Just mumming (viroids 1)

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So we don't scare the viroids on the antenatal thread with horror stories of no sleep, chomped boobs and endless laundry or make them envious with tales of cuteness....

Hey Fuzzy! Nice to hear from you so exciting now talking, time goes so fast!

CC hairdressers with wine? Wow! I have just realised I have had mine done once in 6 months but at least you can't see how bad my eyebrows are looking

I am of the naps! DD still will not sleep at night so hoping it will get better when she is more active. I can but hope

Managed to leave the house with no nappies...not a problem just yet but makes me realise how few places sell middle sized baby nappies! Ok, so only tried Boots at the station...

In other news my new bra is 34E - humongous for me. DS wore it on his head and it swamped him

Oops! Hope you found some nappies val.
I haven't measured my bra size for a while. I'm loving my bravado nursing bras that are stretchy enough to accommodate changing size depending on how full I am.

Have been trying to sort everything out for seeing people over Christmas. We're going to dh's family, and my parents seemed ok about that. But spoke to them again today to sort out when we would see them and dad especially seemed really grumpy about it all, muttering that seeing us at extended family events doesn't count and he's not sharing us with aunt X etc. Then annoyed me (irrationally I know) as he ends every conversation by insisting he'll ring in the week. It sounds so petty but it just seems to add to the feeling that I can never do enough to satisfy them....I remark that we'll see them next weekend, he says we must speak in the week......I put some photos on fb, he likes them but complains I don't put them up more regularly.....whenever we organise to see them it's never regularly enough (have seen them at least once a month since dd arrived). Am feeling a bit swamped!

Then have to deal with a barrage of people wanting to know what we want for Christmas. Very kind of them of course, but it all feels a bit too much at the mo.

Sorry for self absorbed post...

I sympathise esk. Thankfully our families have been fine with the Christmas plans (complicated by the fact my parents are divorced!) but I have been a bit overwhelmed with people generously asking what we want for Christmas. And when I say 'we' I mean DS, not sure we are getting anything I asked everyone to get DS their favourite book from childhood as I love reading to him and have loads of memories of being read to when we were little. I thought this was a great idea until members of DH's family have said that they want to get him 'a proper present' Surely a book is a proper present? Let's face it, DS isn't going to have a clue this year and without wishing to sound ungrateful we really don't need any more toys. He doesn't have many but he doesn't play with any yet!

DS has been a star the past two nights, just waking twice to be fed. Friday night was fab for me but tonight I have just lay awake for ages, like now! We are moving next Friday so I think there is some anxiety!

Sorry, bit rantish.

Ooh I LOVE the fave childhood book idea, might pinch that one ;)

val that's a great idea about the books - I can't think what to say to people. Although Isobel will be almost 6 months at Christmas and entering a whole new world of toys, so it doesn't really matter. We're getting her a jumperoo. I'm more excited about this than she will be, I think!

We are getting no sleep! She was great from 2 weeks to about 17 weeks - just waking at 3.30 for a feed and up at 6.30 (she used to stay up dozing on and off with us and then at 12 weeks we started a bedtime routine, so she'd also have a dream feed at 11). I could deal with this. The last three weeks it's been hourly waking from 7-7 and at least once a night she's wide awake and can't be persuaded to sleep!

I have resorted to putting her on her tummy in the early hours of the morning. She can get herself to sleep on her tummy, and then she stays that way for longer. But I am guilty about it.

val I'd be at your DH too! Mine went on a school trip on Wednesday and got back last night, and he got LOADS of sleep on the school trip. I am very .

Also, I want cocktails. Really really badly

I had my first glass of wine in over a year the other night. It wasn't the best wine, it was luke warm and I did drink it while cooking dinner so DH wouldn't notice, but it was yum AND I didn't even feel slightly squiffy Looking forward to another one to night I think.

Mmmm cocktails....

Books are great, totally a proper present!! Really easy to post too. DS has way to many books and there are still lots I want to get him, though not sure DH would approve (mostly because then he'd have to read them).

A glass of wine a day...makes mum happy?! Dh and I went out for dinner on Sat night. Was really worried about leaving ds with my sister. He woke for twenty minutes and slept the rest of the time. Thinking of asking her to move in with us!

Esk, I can really relate to your post. My inlaws are lovely, but they always want more. Due to my mum doing shift work we have spent the last three Christmas days at their house. I also have to see them at least once a week. This year we are having Christmas at home with my mum and sister (plus partners) coming to us. Dh's sister and mum have already asked if they are going to see us Christmas day and if they can come through, 'for a little while'. Dh doesn't see the problem with this.

Nothing like a good rant on a Monday morning.

Loving the book idea. I can't wait to read The faraway tree and Tom's midnight garden to my ds. Literary classics I'm sure you will agree

If were ranting about parents, I'll pitch in! Since I was 22 my mum has been saying she wants to move where I live. To quote, it is 'none of my business where [she] lived, even if [she] moved in next door to me'. For seven years she's been hinting, looking at houses in my road on Rightmove, joking about it, etc. We have had a couple of massive arguments over it because, though I have never said I don't want her to move near me, I have raised a couple of practical points (like, er, I was 22 and didn't know if I'd always live in that place ,etc). I have also said that while she should do whatever she wants to do, we should talk about what everybody's expectations would be before she makes such a huge life change. Apparently this is rude and nasty and self-centred of me, and indicates we have a real problem in our relationship.

