like that.

I think that in some ways there is a different kind of pressure on the 'non-primary' parent (OK usually the Dad) in some ways as they spend very little time with DCs compared to Mum that they probably feel the need for it to be perfect, to have 'quality time' and to also be as capable as Mum which is often improbable. I know DH gets frustrated sometimes when he can't put her down for her morning nap at the weekend, and wonders why he was trying for 20 minutes and then I come in and put her down in about 90 seconds. I feel sorry for him, he's not bad at it, it's just that he doesn't do it every day so doesn't know all the signs I do. I think he often feels like he needs to prove himself at the weekend and he really shouldn't, we can be a team.

So errmm...sorry, that's rather more about me than about you, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think these things are upsetting for our OHs in different ways, and they probably feel like more of a failure when things go wrong, which is irritating as well as embarassing etc. I have to confess on my lowest of low days I have muttered somewhat aggressively at DD to STFU, but really when I was on my own and had been through hours of whingeing.

I suppose I don't have any words advice apart from you did the right thing in telling him how to deal with it in the future. I would think as much confidence building as possible in the next few days, and rebuilding of trust etc, and I'm sure things will be back on track.

FWIW, I don't think you're being PFB at all, it's not a nice thing, but I also think now that moving on is the right thing to do at this point, rather than making a massive deal of it, IYSWIM.

Take care and hope you get to have a nice weekend.
Dx

reastie makes a good point about whether he was already stressed about something else and therefore short on patience. I do spot sometimes when DH walks in from a sh!te day at work, and even though I'm exhausted, I think sometimes it's better for me to do the bedtime feed if he's really wound up (and mucky and stinky from work as well, eewww!). Sometimes an hour with sleepy Claudia is just what he needs, but other times I know his patience is thin and try and just avoid getting into a situ where he's cross and Claudia's getting wound up etc.

reastie is also right my DH gets sad when he can't do Dad stuff and only good ole Mum will do.

[random sidebar] On the up side the buggy people just rang to tell me it is being delivered tomorrow yay!!!

delia you're going to have to post a piccie of C in her buggy once it arrives now - I'm almost feeling excited for you [saddo] - I can't remember if you said (prob did), which one did you go for in the end?

Needto I second what Delia said about not worrying about it from B's point of view - he won't remember

I'm sorry that your DH scared you, I hope that it was a one off, I'm sure it was I imagine that he was tired etc like Reastie said

Delia what kind of buggy did you get?

I was just wondering how much food the other babies eat and what they eat?
L is 24 weeks now and I haven't really been giving her anything proper, just a bit of puree in the evenings! She seems satisfied with that and doesn't seem to be wanting more - sleeping well etc but I'm a bit worried that I'm not giving her enough - I'm sure that DD1 was on two meals a day by now, although she was weaned a bit later so memory is a bit hazy (I could be wrong)

Another thing I've been worried about is that she doesn't seem very interested in picking things up to put in her mouth - I've noticed that a few of you are BLW and DD1 used to mainly feed herself

I've tried L with some finger foods such as banana but she won't pick it up from the high chair like DD1 did, I have to put it in her hand and although she does get it to her mouth, she often drops it

Perhaps she's not really ready for finger foods yet and I'm comparing her too much to DD1?