Feb 2011 - The one where they all start sleeping through the night! (We hope)

[WanderingSheep]

Was hoping a positive title might bring us some good luck

Hello all and welcome back ledkr looks like you had a blast! Can't wait to hear what revenge you have planned (picking up tips!).
Another shouty baby here, we were at a two-year-old's birthday and all the kids were at the noises coming out of the pram! Not crying but screeching.
Anyway, K is asleep on me after 2 1/2 hours of stolidly not going to sleep (we're 2 hrs ahead of you lot so is 9.30) so that's a disaster already. I don't know how I'm going to put him down without waking so am avoiding the issue by MNing

Hello!

Yay for a bit of sleep reastie I bet you feel like a new woman.

byronic How mental is the shouting? I keep running into the room to check her and discover she's happy as larry, just screeching away. I wonder of they grow out of it before the ge of 15?

ledkr Welcome home, glad Disney was fab. I can't wait to take R when she's bigger butsuspect it'll be when she's about 8 or 9 to get our money's worth!

ponyo We've got a cold again here too. I'm coughing and spluttering and r is really snuffly. She's hardly slept today after waking us up every hour last night. DP let me sleep in though and I had a nice slow shower too and didn't emerge til 11! Suspect it's his turn tomorrow.

Agh, can't comment on others as they're on other page bit happy Saturday to all. I'm cooking sausages and mash to go with a nice cold beer. Probably watch some Wire as well in a bit. How times have changed!

And can't remember who gave me my TT lyric compliment but thank you...I'm a huge fan and am count down to a week on Tiesday when we go and see them!

ledkr- the consultant from the EAT study called and said that S's liver function test result was slightly raised. Their cut-off is 90 and hers was 169. Sounds a lot but apparently you're only in trouble if it's in 4 figures. He said they've had about a dozen babies with similar test results, and have sent them for repeats which have come back as normal. He thinks it's possibly a virus. Anyway, had to take her to the local hospital for a repeat blood sample this week and it was bloody awful. At Guys a paediatric phlebotomist did it and although S wasn't happy she didn't scream and it was done pretty quick. This time it took 2 doctors and 3 tries in 3 different places and lots and lots of crying from both of us. Hoping obv that the result is normal, but if it's not, and she needs more blood tests, I'm going back to London, I don't want my girl to be experimented on any more. :(

Thinking of reastie tonight...

Hellooo!

Hope everyone is ok and having a nice weekend

Glad you and a good time Ledkr

Yay, for Alice sleeping Reastie hope she makes a repeat performance tonight!

Lottie is still being really good. Slept until 7 this morning so hoping it continues!

Not much else to report - just chilling with some wine - very exciting

Hope everyone gets sleep tonight!

Debka did you complain about her treatment when you were at the hospital? Sounds horrendous, hope S is ok!

Hello

Just popping in quick to say hi as haven't been on for a few days. Hope you are all well, debka poor Sabine at the hospital, and poor you must have been awful.

Glad you had fun in Paris ledkr sorry to hear about baby sitting duties

Well all 3 boys stayed at my mums last night, my dsis and dbil were there too as well as the other 5 dgs! So she had all 7 of her grandsons spend the night, she deserves a medal! We went out to a lovely restaurant with one of my bff's and her dh. I still woke at 7 though with massive boobs and had to express as was so uncomfy! Now off to collect them and have fathers day brunch at my other dsis - happy fathers day to all the daddy's out there.

Mikey now sleeps from 7 til approx 3am but is always waking at 5, must be habit, can't be hunger, will have to knock this on head!

Sorry, other 4 dgs, obv I cant count!

Happy father's day everyone! I hope all the feb babes treated their dads (and mums) to a good nights sleep!

Unfortunately, H didnt get the memo that he was supposed to be good last night, and woke at 1.30 and 4.30 and 5.30!!! arrrrrr!!!! not even for a feed, just crying! I am very frustrated and quite ashamed to report that I even felt angry last night .

Lazy day today, then go and visit my dad and FIL later today with a bottle of wine each, then hopefully and early night. Wow how exciting is my life?

Hope everyone else got some rest and has a good day today

40weeks think that H is also waking out of habit, if you find a way to knock it on the head then please share!

oh and ponyo are u still not swaddling? Im v jealous!

Hi girls.

ledkr im glad you and ella had fun in Paris.

I had a lovely wee weekend, we stayed in Chester on friday night and went to the memorial service in the National Arboretum, it was such a nice service.

Well still no AF but i have had a BFN, ah well at least we can fun trying again next month

jane - test again in a week if no AF? Have fun trying though - I miss the days of loads of unprotected sex! Glad the service was lovely.

