Sept 08 - No no no, ME do it!

[CappuccinoCarrie]

Shiny new thread for Christmas!

Congratulations mrsA , you deserve it after all your efforts!

starlight if you're reading this, goodbye and thank you for all your advice and support during pregnancy and those steep learning curve early days. You will be missed.

Currently snuggled up in bed next to my snoozing ds. Off for my erpc this afternoon. Dreading it but there you go.

Hope it goes as well as it can today dg, my 1st pregnancy was a mmc at 8 weeks and had to have a d and c, will be thinking of you today ( hugs)

star if you are lurking and reading this, please come back when you feel you can x

God, MN can be weird, sometimes!

Digi Have had 2...not pleasant but ok. Hope the erpc and the testing gives you some answers x

Thinking of you today digi. Sending hugs to you.

starlight you will be sadly missed by us all :(

And I guess I need to join the due in Nov 11 thread but I'm afraid they won't be as nice as you lot!! :)
Another bfp this morning :)
Feeling dizzy and no appetite. Fingers crossed.

Congrats mrsa lovely news x

Congrats MRSA

Starlight I really hope that whatever has ha0ppened can be resolved and you can come back soon. Feel free to lurk and laugh at our daily mishaps

dg hope today goes ok for you and that you get the answers you need to explain why this keeps happening and with a packet of

dg thinking of you this evening.

DG you poor poor thing. I hope you're not feeling too appalling after erpc and that they're able to give you some answers. I can't imagine how heartbroken you and your DH must be to be going through this again.

Starlight I missed all the drama, but hope you're OK and can come back one day under another name or something. I was looking forward to getting lots of 'calm down' post natal advice from you!

Feeling bloody knackered at the moment, am anaemic and huge. But in the final straight now - 2.5 or 3 weeks to go.

Hope things are ok as they can be for you tonight digi. Be kind to yourself xxx

How is ds doing at nursery hopefully, any positive changes?

I fancy some ice-cream, I think I may indulge. It will help with the hot flushes won't it?

I'm nodding my head

Mixed emotions this evening - sorry again DG and hope you get some answers very soon, and sorry to see you go Star, I hope you are back soon.

Congrats MrsA I am very pleased for you :)

star - you have to come back, or else I'll be telling hopefully to do GF at 1 week .

I will be telling hopefully to do GF at 1 week!

How are you DG?

Just been to a funeral, was a 'nice' one iykwim, although it was standing room only and an elderly lady offered me her chair . I didn't accept!!!

Now to go and build my new buggy (Maclaren techno xt 2010 model, DH got a bargain, good boy!)

DG I hope it went as best it could. I hope this gets you nearer to answers and therefore solutions.

Carrie, will DS be out of the buggy by the time DC3 arrives?
I know I'm very early days but the thought has crossed my mind - C will be 3.2 when new baby arrives. Is this old enough to come out of the pushchair? I don't really want to upgrade to a pear from an apple with my iCandy but as C is a runner, it's a good way/threat to keep her curtailed.
There's always a buggy board I suppose.

My thinking is that DS will be nearly 3, and DD was riding a bike by that stage. Either he can be in buggy and baby in sling, or baby in buggy and DS walking/biking/on buggy board. I will prob use the phil&teds for the school run, at least for the first term when I have a newborn in the cocoon underneath, and it'll be good to strap DS in and know that he can't go anywhere while I sort DD out at the school gates. DD is so lazy about walking, and at nearly 4 would still choose the buggy every time if I let her! Part of the reason for getting this new one is she'll have to walk more if a double isn't an option (although the weather is getting nicer and she happily cycles everywhere). My children aren't the sort to run off, but my word are they sloooooooow walkers.

Just wondering how NC is too...? How's things with crappy HR, and horrible SPD and bfns etc? Hope you've had enough to recover from 'losing' your DS!

We've bought a buggy board for the Cameleon as I love it too much to replace it with a double. Apparently bugaboo have brought out a double pram, but we're way too poor to afford it. I figure that with the sling/pram/buggy board combo we'll limp through, and my cousins have offered to lend me their slightly knackered but useable double Maclaren for when I NEED to be able to put both in the pram. If I find it's a real struggle we'll think of something else. T is also a mega slow walker, definitely not a candidate for running off, but it take ages to get anywhere.