A couple of weeks ago I realised I definitely had to go back to work in January. I was upset, I mentioned it, and she said 'is now a bad time to say I'll move up and look after Isobel for you?' I said 'yes, it is' (grrr - she knows that I don't want her to look after Isobel for me and that I'd rather take her with me to work and nursery, but she thinks it's 'wrong'). Then on Friday she said 'wherever you go, we'll come too - just let us know when you've decided where you're going to end up and we'll make plans'. DH is now saying I have to tell her I don't want her to move near me.

Like you esk, it's like it's never enough - she's coming on DD's first holiday, she's made sure she's the grandparent getting the most time at Christmas, she came to a scan during my pregnancy, she's welcome here any time and only lives a couple of hours away, we always visit, etc - but she's constantly sad that she won't be the one teaching DD to swim, to cook, etc. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR!

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrgghh!

My mil suggested if we moved near sil, then she would move there too. Then we could pop in and out of each others houses all the time. I said we might move to oz

It's nice they want to be involved. I have seen so many threads saying grandparents aren't interested. They can't win I suppose. I don't really mind ds spending time with either set of grandparents. Just would rather I didn't have to!

curiosity you're so right :) I always do think I'd much much rather she was too excited about having a granddaughter than not excited enough, and I am an ungrateful cow to have posted that because she's done absolutely loads for us and has been very supportive. So I shouldn't be mean. On the other hand, it scares the b'Jesus out of me that she wants to give up everything - quit work, move from her mum and sister and the place she's lived since she was 11, etc, to move near me and 'help' (I haven't asked for help!) - and won't even talk about what she wants from such a move.

Anyway, in all this ranting I forgot to celebrate confession's first glass of wine! Whoop whoop!

I don't think you are ungrateful. It definitely needs discussed.

Dh says it will come back to haunt me as I will be the mil trying to help one day

Why thank you TTL I've just finished my 3rd glass (this year, NOT tonight!) and am now going to behave and leave the last half a glass in the bottle to be used in pasta marinara later in the week.

There is absolutely no chance of either set of Grandparents upping sticks and moving close to me and DH, although this time last year the PILs were trying to convince us to move down near them. They live in a lovely area, but not lovely enough for us to move for no reason other than to be near them, ESP as they may move on in a couple of years themselves!

FWIW you don't sound ungrateful for wanting your space, esp as you are actually letting the people involved be involved. Like they say, you can chose your friends, but you can't chose who your family.

Oh that wine is going to my head. This is getting hard!

He he confessions, I had a large glass instead of my usual small glass the other day, and I felt decidedly squiffy. I was slurring my words! Whoops. Had to breastfeed too, though it didn't make her sleep more.

I have been up since 4.30am and I feel a bit drunk now!

Supposed to be going to Buggyfit but I'm trying to enlist some rebels from my NCT group to go and eat cake instead. Seems to be working .... :)

Mmmm wine...

Sorry, have nothing else to say. It's really bad to be thinking about wine at 10.30am isn't it?

The sad thing is I only had a small glass last night! I guess the accumulation of 3 glasses over 5 nights was just to much for me! Thankfully I was sober by the time DD woke up right before I went to bed wanting to feed for an hour.

Mmm cake, I want cake. I blame running out of fresh fruit to fill up on. To far away though, so shall have to find my own source of cake. cake cake cake. How many times can I mention cake in 2 sentences?!

CAKE

WINE

wine and cake

somebody slap me!

to confessions!

I'm even worse now as have just put fruit for Christmas cake in to soak. I love Nigella....pour in 1/2 a bottle of best rum and 1/2 a bottle of Marsala....

Caaaakkkkkeeee! Wwiiiinnnnne! Mmmmmmmm

I can have the parent rant all day but when it is said and done my Mum has been a superstar and I will really miss the company of her and my brother and the 10 min respites I get here and there with them. Especially as DH seems to be becoming more useless with DS doesn't get involved really at the weekend unless I ask...I don't want to have to ask He hasn't been in one night in the evening I can remember as he is working so hard (I do 'understand' this). Just a bit with it when I should be excited about moving. Arses.

Ladies, I need help! Going to London tomorrow and I want to leave ds with my dh and have a quick drink with friends. Can take my breast pump with me, but how will I sterilise everything?!

sorry your dh is being a bit useless Val. Sometimes they need things spelling out.

Hmmm dunno... Would you just be expressing to relieve? Could just dump the milk then you don't have to worry? If it's so your DH can feed then pump before you go, stick the bottles in an insulated bag and your DH can warm them in a bowl of water.

I have lost the insulated bag in the move. I have phoned the hotel and they spoke to the head chef, who said I could use the microwave. Cocktails here I come...phew!