L was up every 2 hours again last night. I'm starting to think he maybe IS hungry when we wakes. I BF only last night and he was up every 2 hours, the night before I BF + bottle each time he woke and he was up every 3 hours. Maybe I should insist he has a bit from the bottle each time he wakes? It's a struggle to get 2 oz into him as he's so sleepy - DH feeds and I keep shaking his arm. I guess he's one of those babies who's a crap sleeper until he's weaned.

Happy Father's Day to all the fathers!

Hi all, happy fathers day, although most of ours has been spent arguing/being moody with each other

dd has been crying a lot today so we've both been stressed, earlier dp was going to feed her but started getting some baguette to eat, I might be being unreasonable but had a go at him b'cos he should have been putting bib on and trying calm down crying baby whilst waiting for bottle to warm up, not eating.

Last nights sleep was good though :) She cried a couple of times and I left her for a few mins and she settled back to sleep. They are very long minutes though! Did the dummy run at 4.30am, not bad. Up at 6 again but I can cope with that as I was asleep at 9.45!

Anyway enough about me, 40weeks if you have any ideas to stop the 5am waking let me know, dd can be held off for a bit with a dummy but she's def awake for the day at 5!

suzy not a good night then, poor you :( Don't feel bad that you felt angry though, tis normal.

jane more practice for you then Hope you feel alright about it, and glad the service was nice.

Hope you are all having nice relaxing sundays anyway :) xx

Hi all thanks for kind messages.
jane when was af due
Deb and all re blood tests. Being a nurse and having had 2 dc's ds2 and baby Dilly,who were sick and needed treatment i can tell you this.
Blood from a baby is very specialised as veins are so narrow. It can be tricky but many experienced will find it easier. The more upset a baby becomes the more the veins will close up so a break is vital. My rule is 3 tries and your out,i tell the dr i would like them to have a break for a feed and a cuddle.Thge chances are then you may get a different person to try next time as well. There is an anesthetic cream called emla,which makes it less traumatic,insist on it. From what i can gather drs tend to push babies too far cos they cant speak up,insist on a break and make sure she is nice and warm too.
When Dilly was ill i actually shouted at a dr to stop as she was 6 days old and hardly had any veins and was so ill too.An hr later another Dr tried and got it first time.
Anyway.Nice to be home am sat in the bath whilst ds2 is with d, dh is in the garden,he liked his fathers day bits. It dear for me as have dh,my dad and step dad and also Ellas dad to buy for
I have been very tired and anxious since i got home tho,i cant stop sleeping and feel constantly worried and a bit low.I have just had af so im not sure if its hormones but am a bit worried re pnd which i think i have been fighting off a while now. This wedding is making me very anxious too cos i just dont feel good about myself and dont know anyone and all dh's uni mates will be there and i keep thinking why did J marry a fat bird. Dh says im being silly but this weight has got me down and im normally so confident.Any words of wisdom?

ponyo,are you me? That is pretty much it in our house at the mo,dh will be sweeping the patio whilst d is crying and im busy. We just dont seem to get along at all,i didnt even miss him last week not sure where this will end up. The early waking started it off tbh.D was waking 5 every day.Im not sure if its passed but she has been waking at 7 for a few days now but thats with a later bed time of 8.30 and the evening light thing,try it it really works,did you look at the link.

Ledkr and Ponyo, I hope this helps,but you are not the only ones with dh's who are suddenly busy whenever baby needs anything. As Noah has been unsettled the last two nights with his cold, and I'm the one who gets up because dh reckons he's no-good at settling Noah, I've slept in until 8.30am. But I've got up both days to no washing up done, nobody ready to go out, dh on the computer with the boys stuck in front of the tv. I've had to ask him to help. I think its just part of the role of mother and wife, I don't know many women who don't feel it.
I've sent the boys and dh to in laws today,but first I had to sort out all Noahs things, get the buggy ready, get Bens bag ready as he's staying the night and tell dh to get in the shower so he'd be ready! I have three kids, not two!
Suzy, sorry you didn't have a good night either!
Jane, maybe test again in a week?

cheers em im not sure whats happening here,dh is ok really with dds but he just gets on my nerves,i liked being a single mum tbh and being with els last week only reinforced that,i like to do my own thing you see and rely on nobody.It has been on the tip of my tongue to talk to him but im worried im irrational and will regret it. Gonna see gp this week for all the good it does.

ledkr thanks for advice re blood tests. If he hadn't managed it after 3 goes I would have told him not to bother. It was doubly frustrating because the woman did it so well at G&St.T's. Do you have a date for D's operation?

