Sept 08 - No no no, ME do it!

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Shiny new thread for Christmas!

ninja I saw the photos but wasn't sure what caused it. I didn't realise you had concussion too .

Am off FB for lent so havent seen the photo...

Yes, you are right re; dx. Its a relief in a way to know that there is "something" wrong but that it can be helped.

Ninja poor you. We're here for whatever help and support we can offer.

I am enraged today. Went for my consultant appointment this morning and because my f&^%ing midwife (who I am not a fan of at the best of times) booked my consultant appointment for so late (I am 37+3 today) there are no CS slots left until the day before my due date. So I have to endure this bloody crippling pelvic girdle pain for virtually an entire extra week (is basically agonising all of the time now), as well as face the even more real possibility of going into labour before I get my CS. Phoned up DP and cried about it, then phoned my mother and cried about it. Hormonal, moi?

I think you have every reason to be upset hopefully

Hopefully, that's outrageous. Can you not complain to the consultant so that a slot is found for you earlier? Can you not join some sort of cancellation list?

Also, is there anything you need for your LO? I have not one but 3 newborn snow suits, suitable from birth which are now too small for Ines (she's almost five kilos, people) so would be happy to send you one. As I intend not to have more kids (too decrepit) I am happy to pass on stuff. I think you can cat me, or you can email me, or facebook me. I am beginning to bag newborn stuff that no longer fits.

Sorry about the radio silence lately. Things are slowly improving on the coping with two front: Ines seems to be able to sleep a bit longer (say 3 hours, although she's been known to clock up to 5 on very rare occasions when I subsequently feel like I've been recharged) and Diego is happier about the whole situation, enjoying nursery and settling better at night. So although still rather sleepless, there are moments of light ahead in the tunnel. The truth is that despite all the moaning, I am enjoying my two enormously. Ines is a chilled out little girl, unbelievable alert and smiley.

I am as usual following all your posts while feeding at ungodly hours. and wanted to say, ninja, here we are: a group of unconditional supporters. Bec, not surprised at all that your instinct was right. Now that you can get the support required, your son will be able to thrive. I am also annoyed on your behalf of the fact that he was somehow ignored because he is a nicely behaved child. DG hope the test provided the answers you seek and am thinking of you.

I am horrified at the whole starlight debacle and will miss her. I hope she'll come back under a new incarnation and make herself known to her group of "old slippers" .

Finally, MrsA, many congratulations.

I saw your tweet hopefully. I'd be livid too. Can you use some pester power and crying to get them to slot you in sooner?

Hopefully I hope you can somehow resolve the CS situation. I know how it feels when the birth you want is taken away from you.

Pacita Glad you are settling down with 2. It really does get easier. Lucy is now at the age where she and Robyn can lie on the mat and giggle at each other. Robyn's favourite game is to tell Lucy about all her toys

Lovely to hear from you pacita x

Hopefully I am so angry on your behalf. I have no idea what to suggest other than getting very needy and demanding.

I am feeling VERY queasy and faint most of the time. Nothing like this with DD so all a bit strange.

And ladies, reassure me - I will cope with 2 won't I, including drop offs at 2 locations in the morning before work when C goes to school and new LO is at nursery!!!! (School has no attached nursery)

Yes, you will cope mrsa If I can, anyone can!!

Today was a landmark day for our household. I was in the bathroom this morning (7:30ish) DS was pootling about and DD was awake in her cot playing. Except a minute later she wasn't in her cot anymore and I heard a thrilled voice yelling "MUMMY, I got OUT of my cot!!" and little footsteps dashing into her big brothers room. Crapbags .

She's very athletic though so she just pulled herself over her cot bars and dropped down (I'd seen her try it the other day but distracted her!), no tears or bumps thank goodness. She had soft toys all over the floor so landed on them. I need to put the stairgate across her bedroom door this weekend to prevent any night-time adventures. Not sure whether to take the cot sides off after all, I think she's only going to escape in the mornings when DS encourages her and she's a good climber and has a soft landing on her floor. She had a tanrum after bedtime tonight but didn't get out so we will see .

