Just mumming (viroids 1)

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So we don't scare the viroids on the antenatal thread with horror stories of no sleep, chomped boobs and endless laundry or make them envious with tales of cuteness....

Sorry your DH is being a bit hopeless val. Maybe once you get into your own place he'll be better as your mum and brother won't be around to pick up the slack?
CC You can buy sterilising wipes though I don't know which brand or where from, so thats not very useful really... this is what I mean but you might be able to pick up something similar from a chemist or supermarket. My friend has a packet that she whips out every time her dd's dummy or toys touch the floor.

DH at home and ILs visiting today. They're cool though, very relaxed around dd and would be happy with either me not passing her round if that's not what she needs or with holding her the whole time if I need them to.

LOL CC - they know how to keep their customers!

Esk - think it will be worse when we move as his commute will be over an hour (as opposed to a 20 min walk) Just worried about talking to myself I am sure I will make lots of mummy friends :)

Forgot to say, DS only woke once last night AND he went to sleep in his crib by himself at about 9:30 - OK he needed the 'crowded room' noise from the iPhone on and he did actually wake for another feed at 6 something but none the less

Yay for sleeping Val, long may it last. Though boo about unhelpful husbands. I know the feeling. Sometimes I just want to yell at DH for unhelpfulness.

Ladies, ds has had a couple of nappies yesterday and one today that is bright green. Should I be worried?!

Possibly cc. Dd has had green nappies in the past, pesto would be the best description. The best info I could find online suggested it was to do with imbalance Of foremilk and hindmilk. Hers coincided with introducing a formula bottle so I put it down to that. If it persists I would contact your GP or HV. I had heard that it can be related to colds or even teeth but the only reference I found to that online was to say there's no evidence for it.

MIL has changed her mind again about what she wants dd to call her. Now her footprint coaster is all wrong. Shes been awkward about this from the start, initially wanting to be first name only, then grandma firstname, then back to firstname, but decided that was wrong as FIL is "grandad". So she eventually announced she wants to be nana firstname after much deliberation yesterday. But only if it's nana with a single n. Am unreasonably annoyed about coaster!

And boo too for unhelpful husbands. My dh is being v good so far, though I will admit to less than kind thoughts tonight as he didn't get the wrap over the night nappy on properly so poor dd, her clothes, sleeping bag, sheet and prob mattress are soaked with pee. Was not amused to discover this at 3am. Nor was dd who thought she was getting a feed and had to endure a full strip off and sponge down first. She's finishing the night in our bed whilst I rue not getting around to sorting out a waterproof sheet for the crib and try to work out if I can wash the mattress.

Val, am sure you'll meet lots of mummy friends. Join your local nct branch for open house groups, go to church mum and baby groups, join your local children's centre and library. Between all of that I sometimes wish dd and I had a less active social life!

Oh esk

Sprinkle with bicarbonate of soda to get the wee smell out and air thoroughly.

Thanks Esk. I can't find anything useful either. I think he is a good feeder so not sure why the change. He is putting everything he can reach into his mouth, so that's probably not helping . He seems happy in himself otherwise. They are very toxic looking though.

I would be very annoyed at the name changing. My mum was unsure about hers at first, but more in a getting used to it way. She wanted to be called Nana (which is what her mum was called) and she struggled with being her mum. That probably doesn't make sense as its too early. will come back when I have had a cuppa!

Thanks frak, will try that.

MIL's name is complicated by the fact that DH and his sister always called the by first names only, and as far as I can tell, mil and her sister called their mum and dad by first names, or at least they do now. No cultural differences or anything like that, just a family preference. We're not pushing her to have a title incidentally, she knows my parents are delighted to be grandma and grandad, but other than asking what they want we've not pushed anything.
DH says she'll just have to like her tile as it is, but I feel awkward about it, esp as she's so sensitive about this name business.

My mother still hasn't decided what she wants to be called... DS is 7 months, I asked her a good year ago! She gets called grandmama because that's what I threatened. She doesn't like nana, nanny or granny, grandma is what we called her mother and she wanted to carry on being mama. I'm mama! DH's mother was just as bad - she wanted to be Ma.

Let her choose her name, but give her the gift anyway.

Frak, both parents are definitely pushing their luck on those name choices.

P.s. very clever of the mil as ma will probably be one of ds's first words

He already says ma. Mamamama when particularly excited or on his own and calling for us. He also goes awawawa and bob bob bob so I don't think it's real words!

My stepdad has been researching possible names online! He doesn't want to 'take' Granddad because my dad/DH's dad might want it, so he's gone for 'grandpa'. I think it's all moot because he'll probably end up Granddad X or Naughty Granddad (actually, that'll be my dad) or whatever. I had Nutty Nan, Posh Nan, Nanna in the Brown Door and Nanna in New Zealand. No confusion . If anyone knows me in RL on here I am definitely out now

BTW, somebody nominated me for a special Christmas treat from MN! I don't know who it was, but if it was someone here - thank you! What an awesome and unexpected surprise! xxx

Brilliant work val on getting DS to sleep. I always think we should congratulate ourselves on these things as well as our babies. We have had a bit of a week after 20 weeks of 'I'm fine, I'm not tired, I'm definitely getting enough sleep, I can cope, I'm not even at work, I'm definitely coming to that baby music/baby massage/book party/Buggyfit/cinema/coffee morning/long walk' etc etc left me a freezing, shivering, dizzy wreck on Wednesday and left me sobbing into my pillow two nights in a row when DD woke up wide awake and didn't want to sleep in the early hours. A new routine (early bed!), some extra help from DH, a bed guard which makes co-sleeping in the early hours possible, and possibly the introduction of solids, has meant two nights of okay sleep (still waking 2-3 times for feeds but going back to sleep). So I'm feeling better. All boosted my MN gift, which is coming in the post, apparently!