Many sympathies to all those with DH's being rubbish. It is a tough time in a relationship, such a big change and they don't really know what's expected of them. That's literally our problem some of the time- I EXPECT things of him but don't tell him, then when he doesn't do them I get upset, and he doesn't know why. Rest of the time it's cos he's glued to his stupid computer.

jane when is ERTD actually due?

What did you all do for your DHs for Father's Day? Mine got a card signed by both girls (o yes, I got S to hold the pen!), and a Mr Grumpy mug. My friend pipsicles who made a brief appearance on this thread took her DH to Duxford airfield for a special military display with tanks and all sorts, and a romantic picnic in a hangar, yes sounds like hell to me too but sounds like the sort of thing men would love.

ledkr just reread your message and you don't sound like the cheerful ledtheshred we know and love. I would definitely get thee to the gp, they say PND can strike at any time. And try and be kind to yourself- ok, you're not the weight you want to be, but you did just produce a beautiful baby girl not that long ago, and they say 9 months on, 9 months off. Sounds like your DH is being pretty loyal and sticking by you during this bad patch, which is great too, although it's always good talking (calmly!) about how we feel because these daft men just don't know.

AF was due on thursday past, i think my body is just not quite right yet after birth. I really do feel ok about the BFN as i didn't expect to pg straight away this time. I am just that wee bit upset that i wasn't able to ggive DF a fathers day to remember

I got him a card which i personalised with a poem and a little heart shaped trinket with says "Zoe loves" daddy. I feel so helpless today, he is so sad and visibly hurting. It kills me that i can't make him feel better.

jane it does take a good while to settle down, glad you're being stoical, sure it'll happen soon for you, and we'll all be waving pom poms for you every step of the way.

It must be bloody awful for your DF, at least being women we can talk about it, these men have it all trapped inside. He is lucky to have you who cares for him so much.

Jane, Im sorry your df feels so bad, Debka is right, you just need to be there if he wants to talk I guess. Can't imagine what you are both going through.
I've just had a nap and before I slept I was thinking about you too Ledkr. Deb is right (again) you need to get to the doctors even if it's just fir a chat and you just come away feeling a bit better. Can you talk to any rl friends?

ledkr i agree with debka, im sorry you are feeling like this. Hopefully the doctor will help, i thinking about you and sending some un-mumsnet hugs (( ))

emski and ledkr sorry to hear about your probs with dh/dp's, ledkr me and dp aren't getting on either, just carrying on and not talking much. I'm not missing single life just wish I could go back to talking to him without nagging. And that he'd listen

I can sympathise re: weight too, I'm prob in the same sort of shape as before I was pg, just when I was pg I felt v confident and now I have a fat tummy again, thats where all the weight goes I doubt your dh's friends will be thinking he;s married a fat bird, the only advice I have is that you always think you look worse/fatter than you actually are, and that other people are nowhere near as critical as you are of yourself. And lots of expensive make up :) Do you think you'll go docs?

emski when we argued earlier I felt like I had a baby and a moody teenager, he buggered off upstairs in a strop and blasted music haha.

deb you're right re: massive change in relationship, must be the biggest one there is?! The only other times we've not got on and argued loads is when moving house (stress!) usually we're pretty chilled out with each other.

jane sorry to hear about your df, the present you got sounds lovely. Do you think he's got to 'acknowledge' his grief more today, it must be so painful for you both. He's very lucky to have you :)

dd still v snotty, but seems in a better mood now after crying or sleeping for most of the day

ledkr just had a read of that link - might try taking dd outside first thing. Can I ask how you do the nighttime daylight bit - do they have to be outside or is it just in natural light?

haven't posted for what seems like a while (but prob isn't) as found out my cousin has an online stalker and its made me a bit - so just don't start stalking me

jane i'm glad sands was enjoyable (not the right phrase, but ykwim). Keep us posted and test again tomorrow in a couple of days just incase - I know you really wanted to give df the gift of all gifts today though :( your time will come and lots of hugs to you and your df

led can't remember if i've posted since you were back (have been thinking what im going to reply but not actually finding time to do it) but glad you had a fabbo time but not so glad to what you were greeted to re: wedding etc when you came home. loving the pics. I completely understand re; the weight thing as i'm the same situ as you and it sucks :( Now, this is an odd question but i've been wondering this for years - do the disney characters men dressed up in eurodisney speak with an american or french accent or are they silent? i know thats bizarre but i've always wondered . pnd wise someone told me the most common time is a couple of weeks post birth and/or 3/4 months post birth.

another one here for relationship being tricky at the min - dh told me i moaned all the time and i cried more than usual at the min . it made me cry

alice has decided to giggle every time we say 'atissue' to her