ILTMIMI thanks for asking about nursery. I was all set to give up but, dare I say it (fingers crossed, touch wood etc etc), I think we might be over the worst of it. He cried horribly when I left him on wednesday, but it was the first day when he didn't cry at all when we arrived at nursery (although he was a bit wobbly), and he hung his bag on the peg quite happily etc. When I checked through the window after sitting in the car for half an hour he was settled, although not exactly life and soul of the party, and when I picked him up 2 hours later he was playing in the sandpit with another little boy and although he was clearly pleased to see me, he just carried on playing, didn't rush straight over to me.

I kind of feel that if I'd known how bad it would be settling him, I definitely would have left it another 6-12 months (when his understanding of 'mummy's coming back' might be better, and he'd interact a bit more), but now we're beginning to see an improvement, I don't really want to stop the process, as it seems inevitable (based on anecdotal evidence from friends) that there would be some crying and hysteria when we started again. Almost like we've started controlled crying, wish we hadn't started, but now we've started we know that finishing it properly is the right thing to do, rather than going back on it. It's not the most satisfying parenting decision I've ever made, but you can't get them all right, can you? And if it's still not great in a few weeks once baby's here and I genuinely think he'd be happier at home, we can always pull him out then.

hopefully If T is still unhappy after the baby comes, then you are right, of course you can take him out....the nursery will still be there in a few months time...

Toby really sobbed this morning when my FIL picked him up. He goes up to their house most fridays - ds1 joins him after school too - but today he tried to close the door on FIL and was reaching for me and calling "mummy" as he went to the car Would have kept him here with me if I wasnt feeling so rubbish...

ok...really am going to do the ironing now....

I had a 2.4 yr gap and didn't have a double. Like you hopefully a friend lent me a double Mclaren that I could use if it was too rainy for ds1 to stand on the buggy board. I think we used it about 3 times but on those 3 times it was essential!
I had researched doubles though so I knew what I would get if we did decide we needed one. We figured that you can get one within a couple of days so no point getting it until you really know you need it.

sooo...update on ds1.

We took him to be assessed last week by a neuro developmental delay psychologist and he has been referred to the comm paeds by our GP.

They are using the terms "dyspraxia" and "APD" to descrive his problems.

Poor little mite.

Its going to cost about £2,000 for the private therapy. No hols for us next year!!!

Feel like I have been kicked in the chest, tbh. I have been trying to get ds1 help since he was 5...his old school dismissed all my concerns and treated me like an idiot and I realised after a ferw months of HE that ds1 needed specific help targeted to his issues. His new school seem better and I have a meeting with them to discuss what to do to help ds1 after we go back in 6 weeks to get the written report of his assessment.

The guy who deveoped the programme ds1 is doing assessed him himself and he is the first medical person to tell me that we are "very lucky" that ds1 does not have much more serious problems/disability I have always known that, and told people I felt like that, but to hear it from a HCP was a bit of a shock.

My GP has also been great...he also is the first HCP to tell me that, yes, I have cause for concern wrt ds1.

Anyway, hopefully this means that ds1 will finally get the help he needs. I think that because he is so well behaved i.e. a "good" boy, he has been overlooked and his problems dismissed. I am sure a child with the same issues as him but with behavioural issues too would have got help a lot sooner

Off to do some housework...place is a tip

bookmarking...

Oh bec big hugs to you and ds1. Well done for getting him diagnosed and on a plan.

Am at the park waiting for dh to get me a hot chocolate. Feel so sad that I'm not pregnant anymore. This week has gone so quickly. Don't know if I've mentioned it on this thread but we're going to have some private tests done. I've got money saved for my maternity leave which isn't going anywhere so we'll dip into that and see if there's a treatment plan I can follow next time.

DS has been so talkative this week. I wonder if he's making up for lack of communication from me. And he's been very cuddly while I've been laid up on the sofa - reminds me how lucky we are to have him. It would be so much harder going through this without him.