Sorry about your DH being unhelpful val. Hopefully he'll get the message soon and surprise you x

Ooh which bed guard are you using TTL? Is it one that would travel?

CC hope DS is doing OK. Not had green nappies here but we have had what I can only described a snot filled ones which freaked me out somewhat as it coincided with 3 or 4 dirty nappies a day (only normally have 1-2 a week) GP put this down to a cold. Apparently they ingest the snot and poo it out....nice!

Esk Annoying on the name front. None of ours had strong feelings...my Mum's is my fave. She wanted to be Gran and my DH has christened her 'Gran-part of her surname' (IYSWIM!) which s awesome as quite unusual.

TTL - glad to hear you melted down and got it all out - if that makes sense?! I think the more you cope the more people expect of you. I have continued pretty much as normal and think that this is to my detriment as people then forget you have had a baby and your life has changed beyond all recognition. I have had a monster meltdown on DH which work for a bit but then we both sort of forgot about it and it builds up a bit again.

Well, the one wake-up was a fluke - grrr. Still we move tomorrow so he will be in his palatial cot bed as opposed to the crib (or our king size, as opposed to a double...!) He better sleep like a log

Good luck val with the palatial cot! You're right - it was good to have a meltdown - it forced me to have a rest anyway! Had another one last night because I'm not ready to go back to work at all. No matter what I do, I feel it's too early and it was a mistake to say I'd go back at 6 months. But I'm stuck with it now, so no amount of meltdowns is going to help. It was nice though - DH said all the right things.

frak it's a Tippitoes mesh guard and i bought it from Amazon in some sort of baby fug, because when it arrived it is for a single bed and for 18 months +. But actually it's fine - you can tie it to the slats under your mattress and it's sturdy enough - it only sticks out about 6-8 inches above our mattress and there's no way she could fall into the crack or anything. It would travel but would depend on how well you could tie it to different beds. For £25 I'm happy.

DH got up with Isobel this morning so I've only just got out of bed. Wahoo. She's staring at Alex Ferguson talking on SkySports, ha ha - I don't think she's ever heard a voice like it!

Have lovely weekends ladies xxxxxxx

CC We only had our first green poos ever at 2 and 3 this morning and they were caused by sickness (mine and DDs) so can't help on the green poo front sorry. It's not impossible that you are entering into the fun (nightmare) that is teething though. DD started at about 2 months, though no actually teeth til 4 months old.

As for the grandparents we got lucky and there were no probs naming them. My parents are Grandma and Grandpa, as I always new my grandparents by this and DH's as Grandy and Nona. Grandy is what DH's grandpa was and MIL likes Nona (tis Italian). As she is Step MIL I think she felt a bit wrong about using a family title (if that makes sense).

Blobing on the couch today. Makes a change from being in bed.

Oooh, it could be that. What are the signs? Hope you and dd are feeling better.

We are having a pj day.

Well mid move here...and teething! Poor little DS. Dribble city, red cheek and loves nothing more than to gnaw on a finger wrapped in a muslin and then scream as all the chewing clearly makes his gums tender

Not too traumatic (on either front!) so far. DH had potentially lost the screws for our bed (insert own joke here) but they turned up at his parents this morning. Nothing is built for DS so struggling to find baby grows etc last night as stupidly piled everything into a huge bag thinking I would just unpack it all. Potential nightmare with washing machine not working but the ever handy FIL sorted it right out. Although currently in launderette as had to wash our massive mattress protector. Waiting for it to dry. At this rate it would have been cheaper to buy a new one! Washed the water proof cover I bought in case my waters exploded over the bed which has a huge tea stain on it from DH... I look like so incontinent fool...that and I am sitting here not having showered. Typically there is quite a fit bloke opposite...

Hope move goes well val

Dd is teething too. I can feel a couple of sharp points in her gums. Also v dribbley and chewing constantly on own hands. Starting to put toys in her mouth too.

We've just been away for the weekend for a family party. Considering she slept in the car most of the way there yesterday then was up til nearly 10 pm with random family members wanting cuddles and photos she did really well, and wasn't too messed up at night. She did do 2 immense poos at 5 & 6am which I was unimpressed by.

Ds doesn't have red cheeks, but all the other signs are there. For some reason I thought teething was a couple of months away.

How did the move go Val? Was your mum sad to see you go?

Frak, how is the move away from co-sleeping going? I love the high needs thread. Have become a regular lurker as it makes me realise that some babies just need more cuddles and entertaining than others.

On the sleep front. Ds has started napping for twenty minutes at 7pm and is then life and soul until 10pm. This would be ok if he wasn't tired and grumpy in the morning. Any ideas how to fix this? I have always just followed his lead and not had a routine (except bath between 5pm and 6pm).

Impressed with your daughter handling the late night well Esk. Ds loves meeting new people at the moment. It's lovely when you see them giving people big smiles.

Where is everyone? I'm having a pj day as the weather is horrid.