Thanks for the support guys, you're great

Consultant suggested (after much outrage on my part) that I phone up the booking receptionist when I'm 39 weeks (I am planning to phone every few days from 38 weeks onwards!) to see whether anyone booked in on the 27th-31st has had their baby early, so I can pinch their slot. I am intending to be the patient from hell and make poor receptionist's life a misery. I hate having to do that, and am not a stand-up-and-complain kind of person normally, but I just really hate that, once again, I'm not getting a reasonable shot at the birth I want

Pacita if you do have spare baby stuff kicking round (esp snow suit - we don't have one, and I'm convinced we're going to have an antarctic april to punish me for not buying one), that would be great, thank you for the kind offer - I'll message you tomorrow, just off to bed now. I'll pay postage etc, obviously.

hopefully I'd do the same. So far I've found that being procative with the NHS usually works. Fingers crossed for you.

I just dug out the cot-bed and stairgate instructions and a 4mm Allen key for this weekends DIY adventure. Quite impressed my storage / filing system actually works and it was all where it was meant to be.

proactive

Bookmarking

I have an appointment to see a private recurrent miscarriage specialist next Thursday. Hoping to get tested for nk cells in the same appointment.

hopefully I'd get your dh to call daily. My dh does all the nhs badgering. He can be firm with them when I'm a hormonal emotional wreck.

Oh DG I hope that your meeting is the start of the journey to find reasons and solutions quickly.

Thinking of you.

And Hopefully, agree with digi - you're the one carrying the baby, get DP to get all cross and pestering.

*hopefully. That is absolutely what you should do. Hope it all works out for you x

News today; My mum has had a suspected heart attack. She is ok but got to go to hospital for bloods etc. I have got to go for a scan on my shoulder as its getting worse. Got to have bloods done too for underactive thyroid...sigh...would quite like this week to be over now.....

Big hugs to bec and ninja - great to see you back, we are absolutely here for you :) With

hopefully really hope the badgering works. If you're booked for a CS but go into labour naturally before your due date, do they do you a section instead of making you labour fully?

DG hope the appt goes well and sets you on the road to getting some answers x

ninja to further encourage you, we are not considering potty training DS any time soon. Last week DD pood in her pants yet again, I passed them to DH to 'clean them or bin them' to which DS piped up "you can throw away my Thomas pants because I don't need them any more". Hmmm...

Thanks folks - H told me on holiday that he didn't want to be married to me.

Tbh he'd been so nasty for the last few months that I'd come to that conclusion myself!

We're just basically ignoring each other atm which is a relief from the arguments (which were really affecting DD1 )

I feel strong enoug to be alone, but I guess I should try and sort it for the kids .....

bec sounds like quite a week.

Oh ninja How awful! No advice at all I'm afraid, but I'm here to listen x

Oh blimey, what a cap day for people.

Sorry for you and your mum's health woe's. Sometimes it all feels too much doesn't it? {{{hugs}}}

Good luck for next week Digi, I hope this is the start of finding out some answers.

So sorry to hear your news Ninja. My first marriage ended in much the same way as you've described. Once I started to get over the initial shock of the split it was a relief to no longer live with and dread the nasty and hostile behaviour. You and the girl deserve so much more. Come and chat/vent/rage whenever you need to xxx

Thanks ILTMIMI - we ended up talking last night, quite calmly for a change. It would be a relief to split in many ways, but the poor kids....

He says it's beacuse I'm not very nice to him and have called him lazy. This is the general pattern of our conversations/arguments - I then try and be nicer. I think I'm going to need to go to counselling to try and sort it out in my head

I still wonder whether we should try relate again (we were sacked last time as the counsellor struggled to cope with H and basically said there was no hope!)

I think I'm lucky as I manage to find my pleasure in the kids and the house and work, H looks awful, he has so much more to lose

He'd let me stay in the house and he'd want the kids half the time. There's no rush though

Bec hope you r meum starts to feel better soon.
Ninja really sorry to hear things are going wrong and I hope you can resolve things either way.

Oh ninja am sorry to hear of your woes. I left my exH in 2004 and we had no kids and it was hard enough. No advice rweally but it H prepared to see a counsellor on his own while you both sort your heads out?

Whatever you decide I hope it's not too awful.

Am still feeling pretty rubbish atm but am also glad and it's worth it.
I remember ther title of one of our 2008 ante natal threads - 'we want symptoms but we don't want symptoms!'